₦airaland Forum

In fact, as a Hunter you are forbidden from killing it, it is a very big taboo. Matter of fact, you have to even protect it at that moment and make sure others don't kill it, then you go your way to hunt another day.

My problem with the Jagun Jagun movie was the very bad storyline...and some parts of the SET, for example, why are you showing houses that has IRON roofing sheets in a movie set in the 18th Century?

Why can you not create SPEARs that appear straight?

Why are you Slaughtering a foe with the blunt other side of a sabre that has one Cutting side?

And by the way, the town populace is far too small. The armies too small. The calvary too small.

For example, in history, the rearguard of Alaafin orompotoniyun is said to consist of at least 1000 infantry and 1000 calvary.

The only warrior whosee acting is believable is the second in command gbogunmi

It will be an insult to Your mother wherever she is now, that what you refused to do for her, you want to do for your wife's mother. You are a weak man, and that wife will turn your kids against you later.

ozalogbo:
I am the first child of my mother, and I have two younger male siblings. I am doing well financially. My wife is the last of four children in her family. My dad died when I was still in the university, and this affected my mum.

However, as she aged, her health waned. She was a retired teacher. My brothers are not in the country. Both of them are in Europe. I wanted to have my mother stay with me in her later years because of her health and loneliness but my wife did not want it.

Whenever she was ill and I brought her home to be with us, my wife was usually hostile, especially if my mum had stayed beyond a week. She did not hid her disapproval, and this caused problems in the marriage. People advised that I should send my mum away and pay someone to live with her and take care of her. They said that marriage was between a man and his wife, not between a man, his wife, and his mother. I did and peace returned. Eventually my mum passed on after a few years.

Along the line, my father in law also died. And down the line, my mother in law's health began to deteriorate. We live in the same town. Among my wife's siblings she is the only one doing quite well. Now there are suggestions that the mother should come and live with us so that my wife can give her proper care. I believe that her living with us and seeing her grandchildren will help her. And indeed i have no problem accepting her, but when i remember the treatment my wife gave to my mum, there is a strong revulsion, in fact, anger in me. I shared with a friend, and he advised i forgive my wife, but the revulsion is so strong that i would feel cheated if i agreed.

What do you guys think. She reminded me then that marriage was between a man and his wife only. Shouldn't this also apply to my wife now?

I thought you will list names like

1. Gbonka
2. Gaa
3. Afonja
4. Sango

Etc.... These are actual names whose meanings have been lost...

fapfam:
Hi,like you said ,you arrive the next day does that mean you guys slept inside the bus?did the driver stop driving too, to sleep? or dont understand pls explain further,thanks

I am starting a West African road trip tomorrow morning. Hopping from Country to Country. Spending at least three days in each country starting from Benin Republic..

There is nothing wrong with you, and it is certainly not the fault of your parents. You are just going through a phase that is amplified due to your nature as an introvert.

There is nothing wrong with you. You basically only have self esteem and confidence issues, it can be fixed by doing just two things.

1. Join a library, start reading wide as a habit... This will solve your issues with getting ideas.. And give you an imagination capacity.

2. Join a toastmasters club in your city. Google this, this will solve your public speaking problems.

That's it.

A mistake you should avoid is trying to be cool, or trying to roll with the cool guys. Or chasing ladies. That is plain distraction. What you need now is to focus on making money. Don't try to be cool. You were raised properly, you are just going through a phase. Don't overthink it, don't. It's not a problem.

Oloriburuku ni guy yí sha!...
Someone gave you 30k, free of charge, instead of you to show gratitude, you come here to shit on him, are you mad?

Shey na you help am find job?.. Abi na you send am go America..

Imagine that sense of ungratefulness abd entitlement as if na you be the God wet create am..

Fucking ungrateful slowpoke..

VictorUSA:
This was the message I sent to my uncle who lives in America and he sent me just N30,000.

"Good morning uncle...I first of all appreciate your previous assistance.But I want to tell you that it's not enough.I'm 19 and jobless, but I really need money.I would appreciate anything that comes from you."

