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Djangocode: "A sign of Bad Omen" WTF.. Yo English is Pretty Bad Bro..

Omen = Bad sign..

Its like saying "It May Be a Sign of Bad Bad Of Sign"..

If Na You be Wizkid, You are the Type That'll sing "20 Man shall fall Last week"..

Gbagaun on top Stage..

Learn some English Bro..

The poser was perfectly correct in his use of grammer......you are the one who GBAGAUNED trying to form grammerian

o·men  (mn)
n.
1. A phenomenon supposed to portend good or evil; a prophetic sign.
2. Prognostication; portent: birds of ill omen.
tr.v. o·mened, o·men·ing, o·mens
To be a prophetic sign of; portend.

Please apologise o

He composed impressive songs for freedam and amancipation of the black. Man on the street againts their oppresive leaders yet a piece of vegetative caged him till his death!

I rather live and die free than make eloquent composition about freedom

If the girl is cheap because she had s.ex with him on the first date then what do we call the guy? Not cheap!

Funny! A guy sleeps with a someone he considers as a slut/prost.itute yet sees himself as dignified, self-delusion of the highest order!

S.ex will ever remain a big deal no matter even in this a "head-less and heart-less". society;just like diamond will remain a diamond no matter the monetary value the forces of demand an supply imposes on it!

Happiness is the consequence of giving things the value they rightly deserve!

True, the flesh is weak, yet it always a function of how sincere a person is with looking at the facts about this profound (se.xual) aspect and fact of our lives as humans persons.

animals have se.x out of hormones and the urge to procreate but humans endowed with reason must do so for committed love else risk loosing the essence of their lives! If having se.x without any inhibition would fulfil a person how come a good number of housemates in the playboy mansion have violent taken their lives at the peak of it all!

We have the responsibility to live according to all the faculties we have been given to by our Creator. That we have made a thousand mistakes does not mean we can't get it right the one thousand and oneth time!

his is not a moralistic appeal to 'do things right' but one that says look again at the facts that reality presents with an open reason and ask what are we seeking in what we seek? And are we getting what we are seeking in all we seek? The objective answer should show us the path to thread!

Our daily toil is to swim against the tide of the common mentality in not just se.xual behaviour but everything that concerns our lives; to always verify if something asserted by society,peers and media is true and good for me, for my development as a person searching for meaning.

We must not let ourselves to become prey of our social milieu

Osondu aguike!
One does not get tired when racing for the preservation of ltheri ife

Together we can!
Good morning friends

Sagamite: The highlighted is exactly the hole I found in your position of "mature men".

People are different. They come in all different shapes and sizes. They come in all different emotional state. The come in all different physiology. They come from all different backgrounds and with different life experiences. Hence their needs are different.

Saying the ones you agree with their needs are "mature" is absurd.

Some will seek love in life, some are not of that emotional state.

Some are effeminate, some are masculine.

Some have a high libido, some have a low one.

So they all have different needs and your needs is by no means the right one.



Dictionary definition of "need": "a lack of something wanted or deemed necessary".



What is love?

What is the configuration including in terms of depth, number of participants, reciprocity, roles, timeline etc?

What happens if one does not experience it?

As far as this is sounding to me. It is like someone saying: "there is the need to know God, to experience a relationship with God".

I am thinking: "What the hell is this person talking about"? It really is an empty and unprovable life desire that is personal to the mind of the author.



I agree with you.

But practice makes perfect. I have always advised guys to chat up women that they don't even fancy because it is not the day they meet the ones that blows their mind they will start practicing with her. As a matter of fact, it would be harder and they would probably fail if they are not prepared.

I periodically chat up girls I have no interest in to stay in shape.

You don't wake up one morning and say you want to run in the Olympic finals without having gone through the Meets for practice. you need the practice to know your opposition, the setting of your start blocks, your race technique and what type of attire works for you in different weather conditions.



This is all grammar and has no meaning except an appeal for populist applause.

Women are different but they have an evolutionary setting which can help you predict the mapping most of them fall in.

At different ages, they want different things based on purely fulfilling desires (mostly selfish). Desires that is heavily dependent on their power (their looks) and secondly on their life experiences.

