oldienavie:
I clocked 36 years 2 months ago, I look fit for my age compared to many Nigerians(I realised most Nigerians dont pay attention to their physical fitness).
I have been outside of the country and just got back with the aim of trying to get a wife.
Am I too old to expect to find a decent woman ?
What suggestions do you have with regards to getting a good woman in the shortest possible time ?
Thanks all.

So what is the plan?
To get a decent woman, marry her, impregnate her and then return back to your "outside of the country"?
I really want to know what you have to offer the "decent woman".

Maybe pair it with a box of chocolates, a teddy bear or something nice.
We will eventually fling the flower away!

KoladeChris24:
I have this girl who is the only one I love, but she said she can never attend catholic church.

I told her it's not an issue - that as my wife, she's free to attend any church she likes, but she insisted our family would have to attend the same church.

She won't marry me if i stick to my Catholic faith. Please advise me, she's the only one I love, and I can't start over anymore.

We catholics plenty, and there are people whom religious affiliation is a deal breaker for them.
If it is a deal breaker for her, let her go. Peace is priceless. You cannot buy it.
This is something you should have discussed earlier than now.

Kingcalls:
Most single women are bad at raising kids... I pity this her child, just like tonto ... when a single mom raises a child, its most likely that child will b a menace in the society...especially this generation of women

You are shaming the single mums who stayed and raised their kids.
What about the deadbeat fathers who walked away from their kids? Aren't they the bigger fools?

I bought the 12.5kg cylinder at N20,000 last week and filled it for N9,400.

Omorotionmwann:
It has been 12years now since my dad has been down with Stroke which has affected his speech,his right hand and leg and some 4years ago,he couldn't walk anymore but had to be carried to sleep,sit and all physical metabolism is done where he is,even after I and my mum have spent and still spends a lot on physiotherapy,speech therapy,brain checkups at Mecure oshodi,routine and forthnight high blood pressure checkups with expensive drugs and still no changes but it gets worse,all done going around in taxi as I have no car.....

I was 18 and in 200level in a federal uni with him and my mum my only support system when all of this started,couldn't concentrate and focus on school work anymore as I am the firstborn of a 7 boys family and my attention was always needed.....Mum told me I need to drop out that she can't afford all of this alone but I was strong hearted and determined to graduate with a B.Eng...

I had issues with my lecturers as my attendance were poor and my course adviser said it to my face that I would never graduate but I never told them about my travails or they wouldn't even believe me anyways cos they were mostly SADIST,All Engineering lecturers in Uniben especially Mechanical/PRODUCTION ENGINEERING from 08/09 upward,OGUN KILL ALL OF UNA!!! Life was tough for me and my Mum....

Now that I am a Man and supposed to be focus on my life future and raising a family but this is still taking a toll on me emotionally,financially,mentally and I will come home to my mum nagging,crying that she has tried enough over the years and i might come home one day and she has left ....THIS BREAKS ME,I AM TIRED,I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO....I LOVE MY DAD,HE IS IN PAINS TOO!!!

IF I COULD SEE THE FUTURE BACK THEN WHEN IT STARTED,I WOULD HAVE ASKED THE DOCTORS FOR MERCY DEATH,DO NIGERIAN DOCTORS OR HOSPITALS GIVE OUT MERCY DEATH TO PATIENTS?

NAIRALANDERS,I AM DEPRESSED AND I NEED YOUR ADVICE

sorry for the long post. Mods please help this thread to front page for more advice

Maybe look into getting a hospice nurse or a nursing home/facility.
Euthanasia requires patient consent and I am not sure if it is legal in Nigeria.

Dizzyish:
Please I need advice, any advice.
I graduated with a 3rd class in Chemistry from three years ago (I only blame myself for that) and after I finished my NYSC a year ago I just plunged into a depressive state in regards to my mistake (my education) and my future (career) sometimes breaking down in tears when I think of things I've taken for granted in my life.

I started working on myself a few months ago and I've made some progress I proud of but every now and then it's easy to be overwhelmed with self doubt.
I made a cv without work experience along with a cover letter a few days ago and applied for a few entry level jobs like graduate intern, sales, restaurant supervisor etc via jobberman and the companies email but I'm not too sure I'll be getting any calls from them.
I didn't come here to get sympathy just an honest advice or opinion on what to do.

Can I do a pgd in chemical engineering or just chemistry or pursue a business or computer/tech course, are there jobs I can get with my degree maybe to get skills and work experience?
I deeply appreciate any advice. Thank you.

Maybe schooling should not be your next step.
Start thinking entrepreneurship. Go and learn a skill or a trade. Be an apprentice for a while so you can know what business entails.
There are successful people who didnt even complete university. You graduated. This means you acquired knowledge. Now it is time to apply that knowledge in the real world.

Offpoint1:


How can I adjust? I spend 99.99% of my free time Alone in a quiet place soul traveling to universe.

You just have to let a few people into your personal space.
one or two people and with time you will be able to engage more with people.
As you grow older, you should seek to appreciate time with family and a few friends

I don't know which ladies you have been asking....
Unless you approach wrongly, that is a valid question.

