Cristiano is the better player

Nope, We are not the problem.... The Nigerian governments is the problem. If they provide an enabling environment & funding, graduate can do so much with their lives.

Even if i were unemployed, i would never take up the job of a bus conductor.

It is so annoying that when politicians talk about providing jobs for youth they think bus conducting, keke maruwa driving, okada & all form of nonsensical offer. They jejely do backdoor recruitment for their offspring to be at CBN & other posh parastatal.

To think that a graduate is supporting this daft idea is an indictment of the Nigerian educational system.

Why do you need a university education of 4 to 8 years in some cases, to conduct buses?

Do you know how much fumes from buses you will be breathing in everyday?
Have you thought of dealing with zoo people who are rash & doesn't know what it means to queue.
This kind of job will destroy u as a human, you will shout yourself hoarse everyday & soon u'd be agressive.

As a graduate, please do anything else but be a bus conductor. I respect the job cuz obviously somebody has to do it, not necessarily a graduate.

Take him for an AUTISM test at any hospital.

A good example of how your money can disapear into thin air is Traclist.com one of those ecommerce site that has been oweing sellers for more than a year now.


They moved office when the couldn't pay thier sellers and staff. Only God knows what they have done with people's money. Baba ijebu or Nairabet probably.

when you want to sell online better build ur own ecommerce site.

It is such a sad story but it has happened, the pandora box is open. There is nothing more you can do at this point.

Did u hear what your sister wanted to talk to you about after he confessed? He said it happened just once, it could be more than once they could be hooking up behind your back.
It took 3 years to get to this confession at a moment when he felt threatened that your sister is about to spill.
He didnt confess out of guilt, could it be that something happet between him & your sister? their lil affair turned sour, hence the threat, counter threat & confession.

Anyways all that doesn't matter. The real question now is: Do you want to spend the rest of your life everyday waking up to a man that betrayed you & slept with your sister? can u cope or deal with that?
if your answer is yes!! i'd say forgive & forget *i dunno how people do that*

If not, no need crying over split milk. you are young, you will meet lot of amazing men in life who wouldn't sleep with your sister. who would be responsible enough to know what line shouldnt be crossed no matter how unserious a relationship look. who has SELF CONTROL & take responsibility for their actions.

It will be hard but you have to move on.

As for your sister being loose, it is no excuse. A grown up man shouldn't stoop so low no matter the temptation.

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This suitation is so disgusting i can't even imagine talking to someone like that again let alone think of forgiving & continuing such relationship.

Yea.. Me

1. I have never met anybody i want to spend the rest of my life with, even when i fall in love, i don't not imagine it to be more than temporary.

2. I do not understand why people get married. I think it is an attribute that is passed on from generation to generation. I don't understand the importance.

3. I am very much happy alone. If the ultimate goal of marriage is happiness then i already have the answer: "Being Alone"
I don't get it when people talk about lonliness. I am never lonely, i don't think my life is incomplete without another person in it. Nothing is amiss.

4. Everything obtainable in marriage, i can obtain being single.

5. Marriage looks like bondage & entrapment to me. So much rules, boundries & don't.
For example: you married someone & along the line, they changed into horrible monsters you wouldn't have dreamt of having a relationship with but then you stay cuz u made vows some years ago.

6. I am better off alone, my life is awesome that way. I can't tell you how awesome enough except you are me.

Guy you have been catfished.. in a complex suitation.

if i were in your shoes oh, i will not marry her. lating out a news this big on me will make me skeptical.
i have nothing against HIV people cuz it could happen to anybody but i have everything against manipulative people who cant be honest with me fron the start.

Man, the choice is yours but if i were in your shoes, i cant marry someone like that. Let me know what i am getting into from the start. if i can cope, i will go ahead and date you.
if not, there are plenty suitors out there for us all whether HIV positive or not.

i wish u goodluck man!
Cheers

I remembered watchin a science fiction movie some fee years ago called GATTACA.
i somehow knew that someday we will get here. a place where u can knock of bad traits in a DNA. choose eye colour, height & other things u want in your offspring.

