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bellong:
Your posts are not coherent...

She has been hit on the head too many times

That's just it. I want you to know that nothing happened between me and her. How many times do you want me to post it? She stumbled upon my moniker when I gave out too much info cant you see am not d one that email her first? Ok ok she's ur sista will I be so foolish as to cheat on u with ha knowing she will report to u. Come now u are falling my rep. The only reason I bought her the crv is cos u said it would make her happi, if not I was going to change yours after that night we took stout and peppersoup at morrisons.
Don't judge me abeg am innocent?

Oopswrongthread

Why does this sound so familiar?

Ewuro4:
Yimu

Honestly port yourselves to romanceland.. I'm too old for this

Pls eh, what does 'Yimu' mean?

But by para venture, onwe ka mmiri si ba na opi ugboguru, na to lie flat on the ground beg madam o

,

As in eh, no be small prostration!

Op true true yawa don gas! Make oga drive jejerly enter house knee down for ground beg madam. Make e lock front door so madam no go fit comot.

Chai! See gobe!

Na wa o. op stated his preference. why r u all beefing him? una dey jealous? And its not true dat if u expose a villge girl to urban life that she will become bad. u guys have been watching too much nollywood.

IDEApro:
mammy water

The post just got it hundred likes now...time to hang yourself

Take it easy bro.
She did apologise.

kmcutez:
I went back and reread his story. I think I must have jumped the gun a little bit. The way he constructed his initial statement led to a little bit of confusion, and I see I was not the only one that misunderstood his statement.

"I and wify came back from a church programme 8pm on Tuesday. She asked If I will join her in the indomie noodle she was preparing for dinner and I said No that I desired swallow."

This statement above was a little bit confusing.

Join her in what?? In preparing the dinner of indomie noodle or eating the dinner of indomie noodle. The emphasis on the capitalization of No also caused a little bit of confusion. Was he refusing his wife in preparing the dinner or refusing to eat the dinner of indomie noodle? Also confusing was his emphasis on the time they came back from the church service, leading one to believe that it was an unusual late time for the wife to be preparing dinner, hence leading to the conclusion of her tiredness and the request for help in preparing dinner.

I now see that his capitalization of the No meant he was vehemently opposed to eating the indomie noodle for dinner. His statement was just poorly constructed leading one to form the wrong conclusion. I was operating on little sleep/ no sleep, so I apologize for coming to the wrong conclusion which is, he wife was tired, and asked for help in preparing the dinner, but he said no and demanded for a more elaborate dinner.

Wow.
Are you an English student? Your diction is impeccable. I'm in love already. Be my submissive love slave

Seriously though, don't fret. A lot of misunderstanding goes on in this site. I'm very pleased you didn't answer with an insult. Thanks for being polite.

I think a lot of ladies(young ladies) are scared of marriage. They see marriage as a kind of domineering relationship where the husband is an evil master and they are the obedient and helpless slave. Hence their caustic replies to issues like this. Hence the many battle of the sexes here on Nairaland.
They hear some terrible stories in real life and think that is how every marriage is.

They are wrong.

Marriage is sweet. You as a lady won't mind cooking for your husband no matter how tired you are, especially if you married the right person. And it wouldn't be because he ordered you, but because you don't want him to go hungry. A lot of friendship and understanding is required in marriage. If you marry a man because he is rich or handsome or has a good job or because you want to answer "Mrs somebody", without looking at his character, then you stand the risk of marrying a man who won't care about you and who will most likely treat you like a slave. That is why we tell people to Marr for more tangible things like love and friendship. These are the real factors that will last during marriage. They will make you care for the other person without you feeling forced to do so.


Same goes to the guys on this thread as well. Guys, beauty fades. Fast. If you marry a woman for her beauty and not for her brains by the time she delivers one child for you and fattens up or she starts using bad mouth on you, you will wish you had never considered marriage. Frustration will set in and that's where other vices like beating the woman and cheating on her will enter.