I'm sure it's more like a peck on the child's mouth. Nothing wrong and i'm sure it makes the child smile.
However, you should know the difference between a mother showing her child motherly love, and one practicing incest.
If it makes you uncomfortable, talk to her and let her know what you term as acceptable.
I believe if the kid is left in your care for 24hours straight, you too will kiss the child to stop it from crying, or to make the child laugh.
You can try counseling and therapy.

While i don't condone what was done to her, this story reeks of rubbish.
Na only you dey greet Major, na only you dey collect handshake from officers, na only you dey serve small chops, na only you dey encounter senior officer wey "apologise" to you. Ordinary to change into the right attire you want to use 2 hours.
My conclusion is that she had been showing disrespect to the female Lt. because she has been rubbing shoulders with "Majors".
There is no reason for a woman to show another woman disrespect just because she mingles with the woman's male counterparts.

Modernizer:
I won't bore you all with a long write up.

I'm ready to settle down, actually I needed to settle down like yesterday. Problem is, I don't make friends easily and hooking up is even tougher. I don't trust easily.
So I'm talking with this girl that checks all my boxes ( quite a rare feat for my high expectations), but for one thing...she is evidently a choleric. I know because I'm one myself.

The hot temper, impetuousness, some bossy-ness, independent mindedness, low empathy, high ambition...all those tell tale choleric features give it away.

Now I know cholerics are advised to get their opposites say phlegmatic for relationship purposes, but I want to ask the house: can I a hot tempered man cope with a hot tempered woman?
Any people with experience on this here?
Can both of us with low empathy really be compatible?

The adverse statistics coming out of marriage these days scares the sh..t out of me. I don't want any of it.

Should I drop this girl? Or can it work?

Sorry oo...it may sound small but that's my own challenge.

Cc newbornmacho, Ahnie, kestolove

You are not ready to tone down your temper or work on your obvious behavioural problems, you want to get married?
Marriage is heading for the rocks even before it starts.

Continue saving until you decide.
Don't rush into any business, or investment with yeye promise of huge returns.

People complain about savings, but savings is your money guaranteed.
If you are not sure or very knowledgeable about any business/investment venture, protect your capital. There have been a lot of tears on these streets.
Forget marriage for now too.

SeriouslySense:
He just needs to see the other side and just maybe.

He can journey to see the other side alone. He shouldn't drag a woman along.

SeriouslySense:
We can certainly control our temperaments, one just has to train oneself.
I always studied my traits to improve on them, certainly know myself and my weaknesses, i don't even like how i was before in been temperamental, also i have come to appreciate sharing, sharing also creates bonds.

I believe you can do so much better, it may depend on your end goals, and your persistence, don't let anyone tell you what you can be or cannot be, reach out, we will make mistakes but we also learn.

I agree that we can improve on what we are. Be better as we mature. Be more sensitive, and more tolerant of other people as we age.
However, this OP declared himself 'a volcano waiting to erupt'. He has declared himself temperamental and very unwilling to share his personal space, his time or his resources, and did not display a willingness to change or improve.
No need to encourage him to marry anyone. Being alone suits him.

zedegit:
I've been thinking lately cos I am the type of person that loves his space.
I don't like sharing my things; I want my things to be as I kept them.

I am sensitive to words and very temperamental. I am like a volcano waiting to erupt anytime.

I hate being manipulated. I hate the entitlement mentality of some women.

I am an introvert and don't like crowd. I can stay indoors for a month or more as long as I got food, water, a charged phone with subscription. I go out for work and other essential duties.

They say every man got his type of woman. Do you think there's a woman that can match my temperaments?

NB: I respond well when a lady is good with sooting words and avoids arguments.
I love intimacy too although I'm not the romantic type but I can be generous if money is there.

I think the temperament is choleric.

Only you inside your personal space,
yet you are temperamental,
You are a volcano,
You are a hurricane,
You are a tornado,
You are a wild fire,
You are an earthquake,
You are not even romantic...
Therefore, marriage is not for you!!!

I don't see any grounds for this suit.
It will be thrown out.

Career biko.

No one was born into this world to be a spectator.
You can make something of your life.
People are talking about taking care of children. Children will grow up and leave the parents behind.
Children are not a retirement plan. Anyone thinking their children will "take care" of them in old age should ask themselves, "am I taking good care of my parents in their old age"? There are many retired parents who are still paying school fees for their children.
Do you know what the future even holds? Please build a source of income for yourself and your wife for old age. Your old age is only as sweet as your income at that time.

Career for both man and woman!!!

Explorers:


You're right here but i also don't think this will be her first road trip.

For the RV/Campers, some have enough space for bed, kitchen, bathroom but little water. What they do most times is when they move from state to state, they restock, refill gas and refill water tank and sometimes takes like two days break at Motels.

Road trips can be expensive but beautiful.

It looks good on social media but nahh....Not for me.