I am in love with science... even though this new trend sounds scary, its gonna be awesome cuz humans keep evolving. we keep gettin better and better..

This story reminds me of that Kelly Clarkson song: Piece by Piece... The lyrics makes me emotional everytime i hear it. sounds like the story that inspired the song.

Joy1706:

Why so bitter? Who is d girl that shattered ur heart? Hahahaha

bitter ke.. no girl has ever shattered my heart cuz i figured out early in life that Love is rare in a country where poverty is rife. people only use each other so u have to be on the lookout for yourself always.

I am just irritated by most of the comments i read on the first page. Even male backing the assertation that because i am dating a girl, hence i should be responsible for her upkeep.. maka why?
The sense of entitlement is disgusting. Male and female both got an education, we voth have 2 hands and legs. so why should i be working while vaboon go day chop?
I simply dont get it.

we are fighting for gender equality yet the female do not want to step up and pay the price.

How many times has a guy ever ran out of credit and call up a girl to beg?
How many times do u want to cut ur hair and the next thing is to call a girl to beg for money.
Nigerian girls need to stop these Almajari syndrome cuz its pathetic.

In Nigeria, the defination of a relationship is:
"2 people coming together to make the GIRL happy"
To the Nigerian female, a relationship is the escape out of poverty.
You can see them coming out to support the assertation that a man should ne spending on his babe.

What happen to your own hands. Go work for your own money.
Any smart man that has common sense will rather save and invest in his future than let lazy, bleaching, gold digging, brazilian hair carrying empty brained Nigerian girls ruin his finances.

What do Nigerian girls have to offer or bring into the relationship? Nothing, except making stupid demands for things their father cannot buy for them.

Go get a job b!tch.

Guys keep up the good work of not spending your money on gold diggers and leeches. Brokeass that have no money to even recharge their fone will call u 'stingy'. Let them say what they like.

The only Nigerian girl u should ever spend on is the one you know can do the same for you.

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If u can, stay off Nigerian girls in totality, they are toxic to your life and are of no benefit. Try out foreign babes abeg and see the difference.

Dont get married... It is a trap..


If you do not take the advice up there and decide to...

Never marry a Nigerian, most of them are selfish and do not understand a woman can have a career.

Marry your best friend.. someone who understands u, your hopes, fear, aspirations & can take almost anything from you.

You already have the answers you are looking for.
A liar, an unrepentant cheat. except u want to be unhappy for the rest of your life, then u can stay.

Ladies are usually emotional, that is why they hold on when all evidence points at them to leave. The guy is taking advantage of that.

Move on cuz there are great guys out there that will value u more and treat u better.

Cheers

I love satan and the devil...
Can u please give me the blender? anything that has my father's name on it, i cherish.

Please don't ever come to Nigeria... Nigeria is a terrible place where nothing works, filled with terrible people waiting to take advantage of you.

You know that place in the bible called "Hell" where evil people go to? It is not a place you go when you die. It is a place right here on earth, it is Nigeria. You will regret it if you relocate, you might not even live to tell the story.

I wish you goodluck.

How many times have i seen this scenario in a movie..
where a guy leave the girl that was with them when they had nothing to find someone else cuz they have made money.

BLOW.
WOLF OF WALLSTREET.

Money has definately changed u. please set the girl free, dont waste her time. i hope she finds happiness again in life, a man that will apreciate her for being herself.
A man that will appreciate all the little laughs, the joy of playing with who u love whether in public or private.

You are no longer that boy she fell in love with. You own taste too have changed. u want someone refined, much more in tune with the newest facade.
You don't not have the patience to teach her nor tell her to simply stop putting crayfish in your food.
it simply means one thing: u don't love this girl anymore.
she is not what u want. why waste more time?

