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greatgod2012:
@lalasticlala, how I wish this thread hits FP, so that we can have other people's view on this topic. Thanks.

I align with ur views on this. I agree, this is front page worthy. Lalasticlala where u at?

Better wear make up if u look like a monkey. Don't want any ugly face hanging around me. I like a lil make up, nothing heavy or dramatic.

Go buy rat poison, just 150 naira. One less opportunistic gold digger to worry about.

Honestly i don't know. Some things are impossible to tell.

I salute all those who commented. Congratulations. Many can't tell these tales today because of alcohol. They're six feet below.

DevGuru:
UPDATE

I sincerely appreciate the fact that almost everyone here regards this matter a very serious one, this alone warms my heart a little. I have read through every single comment on this thread and I appreciate everyone. I couldn't take down the names of those whose comments aligned with my aim of keeping my marriage, but I thank everyone all the same. I realised from a myriad of comments that informing my people will mean a beginning of the end for my marriage. My daughter too is a major consideration. Above all, she's carrying another 6 week pregnancy. I have therefore decided to eliminate (or maybe suspend as the case turns out) informing any of my family members. I decided to play the records to her while I added some words. I started by telling her that my love for her made me decide to talk to her and not to anyone who would possibly fuel separation in my home like her sisters have done. She was shocked because she had never heard any allegation from me towards her elder ones before. She thought I was crazy and I wanted to bring up what was not. Then I played a little while I summarised the wildest words from her sisters which I heard in other discussion. For the FIRST time, my wife couldn't deny ANYTHING as she was convinced beyond doubt that she had been finished. She cried bitterly as I talked further but did not know what to do. But what pained me further was that it was obvious she cried because she saw that I was going to turn to an emperor and ridicule and justifiably disgrace her elderly advisers, NOT really because I was betrayed.

Right there, I was looking for a particular one to play and then even heard what I didn't hear before. Her eldest sister said she had discussed with some other siblings to intensify efforts towards her job search that as soon as she gets a job, she would have to be sending money home for them to create something for her in their town so she could come settle. She cried further as she heard it too. I told her the implications of what she had done to me with her people and then left her in the room because my baby girl was disturbing me. Anytime our voices are not friendly, she interrupts and cries for attention. I took my daughter to the living room and was playing with her.

After about 1 hour, she came to the living room and fell down before me as she cried further, saying "I'm sorry". Then I asked her to state exactly what she was begging me for - her betrayal or her siblings' offence. She knows me very well, she quickly said her betrayal (even though I knew that wasn't the primary cause of her heavy heart). Then I told her I was willing to forgive her in the spirit of upholding my marital vows to her. I explained further that for the sake of our daughter and the unborn one(s), I was willing to forgive her and build a stronger home with her. She felt a little relief knowing that she was getting back into me. I then said "but from this minute, I'm in a ruthless war with anyone, I repeat, ANYONE who is determined to break my home as I now have to guard our togetherness jealously". I stated further that the only thing I would hold against her was if she ever stood in my way. Just as if a thunder just struck and killed someone dear to her, she cried loudly again saying "she had finished her life". She said she would be the one to suffer in the war I just declared and that I should just allow her to call all of them and tell them never to meddle into our affairs again. I refused to fall for that trick and held my stance that my resolve was not going to change and I walked away. Since then till this moment, she has been like a mourning widow. When it was time for food, we ate together as usual and I've been the one trying to talk now. She hasn't spoken with anyone on phone since then, although I don't know about Whatsapp or BBM chat. Now she's waiting for the next available opportunity when she could plead for her sisters again... only God knows for how long the waiting would be. Let me quickly mention that she sent me an SMS from the bedroom a while ago: I CAN SEE THE HANDWORK OF THE DEVIL IN THIS WHOLE MATTER, PLS LET'S TRY TO RESIST THE DEVIL THIS TIME SO HE CAN FLEE FROM OUR HOME. I BEG YOU IN THE NAME OF GOD DEAR".... I simply replied from the living room: "ON THE CONTRARY HONEY, I CAN SEE THE HAND OF GOD. CAN'T YOU SEE IT?"

On another note, I do not want to assume that she will not tell her sisters, although it might take a while because she knew they would rebuke her for delivering them into the hands of their 'enemy' through Call Recorder. But before she informs them, I think I'd follow someone's advice here too that I should reveal it to someone who could keep it away from my mum and sisters, which is surely my Dad - just to put someone in the know, in case I begin to smell rat poison in my food... lol. What do you think?

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You have a dikk but you're not acting like a man. You don't go into a gun fight with a matchete. Those women don't value you and it wouldn't matter if you're dead to them. You need to tell someone from your family and even give them a copy of the recordings.
I can't fault your wanting to keep your marriage but hope you know your in-laws don't want their sister to keep hers. Good luck to you but be wise. Don't keep this to yourself. We are tired of reading of spouse killing one another. People just don't kill, it's usually out of anger or the need to want to hide a secret. Be wise bro.

Simply ask for a thre.es.ome

The writer is sick to even think up such a despicable lie.

