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Kdsml:
Merry xmas every1. Hope you all are having a great night. I nid advice pls

I am married with a kid, my husband traveled out of the country for a greener pasture, I moved out of our rented house and relocated back to my mom's place.

We had sold our properties for 300k he told me he doesn't know how long it will take him to get a job in the new country and I should use the 300k to start up a business so i will be able to take care of our daughter until he will be stable in the new country.

I have decided to start selling foodstuffs in the front of the house and i will use the remaining money for my daughter school fees in January.

My mom asked me to borrow her 120k to pay for my brother school fee and i refused explaining to her why i can't give her the money and she has been giving attitudes and refused to speak to me, i went to the market today i bought xmas clothes for my daughter and a wrapper for my mom she rejected it.

I know she is doing all this for me to give her the money but i will not give it to her no matter what. I don't understand why she is angry when she knows that my husband is not around i should use the money wisely because if i am broke i have no one else to help me.

Am i wrong for refusing to help her?

Are you the only one she gave birth to??

Kdsml:
Merry xmas every1. Hope you all are having a great night. I nid advice pls

I am married with a kid, my husband traveled out of the country for a greener pasture, I moved out of our rented house and relocated back to my mom's place.

We had sold our properties for 300k he told me he doesn't know how long it will take him to get a job in the new country and I should use the 300k to start up a business so i will be able to take care of our daughter until he will be stable in the new country.

I have decided to start selling foodstuffs in the front of the house and i will use the remaining money for my daughter school fees in January.

My mom asked me to borrow her 120k to pay for my brother school fee and i refused explaining to her why i can't give her the money and she has been giving attitudes and refused to speak to me, i went to the market today i bought xmas clothes for my daughter and a wrapper for my mom she rejected it.

I know she is doing all this for me to give her the money but i will not give it to her no matter what. I don't understand why she is angry when she knows that my husband is not around i should use the money wisely because if i am broke i have no one else to help me.

Am i wrong for refusing to help her?

Are you the only one she gave birth to??

Omicronvaccine:
If My Wife Does Everything I Tell Her To Do, Then She's My Child, Not My Wife - Nigerian Man

A Nigerian Relationship and Marriage counsellor, AJ Morgan has taken to Twitter to kick against the ideology that a woman must do everything her husband tells her to do, IGBERETV reports.

He stated that if his wife does everything he tells her to do, then she is his child and not his wife.



https://twitter.com/ajeromorgan/status/1605083043462619137?t=UqpgtMUcW6oeSvTVnPkXNw&s=19

While some of his followers agreed with him, others insisted that man remains the head of the house and should direct affairs of the home.

Below are reactions from his followers.

https://igberetvnews.com/1434539/wife-everyt8hing-tell-shes-child-wife-nigerian-man/

I'm a man and I agree with him 100%.

We need to understand that as a humans we're not perfect, except God only. The bible called the woman a help meet, not just in some areas, but every part of life including the family. God made man the head of the family, but we need to also understand that men do mistakes too, and the wife is there to help by giving the husband a good advice, or by stopping him from taking any bad decision that will affect the family.

Is only a foolish woman that'll see his husband taking a bad decision and she will keep quiet. If a husband decided to sell his properties just to play bet, will you ( those criticising the man) as the wife allow him to do that?? The answer is no. So a woman must not agree to everything the husband says, that's if it's on the right side. And a wise woman will use wisdom to table the Matter to her husband. Not by doing it the rude way.

Guest2008:
Just one month left my people. Were you able to accomplish what you aimed for at the beginning of the year?

As for me, I'm still hopeful on the God of the eleventh hour

No I didn't, but I know am getting close.

ipobarecriminals:
see better wife and good looking children oo . This apere (basket ) mouth Fuk up real big time

Do you know who caused the divorce, this one you're blaming the guy??

faceland:
Your son would have been an unemployed joker in Africa.
Thank God for the opportunity in France.

Exactly.

ojun50:
Why is he speaking now

He has said before, he did after they won the world cup in 2018.


Maybe you're just hearing it now.

Nazgul:
Lies...major causes of high rate of singles in Nigeria include the following.

1. Unemployment : Unemployment and the fear of not getting a well-paying job tops the list of reasons men run away from marital commitment.

They prefer waiting until they are financially stable to take up the roles of a husband which comes with added responsibilities.

Closely tied to this is the fact that no woman would want to get married to a jobless man who cannot take care of them and they would never touch such men with a metre long pole.

Being financially stable in Nigeria comes with a lot of responsibilities as parents, siblings and other relations would also expect you to dole out something to them at the end of the month.

2. Expensive wedding : In most Nigerian cities, getting married is so expensive that by the time one is done, he would have spent millions of Naira.

Starting from the introduction to the traditional marriage and the white wedding, some places put off their men who are ready to get married and as such, the men end up either getting married to people from other places or not getting married at all.

