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Reading through this thread, I'll say the mindset of most Nigerian youths (male especially) is despicable. What happened to 'Honour' and 'Integrity' in relationships?? What happened to making 'Sacrifices' in relationships?? You all must realize that what is good remains good, no matter how twisted the world has become. If Mandela was this greedy about his personal gains and wellbeing, eradicating apartheid would definitely not be his plot. We must change!

jmoore: I will be very happy to fail the test.

In fact F9 will be my grade. And I will never apply for a resit!!

Extom: Oboy, there is this thing about my instinct; its never wrong!!! And in this your case, as soon as I finished reading the epistle, here's what my instinct says it is:
The distance between you guys gave her room to be seeing someone else, one thing led to another and she got pregnant for him, he ran away, her conscience and emotions ran wild, she couldn't keep it all under control(with the guy denying, and you ignorant), so she decided to at least get your forgiveness(cos of karma), and she got your forgiveness, and decided to start all over again. She looked for money and terminated the preg, and then you came back!!! With you coming back, she knew if she played her cards right, it wouldn't be a lose-lose situation for her, so a real-life occurrence automatically became a prank to test your faithfulness that has not faltered in 3yrs. WAKE UP AND SMELL THE COFFEE BRO! Its the same conscience that didn't allow her keep the 10k.
Have you asked yourself these questions
1, What if you hadn't called her after 2 weeks, she would throw away everything you guys have been through for three years, because of a silly prank
2, What if she actually was pregnant


3,What if you approached this issue logically, rather than emotionally
Every guy is a smart, intelligent and great guy, until we fall in love, and become pvssies... That's why sometimes we need that 'resuscitating-slap' back to reality. So bro this is my own friendly slap to bring you out of that fantasy.
See with your eyes and head, not your heart bro!!!

And FINALLY, I MIGHT BE WRONG!!!

Nuzo':
Even if I pass this kind of test, I may never trust her again. The relationship will never be the same.

Given the duration (2 weeks or more) of this so-called test, there's a big possibility that she was really pregnant but quickly went to abort it when she found out how strong your love was.

It's either she was really pregnant for some dude who disappointed her or she just doesn't have even the slightest regards for your emotions.

Watch out dude, she could be loving you out of sympathy. Cos if she isn't, she would be more concerned or testing you about your faithfulness to her with Abuja girls than her infidelity with KD boys. Girls are not stupid!

Something is not adding up here.

idnoble135: Guys getting irritated, girls getting defensive. Op's torn in between. A good avenue to get some laughs this saturday.

ejiykzazi2007: Honestly, dis Op is a huge fool. Let me do d analysis 4 u. She fell out of love wit u, met anoda guy nd dated him peacefuly,y kip u as an option. D two days she didn't pik was d days she had d fall out wit d oda guy she loves, she was hrtbroken nd didn't feel lyk talkin wit u. She truly left d hauz lyk her sista said because of d hrtbrk issue, probably chasin nd beggging d oda guy. Wen it didn't wok nd not yet sure of wot to do wit d baby, she decided to tel u d truth nd ask 4 forgivnes, hopin u wil take her bak. So wen u left, she left u won't take her bak nd can't gave birth to a bastard, den she aborted d baby, dis hapend d two wiks u were in pain. Tel me y som1 dat love u nd testin u won't come out stil 2 wiks to open up, wot if u didn't cal?
Howeva, wen u came bak nd wit d pregnancy gone, she brot up d idea of testin u. Just pray d oda guy don't come for his babe or child, u wil hia anoda story.
U hv serve ur purpose, an option. But knw an option is alwaz an option. Anoda guy wil continue hitin her!

jmoore: I will be very happy to fail the test.

In fact F9 will be my grade. And I will never apply for a resit!!

Yield: After 3 years of being together, your character and the faithfulness you
have shown her should've been enough for her. What if you had decided
to leave her nko? Methinks she either didn't care about losing you in the
process or she already knew you would stay but still went ahead to test
you anyway. Both of these bring her own love for you into question.


OP, you're a wonderful man for wanting to stand by her,
had her story been true. She's truly lucky to have you.
Most men would've ran for the hills!

reflx: Dude...she had an abortion most likely...do a pregnancy test...if within six weeks of the abortion,it will still be positive albeit 'faint positive' in later stages...also a pelvic ultrasound scan will show a bulky uterus for about two months....
Look around her apartment well...you may stumble upon the results hidden.
Love with your heart and trust with your head.
Think man. Think!
Medic.

squaddy:

Cheating is never a mistake...it is a premeditated choice

jmoore: I will be very happy to fail the test.

In fact F9 will be my grade. And I will never apply for a resit!!

youmour:

There are decisions and mistakes we wish we could take back,but since we cant we can only decide to adjust our ways to the situation and forge ahead,everything we do eventually comes to light no matter how long it takes,she made her mistake,i have had lots of mistakes which she stood by me.if every man shun single moms the word step-dad for no exist

bigW:

Like seriously!!!! Using mandela as an example....apartheid regime nd matters of hrt (relationships) r two diff tins..y did he divorce winnie...abeg if u wan bring example come hia,,bring reasonable one

anitank:
U don't have to insult people to make a point

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In truth, making sacrifices makes one appear like a fool(or close) in the eyes of the world. If he could be bold enough to take this step, he would be ready enough to secure the paternal future of the child, at least till he's older, with a legal backing. Nigeria isn't that old Nollywood anymore. Finally, I hope you know Mandela was offered freedom at intervals while he was in jail, but he refused, while the blacks he was fighting for roamed free, some even supporting their white oppressors.

mikyke: I was shocked when my GF told she aborted a 2wks pregnancy. After so much arguments and confrontation, she said something that really touched me and I had to think twice. Her words "I know you are a young and smart guy with so much ahead of him. We have been dating for the past 2yrs now and one thing I have to realise about you is your ambition to make it in life and I don't want to be a hinderance to it. Am sorry I didn't tell you about it, but I don't want you to say in future that I ruined your life. Am feel so ashamed of myself right now but you just have to forgive me". I was really touch when she said these things to me. She opened my eyes to see that I almost ruined my own life (though it might not be the end of the world). I vowed in my mind that moment to stick with her.
my question is "how can I stay true to her after what she did". Please I need ur advices.
https://www.nairaland.com/1240725/how-stay-true#14986922

jmoore: Like many have spoken, she must have aborted a baby.

His previous thread below gives a clue



Let him carry his cross.

Nifemi_cutie: u're every gals dream..wow!!! Am really touch dat a man like dis stil exist.she s xo lucky i pray wen my time cums i shud be also lucky to find my own man