Say goodbye and let her be on her way. if u marry her out of pity. You will always feel bad, you will in turn treat her worse.
Life is too short to live gloomy, depressed and unsatisfied with a wrong spousal choice.

The idea of paying her off looks very insultive to me. what are u paying for exactly?

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U might be loosing the one person who genuinely love u the most in thos world. I hope like all those movies i saw, u dont regret it.

i wish u goodluck man.
cheers

Age has nothin to do with sucess.. some people make it early in life, others make it much later.

The choice is all urs honey.. dont box yourself in. if u are uncomfortable with the man because u think his prospect is deem. let him down easy and tell him to be on his way.

you will find a younger man that is established. just dont waste his time giving him hope when their is none.




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Prospect or Love?
#YourChoice

one fallopian tube is not a problem.. she is still fertile and can conceive a child.



Quick question: What if she can never give birth to a child in life.. would u love her less?
would u still love her the same?
will she still have a future with u?

There are over 50, 000 different religions in the world. All claiming to be the way, the truth and life.
what if Jesus is not the way? what if Krishna, Wutang, Bial or monhele is the way?

christianity alone has 10, 000 different sect. yall cant even agree on how ur want to worship this God.
some say dont wear shoe.
some say dont wear trouser.
some say dont wear jewelry.
so many rules and laws.

i say religious people are confused. i'd take the gamble of not following any religion. As long as i live a happy fufilled life and add God things to humanity.

Everybody is going to hell.. christian will burn in muslim hell for not Accepting Allah as the only God.
Muslims will burn in Christian hell for not accepting Jesus died for them.
Both Christians and muslims will burn in the hell of the other Gods & 50, 000 other religion for not believing their Gods.

The idea of a God & religion itself is stup!d.
an all powerful God created a devil that turned rogue. he then turned himself to human, Jesus, to die for the sins of humanity & to save humans from the hell fire he created for them if they dont believe he died for them. buhahahahababanahha.. too hilarious.

sweetkevisco:



Go for Hiv test asap!!!!!

I am not dumb.. i always use a condom.
i stay strapped always.. my rule: No condom and lubricant, No SEX!!!

In this age where ladies sleep around and get preggy for other man and call it urs. u dont wanna raise a bastard or catch an incurable disease cuz of vag!ana.

u gotta be smart. condom a whole pack is just N400.. thats like 100 pieces.

Suffice to say.. i day kampe.. i will keep smashing d pussssy as long as its available.

Privileged.
90210
O.C (Orange County)

You saw all these things you are complaining about when you were dating. I dont know how to feel sorry for someone who saw fire and jumped into it.
Why did you marry him if he had all these terrible trait you highlighted?
*assumption*
You were getting old and like most Nigerians, u wanted to marry. So you choose anything that had 2 testicles and walked down the aisle with him.

Sorry, u choose to marry him. You have lived with it all the while. Now way ur eyes don clear.

Call him and have a talk. Highlite everything you feel bad about his behaviour and let him know if he doesnt get his shi!t together. You will leave him.
Start saving up your money cuz u will definately need it as a single mother.

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with all the stories i read here, i wonder why people still get married.

Simple common sense... God does not answer your prayers because.. It does not exist.

God remains a figment of your imagination, a delusion.

Prayer is useless cuz it never works. Put prayer to an emperical test and u will watch it fail, over and over again.
Praying is like chronic gamblin.. U never count ur lose.

Nonsense! Dont ever in your life compare Craig to Brosnan again. Ever!
Pierce is the best thing that ever happened to bond since slice bread and butter.
When Brosnan was James bond, i enjoyed watching the movie over and over again.
Brosnan is got swag, he is smooth, sueve and the perfect bond.
Since Craig took over, i just hate the franchise. Craig go just day act like local thug disgracing james bond all around. I couldnt even stand the sight of the guy after Casino Royale. I cant wait for them to change to a new James Bond, maybe then some of us can have our 007 that we love so much back not this eyesore called Craig.
Funny, i have seen most of craigs when his not not acting as 007. I really do like him in all the other movies (Girl with d dragon tatoo, Difiance etc) but as Bond, na! The guy just doesnt cut it for me.
For me the best 007 is Sean Connery & Pierce Brosnan.
Daniel Craig is the worst i have ever seen.. I am a big 007 fan.