Afims Hotel in Okene is the best hotel I have ever lodged in so far in terms of Value for money, I have been trying to get their type of mattress unsuccessfully, they also have sockets just at the head of the beds, which is perfect for charging your phone and browsing. The best Hotel so far.

Oyerinde16:
All d hotel I have lodged were good n top notch... House 5 in Ibadan, 8k per night, was top notch... Afims hotel in okene, 11,800 very sweet, I will even buy their type of bed, full 2 AC, two TVs, room n parlor... Soft drinks inside the fridge sef... Hotel presidential port Harcourt 18,200 top notch... Sahara hotel in kaduna, 4,500 good but the guy next door wan kill one babe/woman for night... The kpa kpa kpa n moarning no let me sleep na so my Jonny stand say oga u no go sleep today...

If she is honest and you are making good sales, I don't see why this is an issue. Don't create problems where it doesn't exist.

dboY1123:
I have been on/off from my work(shop) for 2weeks now, I have this new worker who is a Muslim and I am a Christian, of course, I am not against her religion or anything, I still grant her the permission to attend mosque every Friday afternoon and I always try to be at shop by 2pm, or get someone to replace her..

Today I came to shop and the first thing I noticed was that she allowed one Alfa that I know very well, into the shop(she knows it is not allowed), my mind told me they were both reciting the Quran before I came in.

Secondly, she told me that she needs to pray (in the shop) that I should excuse her while I had to leave there and go outside..This has never been happening for 3 months she's been here..

Even myself being a Christian, I pray before coming to shop/work.

I wanted to tell her to stop praying in the shop because it is not a praying ground or mosque, should I go ahead?

I am not against her religion whatsoever, even she reads the Quran quietly in the shop and there's no issue about that.

Growing up, it was literally stated in my report card that I am "Brilliant, but restless"

It was adulthood that told me what I possibly had was hyperactivity disorder or attention deficit disorder.

There are medications and treatments that could have helped. I turned out okay though, but could have aced my academic life if I was able to calm down then. Now what I do is hack the issue with coffee, to be able to deliver on things I am working on.

Taje your Son for the ADHD test, whipping him or sending him to Naija is not the solution.

Kind Regards.

klassyguy:
I have two lovely kids with my wife - a girl and a boy. My son is six years old while his sister is eight. Both were born here in the US. I’ve done what I feel is right as a father to train these kids, but I know not everything can be done accordingly.

My son is restless. He has the attention span of three seconds before he gets distracted by something else. My mum tells says he is a copy of me when I was his age, but that was in the eighties and the way children were handled back then is totally different from today. He hardly wants to do anything in terms of school work and almost every day I get complaints from his teacher that he does not do his work or he is disruptive in class. When other students are doing their work, my son will be the one falling off his chair or hiding under his desk. His teacher told me he acts out when being corrected. Only yesterday my wife told me the teacher met her when she went to pick them up in school and told her that my son started yelling when the lights in the class started flickering. His behavior got so bad, they had to call the school security officer before he calmed down.

This behavior is really bothering me. I know my son is smart. His pre-school teacher once told me he was the smartest student she had. My son can do complex mathematical equations off the top of his head that even his older sister struggles to do. He has a very good memory and can list off all the types of trains that exist in the US, things that even I don’t know. It’s sitting down to be serious about work that he can’t do and can’t seem to focus on.

I enrolled him in a soccer club to see if that would help him expel his excess energy. At first he seemed to be lazy as he gets frustrated easily, and rather try harder, my son would rather give up and cry. I mostly have to encourage him to put in more effort, and most of the time he does not pay attention to what the coach says. The coach told me a couple of days ago that he wants to move him to a lower group level to see if he can build his confidence there.

