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Betcrusher:
My situation now, I'm the guy and need solution to this.

iLegendd

ubunja

Martinez39

cococandy

Most of these people you have mentioned, know next to nothing about life and relationship. They are just noise makers.

IBINDTOMYSELF:
This pains me to write; but my girlfriend is a dirty girl
Okay, this afternoon, I got a hotel room booked for usy, and can you believe she came from school, all sweaty and opened her legs to he bleeped? Her pussy stinks of rotten fish but Bleep ; she's the prettiest person I've ever seen. I'm tired of this dirty attitude, and want to discard her....

This is someone that'll use the toilet without wiping, and open her legs for sex. She's not conscious of her hygiene, and I'm bitter. I want to break up with her without hurting her
Any advice please?

Both of you are one of a kind, cos I'm sure you don't usually shower before sex. The fact is, most guys don't shower before sex, wear one boxers for a week, and will still demand for MouthAction from their partners. I pity girls and what they go through in the hands of such stinky men.

And why does Nairaland keep changing my words?

Recently, a video of a married man who died after sleeping with a prostitute circulated online. The young woman looked tacky and uneducated. I was amused when I read some comments from both male and female monikers, who made it clear that they couldn't be caught with such a lady.

I laughed behind my keypad because most of those guys (or ladies)who made such comments, were not been sincere with themselves. The truth is, when sex and money are involved, most ladies and guys can stoop so low, as long as they get what they want.

The case with my distant relative:
I have this distant relative whom I got introduced to recently. It so happened that shortly after she arrived Abuja to work in a restaurant, she took in. This was someone whose pidgin English wasn't that sound.

I concluded that one of her kind (an uneducated guy) must have been responsible for her pregnancy. But alas, I was proved wrong as I got to know that the guy responsible was actually a cosmopolitan and educated guy who got infatuated with her big boobs and ass.

To say I was disappointed would be stating the obvious. I was appalled, and when another relative confronted him, he insisted he would only accept responsibility after a DNA is carried out.

The suave, sophisticated, good looking and articulated entrepreneur:
We had been communicating over the phone, and when I met him for the first time to submit a business proposal, I got to know he was biracial. After stepping out of his office which shared a building with a residential apartment, something caught my attention.

A young lady who had a wrapper tied around her chest was seated in front of the apartment. The lady looked ordinary, and I didn't need a soothsayer to tell me she was an illiterate. I looked past her and my attention focused on the baby on her laps.

The baby was undeniably a biracial kid judging by his skin color. I walked past them and wondered if the baby belonged to the man whom I had just met. But I shoved that thought, and concluded that it couldn't be;as the man was too sophisticated to be with a woman like that.

On my second visit to the office, I learnt that the man actually fathered the kid. I tried so hard to understand what could push such an educated and enlightened man into the arms of such a woman who could barely construe a simple English sentence. But then, I waved it off and decided to mind my business.

Regina Askia and the Otokoto guy:
I can't seem to recall the precise year, but I think it was in the late 90's to early or mid 00's. The media was awash with news of Regina Askia dating the then famous 'Otokoto guy'.Back then, I had a brother who literally worshipped Regina. At home, we used to eulogize her as the most sophisticated Nigerian actress.

But when the news of her romance hit the tabloids, I was disappointed in her choice of man. I personally picked interest in that news because, the wife of the 'Otokoto guy' at that time, is a close relative of my mom. As a matter of fact, I met him once in the 90's, during the marriage ceremony of an aunt, and I can use three words to describe him:"Money Miss Road".

I wondered how Regina could stoop so low as to date a man like that. I asked myself what they could possibly talk about during intimate moments. But then as the saying goes: "With money, you can buy almost any lady".

I have heard ladies utter words like:" Although he isn't polished, but he is very rich". Most guys on the other hand will always describe how big her boobs or ass is. This has made me arrive at the conclusion that, most guys and ladies exhibit very poor taste when sex and money are involved.

It is unfortunate that guys keep calling girls dumb, low class, but all the dumb girls I know have all been taken. And more than 90% of them were actually pregnant before marriage. So the question is, who are the guys hooking up with these girls?

