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hesilo:
I am an IT proffessional who work in an Oil Servicing Company in Ph where i earn roughly 400k a month. However i have been in a relationship with this Nigerian American lady who's a nurse abroad and she's been asking me to come over to yankie so we could get married. I kinda told her i love the job i do in Nigeria and am comfortable staying back here. Meanwhile i had always wanted to marry an raise my kids abroad. Moreso, i told her that we could actually get married and she stay abroad while i stay in Nigeria, perhaps visit them from time to time. She told me she wouldn't want to stay away from her husband and that she's been alone for long and would want to marry and come back home to her husband everyday. I asked if it will be possible she relocated back to Nigeria and stay with me, she said no, that it's be better i come to the US were she stays and get another job. I am at dilema cos i sincerely love the lady and i think she does love me back.

My fear is going there to start all over agin, being at the mercy of a woman especially in a land where my parents ain't around, and perhaps not getting a good enough job to start up with.

What do you think guys?

Should i quit my job or the marriage idea?

Don't try it

What did you mean by use and dump you?

MrConstantine:
If these guys don't take care,

War might happen soon..

Location: south east

Enemies : Igbos VS igbos


Casuality : not ascertained yet...

Probability of peace: 0.000001%


Mediator: Yorubas (peace makers)

Yoruba idiot that can't take care of himself is talking

Osagyefo98:
Good from Enugu youth but Nnia Nwodo is just Ohanaeze president for his side..

We now have Ohanaeze ndigbo worldwide , a new robust association.....and the new one is accepted by all and is been run on state basis, independent of each other.

As for kanu, don't take his threat serious, he talks a lot like a parrot..

Idiot , useless fool , we take him serious

[quote author=nairavsdollars post=91406060]Shut up Fayose. nobody takes you serious again. Ordinary woman, Biodun Olujimi is rubbishing you in Ekiti. [/quote
You Nigeria fail to hear or see truth and always attack
Anybody that say it

nairavsdollars:
Shut up Fayose. nobody takes you serious again. Ordinary woman, Biodun Olujimi is rubbishing you in Ekiti.

You don't take him serious because you are stupid and lack
Comprehension and maybe you have sold your vote to
One politian

[quote author= post=91190287]This criminal is still pained the way Tinubu the Kingmaker (against all odds) sent him and his Ineffectual buffon packing, despite BILLIONS of dollars they used to rig the election via Dasuki the human ATM machine!

Jagaban himself, the nightmare of PDP and its thieving gangs who took our darling nation 100 years back.

Mofos everywhere!

Get ready for 2023 Prof Yemi Osinbajo, the next president of our darling nation...BGG.

God bless Nigeria.[/quote]Fool have spoken

brandedben:
hey folks,i need ur advise.

i met a girl in the early part of 2006 and we started dating ever since until she left the country later that year.the main reason why i need your help is to clear some doubts on me mind.she told me she was 18 yrs old then guess i thot i was two years older than her.the funny part abt the relationship was that she never allowed me kiss her not to talk of sex.i hardly hug her at times.i noticed she became secretive.i read one of her mails, that was before she travelled thats she was 21yrs old but i never asked i thot she was just lieing.i really loved her so much that i never created any room in my heart to doubt her.
when she wanted to travel she told me two hours before her flight.i was really speechless but i cudnt do anything but watch.she never kalled for the next 7 months.she kalled my friend and gave him her no. to give me after unlimited mails i ve sent to her.i did kal her just to clear my mind that i have tried.she gave excuses normally and i boned.shit happens.
she kals once in a while and later never kal again.it just dawn on me that she might be older than i am and she is just toying wit me.i dont need her money all i just want is to talk to her.i have decided to free her finally or wat do you guys think.i cant love any other girl like her.or do i plan a tit 4 tat for her

Oga stop talking nonsense and go back to school,
After reading this trash I developed headache

[quote author=Trayceey post=89855496][/quote]Young lady stop answering all this stupid idiot here
Just go through all this comment any one that gives
You what you want take it and leave others

ReorxTohGan:
what's wrong in raising her,regardless of her having a man already??...at least if he had surplus,will he die if he gives her the money??..some guys and their stupid logics ehn!!

It's very wrong my friend, how will you feel if you hear that
A lady you want to marry is asking another man to give her money

LadySarah:
You must feel very accomplished with yourself.
I hope life is perfect for you. That you don't ask for help from anyone again.

You and those who support you are the reason why ppl make demands before helping someone, why ladies are called Olosho.
I hope you don't have a girl child in future cos it will come around.

Ladies, reserve some respect for yourselves. There is dignity in labor.wgat you can't have today will be yours tomorrow. Hardwork, God and contentment.

Why you Nigeria girls see evil and call it evil,she has a man that want to marry her and she still went ahead to ask another man for money, why can't she ask her man

Who is surprise?

Oluromantic:
Oga mind ya business

What you talking nonsense in every post?
People won't talk again when they see evil things
That happened around them because of people like you

paulolee:
no time 4 long epistle...mine is
solo wey bin drop out bk den for primary school because he papa bin die and they all pack go village, now don stand house and car for uyo wey i based...solo na pdp youth chairman for our local government and jus de funny atims wen me we finshi o'level and currently de on b.s.c de go meet am for small bar to use chop and e don even promise me political slots wen i finish skul..