I want to believe it’s his being the last born for now that’s worrying him. He seemed to start being a bit more mature when my wife got pregnant last year and he learnt they had a younger sibling on the way, but unfortunately, she miscarried and we lost the baby. I’ve been thinking for a while now whether to move back to Nigeria with everyone so that we can build some sense into both of them (my daughter’s story is another one). I’ve thought of taking them both for an ADHD test, but my wife is against that. The only time my son pays attention is when he’s doing something he likes, and that is when he’s playing the PS5 I got them or watching videos on YouTube Kids.

Any advice would be welcome from parents out there.

Dem beat a two year old like this, you dey follow blow grammar. That teacher will be in hospital for six months by the time I am done with her.

No woman I call a wife will even think of trying that with me, for any reason. In fact, na she go dey chase me sef.

No dey carry woman matter for head. If she refuses, don't bother her again, get a side chick and no hide am..


Nobody go tell her before she comes back to her senses.

A Man, a Real Man should understand that his responsibility is primarily to his Children, his blood, as such, that your brother is the Wicked Person.

I will not even blame the wife, women are expected to react that way, only the very few among them that has the holy spirit living in them will be able to show live to anything other than their own offspring.

By not providing for the Child, by listening to his wife, your brother has committed grievous errors,and basically he is still a Simp.

He made a terrible mistake by impregnating another woman, he is now compounding that mistake by refusing to recognise or care for his biological child that he has a spiritual responsibility to, all in the name of trying to please the wife.

If he is not careful, that Child will be the only glorious child in his family, and will surpass all the others, if you try to be unfair in how you deal with innocent souls, Powerful entities have a way of balancing the equation in a manner that will not please you at the end of the day. He is sinning against the innocent child, against himself, against his God by continuing to ignore the Chid because of the wife.

It is not too late, he should man up, recognise the child, build a relationship with the child, provide for the child and make sure that the world sees that he took ownership and responsibility for the sake of natural justice to the Child..

Continuing on this path will cause issues for his wife's children in future, I have seen this play out in many cases.

Your brother should be a man. Men, Real Men fear no one, they are only accountable to God and their Conscience.. He should do the right thing, even if it will make his wife unhappy. Better that the wife is unhappy, than an innocent child's spirit be angry with him.

Woman that is already tired of the marriage, wey dey look for excuse before. She knows you like sex with her, na why she deny you... Just so you ll do the unthinkable, and she go get excuse...

Why will any sane woman deny her husband sex if she wasn't already planning to exit the marriage..

And you sef, you be simp.. You be mumu man. You no suppose dey beg woman for sex, if she no gree, no ask am again, get a side chick and handle things yourself, her eye go clear by herself.

Now wey you Don Bleep up, count your losses and move on. Divorce is not the end of life, the Children go survive am. It is not a big deal.

Na haemorrhoids surgery e go be. Its the only condition that can be afflicting one for a long time which will require surgery , while one appears to be okay.

Nice one, what's the typical cost of farmland in your area in Eastern Ghana?

And by the way, Nairaland is for all Africans, not only for Nigerians.

If you want your father's blessings, Get him a young woman as a wife or girlfriend.

With the time he has left, let him enjoy his life, let God do the judging.

If I were you, I will investigate spiritually if he is not jazzed, if he is, we go deliver am. If its not jazz, I go find am fresh woman make he dey use hold body, codedly. It will be between me and am and he must hide an from mama.

He gave his all to you, allow him to flex small.

Eleken:
My late dad's land... my step elder brother wants to carry land survey on the property and he want the documents to carry his name...

The first son... 5 boys from his mother side and 3 boys from my mother side.

The document bearing his name, the right approach?

He's the first son of my dad.
Is there any cause for alarm..?
My mum just called now to inform me about it.

Mod help me please.. Lawyers in the house please.
What are the right approach to go about this.
Thanks...

Don't low him to do that. What you all should do is register a company, then assign shares in that company to each member of that family. After that do a family deed of transfer where everyone will sign to transfer ownership of the land to the company all of you have shares in. That way, it is the company that owns the land, meaning nobody can sell the land behind anyone's back, to even sell the land, you have to sell the company to the buyer, transferring all shares to the buyer.

pocohantas:
See as you burn our cable. Now if we woke-conservationists tell Nairalanders that they don’t kill deers in saner climes, they will bring this thread.

