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Very sad indeed. Life has no explanations, we're living by grace.

If you watch the video, you'd realise what she said isn't so bad. The point she's making is that women who are searching should never be unkempt. She probably didn't package the message properly.

Whether we like it or not, men are visual creatures and they are attracted to attractive women. Beauty will take you through the front door, however character will keep you in the room.

You forgot to add that the lady has a doctorate. That's a real woman.

Celebrities are known for marrying for the wrong reasons. They want flashy girls and don't care if she's a hô or stripper.

All these men who always claim make money and get any girl of your choice, your money can't save you from hôes. The lady has only transitted from a young hô to an old hõ.

There's no such thing as my body in marriage. It's our body, that's why cheating is not allowed. You can't carry our body and start cheating with it. That luxury ended when you got married.

Women reject men all the time, there's nothing wrong in rejecting the advances of a woman whom you're not attracted to.

She may have a good character, but you need a level of attraction to your partner or you'd quickly lose interest. Don't feel guilty, there are many nice ladies who will be your type, she can't be the only one.

Have you given her a ring? Do her people know you? You people use the word fiance loosely.

Most people carry public property on their head and expect fidelity.

If indeed she's your fiance and she messes up, take the matter to her family and friends and not faceless people on a forum.

How can only 'randy' people approach you? How did you even conclude they are 'randy'? Do they see you at first sight and just ask for sex or do they smack your bum at first meetings or what?

Sometimes, people have made up their minds already about what they want. Anyone who doesn't fit into their ideal specification is a write off.

If truly only 'randy' men approach you, then you may want to take a look at your outfits and makeup again, they may not be as modest as you assume. Or perhaps, you give out 'olosho' vibes.

Not everything is about relationship. Some women just want sex from a guy they like and don't want a relationship.

Don't expect to meet such women amongst your hungry student girlfriends. Some mature and independent women select a man they want, have sex with him and move on. No big deal.

No wonder some men sleep with their daughters. Only a disgusting, lowlife, and abominable man will sleep with his cousin.

Even if your tradition allows you marry your cousin, marry her first before sleeping with her.

You're not single by choice or your upbringing, there are deep psycho social issues involved. There are lots of people that were 'caged' and still got married.

Just mere reading this, I can diagnose, some level of 'superiority complex' which usually is actually inferiority complex. I will advice counselling and therapy. If you continue like this, depression is just around the corner. This is free medical advice, try therapy.

Hardwork still pays,all these quick money social media nonsense will fizzle out quickly.

Being a content creator and entrepreneur is just a fad. People should get real jobs and get busy. I will never respect these so called overnight millionaires who claim to be making money online. It's not sustainable.

Very funny thread. This guy has turned himself into some sort of John the Baptist, sounding a warning for others. If you don't prepare, you suffer greatly, that principle applies everywhere in life.

People are still balling in Nigeria, UK, Somalia, Iraq. Find your purpose and you will make it anywhere. I don't know how a goat in Nigeria expects to become a lion in UK. There are UK citizens born as goats and still remain goats in UK with all the opportunities around them. People should always learn to find their purpose.

uche87:
stop hating. Did the writer also force you to read his articles? Nairaland has hundreds of daily contents but you appear to be fixated on the contents of one particular person who is doing it for free.

Shut up, your opinion is irrelevant to me.

This dude is always writing nonsense articles. I don't know his obsession with telling his tales of the UK, like one who never expected to leave Nigeria. Tell your tales to your family and friends who may be interested.

Begging and bribe is part of the culture now.

Scam. This type of scam reveals itself when you provide the so called requirements. Carefully crafted and very intelligent form of scam called check cashing.

The rule to know if something is a scam is, if it's too good to be true, it's almost always is a scam.

Men are not necessarily against no sex in a relationship till marriage. If you're a virgin, a lot of guys will be glad and stick around. The problem is when you're not a virgin and then you don't want to have sex. Men see it as unfair and most men would feel others have had a piece of the pie and when it got to their turn, you decided to make them the sucker.

Men feel cheated when they're dating a non-virgin who is now insisting on no sex. Women should think properly about being a virgin or not. If you chose to lose it, the issue of becoming a secondary virgin wouldn't fly for most men.

Lies everytime about job offers and travelling out. It's getting tiring.

All these imaginary tales to get our attention. Sighs.

Interesting debate going on here. Patronising prostitutes or hook up is not guided by basic principles like IQ, wealth, religion, or other such parameters. It's personal principles that guide such decisions.

Jimmy Swaggart the preacher has been caught with prostitutes, athletes and politicians have been caught with prostitutes. Talking about prostitutes, there are classes to these things. Some are very premium, high above the grade of many regular men whilst some are trashy and most 'decent' men wouldn't touch for free.

Patronising prostitutes is just a matter of personal principles. The same way some men wouldn't touch a married woman and some would. It has nothing to do with status or anything.

As for the issue of body count, some 'regular and decent' women with a high libido have very high body count even though they don't have sex for money. Some high class prostitutes have fixed number of clients and the issue of body count doesn't apply here.

