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frog12:
how many days husband get currently when their wives give birth?

None

The most some companies do is they give you the day off on the day of delivery and when it’s time for naming ceremony

frog12:
how much is it currently

Clarify

aanuoluwami14:
Your fiance Why are you afraid of pregnancy? The way you shifted her legs without asking us, ask that spirit what you will do.

So he must collect the pregnancy like that? Something that definitely doesn’t belong to him? Stop drinking local alcohol.

She’s lying.

Don’t let anyone dash you a child that is not yours.

*Residents hail unknown gunmen as they storm Onitsha.

Long overdue. We deserve even more than the women since most of the money the mothers spend comes from our pockets.

Perhaps a paternal relief fund can be added too. Men deserve it. Thanks.

eniolaamos7:
I support your argument

Thank you boss.

It is worrisome how people cannot see that such behaviour may be disgusting or offensive to others.

LilMissFavvy:
Bad idea, unless you don't mind being dumped on the first date.

Lol. From the way I talk you’d know I don’t mind ending things on the first date.

You cannot possibly understand this cos no husband can deceive you into raising a child that is not yours. Even if your baby is switched at birth, your husband is also at loss.

There is no close comparison for that kind of fraud.

Perhaps I can compare it to buying government owned land from a fake agent and building on it with your hard earned money and giving it your time and sweat only to find out the real owner when they charge you to court for trespassing.

Then you lose access to that land and no compensation is made to you.

Then later you find out that government decided to use your house as a short let apartment instead of demolishing it. They are making profit off your sweat and there’s nothing you can do.

LilMissFavvy:
Hmmm, yes, I guess people may see my opinion as old fashioned. Giving a child a peck on the cheek would have been better, as for kissing on the mouth, i don't just like it.

Honestly I never even considered this a problem until today. I never thought it would happen in my own home, but after seeing the dûmb way some people have justified it on this thread, I am going to raise this as a first date question going forward. I certainly don’t want to end up with a wife who does that to my kids.

You are making a mistake.

What you call “help” towards women is not help.

It is payment.

It could be payment for services rendered or an advance for services to be rendered. Anything a man does for a woman solely because of her gender is essentially a feminine/beauty privilege TAX.

The good thing is some of us men resist such billing. Helping men is like planting a seed. It will germinate and benefit others. Helping women is simply charity most of the time. There is no reward unless it’s advance payment.

LilMissFavvy:
As for me I don't like it. I wouldn't want anyone to kiss my child in the mouth, neither would I kiss my child in the mouth. Deep motherly hugs and caring for my child is enough for me to show affection. For peace to reign you have to wait till your wife gets tired of kissing the child, or you keep telling her you don't like it.

Your comment is a breath of fresh air on that first page.

I can’t believe they were all criticising OP for raising a valid concern! It was disgusting, the way they brushed aside his personal trauma. One unfortunate soul actually told him to go and deal with it. How can they tell sexual abuse victims to go deal with the trauma so dismissively.

Bobontop listen to the lady I quoted. Do not relent in expressing your displeasure and be vigilant. Your wife is acting like the child is hers alone but that boy also belongs to you. You have a say in how she raises your son.

And your concerns are reasonable.

Why does police keep ignoring these killer herdsmen?

The question is why would anyone want to k!ll him? He was not even in the public eye. I never saw a picture of him until today. Was he a politician? Why?

baby124:
Marry who makes you happy. Lots of you had single mum’s as grand mothers and mum’s. Those ones in pOlygamous marriages or with irresponsible husbands were also as good as single mum’s. Lots had to get men who could help carry their baggage, which was you. Seems like OP is not convinced about his own decision.

My grandmothers and my mother were never at any point, single mothers. So I cannot relate.

Beyond that fact, it is interesting that you think I am not convinced.

I am settled in my decision. I didn’t seek validation from my female friend. Our discussion led to it and I told her. She gave me her opinion on the matter. It was the first time anyone told me to my face that it was wrong to avoid dating single mothers.

Some women avoid single fathers and are actually hailed by their friends and family. But a man is demonised for doing the same? Come on.

eedimo:
I will forgive you because of where you are coming?
Your poeple have a history of stupidity

Lol. This is incoherent. You shouldn’t skip your meds bro.

Marry her. People who are proud of their terrible traits should stick together please.

eedimo:
Far from it, I'm a realist.

Lol. Being a realist doesn’t preclude you from being sarcastic na.

eedimo:
We have enough at home, some are even jobless.
Anybody were won japa, make him dey go.

I hope you’re being sarcastic.

Osinbajo definitely didn’t authorise this. Which kind old school graphics be this?

So they will borrow how many billions to build the wall and install CCTV?

I won’t be surprised if they start construction from SW and SE, forgetting to build any wall in the terror-ravaged North where they need it. Cos they won’t want to disrupt the free immigration of more Fulanis into Nigeria.

Yes as long as

1. She can still carry your children
2. You would not insult her with the fact that she’s older.
3. She would not disrespect you on public or private

Anyway, Me I won’t marry an older woman sha.

Maybe I can date them though.

You do not value your wellbeing.

theForth:
Human psychology > yeye love.

I learnt late.

Some people actually find love. But you see Nigerian women ehn? They are conceited. They bring bare minimum to the relationship and expect you to move mountains for them. Yet they remain emotionally lazy.

neonly:
I think u right
Because dis someone dat never apologies if we have issues Na me go beg am make peace reign
Like I said I have calling out love my eyes don open but my children are my major worries

I was waiting for this.

I suspected she was the type who NEVER apologises.

She thinks you need the marriage more than her. Bro. We are different people so you would endure this while I won’t.

Once I notice you don’t apologise, I will walk away. Cos soon she would just make life difficult for me and leave me to carry the entire relationship on my shoulders alone. Everything would be my fault. And when I point out her own fault, she would take offence and try to spin it on me as well.

That is dirty behaviour. The moment I see the signs, I move.

Don’t kill yourself trying to love a woman who makes love look like backbreaking unrewarding hard work.

As for your kids. They will be fine. They can see the toxicity and it is dangerous to raise kids in toxic homes.

Halo22:
Thanks dear

“Thanks dear”

Now I know where your problem is coming from.

He was probably a cultist too

Please forgive me for laughing

I’m glad he is doing this. Little by little, his members are seeing the truth about earthly possessions. Some doctrines are not sustainable because they do not address the root but focus on an appendage.

For someone who used to preach against materialism, this is a complete U-turn.

Bouz:
, But who is bankrolling her na . 100k under max 2hours onto food chai. There is God oh

Some babes get money o. Forget. They earn well. She might be in tech.

Crossroad1:
you get sense

Thank you