How person wey dey work for animal and pest control take do this kind thing?

I reckon you are not hungry in the abroad. So why you kill am? For sport?

He Literally said he works for ANIMAL and PEST CONTROL!!!

Controlling animal population is a part of Conservation.

KingOfAmebo:
"People like you are the reason politcians in Nigeria steal your destiny and that of your children because you always blindly defend them because he is your tribesman, thieves from other region are to be stoned while the thieves from your tribe should be spared...abi?

A Politician and a two term Governor (Not a businessman) owns a Shell company abroad in secrecy while serving sorry looting Anambra dry and hiding his loot in these secret accounts abroad and it's cool to daft people like you.

So, if calling you an empty skull could make you vent your anger in such a manner I wonder what you would do if I say you are irredeemably stupid and your senselessness is absolutely legendary". - Village People spokesperson.

I see you are a confirmed Olórí burúkú... You are not only deficient in knowledge of what you should know, you are also a pawn in the hands of players that know the actual state of the matter... I cannot spare my time on you...

Oponu afofungbemu...

KingOfAmebo:
"Firstly, you got it all wrong when your think Journalists are after his perceived "astonishing reputation".

Secondly, Premium Times did not create or invent the Pandora Papers as you have insinuated, The investigation is part of the global International Consortium of Investigative Journalists (ICIJ)-led Pandora Papers project.

The project saw 600 journalists from 150 news organisations around the world poring through a trove of 11.9 million confidential files, contextualising information, tracking down sources and analysing public records and other documents.

The leaked files were retrieved from some offshore services firms around the world that set up shell companies and other offshore entities for clients, many of them influential politicians, businesspersons and criminals, seeking to conceal their financial dealings.

The two-year collaboration has so far revealed the financial secrets of not less than 35 current and former world leaders, more than 330 public officials in more than 91 countries and territories. So, this is not a case of someone witch-hunting Peter Him-Tu-Lie Obi China.

Do you even realize the effects of Peter Obi's actions, He didn't deny having a secret account or businesses abroad wether joint or solely, he only denied not knowing it's against the law and said he wouldn't declare what he owns by his family.

Now here's the question, If this Obi of a man becomes your President he would mortgage the whole of Nigeria and the destiny of your children into one of his secret accounts and businesses abroad and run it as a family business. Is that what you want? Have I spoken some senses into your empty skull". - Village People spokesperson.

Ti a ba sọ wípé a ó ṣe oogun ìkà mo, alábùkú bíi ti ẹ lọ má a jẹ ki èèyàn padà ṣe....

Meaning, if I say I won't do bad juju anymore, it is idiots like you that will of your own volition ask me to bring it out and test it on you.

I did not abuse anybody, nor did I use any ad hominem in my writeup, what evil spirit will hate you to the point of provoking you to write something in the form of empty skull to me?

Your pápá the unfortunate fool that birthed an awful fool like you dare not say this to my face.... Na your mama I pity sha... God bless her, she really dey try for you.. If not, you would have become a victim of your own stupidity years ago.... For her sake, I no go curse your pápá further.

To the point in question, you are only regurgitating the presser the media is releasing regarding the Panama papers.... I would have said you lack the capacity to form original thoughts, but that will be similar to marginalising a naturally handicapped person... It is not your fault you no get sense... Na your family gene fault... Sorry my dear.

For the sake of sane people that are reading this, I apologise for my language.. It is not the best and I could have done better, but sometimes you have to show pigs that you are willing to roll in the mud with them if need be. My further writings will be for the sake of your information.. Not because of the donkey I am replying.

It is NOT a crime to own shell Companies. If it were a crime, jurisdictions around the world will not have allowed it.

In fact, in international business and Corporate business operations, owing shell companies is a way to properly structure your business governance processes and procedures to minimise Tax exposure, maximise Asset protection, and carry out Estate planning properly.