And a graduate wrote this nonsense, shame on you and
Education in Nigeria

Kingproy:
Oh I didn't do kindergarten
Please can you explain it in a way your illiterate father will understand

Oga you sound very stupid and you look idiot , if you
Don't know what to say next time keep ur mouth shut

Why would you let your wife use this you don't trust
Me of a word to fool you? You have evidence instead of you
To act like a man and you're here asking stupid question

There mentality is hell

SmartProf:
EFCC, so u had details about the said fraudster but issued no statement about him all these while at least to warn those who revered him based on his public show of wealth. If it were to be for political witch-hunt, you will prosecute the individual on the pages of newspapers even before u get the individual arrested. Pls allow Interpol do their job, cos u had all the time in the world to have stepped in prior to his arrest to demand an extradition but u didn't...so don't disturb us now pls, we are so busy still awaiting the possibility of another APC member announcing himself as national chairman before midnight

You people should talk with sense at times , efcc want
To arrest him but he escaped to Dubai , now what efcc
Need is interpol to arrest him which they just did

Elzakzaky:
This omo kirikiri sha likes to talk off-point

What makes it off point my friend

BlueAir:
If she damn dies,who won't know it's abortion that killed her Or will the op be forced to say he impregnated her and made her abort??! Or won't the op defend himself?!

What I’m saying is for him to find a way and talk to her that’s all my friend, because I believe there’s a reason why he see that message

Easybela:
Oga sir, I feel your ignorance. Right from the days of Adam,its the man that suppose to struggle and cater for his family, (he is the provider) while woman struggles in labour room during child birth, those were punishments for Adam's disobedience. Na condition come later make crayfish bend,its condition that made women to hustle and support their husband(its not their duty). The way things are now,its good a woman supports her man but don't abuse her effort or make her feel useless because she's not doing anything.

That’s why you Nigerian are acting stupidly

BlueAir:
U are very dumb to urself and ur God. You want the man to be tagged an aproko and misjudged for real live like he's already been dragged on nlr right?? How many sexworkers or deliquents have u converted so far,Mr good influence?

What if he don’t speak up and the girl go for second abortion and die , people must surely say something do what you suppose to do at that time you have the chance

Oga pretend you don’t see that message, call her sit her down
And tell her that you know she’s pregnant and if she try an abortion she will die, because if anything happens to her will be able to forgive yourself, you still have opportunity to save a life now

Holier than thou useless Nigeria youths , Oga what
If this go for abortion and die what will you tell yourself
There is a reason why GOD make you to see that message
Stop listening to all this idiot here talking about privacy in Nigeria,

Amotolongbo:
We should learn how to separate business from personal life.

She is your sales girl, relate with her strictly on business and show less concern on her personal life.

The way I’m reading your message, there is already a growing emotion in you already towards the girl, the reason you felt so highly disappointed and wanna lay her off, not because she is underperforming but the way she chose to live her life, which should be less of your concern.

In as much she is performing her responsibilities to your satisfaction and not using her “wayward” life to affect your business like she did the first time she went for abortion, leave her alone.

The only reason why you can lay her off is if she goes on abortion again and that makes her to take a time out of work and underperforming.

What if she go to this second abortion and die? Let us think twice before we comment, some of us have opportunity to save life but because of people like you they keep quiet

BlueAir:
Leave the wayward girl be. It's herself she's doing not you or your business.keep using her for sales.you can sack her when she's turning ur shop to brothel or hookup centre

You’re such a bad influence in the society and Nigeria as a whole

Bluezy13:
Of course...

I will be happy that she doesn't care anymore because it will give me an opportunity to live like a bachelor which I have always longed for.
As long as she has given me children...very very important.
By the way, I am not yet married and I intend to have children out of wedlock.
Perhaps depending on family pressure, I might just get a woman to call my wife for the sake of peace.

Stop wasting your time with this unmarried fellow
She won’t understand till she got married

Jullima:
Yawn

Are you married? At this point the wife no longer cares, initially she’s worried but it gets to a point in the marriage, it becomes ineffective.

There will always be food in the house because she has kids to feed, if you like dish, your choice.

No time to take on an additional child to the one you’re already raising. Who get that kain time?

Not pain a woman than rejecting her food , when you
Are married you will understand

Bluezy13:
Responsibilities ke.

If you try it with me,
I will start cooking my food myself.
And pray you don't extend it for too long cos I may never eat your food again and take it as a way of life but we will still be husband and wife.
Once I take it as a new way of life, I'll be happy, but will you
I know how heartless I can get.
After all I grew up alone.

Don’t mind that unmarried fellow , she doesn’t understand yet

Jullima:
Lol that kind of ‘punishment’ only works maybe in the first year or two. It loses its effect fast, wives become immune to it with time, especially when the wife now has more responsibilities, if he wants to be a child, he can go and dish is food when he’s hungry.

Who get time?

Shut up you have not married, pray you don’t get
That kind man as a husband then you will understand