Marry for the right reasons and you wont have time to come on Nairaland to be complaining about your problems. But if you marry for the wrong reasons...well, that won't be your portion in Jesus name.
Amen.

Mynd44:
And what good does that do? This is a marriage not a Primary 2 teacher pupil situation

Cant wait for you to get married.

Icekeeng:
Will you marry me?

Beat me to it

crackhaus:
Thank goodness you said was, you would have been dead by now if you were still with her.

Oh I dunno. Would definitely have built my stamina, lol.

Wonderful cooking skills, prudent with money, kind, funny curteous, none of that feminist ish, the kind of lady a man would want to run home to after a hard day's work.

Her dad was the major stumbling block.

She's a single mom now and still as hot as ever, even looks prettier sef.

Same thing with the second one I dated though no intimacy. Calabar women are really homely folk, not too glaringly pretty facially like our ibo sisters but they more than make up for it with their charm, cooking, cleaning, joviality, intelligence and generally making a man feel wanted.

amtheone:
So in your relationship with other tribes, what is your rating with reference to Calabar girls?

Depends on the parameters.

amtheone:
Lol. Imagine if you had ended up marrying her, what would have become of your life?

Yeah, there's no way a guy would be with that girl and cheat. If it was the sexual thing she was the best ever. Also very homely and caring. But her pops was a JW and insisted she marry one too. I had to bow out.

amtheone:
Do u have personal experience with them?

Yes Sir. One of my intimate girlfriends was calabar. I used to have bouts of asthma after sex with her.

And I'm not asthmatic.

amtheone:
I had a discussion few days ago with a lady. She was of the opinion that guys/ladies from Calabar are very good in bed. She even cited cases of her friends who had similar experience. I told her that it is not true.

My question here is that, is it true that they are exception good in relationship and in bed?

The simple answer is YES. They are EXEMPLARY in bed.

kmcutez:
Did you read the story?? Let me paraphrase it for you.

Wife: Dear, I am tired. I will rather prepare a simple meal of Indomie Noodles. Can you help me with dinner?
Husband: No, just go and prepare my dinner. Oh, and by the way, I want you to prepare me a more elaborate meal of eba and soup instead. I do not care if you are tired.
Wife manages to prepare his meal despite her tiredness and husband gets angry because it is not up to his standard.

Anyway a lot of women called wives in Nigeria are just glorified maids and prostitutes in their homes, so not surprised at the husband's selfishness. Once she becomes old and tired from the husband's selfishness, the husband will exchange her for a fresher and younger version.

Imagine, she is not even financially independent, and she has such a selfish husband. I pity her.

This is what you underdtood from that story? You have serious issues.

And for all the e-warriors, today is the day to SHEATH YOUR SWORDS

This is wishing familynairalanders a day filled with love, hugs , kisses, and all those things that make life special! Have a great time today!

Flytefalls:
I liiiike you too
I read it because I knew it'd be something ridiculous, and I have an hour to kill.
Which first paragraph?

Being classy is not about being stuck up. You need to cultivate respect. And that means respect for everyone, including yourself. Take care to be polite to others and to reflect a genuine interest in them. Be confident in yourself, [size=16pt]dress how you want [/size]and act accordingly

Awwww c'mon it wasn't all ridiculous! Most of the points were actually very good!.

•It's okay to experiment and have several sexual partners. But if you brag about it or treat it like a contest, you will run into trouble.

And remember, a cheat isn't really a cheat until caught

Flytefalls:
#11

I liiiiiike you
You actually took time to read it
You didn't see the first paragraph

arimahoseloka:
timetable for sex? and I thought I've heard it all..

You obviously haven't.

teemy:
I beg to disagree.
Sexual union on a regular basis is the bible's rate of action. In yoruba - loore koore (regularly). As we feed our hunger appetite s should our sexual appetited be fed. God made both so.

1Co 7:5 Do not deny yourselves to each other, unless you first agree to do so for a while in order to spend your time in prayer; but then resume normal marital relations. In this way you will be kept from giving in to Satan's temptation because of your lack of self-control.