As with everything that is intended for good, it can also be used for criminal purposes. Criminals like Abacha used it to launder money. Pablo escobar used it to move funds to Swiss banks, etc etc.

But the good outweighs the bad, as far as International business is concerned. If you notice, you will see that Apple Inc, and American company, is actually officially Headquartered in Ireland...... Principally to avoid paying US taxes on income. All the Top 1000 fortune listed companies all have several levels of shell structures in place. Every popular company you know, including MTN, Shell, Globalcom etc all have shell companies.... Principally for the reasons I stated above.

If you are an international business man, say you are a Cocoa exporter, you can incorporate shell companies to minimise taxes, to warehouse funds, to keep your funds offshore etc... All of this is not illegal.

So, the fact that you have secret companies, that you use to manage your affairs to your legal advantage, does not make you a Criminal.... Every single great person/entity you know alive has shell companies.... Including the Catholic Church, the Sauds, etc...

Having shell companies for corporate structuring is the go to Tax planning and management for well exposed technocratic Business men.

The Jurisdictions that make this easy to do are not Fools, the Irish are not, the British Financial system is not managed by hysterical fools that do not know how to form practical policies that promote their Country...

If Nigerian governments were savvy, they will enact policies that will turn Nigeria into a Tax haven, have secrecy laws for Incorporation and banking, have an independent Court system that follows the rule of law, then sit back and watch the billions pour in....

But no, our government is not smart, we prefer to àpe the west, doing things that have no benefits for us while the West (Switzerland, London, New York, Singapore) reap all the benefits.

To really learn more about this, seek for informed from Corporate lawyers, investment advisors, Tax planners and People who understand corporate finance.

Peter Obi, i repeat, does not need to deny anything, because having shell companies is not a crime by itself. He has broken no single law.

Sane people will expect the Government and its agents to question Obi on this instead of prematurely destroying his image for the sake of politics....

I hold no brief for any politician, nor do I hold any for Peter obi, the subject of this article... What I hold brief for is the honest, sincere truth.

There are two basic approaches to life, cynical realism or optimistic idealism.

The political class in Nigeria are fans of the first approach. They are largely cynics. They are pragmatists. The combination of that leads to all sorts of machiavelism we see displayed in the name of governance in Nigeria, where getting political power and retaining it is actually of much more importance than governance and proper policy formulation and implementation.

On the altar of political power and politics, Nigerian politicians will sacrifice everything and everyone.

They will sacrifice friendship, betray causes, destroy reputations, blackmail, assassinate, steal, destroy, threaten, intimidate, corrupt, imprison, oppress, entrap, plot,malign, falsify, turn the truth on its head... All in a bid to secure and retain power.

In the next class are professional journalists. After politicians, these self appointed conscience of democracy are the most crooked and morally bankrupt. They will not only create false narratives to get fame and money, they will also stretch the truth in whatever direction they so desire and get away with it. The casualty is the public or the unfortunate person that is the subject matter of their character assassinating stories. After the devil, fear Nigerian journalists.

This brings me to the point of my rantings.... Peter òbí, a gentleman politician, a rare breed of practical integrity in that class of the morally decrepit, is the present focus of a Nigerian publication, purporting to accuse Peter of crimes against the Nigerian state.

There is something about mudslinging...you throw dirt and see what will stick. Reputation is a difficult thing for the famous. News media only have to allege wrongdoings... And if you are not careful, your reputation is stained forever.

This is because mankind tends to believe the negative ahead of the positive, we find bad news salacious and more interesting, we are more likely to believe something negative about something than the positive... This is why news sell, and why bad news spread fast.... It makes for interesting gist, and seems more believable...

Obi has a stellar reputation, out of the blues, a newspaper alleged crimes and presented supposed facts... Without giving any court of justice the benefit of interpreting or passing judgement first.

What did you think will happen?... Given the psychology of humans you can be sure that people will believe the bad news about òbí, ahead of anything.