Ladies on the other hand give the impression that they are graceful and sophisticated, but keep ending up with men like Mercy Aigbe's low class ex husband.

Conclusion:
No matter what the guys and ladies say, the truth is, a significant number of them have poor taste, and it doesn't matter where they are getting the sex or money, and from whom.

McMayor:
We have been married for 9 years Plus.
We own a 3bed room.
We have 6years + daughter.
We have 2years + son.
Me i dont like children dramas(crying)
Me & her we had agreement our children would be grown to takecare of themselves(at least to put themselves to bed and wake up to use the rest room) before she can move back to my room.

I would like to know the wrongs in this

You sound like the typical 'Nigerian man' who believes that raising children is the sole responsibility of a woman. If you don't like kids crying, then why did you give birth?

franchasng:
don't let any lady lie to youor deceive you, getting married to their desired man is their greatest achievement in life, they just don't want men to know and be using it against them.


Even Queen Elizabeth of England was angry sometime ago when she realized that prince Charles her husband cheated on her, she threatened to divorce Prince Charles but till date she is still with him.


Oprah Winfrey have tried all she can to secretly get married but the younger guys she is trying to rope in aren't buying the idea, they only want to hit and run.


Many ladies all over the world will abandon their well paying job, career, fame to marry their desired man if that's the condition from the man; Janet Jackson did it, Shakira did it, Beyonce, Victoria Beckham, and so many other famous women, but hungry Nigerian ladies will tell you it's only in Nigeria just to feel funky

Even Queen Elizabeth of England was angry sometime ago when she realized that prince Charles her husband cheated on her, she threatened to divorce Prince Charles but till date she is still with him.


When you're in a haste to comment, you always end up saying rubbish and making a mockery of yourself.

My friend, Queen Elizabeth's husband is Prince Philip(Prince Charles is her son). And there was never any real proof that he cheated on her. So, what the heck are you blabbing about?

Many ladies all over the world will abandon their well paying job, career, fame to marry their desired man if that's the condition from the man; Janet Jackson did it, Shakira did it, Beyonce, Victoria Beckham, and so many other famous women, but hungry Nigerian ladies will tell you it's only in Nigeria just to feel funky.


Another gibberish from you. Since when is Shakira married? And when did she abandon her career? Please, get your facts right before spewing thrash. Shakira has a partner (Gerard), and has emphasized that she wouldn't want to get officially married to him, but would rather want things to stay as they are.

And please, Beyonce never abandoned her career to get married. As a matter of fact, there has been no stopping for her since she got married.

Same with Janet, and if marriage was the ultimate for her, then why did she separate from her husband? Why didn't she fight tooth and nail to remain with him?

As for Oprah, she has been with Stedman for over 30 years, and marriage has never been part of their plans. So, where the heck did you get your information from?

All I can see are two tacky and low class teenagers. I wonder how a sane girl would sleep with a man in such a dirty room, with an old and worn out bed sheet.

And I also wonder how a wannabe niggar would sleep with a young lady that ties wrapper like my great grand mom.

What a perfect time to die! Amaechi, be prepared for more jabs, cos very few people believe in coincidences.

MustWatch:
Must someone have sex? I want to stop it from next year.

Why wait till tomorrow what you can do today? 'Next year' may never come.

Comedian2019:
As an adult, how long can you stay without making love.

Me: 1 year

No bashing please

I can stay 10 years without sex. Do know why? Because sex ain't food, water, air or money.

Forget the love story. She didn't do it for love, but rather to prove that she could use her body to get whatever she wants. And of course, get you to marry her as soon as possible.

Sorry, but you're dating a vain and morally lose chic;who sees nothing wrong in using her body to receive favours from men. If she slept with a man to get you a job, then, there is every possibility for her to continue sleeping with that same man to help you retain that job.

So as it stands, if you break up with her, that may cost you your job. If you continue with her, you will find it difficult to trust her again.