Bottom line is that patronage of prostitutes is a personal thing and nobody should be shamed for their choices. Many people who even claim not to patronise prostitutes would sell their inheritance just to be inbetween the thighs of some class of these prostitutes. There are levels to these things. Not everyone is a 1k brothel hoe.

IMF only meddle in poor countries affair. I don't hear IMF dictating to western nations. This is what happens when you squander your resources and beg for handouts.

It's the case of a rich neighbour dictating to you how to raise your kids and make love to your wife because you keep going to beg him for handouts. If you manage your garri in peace and keep your shoulders high, the rich neighbour wouldn't dare meddle in your affairs.

Life is unfair. I know divorcee virgins and happily married slay queens. I don't understand life, sometimes we do our best and yet it isn't good enough.

Sometimes I think life is random and what will be will be. Always hope for the best and be positive.

If men committed paternity fraud, they would have been a law for them to be jailed. Paternity fraud is a crime and women should be jailed for deceit.

There are men who will voluntarily accept another man's child as theirs. Men should be told the truth from the start, those who'll accept will accept but deceiving a man for years - a woman deserves jail time.

Dry humour with a touch of childishness.

You guys make lots of topics on how to 'conquer' women. Books and movies are dedicated to getting women and playing women, yet you people say that women are fish brained and unimportant and men are the price. Isn't it ironic? So much effort put into conquering unimportant beings.

I don't understand all these write ups. Just strive to be the better version of yourself, be real and you'll attract a woman who genuinely has feelings for you. All these strategies are a waste of time and meant for gullible people who have no independent mind. You don't need the love and attention of multiple women, you just need one woman who genuinely cares.

Kemluv004:
Thanks for your response.
I previously applied for a Canadian visa where I included my husband in the application that's one. We haven't been DQd, priority date 2008. My fear is the Canadian visa application I did that would reflect my hubby's details. To start filing the divorce process takes time and we have less than a year to submit documents to be DQd. My passport has been changed to hubby's name thinking of changing back to my maiden name but the process is slow with immigration.
Have done change of name on nin but still waiting for the previous passport in my husband's name to come out since April.

Wow...All for the US? Divorce? Change of name? Denying being married etc? Is it that serious?

lonikit:
No sir. You calculate from your PD not approval date. And concerning movement it depends on availability of visa. It can move up drastically. Backlogs are being cleared. I maintain that it can't be 20 years.

Note that If your case if current but being delayed by ur embassy, I think you can expedite. Or you transfer your case.

Priority date, approval date or whatever you call it. My priority date is Jan 2013. Anyway, whatever works for you is fine.

aestake:
Once he filed or added them on an immigrant application, the immigrant intent bell has been rung. You can't unring it and getting visit visa is lowered considerably.

My thoughts too, however, the other guy said he got multiple times during the wait. I'd give it a shot too.

lonikit:
no, it cannot be up to 20years. 13 to 15 maximum. I am from Nigeria not Philippines or mexico or india

Who told you so? My filing was approved in Jan 2013, that's 10 years ago. Visa bulletin shows priority date for 2008. Even if it moves every month which is impossible, that's another 5 years to go.

With the way things are now, prepare for a 20 year wait from the time your application is approved. Mine will be a retirement plan if I'm still interested by then. In another 10 years, I wouldn't be too far off from retirement.

Taal17:
I got us visa multiple times during the wait.
Was your family refused just once?
Did you indicate that you've been filed for? There's usually a place where it asks if anyone filed immigrant visa for you..the answer should be filled yes. Visit visa application is based on showing you don't have immigrant intent that's what you focus on showing home ties here in Nigeria. Travel during vacation or school holiday time and do short trips 2+3weeks.

Wait out in the US for what? The wait is already 10years plus na , you can not work legally , no ssn , no state tuition etc.so staying adds no advantage to you if you're already on a 6 -18 yr wait.

Exceptions are like spouse or minor children category because they can easily move to IR which has no cap

Refusal was once and yes, I filled yes in the immigrant section. I just felt it's the application that caused it, though it happened during Trump era where refusal was rampant.
I may try again though, with what you've just explained.

lonikit:
Thank you for this. Your own case is even earlier. My bro just applied for me last year. 15 years more or so. Your advice is what I will follow. My peace of mind is important.

If your brother applied last year, add another 19 years wait. Imagine adding 19 years to your age. If you're ambitious and focused, you'd have achieved so much by then.

My wife and kids used to go to the US for holidays, however, since I added them to my application, they've been refused a B1/B2 visa. I don't know if it's because they now have a pending immigration filing. Some people say it doesn't matter if you've been filed for that you can still visit but I seriously doubt that, the American's are not stupid. You could easily travel and go and wait out the process in the US.

Sometimes it looks like this thing has become a hindrance, as my family and I can't visit the US. We've had to try other places for family visit. That is the 'curse' of an immigrant visa application for me.