3. High rate of divorce : Men are often intimidated at the rate of divorce that they witness in the society where most marriages do not last beyond five years.

When they see this and get to hear testimonies from other married men who are having a torrid time in their marriages, they tend to think they could face the same if they get married.

4. No wife material The common notion among most men is the reservation that there is scarcity of ‘wife-materials’ in Nigeria. In this case, they are not referring to ladies not being in quantifiable distribution among men, what they are complaining about is that most ladies of this generation lack the necessary attributes that will qualify them for the lifetime commitment called marriage.

This is because fornication in Nigeria today is like food. You can sit at the comfort of your home and order for a girl online, for all kinds of sexual fantasy. This act scares most guys including ones who patronize these girls.

Cos they'll keep asking that question...who go marry this one?

You've said it all, but you forgot to add one, lack of contentment. They always want to test every sweet thing from every man.

Xscape1993:
This founder of agberos in Nigeria n6eeds urgent brain medical attention.

See kettle dey call pot black.


Demented old man.

maxwell530:
there's nothing Messi won which Ronaldo didn't win before him( I guess there wasn't favouritism then abi), it's safe to say Ronaldo won everything before Messi,he even played in world cup semis before him,Lionel Messi only beat him in his game and did it better than him. The favouritism you are screaming is only in your Head and nothing more. Since you claimed Messi was favoured, he has won a record 6 European Golden shoes, 8 la Liga Golden boots, creates most chances and provide most assists in the history of football, these are individual feats that can never be manipulated by anyone nor any votes.
Cristiano Ronaldo is lucky to be compared with player like Lionel Messi and that's where it ends. Have you ever seen anyone compare Gerd Muller with Maradona and Pele? Cristiano Ronaldo is just another Gerd Muller, he should be grateful he's been compared with Messi just because he play in the same Era with him.

From that fifa ballon d'or he won in 2010 And 2021, you'll know the guy is been favoured, he doesn't deserve it. Except you dont want to say the truth.

messi is very good , but he's been favoured.

MandelaLives:
For the first time, I seem to agree with the Hisbah tyranny in the North. But, so people do GAY wedding in Nigeria? Even in the North? Looks like there's more about gay than I understand.

Na north them plenty sef.

LesbianBoy:
First I want to say congratulations to Argentina but....

Why was Messi given the best player of the tournament instead of Mbappe? Even if it was given to Messi I think it should have been shared with Mbappe! That is 2 best players of the tournament!

Someone said because Messi won the world cup.

Let me remind you all that in 2014 Germany won the world cup yet Messi who didn't win the cup still was given best player of the tournament that year.

This is the reason many people still prefer CR7 because he is not pampered like this. And all his achievements were done with so much hate from even people around.

We don't like talking, because if we talk they'll think we're jealous. In the spirit of fairness, I've been saying it that, messi gets alot of favouritism from top fifa officials than Ronaldo. Starting from the ballon d'or he has won down to the best player of the world cup tournament. The system has not been fair to Cristiano Ronaldo, everything they do for messi is because of Cristiano Ronaldo.

I respect messi because he's of a great football talent, same as Cristiano Ronaldo. I respect them both. But those within fifa governing body should try as much as possible to be fair in their dealings in other to strike balance within the heart of football lovers.

The former fifa president once said outrightly that he love messi more than Ronaldo, that the later one spend more time in a saloon . Just imagine that kind of statement.

Bias fans of messi will never agree to this. But the truth remains the truth.

Demogorgon:
INEC doing the lord's work.

Hahahahahahahaha ����

mariahAngel:
Food is a major unifier.
Nothing brings people together better than food.
The aim of this thread is to encourage unity in our diversity, especially on this forum where there's tribalism and hate.

So, without further ado, what Nigerian food from another tribe do you enjoy very much?
You don't have to state your tribe, but the food must be from a different tribe (apart from yours)

For me, I really like ojojo, dodo ikire, kilishi. ( These are the ones I can think of for now)

Oha soup, ofe nsala, abacha and onugbu soup.


I love this igbo native food .

donpapa:
They should go and face their lives too so that there kids won’t say the same about them

Exactly.

ExAngel007:
A popular Facebook 'marriage counsellor', prophetess Jane Chukwu has revealed that older generation mothers started hookup which is the liberal name for 'online' prostitution which many young ladies have now seen as fashionable.

According to Chukwu, older generation mothers saw s3x as a transaction.


She shared her thoughts on Facebook.


https://www.facebook.com/100003235703476/posts/pfbid02rZNMjcL6fZEcTDL2bDLsZyY8hvkRuQTkaR8L8vRh4qDakPHpVEutoDasJtNCDikil/?app=fbl

I think she's referring to her mother.


Stupid woman.

lhordspy:
I dont support war or destruction in any form. But you see Ukraine. Dem go collect !

