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She decided to address a subset but trust bigots to blow it out of proportion.

It’s fine if he’s a fitness coach or if they are both bodybuilders. Otherwise it is weird

delkuf:
Guy I don't ask her for money. But there are I got broke, and I want to go do something that will bring money, just maybe transport fare to that place and may money to do something that will bring bigger money, she will bluntly refuse

I have edited my previous comment.

I will tell you one truth. It is better to borrow/collect from your friend (your guy) than from your wife even if it’s for small expenses.

Also, don’t accept that nonsense timetable for sex. Women can be illogical all day but when it comes to enjoyment of sex they’d rather get “rational” and set up impractical timetables. They will deny themselves the pleasure in the bid to deny you. Don’t accept that nonsense.

Sex should not be used as a weapon for manipulation.

You cannot tell me that you didn’t notice this rigid behaviour during courtship.

Better discuss with her to find a solution.

Also, hustle to get enough money. You’re a man. Even their so called Feminism will not make a naija woman spend her own money on a man. Better take care of yourself.

As for the sex, you must let her know in clear terms that she cannot use sex (Withholding it vindictively) as a weapon to punish you. Any woman who does that deserves to be cheated on.

I just checked your old thread and I want to tell you I am proud that you finally did the right thing.

It’s not always easy to let go of a relationship with a manipulator. You’d always consider how much of your time and resources you’d committed to make things work. You’d remember all the plans you made for the future. But it is good cut ties with a lying cheat.

Congratulations.

May we not have weak & senseless sons like the OP.

You think she will think twice before leaving you for other toasters because of what you do for her? Break up is not on the table? You scolded your mother for her? You didn’t even scold your girlfriend for disrespecting your mother in your presence?

I hope you marry this girl so you can learn the hard way.

Diobu na gangster paradise. Confam mad people dey there.

icenti:
I do that in the best way I can

Then you’re good to go.

We go legal. She will replace everything.

But na wa o. Should we be laying down the law before dating these girls?

You are listing after her good looks. Fine girls are dangerous. Tread with caution.

Firstly, she’s not illiterate bro.

Secondly, what makes you think her parents won’t pay her school fees? You said they still provide for her.

Help her get ready for admission. You should not pay her fees. Just give her lots of motivation.

Sorry, you should let go. You have seen the signs. This will only bring more heartbreak.

Lock up.

Na nack you nack. You no kee person. It’s better than nacking one idîot girl that can later say you raped her after you blow.

Nice observation.

Such women think they can always cash out on their beauty or even the simple fact of their gender. And this mentality persists because a number of men are idîots. They humour these lazy brokeass ladies by footing their bills saying “it’s nothing. I can afford it.” However this actually betrays the underlying insecurity in such men. They know they stand no chance with women of substance so they proceed to purchase the affection of mentally indigent slay queens.

If you are patient enough to seek out a woman who is content with her earnings and projections as well as confident in her ability to make wealth by hard work and strategy, you would never settle for these bimbos who offer nothing but thirst traps to survive.

bodybuilder:
You don't recognise the sarcasm?

You don’t recognise mine?

Well, what do we have here?

Guys, this is justification to marry a new wife. Don’t let one woman use sex to control you.

Put a warning

“Graphic Picture”

Any rich man who settles for a beautiful woman who cannot fend for herself is only buying another toy to enjoy.

Carry this senseless gist to your WhatsApp teenagers group.

DNSPro:
I do not attach anything to it. I didn't do it because we were "dating". I did it for a mother. I am an orphan and if there is anything I can't withstand, since I lost mine, is to see a mother in pain and not be able to help.

If i see you insulting your own mother in my presence, dude, I will fight you to the ground.

It had nothing to do with her but for the sake of "a mother"

Lame excuse. Nigerian girls will use real life facts to manipulate you. They will appeal to your mercy and ego.

You knew you were blocked right from the beginning but you were in denial.

Guys, I hope you can see that throwing money at a problem, orchestrated and sustained by your babe, won’t solve it. A normal human being would have a change of heart after receiving money from her boyfriend and may even unblock him but brokeass naija babes are not like that. They won’t even have the decency to reject the gift or unblock him.

She probably thought you’d send more money until you were tired.

Having a Plan B is good but it has to be a girl who can fend for herself without the financial input of a man. If you keep rolling with brokeass babes you will get similar results.

Men should learn to recognise manipulation. Naija babes won’t pity you once they decide to mess with your emotions. That’s why they should never be accepted back once you catch them cheating. Forgive if you want but don’t accept a woman back. Let the relationship end cos once you’ve been zoned, there is no good thing you can do to change their mind. You will only appear weak in their eyes.

SweetCunt97:
How? Do you know if she's engaged or simply not interested? Some people you really need to be harsh with them for the message to hit their skull.

It applies, regardless.

A man should not cheapen himself in the name of love. Such gestures will always be taken for granted.

As much as this seems staged, it tells a common story. Guys who value the wrong women will always be treated like this. Stop running after women who think they have some status just because of their beauty.


Never insist on showing/telling a girl you love her after she says she’s not interested except you want to hit and run. If you insist, she will go savage on you, 100% of the time.

Respect yourself when she tells you an emphatic “No”. Don’t make a fool of yourself for a potential girlfriend. She is not worth the embarrassment.

The way you’re going on about this, you will give this girl the tools to manipulate you.

Get a grip. You can’t be panicking like a teenager because of a babe you just met. Chill.

If she wants a pause, give her a long pause. Don’t initiate the reunion. If she comes back, fine. If she doesn’t return, that’s fine also.

In the meantime, you should start moving on in your mind.

robosky02:
Then na where �

Good question

Learn to say no.

Debating the extermination of rodents and other pests/insects at your age tells me you need to see a therapist.

Nairaland guys are making me proud.

Well done boys!

Now, let us partake of this alcoholic offering.

Blessings!

kokakola:
Another list of Padi Padi.
I don't know why it's so difficult to appoint people in Nigeria based on Merit. They keep appointing people who have no clues.

This one cannot read simple English.

Read it again. Slowly.

You’re 23.

You’re young. Ask her out. Don’t be afraid of the future.

Fayose 2.0