Explorers:


You're kind of wrong here sis, the girl just hooked up with the wrong guy.
There are thousands of lovers/couples living in vans, trucks, and motorhomes. Travelling and crossing borders from Wyoming rockies to Washington to Canada to Alaska.
Even in Europe, from Finland to Sweden and to Norway.
I check many of them on YouTube.
Most quit their jobs, sold properties for the trip and can take Months.
One the best experience/memory you can have if you love to travel
The guy is just Evil.

You sure??
With no/limited access to bathroom facilities, proper food, heating/cooling facilities, comfortable beds, and poor connectivity?
Doesn't sound romantic to me.
I feel she should have started small. One week...2 weeks...return and plan another trip.
It takes a while to get to the stage of spending months on the road.

lightwind:
I have been following this news since day 1. Thing is,the guy Brian didn't actually killed her
at a spot but rather he beat up to an extent and abandoned her in the wilderness ie Campsite, drove back to Florida, leaving her to die slowly from her pains. She was still alive when the guy drove off. If there had been any help for her,she could of survived. But no help came her way

Kai! I thought this way too o. But i then started to think that if she was in plain view, she would have been found quicker. But he must have killed and buried/hidden her body, then drove off with her van. That video those bloggers gave of the van, they were no where in sight. I doubt both of them would have wandered far. That must have been the time he was burying the body.
I believe he called his parents and they hired a lawyer even before he arrived home.

Irijosa777:
I wrote my final exam in July this year, few weeks later I was in Delta when my course adviser called me to come to school (Uniben), that it's a matter of urgency, I went to school, then I meet her in the HOD office. She told me I failed two courses in my final exam. She said the department is going to upgrade one to "" then wave the other one to me but by imprecation I will graduate as a 2.2 student.
When, I thought about it if I should accept it or come back again to write the two courses (one in 1st semester and the other in 2nd semester) to get 2.1. it was a hard decision for me to make but then I made the decision to accept the offer because of the following reason.
1. Uniben is becoming too stressful/ I'm already tired.
2. The financial expenses involved
3. Economics department in Uniben is not a joke.
4. The probability of me getting "A"s if rewrite the two courses is very low.
5. ASUU and strike
Based on the following reasons I accepted the offer, result came out I graduated as a 2.2 student but some how I started feeling sad. Though 2.2 is not the best but then I also graduate myself. I can't come and kill myself ( schooling in Nigeria university is like war).
If I may ask, did I took the wrong decision?
Opinions please!

You made the right decision. Graduate and move on to make something of your life.
Many people with masters degree yet have no jobs. No be by 2.2.
Go and learn a skill. Learn general business sense and start doing something with your time.

I have been following this for over a week since she was declared missing.
Unfortunately, the guys parents shielded him and he is in hiding. But he cannot hide for long.
Not with the publicity surrounding this.
There is no romance living in a van traveling through bushes and creeks in the hot weather with limited resources. This must have impacted them psychologically. Plus she said he never believed she could make it as a travel blogger. He just tagged along for the possible publicity he would get. She would have been better off alone on the trip, or with just friends.
I want him to be found. I want him to answer for his crime.
I'm just angry that the girls parents had to beg and beg for the location of their daughter for 2 weeks when his family knew that he had killed her. That family deserves jailtime.

House that will not generate any income??

priceaction:
Quick question: if I hv I inflow of 20k$, intto my dorm,will I be able to collect it cash on the desk or they will give me naira equivalent. All these their policies dey confuse most times.

You can withdraw in USD or naira. Any one you choose.

Not so keen on show biz...But people need to earn a living.
As long as it is not fraudulent in nature, I'm game.

Immature girl.
Immature guy.
Immature child.

You will make a great family.
I will leave you with this poem.

There was a mad man,
And he had a mad wife,
And they lived all in a mad lane!
They had three children all at a birth,
And they too were mad every one.
The father was mad,
The mother was mad,
The children all mad beside;
And upon a mad horse they all of them got,
And madly away did ride.

Axa Mansard.
Liberty Blue.

The cost of baby diapers have gone up how many times in the last 2-3 months.
Mamas please help me recommend cheaper options than molfix and Bebem.
I'm almost going crazy.

Try kisskids.
That's a lot better than molfix now.

Anyone who believes this does not know what FIRS does to businesses.
Firstly, they are only now trying to digitize the process.
There is no reason why they should not have an online portal where companies can file their tax returns. It is largely manual.
You need to go to their office monthly to file tax returns.
Even after filing for years, because they do too much paper work, they'll wake up one day and claim that your business has not paid any tax since inception. It will now be on you to start providing proof of payment from inception.
They will fine you for any period you are unable to show filing for.
This FIRS position is just bogus! They want to milk DSTV/Multichoice dry.

When I was going through a heartbreak, I couldn't understand why we weren't on the same page. I stumbled on the song
'If the world was ending': JP Saxe & Julia Michaels.
It really helped me put things in perspective.
It's important to have someone looking out for you, and I couldn't count on him to do that. It put things in perspective for me and I moved on.