Attraction is not a choice, it is what it is. A spontaneous spasm of the mind. When a woman is choosing to be attracted to a guy, it is a tactical scheme to fulfill, mainly, none emotional desires.

What they want at 14 is different from what they want at 21 or 30 or 45 or 68.

Going to be reborn by a journey of self-awareness and to his assent of what he has encountered inspite of his preconceptions and the common mentality he is risks being encrusted in will not make a guy appeal strongly to the woman that he finds desirable and exceptionally correspondent to him and his worldview.

It is by understanding what the woman he finds desirable desires at her stage of life and being the type of person that fulfills that desire that would make a woman attracted to him.

Well I smiled to myself when you say I am seeking a populist applause and the reason is that my posts are hardly anything but popular.

I agree with ou on the fact that women's desire evolve with age that is so true but my point is that every act towards a woman must be noble that is in tune with what is helpful to the man's evolution to develop into a self-conscious person.

We all have different temperaments both influenced by nature and nurture, and even 'needs' by the same said factors; yet the thing that remain deep down is that need for liberation that stems from certainty of oneself, let's call it existential need; if this need is not taking into account there could never be a proper development of the human person; other needs necessaiy find expression in the existential or else the person would be cought up in giving more resources than is needed to satiate these secondary needs.

A married freind once declared to me that 'men should not love, love is for women'' only women who don't know yet what they want and what is going on will fall and stay in love with such a man but what happens eventually as they evelove they extricate themselves from the stranglehold of such small-minded men

Men who suppress their desire to express their love are no less the victims of their vice; for to love freely and fully is the best that any human could ever experience. Thus any training that encourages a man to suppress his natural desire to love is self-destructive and a harmful impediment to a leading a fulfilled life


My position is that let's heart desire lead him is everything falls into place; infact the women you drool over erstwhile will not make sense anymore; the man's thirst is well directed and less confused and when he finds the someone he is already equipped to 'go for the jugular' infact its as if he sends a special phrenemone that she percieves making the work a walk in the park. Simply becos he knows what he can bring on the table and delilah would loose her balance by the naturalness of his mystery and power.

But I see you are more of a strategist who knowing what a woman u meet on the alley could need and u be just that to win her over without missing the mark. The need you meet here like you admitted is often the selfish and superficail

If the aim is perfecting the art of getting any woman that catches your fancy I have nothing to add nor subtract its your art and choice;

What I say is that you do not slip into a state where a woman is reduced to an object of your chauvinistic conquest with you ending up being consumed by the power of your predatory prowess!

The means never justify the end; but in this case the end is not even worth it;

Once u have it you have it; u don't have to strategise or scheme infact the man will be hiding himself like a celeb who does not want to be noticed easilyd; his genuine detachment is what even makes him super sexy, mainge the ladies even fall over themselves to win his heart yet he does not savour this, for his eyes have been caught by the Truth and beauty of his being and desiny that a bevy of eager ladies are but only a shadow!

Without trying to give into cheap flattery it is obvious you are a very observant person hence you speak from not from just a train of thought of just logic but from the experience of the reality as it pertains to relating with women.

A man does not have the liberty of giving himself 'needs' or categorize them at will.....the needs are part of his structure so the work of each person is to be attentive and look at himself to see what exactly constitutes the nature of his needs.

From my experience I do not see how any man could truthfully declare that sleeping with as many women as he possibly can or having the expertise to bed any woman that catches his fancy is his need!

Of course they can be his need just like cocaine is to a junkie or the urge to behold the scared countenance begging for mercy that a serial killer enjoys just before he slits the throats of his victims and as life gradually drains out of their bodies......these are not needs even though they give a fleeting satisfaction to the unfortunate soul who has been consumed by this urge.

My rejoinder on this thread and to your posts simply stem from the motive of pointing out that there is the need to love, to experience love precisely as it pertains to relating to a woman is not to be suppressed because of the risks of being taken for granted or the pains of loosing that love altogether because of it wasn't expressed with the 'caution, wits and norms that women expert peddle in books, blogs and forums like nairaland'

Impressionable inexperienced and perhaps hurt young lads jump at this tips even though most times they lack the liver to carry out cos it is not always that mechanical; what is tragic is that they loose sight of the higher desire to actually know whom they trully are and what they are truly looking as a man.

