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HonKong:
Biology tell us say everyone on earth has a fingerprint

That's the beauty of science, it keeps evolving and correcting itself while at it.

Lol... I'm sorry but this is a ridiculous list. If anything, it shows there are countless types of people. Please, let's stop trying to hard-classify people. It only leads to stereotyping and prejudice.

I don't understand. Why wouldn't he?

Lol... I want to believe the comments above are sarcastic. If your husband cheats, you're an irresponsible wife; if he's wayward, you're a shameless woman; if he beats you, you must be a destiny killer, if he leaves with your children, just accept it's your fault.

Being a woman in Africa is probably worse than being black in America.

PedroEastman:
Did she pay his groom price? Is he not the one that paid her bride price?

So it's ok for men to cheat?

Ok. Enjoy your holidays.

donbachi:
If u dont love a man and know u will cheat on him..abeg leave am.there are many women out there dat love and cherish him..na see her life.

Same can be said for all the married men who've been caught pants down. Cheating is really a menace.

You didn't need the knife though. You could have just thrown it into the pot. Anyway, I hope it was worth the ingredients.

sussybae:
Oh really,so you attended all tertiary institutions in kwara state for you to know it is easy to get a first class there?

You missed the point. It's not about Kwara. The point is that people of different ethnicities get first class in every Nigerian school every year and their tribes are mostly a function of where the school is located. So the premise of a Yoruba person having a first class degree in Kwara state doesn't support OP's conclusion even though it's still great height for the young man himself. Like I said in my post, I'm not disputing his claim, I believe Yoruba people are intelligent. I'm only pointing out the fallacy for discussion sake.

Lol... you gave thier sons back to them as Christmas gifts.

kachdviruz:
Yoruba and intelligence are inextricable

I agree. But a student graduating with a first class degree in Kwara state doesn't necessarily prove that.

Nigerian man? Isn't the news already in the Nigerian context?

Congrats to the guy.

Is this a good thing?

Has is it gotten to this in Nigeria?

Nairalandwizerd:
yea, something is wrong with how you put on leg chain on a leg and abandoned the second leg.

Ah.. you've already gone to check her out?!

Anyway, that's a anklet; a leg chain is something else entirely. And anklets are typically worn on one leg.

Nwachacho:
They have access to computers both at home and in school which is necessary, but my intention is centered on phone which i don't see as important requirement for their development at that stage.
Nevertheless I learnt some things from your comment

Ok. Then you can ignore the computer part and concentrate on the other points raised. I only mentioned computer cause kids can still use the computer to access whatever you're worried about.

You're welcome.

Hhmm... I had my first phone when I was 14. Thinking about it now, it only served to communicate with my family and to call my friends to know in whose house we were meeting next, lol. It made life easier and helped me stay 'connected'. My parents got it for me cause they felt I needed it for some reasons.

I understand the reasons you'd want to deny your kids that privilege but if their friends have phones, they'd still be exposed nevertheless. Besides, will you also deny a teen access to computers? I'm asking cause in this present age, denying kids access to computers is like sending them to school without pencils. A kid doesn't have to go for special 'computer lessons', a kid should grow up using computers. They can use the time for computer lessons to learn something more advanced. This is because everything is self service now and life has gone electronic. If you really want to make things any easier for your kid, computer shouldn't be one of those things they have to specially learn but just a tool they use to learn other things. I don't know about Nigeria but I believe it's pretty much the same thing over there.

So instead of trying to cover their eyes, why not leave them open and navigate the waters with them as closely as possible? If you hide the world from them now that you still have the ability to mould thier mindset, is it then when they become adults in the university that you'd suddenly expose them to the world? I'm afraid you'd have lost the opportunity to handhold them at that point cause you don't handhold an adult. If your kid isn't doing something bad just cause he doesn't about it, then he's not necessarily a good kid but just a positively ignorant one, and you can't really tell how he'd fare when he's eventually exposed. A good kid is one who knows why they shouldn't do certain things. You need to able to tell how your kid will use a phone knowing that the device can be used for good and for bad. The earlier you have this knowledge, the higher the chances of correcting any vice before they become an adult. When your kid understands the negative implication of doing something, you wouldn't have to worry about what they do in your absence. And to achieve this, you'd have to start early to mould their mindset, watch them, take note of thier progress and re-strategize when necessary. I'm afraid you can't do all these by keeping them ignorant even if it's for good.