The question is, how morally upright are you? Are you willing to compromise a little bit just to have the good life? Do you see your girlfriend as your future life partner? All these questions will help you in making the right decision.

My advice to you is to tread carefully and use wisdom in your approach. Study your girlfriend intensively, and if you're 200% sure that she is no more sleeping with the man(or any other), then you can continue with her.

But trust me, girls like that can be very vindictive, so be ready to pop the question or else, you may have just signed up for a war.

I used to admire Tboss, but I just realized she is tacky, foul mouthed, and just a low life. I thought she once said: "Men in Nigeria worship light skin girls".
So, how come none of those men didn't find her worthy for marriage? I also have a question for her: If light skin is a prerogative for success, how come the likes of Alex, Bambam and Bisola, are all doing better than her?

And to think that she couldn't even afford to birth her child outside the shores of Nigeria. To those of you humming: " how did you know that "? It's so damn obvious she gave birth in Nigeria not out of will, but rather because she couldn't afford a better alternative.

Kingpele:
z, it is very wrong for a lawfully wedded spouse to deny his or her partner sex, it is highly condemned in holy Bible, st Paul said in 1cor 7 :3-5, husband should give to his wife her congugal rights and likewise the wife to her husband, for the wife doesn't have authority over her own body, but the husband does.... Do not deprive one another except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourself to prayer but come together again, so that Satan may not tempt u cos of your lack of self control... By denying her husband his congugal rights this woman wishes to be without a husband or she want her husband to die... So the man is right to suspect his wife might be after his life, and secondly by denying her husband for whatever reason, she open up her marriage to satanic manipulations... The husband might become a drunkard and a womanizer due to this.. Seven years is too long.. This is a good lesson for those us that are married, don't take your spouse for granted it might backfire.. I wish this marriage could be redeemed but I guess is too late now chai

The bible also says:"Love thy neighbour as thyself". Do you heed to that?

modsfucker:
And I used to crush on you.

Unfortunately, I'm neither a male nor a female. I'm simply human.

I used to crush on this guy.

Blackmiserable:
Are you on Discord or Telegram? Let's chat..

Can you take this to Telegram or Discord? Thank you!

Because all Nigerian men don't know their way to a dentist office.

Alovelylady:
Every one stop worrying about my English and help me .... there is no list that me as a African American woman should do right ... no marriage rights list right ?

No darling, you don't have to do anything. If there is going to be a list, your family should be the one presenting that list to him. But since you ain't a Nigerian, or African, then there will be no list.

So, he should go ahead with his list. But, don't give him a dime if he asks. As a matter of fact, if you guys are planning on getting married, then court wedding is what you need.

It's not that serious. She should have anticipated the unpleasant comments anyways and never should have exposed the face of the child(at least not for now).

Social media is like a market place, and if you don't want to be mocked, then don't go dancing naked in the market.

Guys: I can't marry a dumb slay queen.
Guys: I can't marry a girl with no morals.

So, who are the guys getting married to the likes of Nina?

He added: 'I don't want to support someone financially early on in a relationship to stop working, which obviously changes the fundamental dynamics and equality of any partnership - and not for the better.'

Stingy man. He has a great body though.

Deandean:
I'm sorry but u are very stupid...very very stupid...if u had said these b4 me,i definitely would av hit ur mouth...

I'm sorry but u are very stupid...very very stupid..

Yeah, stupid enough to know that a 'stupid man' is quick to call another stupid, if he got nothing to say.


if u had said these b4 me,i definitely would av hit ur mouth...
And I wouldn't be surprised if you did that cos obviously, hitting people is the only stupid thing you are good at.