When a man immerses himself into the journey to self-awareness, to finding meaning to what he is, then he is reborn into a Man that is exudes that mystery and power that women seek in men; same thing is true for women too.

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When a Man is reborn after an encounter with who is truly is he begins to exhibit the traits which the other man who is reborn by seeing women as persons who will always have a soft spot for the sexiness and machoness of that Malboro cowboy image, for that emotional detached

A mature man is one who has been reborn by a journey of self-awareness and to his assent of what he has encountered inspite of his preconceptions and the common mentality he is risks being encrusted in.

This man will exude the mystery and power that would make him appeal strongly to the woman that he finds desirable and exceptionally correspondent to him and his worldview, which is largely objective

His thirst to satisfy the instinct of establishing power over a woman or mesmerising her with an acquired self-image which he gains only by the violence he has done to himself and by the twisted way he now sees women becomes weaker as he gives expression to the urge for that primordial desire for liberation which is a consequence of the Truth and Beauty

Sagamite: That is not a definition.

You can't say "a mature man knows exactly what he needs" and then arbitrarily and ambiguously critique some men for "sleeping with as many girls as possible or controlling them".

What about if that is what those men classify as their need?

From your statements, it is obvious you have classified some "needs" as of "higher level". So for an appropriate and comprehensive definition, you will have to specify what a mature man would need.

Obviously, in your draft, some needs are merely "petty goals or victories". So there is a need for you to define what are "needs" that are appropriate in a non-ambivalent way.

I am assuming (I admit I might be mistaken) that your use of "needs" equates to and is synonymous with "higher things".

Am I mistaken? It is only right for you to provide some clarity.

What is a "mature man"?

What are "higher things"?

Without trying to give into cheap flattery it is obvious you are a very observant person hence you speak from not from just a train of thought of just logic but from the experience of the reality as it pertains to relating with women.

A man does not have the liberty of giving himself 'needs' or categorize them at will.....the needs are part of his structure so the work of each person is to be attentive and look at himself to see what exactly constitutes the nature of his needs.

From my experience I do not see how any man could truthfully declare that sleeping with as many women as he possibly can or having the expertise to bed any woman that catches his fancy is his need!

Of course they can be his need just like cocaine is to a junkie or the urge to behold the scared countenance begging for mercy that a serial killer enjoys just before he slits the throats of his victims and as life gradually drains out of their bodies......these are not needs even though they give a fleeting satisfaction to the unfortunate soul who has been consumed by this urge.

My rejoinder on this thread and to your posts simply stem from the motive of pointing out that there is the need to love, to experience love precisely as it pertains to relating to a woman is not to be suppressed because of the risks of being taken for granted or the pains of loosing that love altogether because of it wasn't expressed with the 'caution, wits and norms that women expert peddle in books, blogs and forums like nairaland'

Impressionable inexperienced and perhaps hurt young lads jump at this tips even though most times they lack the liver to carry out cos it is not always that mechanical; what is tragic is that they loose sight of the higher desire to actually know whom they trully are and what they are truly looking as a man.

When a man immerses himself into the journey to self-awareness, to finding meaning to what he is, then he is reborn into a Man that is exudes that mystery and power that women seek in men; same thing is true for women too.

.

When a Man is reborn after an encounter with who is truly is he begins to exhibit the traits which the other man who is reborn by seeing women as persons who will always have a soft spot for the sexiness and machoness of that Malboro cowboy image, for that emotional detached

A mature man is one who has been reborn by a journey of self-awareness and to his assent of what he has encountered inspite of his preconceptions and the common mentality he is risks being encrusted in.

This man will exude the mystery and power that would make him appeal strongly to the woman that he finds desirable and exceptionally correspondent to him and his worldview, which is largely objective

His thirst to satisfy the instinct of establishing power over a woman or mesmerising her with an acquired self-image which he gains only by the violence he has done to himself and by the twisted way he now sees women becomes weaker as he gives expression to the urge for that primordial desire for liberation which is a consequence of the Truth and Beauty

49cents: Read through this thread cos its a public holiday and I decided to not do anything today.