My summary is, if you feel they need a phone, don't let the fear of corruption stop you from getting one for them.

MOLOTOVcockTAIL:
This part worries me the most. Hope you have a full dossier on what she was up to while in those countries. Guys get mind shaa. Good luck to your marriage.

Don't let your insecurities cause distrust in another man's marriage. She was was probably a career woman before he met her and he's comfortable with that.

Congratulations on your marriage sir. I heard it's not easy but I'm sure your personal convictions will guide you right. I'm not married yet so be mindful of how you take my advice.

About your 'issue', I'm a perfectionist like you but mine leads me into getting involved in things that matter to me. You provided the money and when it wasn't enough, she supported you. She provided the planning, I think it would have been ideal if you'd also supported in one way or the other; at least, with the things that you personally consider crucial (cause your priorities can never be the same as hers). So as not to assume, I'd like to ask, what efforts did you make to ascertain readiness before the event day? I know ladies like such things but it's not necessarily a woman's thing cause you had expectations too and, as a perfectionist, one would think you'd like to know the status of things days before the event so as to avoid surprises. Leaving it all to her cause you've provided the money made it look like a relationship between a client and a service provider and you getting angry at the poor service at this point further paints that picture. And if that's the case, it would be a bit unfair to sharply criticize her. That will hurt.

The truth is, no one would take it lightly if all they get is sharp criticism after going through the stress of planning an occasion, worse if the criticism comes from someone with equal stake. Event planning is an extremely stressful process and it hardly ever goes as planned unless professionals are used. Travelling around the world doesn't make your wife a professional event planner. It's very easy for occasions to get disorganized regardless of the amount spent. But, let's get logical, do you really think she deliberately planned for her special day to be disorganized? Except you believe your wife was "hustling" you, I think she did what was her best cause that day was as important to her as it was to you. If she really put in her best (and didn't "hustle" you), I'd say a word of praise from you would be the only reward that counts. And that should come before any complaint.

This doesn't mean you shouldn't express your distaste. In fact, at this early stage of the marriage, it's extremely important that you let your discontent be known so that she'd appreciate your standards/taste and know what it takes to please you. But like I said, complaining outrightly is not an option. Where I come from, we have what we call sandwiche criticism. It simply means inserting the hard part in-between softeners. First acknowledge the stress she went through. This way, she'd take your criticism in good fate knowing you understand it wasn't easy. After the criticism, move on from that topic. The last part is important partly cause you want to maintain a good atmosphere but mainly cause you want her to see how fast you'd like her to move on from things when she's not pleased.

Such transfers are temporarily suspended for now. It was announced sometime ago. I saw it on NL front page.

rosskiti:
Arrant nonsense.

You're talking from the perspective of a person who has been brainwashed to believe it is ''not a bad thing'' for another nation to leave its shores, go to another nation, and plunder, wreck, and loot it, in order to enrich itself.

That has ALWAYS been wrong and evil.

Every bit as evil as looting your own country.

How do you think God, the Creator of the Earth sees it?

Do you think God says ''oh, the British leaders were not looting their own country. It was a foreign country or continent that they looted. So the crime is not as bad as if they had looted their own country''?

If anything, from God's perspective, looting another nation is WORSE, not better.

When the West African Moors left to civilize Europe between 700AD and the 1400s, they could have easily looted Europe and converted everyone there to Islam and forced them to speak African languages and hate their heritage etc. Instead the Moors led Europe out of her Dark Ages and into the Renaissance, which led to their Industrial Revolution. they brought education, architecture, science, and medicine to Europe.

Go on Google Images and type in ''Moorish crests''. You will see hundreds of aristocratic European family crests and coat of arms featuring their black African moorish ancestors, whom they honour till this day, because of their influence on European development.

The colonial era was not 'biblical times' of 2000 years ago. It was less than 200 years ago, so saying that brigandage and looting of other nations was 'acceptable' and 'normal' in the 19th century, long after the Enlightenment and Industrial Revolution, is an exercise in tomfoolery.