Oracle55:
Hello nairalanders I need your advice, I have been dating this girl 8 months now she is pretty which Is one of the quality that made me like her, first time I met her her first request was her birthday gift which I monetized and gave her, she came for a visit and stayed 3 weeks she cooks very well though she can't cook a pot of meal if I didn't give her 3k upwards that shows she can't manage very well but her quest for money is too high, she complained for her hostel fee which is #160,000 of which I gave her half she didn't even say thank u to me rather she complained and asked where she was gonna a see the remaining half,,it hurt me so much that the 80,000 I gave her she didn't appreciate, I scolded her for that and she said she was sorry, today she send me a picture of a dress and told me this is what she wants for her value gift,,pls ladies here is it proper for u ladies to tell a guy straight what u need for your call? I thought it's a surprise gift,,and I am planning to marry this lady pls what is your advice should I quit or go ahead though my siblings told me she is out for my money

You deserve whatever she is throwing at you. How can you think of getting married to a lady just because she is pretty? My guy, her looks has obviously beclouded your medulla oblongata. So, carry on and enjoy your princess.

But be rest assured that money conscious chicks hardly stick to one man. If she can sleep with you when you guys are not yet married, then it doesn't cost her a thing to sleep with two more. Be warned!

Badboibipo:
As for many guys I know including myself, when our boxers become old and raggedy we turn it to rag and use it to mop the floor or clean our dusty shoes. But I have never seen a female panties used as rag before so now I'm wondering what really happens to an old overused pant of a girl? What do you females do with it and how come I have never seen a rag panties like I see a rag boxer? Ladies come enlighten our ignorant minds

when our boxers become old and raggedy we turn it to rag and use it to mop the floor


As a visitor in your house, woe betide me to use my precious hands to touch such a rag.

As for the ladies, well they discard their panties by burning them.

OcVoice:
An older friend, who could pass as a dad to me owns a bar and few a letout rooms for short s*x or even a day booking.

He recently travelled to see his children abroad and asked me to come assist his wife once a while after work/hustle.


The first scenario:
I was there yesterday and I noticed a man in his 60's and a woman in her 50's, drinking and eating together. Their language was of the Eastern and I understood correctly.

After having some bottles, the woman talked about her husband who was on a business trip and her grown up children at the university and all. She locked her shop to come be with the man.
The man also talked about his wife in the village for a function and grown up children bla bla bla!

The shock:
The man was obviously trying to ask her out.....then she immediately told him that she wouldn't be interested in that. The man now asked what she wants and she said they should be fvck buddies. She said: "Any time my husband is away, I'll call u. "We would come here, drink and fvck well"
The man accepted and they booked an hour and went into a room!
Even though they are older and had grown up children, I still don't like adultery!



2nd scenario:

I noticed this last week.

I saw 2 beautiful kids, a boy(about 4 years) and a girl(about 2 years) playing inside the bar. I asked my friend's wife and she said one of her customer had issues with his wife and the wife left him with the kids.
From her story, the guy use to work and provide for his family, till he lost his job and the wife couldn't cope with the hardship. She abandoned her kids and went away with a rich alhaji. This guy has been taking care of the kids....bathing and feeding them, taking them to school and bringing them back, cleaning poos, etc. His rent expired and the landlord sent him packing forcefully, after some months. The reason he stays in the bar in the mean time.

Around 8pm that day, while he was out hustling, I saw the girl sleeping in an uncomfortable manner; hitting her head on the table while she dozed off, and I just thought to myself while carrying her on my arms so she could sleep well; she's innocent. She didn't bring herself to this world. She should be on bed sleeping now. She obviously hadn't had dinner.

Why would a woman abandon her own kids? Even if u don't want the man, can't u take your kids to your parents or even siblings and look after them? Where is the love? Is marriage not in good times and in bad times anymore? I had to shed tears while pondering! I was told the man had no one in the city.
I waited till he came back and I spoke with him. He told me the same. I felt so sorry for him. He was looking so tired and stressed. I can't do more than supporting him financially with the little I can.

This has really been disturbing me. Pls ladies, if you know you're not ready to suffer with your man when things gets tough for him, don't bother going into marriage! Don't even bother. A rich man today could be poor tomorrow. Life happens....it might not be his making! Life is not always Rosy!

Our mothers suffered with our fathers when the going was tough, why can't we emulate it?

Why would a woman abandon her own kids? Even if u don't want the man, can't u take your kids to your parents or even siblings and look after them?