Roger crawford once said:
"Being Challenged In Life Is Inevitable, Being Defeated Is Optional"

But Zelensky misused ukranian little chance. They could have avoided defeat and this heavy destruction that is following it.
Russia made it optional for them. But they were fooled by the west, incojunction with their western media propaganda. They pushed them into war and made them continue it even when they Nato, the EU and the US, themselves are bunch of cowards that cant even risk putting their foot on the ground by joining it.


Now the time for settlement and peace has passed. Peace is forbidden in this war now. When Russia is done with them. They will beg for mercy, an off-the-table mercy. Unfortunately, there wont be none left.

Exactly bro.


When you have a comedian as a president, things like this are bound to happen.

another1:
https://thenationonlineng.net/bishop-fearon-blasts-oyedepo-over-mad-comment-on-apc-voters/

100% correct. Ride on daddy.

Jokanem:
https://www.jw.org/en/bible-teachings/questions/money-root-of-evil/

Love of money the bible is talking about means, the excessive love for money, in otherwords, lust for money.
That's the kind of love that can propel someone to do evil thing for money regardless of the consequences.

blamingthedevil:
no be say you no get sense. How could you imagine beating this kind of a team? How? You dey craze!!!

https://twitter.com/donteju/status/1603023101297582083

They're nothing but bunch of failures.

Rubbiish:
How old is he?

31 years.

Carcholce:
Have you ever cut of a very close friend completely? If yes, give your reasons why you did.

I didn't cut mine off, I gave him distance, and he noticed it , since then we've been relating once in a while or when we see on the road.

The guy has no direction in life , always talking about women and bet9ja. He doesn't have his own personal house, he stays with his parents at his age, but he sleeps with women in different houses owned by his friends, but he doesn't come to my own.

KosiGee:
Which signs?? Why are you all against the woman? This man knows the answer to his problem but he doesn’t want to act. The woman in my opinion is ok. She just need this man to be a man and do his job.

Btw...both of them wan k.

That's not the issue bro, the woman is a strong addict.

Do you know what it means for your wife to be masturbating in your presence, and after that deny you sex??
And you're saying the man should act, which act are you talking about again, what do you want him to do??

fakum:
Sorry my people this might be a bit long.

Yeah, be careful, just like every other addiction. Anything your partner do while dating will most likely continue in marriage, be warned.
I had sex an explosive sex life with my wife when we were dating and few years after marriage. We makeout everywhere with any little opportunity. Now we are almost 5 years in marriage and things have changed, though it has been coming gradually.

The last time we had sex was like 3 weeks ago, make I suck, NO, make I use hand, NO, and na she give me signal to come do ooo, I vex run my thing, cum and told her sex with her is now more of work. she got angry, I no send. Later in the morning, she brought the matter and I told her yes, she is making sex look like work, that she probably don’t enjoy sex with me anymore. She started saying its pressure, stress,….but I know it’s all lie, I had my suspicion (she doesn’t cook nor wash, virtually does nothing at home now aside her work which closes early and baby who we all look after).
3 days ago, I had a dream abut her, I prayed about it, she asked me about it and I refused t tell. Guys, throughout yesterday, conji wan kill me ooo, I just busy myself with phone. Later in the night, I came in and saw her sleeping, I surf net small , come sleep. I had another dream about her, woke up and time check, past 1 am. I saw her pressing her phone, probably doing her facebook as usual, that her fav app. Na so my suspicion start to play ooo, she started masturbating right there again, I vex but keep calm (this is not the first time ooo, normal level).

Now, this is why I’m angry, I LUV ORAL too much, its my favourite part of love making, for sometimes now, anytime I start my movement going downward on her, she will stop me, make I use hand na, NO, but see Aunty put her hand for THERE now. I’m not surprise, why? Because she confessed to me when dating that she is addicted to masturbation but working on it, that she will stop. Out of love I didn’t judge her, no one is a saint, I also saw it as maybe we can work things from there, bringing it in to our love making to spice things up in our sex life but now, I see my wife prefer masturbation to my oral and sex in its entirety. Guys forget, I’m not hyping myself but I dey try for oral. I can be there, 30min, 1 hr doing my thing (magic), and the result Is always awesome, as I gain more satisfaction in seeing my partner having orgasm than anything else.

Prior to now, because of excuses and stuffs, I have stopped asking for sex but anytime she gives signal, I go deliver. Now, I have made up my mind kind of, make she continue her masturbation, anytime conji hook me, I will find someone to give me mouth action till I’m relieved and movee. Worst case, 3k or 5k. You cant be starving me giving excuses while doing your thing. After all, this is one of the sins of marriage we were told during our class and she know.
I’m not a fan of f*cking outside, I neva enter another woman since we got married though I had enough changes and the pressure and I still don’t want to, not because of her though because she probably doesn’t deserve it but I’m going to get my BJ and have myself relieved issa decision I don’t think I will stop unless God says otherwise.