If you try to defend him, they will still see him as guilty... The court of public opinion has literally judged and hanged him even though they have no understanding of the details short of what the media has said or what their natural prejudice has told them.

Shey you get, it's an interesting psychological problem and it's why propaganda works too on mass consciousness... If it barks like a dog, it must be a dog....

Basically premium times carried out a character assassinating assignment on Peter òbí. As far as Nigerians are concerned, he is now no more different from any money Stealing Nigerian politician. Call a dog a bad name to hang him....

There is nothing òbí can say, nor any evidence he can present, that will ever remove that stain of corruption that premium times has assigned to him. Any effort he makes will be seen as trying to cover up or make excuses...

It is far better not to have a stellar reputation than to have it destroyed overnight by uninformed newsmedia hacks pretending to be on the side of virtue.

This is a road every person of integrity must pass, it is a lesson to all who lead honest lives.... You must not develop a stellar reputation even if you are stellar.

Your reputation is a threat to everyone. It's a threat to the political class, it is a threat to your enemies, it is a threat to the public who will view you suspiciously and find you too good to be true and thus scamy and that makes them likely to believe bad things about you.

If you are good, do not make a show of it. Do not at every opportunity pontificate on how stellar you are, in fact, it is a risk to you in Nigeria to have a clean reputation.

The political class will feel more comfortable with you if they feel you are as bad as They are. The public will feel more comfortable with you if they know you are not different... Nobody likes good people.. Society kills them off soon... In body or reputation.. As they have done for òbí now...

It does not matter what the truth is, what matters is what the public believe about you... And that, my people is why Peter òbí is foorked.

They say you shit, say you  no clean you arse, how will you clear that sort of allegation?.. Will you start showing your arse to everyone in the public as evidence that you cleaned it?... If you start doing that, will they not say you have gone mad?... So you see, you are bleeped both ways...

At this point in time, only posterity can save Obis reputation or make him recover it. Even if the supreme Court should say he is not guilty, Nigerians will say the Court was corrupt...

Every arm chair analyst that hates what òbí stands for now has ammo in his kit to shoot down talks of good governance. All the good this man has done is lost in the noise of the alleged wrongdoings.

His political opponents and the Nigerian state that has been looking for dirt on him now has enough ammo to frustrate his political life for the next ten years...

They know they won't win in court of law, they just want to frustrate him and finish him politically. The ccb will be a veritable tool deployed for this, the tax agencies too, efcc might also be hovering for pickings, whatever is left at the end of the day, Obi will not be the same person ever again..... As far as a stellar image is concerned in the minds of the people, and that is exactly what Nicholas Ibekwe was going for when he gleefully wrote" òbí on poto poto"..

Imagine someone wearing white, then pushed by nicholas into mud... Imagine it was you. Imagine you have done no wrong.

Exactly.

OfficialAPCNig:
You have been unnecessarily showing off you studied sociology in just few exchanges with you.

You have a deep-lying insecurity. Go sort it out and don't bring it to my table.

Like I said, I don't engage people like you. This show off is a reckless pursuit of social validation. I don't know who you want to impress with your book knowledge.

Exactly what am I saying. You just described yourself by projecting your flaws on another.


But seriously dude, you need help.

Suffer no dey taya you?... Why do you keep engaging me?

Am I the one responsible for your psychosis?

Abeg fokof my mentions...

Seek urgent medical help... Talk to a friend, find a shrink around you before its too late..

Na so craze dey begin...

Toh..

OfficialAPCNig:
Dude, seriously, I don't engage people like you. I am sure you don't even understand meaning of social validation.

You keep throwing "Maslow Hierarchy of Needs" around. It seems na the only thing you learn for your year 1?





Don't beat above your weight dude. Stick to discovering yourself.

I won't call it messiah complex. But whatever complex you are suffering from requires urgent help.


From someone still struggling to define himself or some relying on social pressure to define his priorities.

My small encounter with you shows you have low self esteem.

I am done with you.

We rise!!!

This boy, you have serious problems... Frankly speaking... Jokes aside.