Sagamite is on point with his submissions but then these are all goings on in the human-animal levels that no intelligent person would want to descend into.

How can a man attentive to himself and his life focus on sleeping as many girls as possible or controlling them.....its an utter waste of time.

I don't find girls whom I can manipulate attractive neither would I enjoy the love of a girl or woman that I manipulated satisfying.

A mature man knows exactly what he needs. He knows what Sagamite and his team know only he thirsts for higher things;

It is important to let her know you know what she knows, that you know the playa game.....and you just don't say it alone or fully but show it fully when she starts acting up.

Then see if she is ready for the[b] higher things of living proper to the full stature of the human being[/b].....if she is not just move on.....its easy for the man whose zest for life is not weakened by petty goals or victories as manipulating and bedding empty-headed girls and women who have not yet understood the truest thirst of their hearts!!!

Sagamite: If I may ask,

What is a "mature man"?

What are "higher things"?

49cents: Read through this thread cos its a public holiday and I decided to not do anything today.

Sagamite is on point with his submissions but then these are all goings on in the human-animal levels that no intelligent person would want to descend into.

How can a man attentive to himself and his life focus on sleeping as many girls as possible or controlling them.....its an utter waste of time.

I don't find girls whom I can manipulate attractive neither would I enjoy the love of a girl or woman that I manipulated satisfying.

A mature man knows exactly what he needs. He knows what Sagamite and his team know only he thirsts for higher things;

It is important to let her know you know what she knows, that you know the playa game.....and you just don't say it alone or fully but show it fully when she starts acting up.

Then see if she is ready for the[b] higher things of living proper to the full stature of the human being[/b].....if she is not just move on.....its easy for the man whose zest for life is not weakened by petty goals or victories as manipulating and bedding empty-headed girls and women who have not yet understood the truest thirst of their hearts!!!

I defined both in my post see bolded

Read through this thread cos its a public holiday and I decided to not do anything today.

Sagamite is on point with his submissions but then these are all goings on in the human-animal levels that no intelligent person would want to descend into.

How can a man attentive to himself and his life focus on sleeping as many girls as possible or controlling them.....its an utter waste of time.

I don't find girls whom I can manipulate attractive neither would I enjoy the love of a girl or woman that I manipulated satisfying.

A mature man knows exactly what he needs. He knows what Sagamite and his team know only he thirsts for higher things;

It is important to let her know you know what she knows, that you know the playa game.....and you just don't say it alone or fully but show it fully when she starts acting up.

Then see if she is ready for the higher things of living proper to the full stature of the human being.....if she is not just move on.....its easy for the man whose zest for life is not weakened by petty goals or victories as manipulating and bedding empty-headed girls and women who have not yet understood the truest thirst of their hearts!!!

Well what can I say.....

the 16 commandments are not bad in themselves; inasmuch as I believe that women are not the enemy or are they a project to be executed it is important for a man to know how a woman's mind works for his own good and happiness with her!

I understand the reaction of the poster who took his time to disagree on the 16 commandments as they sound so like a cold scheming

I am not calling women kids buh if u have interacted with kids u would know that to make things work u will have to 'act' else u wud not make any progress.

Women love to play; being straightforward and 'sincere' can work against you and leave u wondering where u may have gone wrong

Women love mystery, they love the mystery of your masculinity, supply them with it and all will be well.

Do all these things not like a scheme but an expression of who you are: A Man

I don't believe u should do the following

1. Flirt with other women to show her that other women desire you.....she can know from women who find u attractive based on your person when you are with other women.

2. Giving less:
it is more blessed to give than receive! Men love in a different way that is the fascination, men who love like a woman is repulsive. Once you live out your masculinity in the truest manner your love will sweep her off her feet. You will not be needing to hide your emotions thus leaving a half life.

3. Having a backup
That's crap. Havin back up gfs shows u r a man that rushes into relationships becos u don't think follow due process in making up ur mind.

.4. Say ur sorry
When u mess things up aplogise. Its inhuman not to and a disrespect to the humanity of your woman; men are different from women not superior to them. Saying sorry does not make u look weak if you know what ur doing.