Infact, i now believe yesterday story as the truth.
I know Nigeria well enough to know that yesterday's story must have gotten some people involved in trouble.
The lecturers must have threatened the students and now they are all here like the coward most people are. Posting disclaimer.
Isnt it curious that all of the sudden, majority of the student corroborating this new story are Geoscience student.

Shame on you guys! That means you guys can never stand up for what is right and true.
You are everything that is wrong with the Nigerian society!

So lecturers threaten yall and you all registered to create a different version of event that wont make your lecturers look bad.

This country is really hopeless if these are the kind of future leaders we are breeding.

If u want a Nigerian man to stop asking u for a blow+job... Simply tell him to suck your p+ussy.
Most men just want to take without givin..
Selfish set of humans.
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To all those who always say, no sex before marriage. I smh cuz most people will go their whole lives without truely understanding the meaning of sexual satisfaction.
They will in turn start cheating, get fustrated and eventually end up lonely even though they are married.
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I say Bleep well before marriage.. So u will know what u are marryin into.

I couldnt forgive or forget. I broke it off imediately. I know my deal breaker 'cheating' no 1 on top of the list.
Amidst all the tears, friend intervention and all. I stood my ground cuz there is no point.
The relationship can never be the same again. I was too hurt to even consider a 2nd chance. It was unbelievable and i could never trust some one like that again.
It was one of the hardest decision i have ever had to take in my life. I survived just fine & i was happier being single than if i had continued with that relationship.
I look back now and i am glad i broke it off. Let me tell u why?
People rarely change.. I left her to go date the guy she cheated on me with.
Months later, we hooked up and have been shaggin since then.
Now she is cheating on the guy with me.
That episode taught me a very important lesson in life:
if a person can cheat on their boyfriend with u, they will cheat on u with another person.
Suffice to say now, the other guy doesnt suspect anything. She has found a way to keep it underwrap.
Sometimes, after 6ex, i just look at her and wonder alot. What if i had forgiven her then and take her back?
This is how she will still be whoring around wit another person.

My advice to you: move on from that kind of person. The relaionship is damaged. There is not much u can do.
U will never forget. The relationship will never be the same.
It might be hard at 1st, but u will do just fine. Love will find u again.

Have u been cheated on? Are u in pain, distress and heartbroken as a result? let us cheat on your husband together so that he will know how it feels like...
Pm me.