There is something we call psychological projection... Its a condition where the afflicted like you projects his own character and behavioural flaws onto someone else in order to gain something (even emotionaly)..

I kid you not, that's actually how psychologists define it.

Na you know say I dey seek social validation, na still same you know say I dey arrogant ... It is still you that knows I have low self esteem, same you says I have a messiah complex(you don't even understand what it means) ...

If we fit the above into this concept of psychological projection, we can only conclude that you are arrogant, have low self esteem, seek validation and have a complex...

You are merely describing yourself, which is why I suggest you should seek help.

Make you no wake up one day just run mental...

Pẹ̀lẹ́ my dear...

OfficialAPCNig:
Imagine. Such arrogance.

Another sweeping claim from a supposed wise man.

Every culture is community based. Stop making stupid claims.


Another sweeping claim.

This is not African. It's universal and stupidity is sacrificing personal happiness for social validation.


And the emotional blackmail begins here.

And the Op gave them money to rent their apartment.


Who are you to tell a man what his primary objective should be? Such arrogance.
Living for social validation means you have self esteem problem. You need help boss.


This shows you are a control freak.


You are obsessed with social validation.Unfortunately, not every man lives for social validation, like yourself.


Don't impose your flawed views on the Op. He knows his priorities.


Go work on yourself Mr man.

His nuclear comes first before anything. He should get his parents new apartment. They have no business inconveniencing him and the wife

You are even more daft than I assumed before. Seeking Social Validation is an essential part of any sane Human being, without that there won't be something called the Maslow's hierarchy of needs.... Psychologists know this, social scientists know this, philosophers know this, any well informed person knows this, anyone with half a brain knows this.... Therefore posing that concept as if its a flaw shows the deep gaps in your thought process.

From the nonsense you have been vomiting, I can only wish you go back to school and pay attention this time, OR develop a habit of reading, so that you can better understand the sociology of human societies, why people behave the way they do, what different societies expect and how to understand societal values and understanding how to work with them for harmony in the society.

There is a path to harmony, and there is another to division. The wise knows the path to pursue, I just hope readers don't get influenced by the deeply insane views you hold that can only lead to division in the African society.

Eat your humble pie and open your brain to get wisdom.. E go pay you.

VULCAN:
This could only have been written by someone who plans to leech off his children.

There is no rich or powerful person in this world who plans to be financially dependent on their children.

It is always those who refused to prepare for old age.

Those who were busy attending every owambe and spending all their money on consumable without a plan for when they will no longer work.

That is the description of the poster below.

The Bible says a good man leaves an inheritance for his children.

None of the patriarchs depended on their children for rent and feeding in old age.

It is a sign of a stubborn and disobedient personality.

We all owe it to our children to stick to receiving gifts and surprises from them and not to feast off them like vampires.

So you think people plan to live off their children?... I pray life does not happen to you.

OfficialAPCNig:
Which kind stupid advise is this?

This entitled mentality is what is killing Nigerian parents. So he has to build house for his parents before building his?

Don't cage the man with your emotional blackmail.

OP, don't listen to this dude.

I understand you are talking from a place of folly, so I will endeavour to teach you wisdom.

Western Cultural values are individualistic and sacrifices the group need for the individual need.

African Cultural values and most Eastern values are community based and will put the need of the community over the need of the individual.

If your background is African, you cannot start imposing nuclear values that are odd to the African environment. This me and my wife nuclear values is why a lot of men are ending up alone in Old age in Nigeria. Their wife would have cornered the affections of the children, while they stay emotionally isolated.

So you see, there is immense value in African cultural systems of community, extended family and taking care of one's parents.

Granted there are downsides to this, but the good outweighs the bad.

Therefore within that cultural context, the right action of a wise child that is self aware enough to have shame is to raise the prestige and image of his parents first in society by getting them that which they lack. Housing is principally not for reasons of Shelter alone, it is also for reasons of self esteem, societal acceptance and Ego.... All vital parts of Maslow's hierarchy of needs.