And what's wrong if a man takes care of his kids? Are you saying that raising children should be the sole responsibility of a woman? Peradventure a wife dies, is the husband not supposed to cater for their kids?

Look, the problem that man has is not because his wife left him, but rather because he wasn't proactive enough to figure out what he would do if his wife left him.

There is no reason why a man cannot raise his kids by himself when a woman can do so singlehandedly for years, and without any form of support.

I don't feel sorry for the man, and in his next world, he should learn that being a man isn't all about impregnating a woman, but also about learning the act of parenting.

iphi:
My boss posted on her WhatsApp story "Who will be my Val" and other series of messages concerning taking her out for Val, I'm older than her and she respects me, deep down I really like her, I don't know if I should ask her playfully, we chat alot I tease her a little bit when she post a picture that is not fine and we laugh over it. I want to tell her if she is unsuccessful in her search for a date I can be her back up plan. I don't know if its a good idea to tell her that. I need honest and matured opinions please.

Don't start what you can't finish. She is probably trying to be nice by chatting with you and there may be nothing to it. Try to stick to this popular saying:"Never mix business with pleasure".

Oyiboman69:
Says the orphan

Orphans are humans you know, and they all had parents at some point.

And what's so special about the over hyped 'first wedding night'? Over 90% of married couples had premarital sex and desecrated their beds before marriage. If it can happen in Jalingo and you relished it, then why whine when it happens in Sheraton?

travelland:
Na so marriage hard? you haven't given any reason why you didn't want her to go and buy goods for her shop

African men(especially Nigerians) make marriage look like the wife is in prison. Imagine the use of words such as 'disobedience' and 'deal'. Some of these men think their wives are their daughters.

Oyiboman69:
I think some slap will do the magic lol, but not continuous beating oo,we are Africans, don't forget that,

Yeah, just like your papa did to your momma right?

Boliboli760:
I wish the OP and all the men like him all the best that life can offer.

- Women are adult just like you, NOT your kids, NOT your younger sister or Adugbo sister. They are Adult female who know their right from their left most of the times. And make mistake and do any errors just like adult men do.

- Marriage to a woman is NOT for you to have control over her. NOT AT ALL. It is for you to have a companion who does her own thing and you support her. You do your own thing and she supports you. Two adults who get the opportunity to SHARE their lives together, Emphasis on the word SHARE. Marriage is not a license for you to dominate or choke your partner.

- A lot of men are getting it wrong and I blame we parents for not teaching our boys, Especially mothers who go through the same horrific experience with their husbands and fail to point out to their boys that the way your father is behaving towards me is not LOVE. It is Ego, Controlling and Inexcusable, NO man should treat a woman the way your father is behaving towards me.

If this woman that OP is complaining about , divorces him tomorrow. He will come back here and open a new account to explain how the woman he supposedly loved, opened shop for and paid all her bills left him. He will never mention how he sucked the life out of her, how bad his self entitlement was, how he felt being humble is for a weak man and how he never gave LOVE a chance but instead he was fighting for the position of head of the house. Fighting for a position of First place ,that no body is struggling with HIM.

- You seat your behind on the chair or bed, while your LOVE struggle to dress up the kids ,feed them and prepare for school. And she still struggles to go to the market to sort out her business ,with customers on her neck. And with your own judgemental wahala to deal with. And all you are LOOKING for is HOW to deal with your LOVE. The HALF of you. NOT LOOKING for how to support her, how to make sure the home is okay for her to continue business and take care of the family. BUT you come here to find out how to DEAL with her.

I just want to ask WHAT THE Bleep IS THIS THING CALLED LOVE? My question is to Nigerian MEN.
Because I am not understanding, I am not impressed with men at all. Since I was a little girl and I am an adult now and the SHIT is getting worse. LIKE WHAT THE ACTUAL Bleep DO THESE MEN THINK WE ARE,THEIR PUPPET.

Saying bullshit like ,IF I HAD MONEY YOU WILL OBEY ME MORE. No Bruv, if you have money I will obey the Money not you. Because I want your money. Respect is reciprocal .SIMPLE

This got to be the best comment so far. You just said it as it is.