I stopped after reading your first line. Sorry but I don't discuss with people who can't have non fallacious debates on social issues or disagree with others' opinion without fang baring. Lack of decorum irritates me.

Enjoy your day.

OP, nice write-up but but I have a slightly different view. You're comparing colonization and leadership, and I believe the comparison is wrong both in terms of time and in terms of concept.

The colonial masters didn't scramble for Africa with the aim of providing leadership. They fought for Africa in order to enrich their respective countries, they didn't go there to build nations. As at that time, it wasn't termed "corruption", it was more like a way of life. Europeans nations exploring the world to bring home wealth was seen as one of the genuine means through which a country could expand its territory and increase its wealth. Just like people who took home war loots in the bible, Europeans conquered Africa and took home your resources, they were your colonial masters and not your leaders. It was wrong, inhuman but not against the law as far as civilization was concerned.

What you have in Nigeria is far different. Your leaders are not colonial masters. Your leaders are your own people whom you've entrusted with the task of building your nation and who have promised to do just that. But then they turn around to steal from you. They started behaving like your conquerors. And instead of calling them out, you're saying they haven't done as much as your conquerors who never even had the task of taking care of you. It's like comparing the way your father treats you and the way your master treats you (assuming you were sold to slavery). The reality is that the British people didn't fail you as you never gave them any mandate and they didn't promise to build your nation. But I think it's safe to say your leaders failed you. If you want to compare these guys and your leaders, compare how they lead their country and how your leaders lead your country.

You may not agree with my perspective but we should both agree that if Nigeria tending towards being failed nation is a fact, then it shouldn't matter who said it. The US, Canada, Australia, etc. were all colonized this same British but we don't see them always holding on to that subject as a shield against criticism. It's not forgotten but the fact is that the world has moved on and we can't keep using our past as an excuse. I think the question should be, is Nigeria really becoming a failed state or not? Comparing our present leaders with the Europeans of the colonization century is, to me, a frantic attempt at shying away from reality.

Just an opinion.

DenreleDave:
Jesusssssssssss

What happened?

danowena:
Nigerian women do not naturally take care of their step children. I hope this love /relationship is real.

Lol.... Women this, women that. Is it not Nigerian men that have sworn never to take care of a step child? You guys always call women out but look the other way when men do the same thing. Let's be try to be objective with these things.

And Nigerians would still support fraud and call it hustle after seeing the devastating effects.

Cute! I love birds.

But why are you holding it in captivity? I know it's beautiful but this particular type of bird hardly ever warms up to humans. Regardless of how well you take care of it, it would still scared of you and would always prefer its freedom. I can't even imagine the agony of living in constant fear. Moreover, it's almost impossible to train due to its small brain power.

However, if you love birds like I do, I suggest you get a parrot. I'd suggest sun conure, green cheek conure or a cockatiel. These moderate sized and extremely playful species are less expensive to maintain and easier to take care off. But most importantly, they bond well with thier owners and would always seek your attention (sometimes too much of it) if well taken care of. They are highly trainable since they are believed to have the intelligence of a 2 year old human and the emotions of a 6 year old. Simply put, these are birds you can relate with, birds that enjoy company as much as you enjoy theirs. Though they are sometimes too clingy and seek to be on your body playing all day. Lol

Are they other helpless bird lovers on Nairaland?

_{NB: It's actually inappropriate to tie up a pet bird like you did. Lol}

adecz:


Turning somebody's little
child in a homosexual sexxtoy
in a so-called Christian school.

So called? I don't know about the school but I wouldn't want this to be a smear campaign against the school management. The same thing could have happened anywhere. It's not a teacher that molested the boy but a fellow kid and we know adolescents do a lot of things when puberty sets in. Giving the number of students in the school, it's not entirely out of place for the school authority not know about the incidence if the kid didn't report it. So in my opinion, this doesn't necessarily make the school less a Christian school. Satan made all his plans and waged a war right under the nose of his boss in heaven but we don't blame his boss or call the place "so called heaven". You get my drift? What matters is what what the school is doing after learning about the incidence. Just a thought.

They always say what the people at the occasion want to hear.