70% of the attitude and mentality of Nigerian women is from their mother's. The remaining 30% is from their friends. Mother's make or mar their female children.

Halimacurves:
When i came for vacation a while back i was shocked at how things had actually deteriorated...as in people were clueless as to how to make ends meet...well let's hope we are wrong and the old man has a plan...old people are stubborn and usually not productive sha...but i want to be wrong on that

Dongorgon5:
Everybody is tired of this fvking nations.
Our leaders don't care about us.
There is hunger and abject poverty in naija.
I can't blame them.

I'm only saying open a separate thread for youths who want to elope so those seeking advice on tourism don't get distracted.

Maybe they should open another thread for job seekers. Tourists who need advice on traveling can barely get any anymore. The place has been taken over by desperate youths seeking advice on ways to elope.

The mother looks good sha. Women who take care of themselves are always a plus.

^^
Actually i think the Yoruba's are more tribalistic. Just saying. I'm neither Igbo nor Yoruba, just a neutral who has a keen sense of observation.
@op. You shouldn't have brought in tribe into your post, it was quite unnecessary.

Burna boy has poor taste.

Wonderful. This is the way to go. These people should know that it's not business as usual anymore.

nasha1:
u even get time,my sister carry go dont mind anyone.

I'm a full blooded man. All male.

Madam OP, i don't do PMs. If you are as desperate as you sound, kindly drop your account number.

Acidosis:
Stop creating a soft landing for your future scam schemes. Send her a PM if you want to donate funds without proper verification.

We know una type well well. Meanwhile, insults don't get to me o, better stop wasting your energy on those keypads.

People usually think of others what they are. A scammer sees others as scammers. It wouldn't cost me anything to sacrifice some money to help whom i want to. I don't see how it's any business of yours.

Nor be by force to comment, if you feel she is a scammer, write to Efcc. For someone to come online and begin to lie just to get feeding money then that person's condition must be bad.

All these stupid questions up and down because of 5k wey una wan donate. Madam drop the account number here. Scam or no scam, let's see what we can contribute.

Every girl is fine with makeup and weaves. Commot those things and see the scam women are. Any lady still fine after that is qualified to be praised for her beauty.

Marxxx:
I understand your intent. Do you think I can't get copious notes from the Internet about marital issues? I could meet a counsellor and arrange for an appointment. When I need info about anything I like to get it from the targeted source. Your ideas were amazing but the topic wasn't generic it was made for a targeted class. Perhaps you didn't notice you really wanted to contribute and I thanked you for it. But you came up with this "Joe bomb". Hmmmmm...well that is what makes us different from other species of the human race. Even when we defy rules and our attention is called we flare up..."I wanted posts from married people" simple. I do not care if you have a phd in marriage proceedings as long as you ain't married just do the needful...

U are right. Personal experience is quite different from observing others. My greatest fear in life was getting married. Just like u, i enjoy staying alone, having my moments. Though I love kids but I detest kids jumping up and down and turning everywhere upside down.

However, i knew i wanted to marry and have kids. I just had to set my fears aside. I looked for a woman whom had similar qualities like me. A woman who detest drama, not lousy, doesn't believe in associating with d whole neighborhood. The first step is to find a woman who shares same values with u but u must also love her. That is where d challange is, cos u might have to search for a while.

If u succeed, then marriage is pretty much easier from there. Of course they would be challanges but that is normal. Even best friends have challanges. U just have to learn to accommodate inlaws, it is inevitable. But pray u have reasonable inlaws who are ready to give u space.

Funny enough i have kids who are hyper and turn d place upside down but i have no choice than to clean up after them. Being a family man means u have to make lots of sacrifices and learn to be tolerant. I still appreciate my quiet time when my family is asleep or travel but i do miss them when they travel or i travel.
In summary, u'll get used to it. The first step is the scariest, after that it gets easier. The important key is marry a woman u are very compatible with.

I'm a Christian but i believe in the practical. There are many medical solutions. Viagra, herbs etc. You can please a woman through other non penetrative means and adopt if need be. Trust me, there are many beautiful women who would marry u as u are. Remember u are still better than a million others.

Creative? Everybody wants to make a fashion statement these days. People care more about the uniqueness of their wedding more than the marriage itself.

Aptly captured. I have dated the liability, the emotionally disturbed and the clingy. Not funny.

Never feel bad about being denied. It's like playing Russian roullet. My wife was given recently. She's only travelled to Dubai and is currently a homemaker as she recently resigned. Meanwhile she was denied when she still had a job.
There are no rules. It's like playing baba ijebu.

Nothing wrong with masturbation abeg. Be more concerned about her having real sex. Ur mum should teach her sex education. Masturbation has saved a lot of people from rape, adultery, STD's and unwanted pregnancy.

And u guys don't want to be taken as sex objects. Women would only get the respect they crave for when they start showing self respect.

Accommodation at Lekki, Ikoyi and VI you mean. Abuja is more expensive on the average than Lagos.

tpiar:
was the houseboy going through nairaland threads in food section and comparing what he saw there?

as per his clothes, was he unable to wash them?

Why does this retard have access to the internet? People in psycho homes shouldn't have access to the internet.