Bottomline is to be the man that God made you to be and every other thing will fall into place

All these tribal talk is trash; are Igbo guys god? I am igbo but could marry any lady once I find her exceptional correspondent

The first problem is you!!!
Se.x is strictly for the married, roger that!!!

No mature guy will bother himself with this tips

A guy who knows what he wants will get what he wants

@duduspace

All this love talk abegi....when ur with someone it can feel like they are the air u breathe and thus can imagine without them.....but if you are attentive u will find that there is actually a life without them.

Why should I deliberately have children who may turn out SS that's selfishness not love.

Childless couples are a different case altogether! It is not okay for a couple not to be open to the possibilty of having children especially where nothing but there petty projects iare involved!

You can be happy with anybody once ur happy with yourself first!

I belong to an International Catholic Movement called Communion and Liberation, founded Fr Luigi Guissiani
The Chariam has made Faith a living experience verified through daily living.
www.clonline.org

Penned it down at the spur of the moment moments afeter I did feeled the oort form and it crystallized into a misleading heartbreak letter with a sudden comical ending

Find it amusing that some peep think its to another person that it was addressing.....I hope Comprehension is still thot in our schools these days

I thots skillz wud move, it must be that ogugua found it romantic

Toks2008: Please take this to the bank, They do.

Infact the greater part of the trouble i am having with my wife stems from the zodiac incompatibility.

I am a Gemini and she is pisces and believe me, what i do so innocently get on her nerves.

Believe me friends, you need to read up your partner's traits by checking up the zodiac so that you can make the union better and please note that the zodiac is not to decide who stays with who but to make you understand each other better,

If i ever get involved with a Pisces woman ever again i bet she will be the luckiest lady on earth because i have come to understand so so much about a Pisces lady.

Please note: Do not take horoscope too far and just limit it to understanding the zodiac traits and never take it more than that else it becomes something else.

For instance, here is just a few traits of a piscean lady.(Born within February 19 - March 20)

A piscean woman is not materialistic, very dreamy and easily hurt with words. They are usually curvy and petite and they will do all they can to make a relationship work as they are the best candidate for a long time relationship but when a piscean says its over then believe it is and she will never come back except the connection is real and the sex is good. Pisces are the best and yet the worst feminine sign to date but it all depends on how you handle this ever dreamy individual.

Gemini and pisces are not the best of matches cos geminis are

about wits and cunning....but then again I see that love is the thing that matters my virgo fiancee is my opposite always analytical and not too mushy like I would want; practical and dreamybut our match has done us both a lot of goodk

Being a core piscean myself I understand why finestboi is the OP....we are psychic amongst other traits we possess.

what baffles me about piscean guy is inspite of their gentility and delicate outward look they tend to accomplish extraordinary feats thanks to unmatched imagination: Michealangelo and Einstein are pisceans......

we have a perpetual inner battle going in within us that's why our sign is represented by two fish in opposite signs

We don't like cunny peeps so a gemini won't walk with us; we charm Leos and admired by Virgos. We will wait for cold Capricorns to come around.....we can be flirtatious yet one night stand things is not our thing, when we let the negative rule mehn is very badt: Rihanna comes to mind,

We let our guts to lead us, 9-5 jobs not our thing cos we have an urge to express ourselves and leave a stamp on the sands of time.

As a beginner I think u should go for a kerosene gas stove.....a 4 litre would last u for 4-6weeks plus u have the options of buying as little as a 359l coke bottle if ur not bouyant.

But if u have bulk cash to a lot for cooking fuels Gas remains a better alternative!

Ever since I found out that she's been cheating on me I have never been myself.....

initial I was doubtful, but last night, yes last night, I had my fears confirmed...she was taking more than she was giving!

Oh what indescribable pains, considering my unalloyed devotion and loyalty to our pretty long standing relationship she was just milking me dry and taking me for granted.

All through the night I have mused on how to get back at her, I would have consulted my attorney to send her divorce papers but we were never really married.... So I thought I should stick and recoup all I have put into this our affair over the years in kind;

My mind is telling me to use her and dump her like a bad habit, it sounded vindictive enough at first, but then again my feelings for her is all gone, my affections that ran deep have evaporated like the nations funds are won't to in the National treasury....now all I feel is hate and disgust, the sight her irritates me like I have exhaled a foul odour.....