I will continue to be the loving husband she know, I wont change, I will even get better just as she continue to be the loving wife that she is, but we all have urge to be quenched.
So guys, don’t overlook anything you cant overlook in marriage, e get why! Once most people get what they want, they tend to change or show their real self and marriage isn’t an exception. Some just want the name “married” and have kids (like my wife, after all, she don marry, don get pikin) and once they achieve this, anything can follow though it ought not to be so. Its all my fault sha, I overlook everything ( probably because I know non is perfect and I saw some good traits in her) I wanted companionship as my main reason for marriage but hers were different(though see like attention die), I should have known better. Please marry who have same marriage goals as you.

Finally, this is not to discourage anyone from marriage , marriage is a beautiful thing and I’m happy I’m married and I love my baby (make una no think am oooo). Just pray and marry a good wife like me (even better).

#Peace!

Confused couple .



He saw all the signs but he still went ahead to marry her.

Enemyofpeace:
There was this hot argument we had in class today while waiting for our lecturer.

It was on the ownership of the breasts, some (including ladies) argued that the breasts belong to the father, some argued that the breasts belong to the mother, while some including our old school lecturer who later met us on the argument were of the opinion that the breasts belong to the baby.

We were not able to arrive at a conclusion, so I decided to bring the issue before you my elders and ancestors on nairaland. Who owns the breasts? Is it the father, the mother or the baby?

The baby first then the father second. The mothers job is to maintain the juice.

ibkayee:
This is probably thread number infinity of this topic but ah well

- Peanuts

- Tomatoes on their own (I can stomach it when it’s wedged in a sandwich or something, cut up into very tiny slices)

- ANY type of fresh fish that hasn’t been grilled (not to be confused with crustaceans, I’m talking tilapia, croaker etc…yuck)

- Ewa agoyin

- Garri with milk (you people who eat this need to be sectioned)

- Nigerian fufu (I still have anxiety from when I first tasted it)

- Sardines (too many small bones, maybe because I’m lazy and want my chewing to be straightforward. Why do I need a GPS to navigate my way around the fish. I don’t care if the bones are ‘soft’)

Chai, me I hardly select food o.

mariahAngel:
One of the good things about Nigeria is our delicious street foods.
You're hardly fully Nigerian if you don't have at least one favourite Nigerian street food.
So, if you're a full blooded Nigerian, tell us your favourite Nigerian street food.

Pictures source: Instagram
( Your favourite does not necessarily have to be one of the foods in the pictures)

Roasted plantain and beans.



The combination mad gon.

ULiTv:
Is it worth it buying land in Abuja right now or I should wait till after election.

I am facilitating on buying a plot land from the owner here in abuja, but a friend is advicing I should halt till after election...

Your kindly advice is needed please

You better by it now, some are selling their property because of December expenses and election fear, the prize of the house might go up after the election. So use the opportunity to grab that one now o.

In kano, some people are selling their properties because of thesame reason, and the wise ones buying it because it's cheap to them.


So you better use your head o, there's nothing to be afraid of in Abuja.

ULiTv:
Is it worth it buying land in Abuja right now or I should wait till after election.

I am facilitating on buying a plot land from the owner here in abuja, but a friend is advicing I should halt till after election...

Your kindly advice is needed please

You better by it now, some are selling their property because of December expenses and election fear, the prize of the house might go up after the election. So use the opportunity to grab that one now o.

In kano, some people are selling their properties because of thesame reason, and the wise ones buying it because it's cheap to them.


So you better use your head o, there's nothing to be afraid of in Abuja.

LEXYNIL:
Morocco are very fast and aggressive in attacking line because they have so much ability in times counter attack which they can push France with that. And they are very rough and I dont see them winning the game because the Atlas lion of Morocco are well clinical with their front line.

Sit down there dey deceive yourself until mbappe score hattrick.

Asgard73:
Ah haaa..

Wike has find his voice again

This time in church.. is he telling them to be wary of the Obi scammer or telling him straight he can’t deliver or …


Dedication of PDP.. kini.. this man is just a time waster

Ayu remains his chairman and a million fools like him can’t help his situation

Wike is a loud mouth fool..

Who takes him serious .. a flippant fool.

He will bow ..to Ayu in shame ..


Power to the people
North 2023

Wait until after the election before you can start calling him names, that's if your Atiku wins the election, but if he doesn't win ,make I no talk sha.


Till February 2023.

Zonefree:
She's not just into you.


When a girl loves you, your feelings and emotions are her utmost concern.

The earlier you discard and do away with that demon, the better for your sanity.




All the same, accept my condolences on the death of your father. God rest his soul.

This man up here has said it all, I can't talk further.



Do the needful sharply.