@emmyrichie
"I don't know how old you are, but from you just said it seems you haven't really nurtured a solid relationship before"
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My age has no bearing on the issue at hand. I also do not know how old you are. I don't care, because it doesn't in anyway belittle the opinion you hold as regards this issue. Your opinion are yours, you are entitled to them just like i am entitled to mine.
What evidence do you have to back up the claim that i havent nurtured a solid relationship. You don't know me, so why make that kind of assumption?
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"What if they were married and this type of misunderstanding sprouts up? She should move to anybody attractive who just shows interest in her?"
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Hello!! They are not married. It is a relationship. The more reason she needs a clear head to be sure this is the guy she wants to spend the rest of her life with.
They haven't walked down the aisle or taken any vows. She is absolutely free to call of or continue the relationship. That is what relationships are. A test run to see if this is who you want to speend your life with. If a person does not fit, you move on.
It is the reason she came out in public to seek help. So she can make an informed choice before she settle down. She needs a clear head. I will never advise anyone to rush into a marriage with all the doubts and red flags she is seeing.
That is how lot of people end up being miserable in their lives. We read their stories here in the family section all the time.
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"Have you heard the fiance's version of the story?"
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I dont need to. She is the one asking for advise here on nairaland not her fiancee.
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"Did you try to think that a guy who's mind was made up and made the daring move to engage her will just shun her just like that without just cause?
Did you try to imagine the kind of thing that will make two people who were deeply in love for 5 yrs to just sit mum without showing interest in seeing or hearing from each other?"
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Not talking to someone you love for 6 whole month. Man!! I dont know about you but 6 month is a long time not to communicate with someone you love. That should tell you how bad things are between them.
That is not even the case. She feel disconnected from him. How can anyone advise her to still go ahead and marry him?
Isn't marriage about happiness and bonding with your spouse? All of her senses are screaming No!!! Cuz all those things are missing now.
The only thing she can point to now is they have been together for '5 years'.. nothing more. Not that "i love this guy, we share a great bonding and i see myself being with him for the rest of my life."
All of her doubts are for a reason.
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"Are you suggesting she call the wedding off to think to clear her head or she should start dating the new guy?"
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I am suggesting she suspends the wedding indefinatly until she is sure where she stands or if she truely wants to be married to him.
She is inlove with a new person. The more reason why she shouldnt even think of getting married.
Imagine marrying one guy while you are in love with another person entirely.
In all, the decision rest solely with her. We can only analyse and come to our own conclusion from the details she provided in her story.
She is the one that knows the whole story and what to do.
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"Did you try to think about what will happen if she called the wedding off and later go back to the fiance that she will like refix another date for it?
It is either she leave the guy alone or make it work"
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Do you ever think of what will happen if she marry a man she feels disconnected from?
You dont care about her happiness, she should just go ahead and marry him cuz they have been together for 5 years. Marriage is a lifetime thing. She deserves to be with someone she loves, someone she shares a connection with.
Everyone deserve to make a choice of being happy.

please how can i have a family member killed in this crane accident? I am willing to donate myself to be injured too in the crash.

Anybody with useful info on how i can go about it should please contact me.

Someone said she is disconnected from her fiance and you people keep insisting that she should go ahead and marry him cuz they have been together for 5 years. And so what?

Babe, marriage is a lifetime thing. I assure you that if you go into a loveless marriage where u are disconnected from ur spouse. You will be miserable alot.
You will even wish u never got married. People go 6 month without talking.. Which kain thing be that?

There is a reason why u are having so much doubt. A relationship is not marriage. A relationship is the process of finding out if u really want to spend the rest of your life with a particular person. If after 5 years, u are having doubts of being with him then he might not be the right man for u.

The worst mistake u will make is to entrap urself by marrying the guy hoping things will be alright after marriage. Everything magnifies (X5) after marriage.
All the people giving u advise here, calling u names cuz u are sincerely evaluating one of the most important choice you will make in life wont be there to live with u in ur marriage.
Don't be afraid to suspend the wedding. Many Nigerians have found themselves in mess they could have avoided because of "what will people say syndrome"
dont be one of those people.

Trust me there are no rules to this things, u could date a person for 5 years & ur marriage could work out or fall apart.
I have seen people date for less than a year and they have an amazing marriage.
All in all there are no rules to these thing. Your happiness matters alot.
People can blame the new guy all they want but i assure u, even without this new guy. You would still have had doubts about ur man.
It says so much about where you two are at in this relationship.

Babe, take time off. Clear ur head.

Timi better than Asa?
For more jokes.. Text SafariGirl to 666:

please let me have a whiff of whatever it is this lady is smoking. Pharps i will find myself in planet mars as the leader of the galaxy.

Asa is the awesomest thing that has ever happened to Nigerian music. Just go and youtube. Search for her performance, watch her sing and dazzle the world.
NIgeria is lucky to be associated with such an amazing musician.
Lyrics, voice, style and touch are all on point. The babe is A++.
Stop the blasphemy safari.. This is the kind of thing people say that make them miss out on heaven cuz even Baba God go day vex.