So today, yes today I moved on, without telling her yellow cheating ass that I wanted out, for I have found a another all green and fresh......

Today I moved all my belongings from her domain, yes I moved my phone contacts and sms from MTN to Etisalat, though I am leaving behind a 15 day BIS subscription, its nothing as long as I have my precious phone number. LOL!!!

Happy that Suarez is back!!!
Liverpool and Proud!!!

Plus i dont belive the voting thing works, i voted for Roland to save him from probation, it was more like sowing a seed in someone's life......never believed it counted. that was how MTN gave it to Ayo rather than Marvellous, cos in their thoughts Ayo was more marketable but what happened afetr a year!!!!

jaytime: the week the Faculty saved Omolayo, what did he enter? It's not by going on probation or not. It's by vote(s). If you don't vote ur favourite, don't expect any magic to happen.

Wunmi10: U re wrong. Omolayo was on probation with Simon, jimoh, Rowland and immaculate. Omolayo was saved by faculty while immaculate by judges and Rowland was saved by contestants.

Ok i recall, he slipped in once and the faculty not wanting to risk him being at the mercy of the housemates saved him sharp-sharp.
The faculty and judges were full of praises for him whenever he performed but i guess MTN wanted a "wizkiddy-davidoly" in an R n B cast this time around but they took it to far.......he is better than 5th.

Well Omolayao should take what they gave him an d mine out th artistry i him.......as Lord of Ajasa would say "awon ton pass kan lor mo'we"

Omolayo never entered probation yet he did not make the top four!!!

the powers that have ripped these thread from FP

my first time to comment that i'm second to comment

Mehn have ported to Stanbic after trying fpr 12 weeks to activate their internet banking service......i gave up!
Then their is the long qeues and bland customer service

dasparrow: Yes, being married has a lot of perks if you are an African man living in a patriarch driven African society but there are hardly any perks for the African woman living in Africa who unbeknownst to her just became a glorified housemaid and baby breeding machine the day she said 'I do.' Let's be sincere!

when has taking care of your house become enslavement or were you born with a womb and bosoms for decoration?
can we not look at marraige like a cage.....marraige that has love in it is a very beautiful thang!

[quote author=~Killz~][color=#000030]Yes! By all means, ask him. Who knows, you could be the right person for him. . .
Tell him your mind and leave him to make a choice. . . If he leaves her for you, that's his choice. It is not snatching. The word "Snatching" in relationships does NOT exist![/color] [/quote]Oga is that how u got ya gf

[quote author=~Killz~][color=#000030]Yes! By all means, ask him. Who knows, you could be the right person for him. . .
Tell him your mind and leave him to make a choice. . . If he leaves her for you, that's his choice. It is not snatching. The word "Snatching" in relationships does NOT exist![/color] [/quote]Is that how you got ur gf?

very good pointers.....nlers dont like truth

Well I don't have anything against anybody.....imagine people who say they have being indulging in casual,premarital sex now forming holier-than-thou.....its a case of the evil man who runs even when no one is chasing them!

The question of the OP is derogatory to the members of the so-called white garment churches and I don't like any sort segregation as it is a sure sign of low consciousness. A truly conscious individual would see a human being before seeing whether they are garbed in white or black on sundays.

The question that the OP should be asking is what is the most dearest thing you want in a life partner? That thing is LOVE. Everybody understands the language of love, the tragic thing is that love is now a label for so many things these days that people now relegate love perhaps a insignificant condiment in the institution of marriage!!!

Do you shrink at the idea of offering sincerely and insisting to the paying helf the bill at every date you go be it the movies,dinner whatever!
I am yet to meet a Man who will not so value you like crazy!

Its not like a strategy, though it would pass as one in a clime such as our were such thoughts don't even cross 8 out of 10 girls mind.

Its about establishing your self-worth and respect before that man whom you fancy and has expressed interest in you.

Dare to be difrent; not doing free dates may just be the most life-changing decision you'd ever make!

Babe abeg ur so wasting ur time with him.....wake up and break away if u can u will be stronger person tomorrow.......do ALL you can to snap out of this emotion you feel whatevr happened to your self prider sis....please move on up and you will find better things