Getting them their own house should have been your primary objective... Let me give you an example, my mother has houses in different places, but she refused to buy a car... For the sake of my own image, I bought a car for her and got her a driver, this woman sacked the driver after a month and parked the car. She now only takes it out together with her closest friend whenever they have prayer events... On normal days, she will just park the car and take public transport.....

But the important thing is everybody knew I bought her a car.... Even if she is not using it. The car is still there in excellent condition.

If she didn't have a house, I would have built her one before building mine... But fortunately she get am plenty.

My point is mr Kehinde ó lọ ju ti. He does not have a sense of shame. It is not your parents that are disgraced, it is you that is disgraced. If you had built the house for them, and they did not move in... At least your extended family and people will know you have done the proper thing. Good parents will not make unnecessary demands of you. My mama has never asked me for anything ever.... But I know my duty. You should know yours.

Of course there are some useless parents that did not contribute to the success of their children, these are the sorts of parents that insist on been placed on 750k per month salaries and demand brand new latest model cars from their child just because he or she is working abroad....

But I don't think Mr Kehinde's parents are useless, unless he is implying that himself via his intended actions.

Sho ti yẹ eee?

Or you still don't understand?

You sef think am

1. You RESIDE permanently overseas.

2. YOUR OWN PARENTS live in a Rented house in Nigeria.

3. You told this said parents to build a Personal House for YOU in Nigeria, while you continue to reside PRIMARILY overseas

I can only conclude you don't have good friends, or you don't listen to sage advice, or maybe you are getting affected by American culture.

Number one, it is an insult to your image that your parents live in a rented apartment while you have enough money to build a house for them. It shows deep selfishness and self centredness, and an inability to be self aware.

Number two, it is an insult to your parents that you inform them to build you a personal house that you will basically live in just during festive periods if you are around in Nigeria , while they live in a rented apartment. It is undignified and grossly insulting to them.

A wiser child would first do all he can to remove his parents from a Rented house, by building them their own house, even if it's a 3 bedroom. Owing one's own property does a lot to the self esteem. Your parents self esteem would have greatly increased while they would have said endless prayers for you.

How do you imagine they feel living in a rented property while their non resident son is building a Brand new house for his Holiday home?.. Is that good to you?

Now that they have preempted you, are you going to make the problem much worse by chasing them from the house?

How can you leave a house empty while your parents live in a rented house?

Does that make sense to you?.. You need to change your circle of friends or advisers and pray for wisdom.

kingthreat:
If na 100k, the babe no go block am. She go open wide sef as she knows there's more 100ks to collect.

Na true you talk... But some babes mad sotay he no go even see pant after dem collect

Ikemoney:
good evening all, please i need a serious advice from you guys with out insuit, Please.

have been dating this girl for close to 4 years now, and am madly in love with her, at first i never love her, she did everything for me to love which i am now, have done everything a man could do for woman, i assisted her in setting up her business, i alway ensure she is okay,her family knows me.

we have already start making plan on getting married, before now have been having trust issues with her, when ever her phone is close to me or it rings she is not comfortable, anytime i ask questions she knock it off,she will say they are just friends, at a point i was monitoring her, she knew,friends will call me they saw my girl with some one guy ,that same guy usually do call, have ask her who is the guy, she said they just friends , it was clear she was cheating her attitude towards me change, yet i kept cool for peace to reign and for what i feel for her.

To cut the story short, spoke to her family about it and her brother abroad, now she is angry and she does not want the relationship anymore,have beg her have also send people to beg her, she said never that she has move on, am confuse i really do love her, the worst part she block me on watsup and messager and she is not picking my calls, i feel she dislike me now.

when even i rmember my labour in this i feel so bad with my self, i really don't know how to move on.

I didn't know guys like you still exist. You don't know how to move on..?

Dey there dey simp dey go.

The only thing wey pain me for this matter be say the babe no scam you heavy money....

Like 100k, make you truly display how SIMP you be.

That babe na good pikin.

Fawking simp!