1Co 7:1 Now, concerning the things that you wrote about: It's good for men not to get married.
1Co 7:2 But in order to avoid sexual sins, each man should have his own wife, and each woman should have her own husband.
1Co 7:9 However, if you cannot control your desires, you should get married. It is better for you to marry than to burn with sexual desire.

The man has accepted his own weakness and put himself under the umbrella God has given him to express himself in a sinless union. The wife is the one that needs more encouragement.

Good point sir.
See as you and ya wife resemble

pentag0nal:
I suggested this to him that three times a week will be fine but when he talked with his wife, she said the maximum she can do is one in two weeks ie. twice in a month.

dafuq?!
That woman is going to be a stumbling block to her husband. I have spoken.

Lol!

The truth of the matter is,
A woman's libido can never be the same as the average man! Men's sex urge are way higher than most of the ladies around here. To find a woman with equal or higher libido are hard to find.

Marriage entails sacrifice! The man should not expect the woman to have sex with jim everyday. He should discuss with her so they can have a kind of timetable- yes am serious! They can discuss to have it 3times a week. The man should learn self control too as part of his sacrifice in being in the marriage and also help the woman in a few of the house chores. Then she'll be more likely to give it up more often!

obowunmi:
Mental illness is not just an illness.

It's hereditary in some cases.

I once dated someone who had a family history of bipolar and schizophrenia.
The way I left ehn, my leg didn't touch the floor. I ran. If you want your kids and family line to be exposed to the possibility of having a disease then go for it.

Hypertension and diabetes are also hereditary. Nothing special about it.
The issue here is that he has married the woman already. And he needs to know the steps to take to help her.

Gloriagee:
It is my role to be his help meet not to take care of him. Listening to some guys talk bout getting married sounds like their would be wife's job description involves being a cook, washer woman n still sexual partner...in other words, taking care of 'him'.

I'm just imagining two tired people coming back from church, where kindness n empathy are being taught. One switches on super sports n is lounging waiting for his carer to serve him dinner, while the other starts cooking indomie n in between switches to eba.

What stops him from helping out? Nothing major? I'm assuming the woman has to work, wake up early to beat Lagos traffic n still contribute to the household purse.

Ok I see.

So you are saying the woman should be the one watching telemundo while the man does the cooking?

Just kidding.

In a marriage, everybody has their roles. Nobody expects you to fix the car if it has a problem, for instance. Manly duties are left for the males and wifely duties for the females.

Your imagination is what I think a lot of girls on this forum fear. That they'll become slaves in their marriage, wearing rags and sweating in the kitchen trying to cook for the family while the fat, hairy and lazy husband sits in the parlour with his feet up drinking beer and watching sports. This is a wrong projection of marriage and I'm sure you wont deliberately marry a man who would do such to you. I want to believe when two people get married they do it because the love each other, not because they are looking for slaves or because they want to answer Mrs. due to societal pressures.

Nothing stops the man cooking for you but it is not the norm. And if you care for him and not see him as a slavemaster but as someone you love then you wont mind cooking for him.

Gloriagee:
Def not his role to marry me, if he's expecting a house maid. I'd rather pass. Not everyone is desperate, u know.

Nobody is talking about housemaid. Its his role to marry you and he will, no need to argue. Its your role to take care of him and that includes cooking for him. If you can't do it pls don't marry. Like you said, not everyone is desperate.

Gloriagee:
@ ideapro- I'm lost...why is it the woman's role to automatically fix dinner?

Why is it the man's role to automatically marry you?

Tammmy:
How can't you not know how to cook simple egwusi soup at age 17 claiming you dont like garri ,ok what can you cook , different kinds of indomie.

I guess this is your vexation and the origin of this thread.
Bro, teach her now. You won't believe I've had to teach two of my exes to cook now. As long as she has a teachable spirit then overlook the issue biko. Women have a natural instinct for cooking. With a little guidance from you she'll even start cooking better than you sef! Talking from experience!

Hands op a safety helmet.

You're gonna need it

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http://www.wikihow.com/Be-Classy