₦airaland Forum

ihemyoro:
I am a very a senior safety professional. We speak out when we see unsafe acts or conditions. Ur cynicality can not stop me!!!

You did a good job

Bigflamie:
Bro, there is nothing like being cynical here. I find this your post disturbing, I can't imagine a full grown adult checking on a child who is bathing outside. And you have to create a thread for it?

I don't just know what's wrong with people this period.

Bros please stop attacking op he saw something that
Our society should take correction from instead you're here talking nonsense

Don't mind all those lazy things we have here call slay queen

CsRockefeller:
We are in different worlds then.

Oga forget that it's one at of ten under 30 isn Nigeri is capable of feeding a woman and child

Ignor them and do the one your strength can carry

You are very correct

CsRockefeller:
If you had to get to 30 b4 being emotionally mature, then I have no words to say to you.

How many guys below 30 that you see doing well in Nigeria
Wake up my friend stop talking nonsense

I won't try it , it has end three of my relationship
I tell if you say no sex please don't ask me for money

Farouk24:
Good day everyone, please i urgently need an advice on what to do because the issue is killing me. There is this girl i met during my service year, that was 8 months into my service year she was also a youth corper. I asked her out and before accepted she told me i am the first guy she will be accepting since she started her youth service, and she don't want to date a youth corps member because the relationship doesn't always last long, so i had to convince her and persuaded her to date me and finally she accepted. she told me everything about herself, her past relationship how many guys she has dated and how she can't trust guys anymore, so i gave her assurance that everything is gonna be fine.

So fast forward to one week into our relationship, we decided to visit my town guy who is a soldier that i met at nysc camp he lives in the barrack at the state we are serving, at first she felt reluctant about going until i pleaded with her before she accepted going and before she said yes she asked which block my brother was staying i told her. So getting to the barracks i saw a friend of mine we were platoon mates at the camp so i told my girl to go inside while i went to say hello to my friend, the first thing my friend said was "is that not Tonia" i said yes she is the one and i asked how he knows her the guy said Tonia is Emeka's (our co corp member) girlfriend i said it's a lie i am the first guy she is dating here in this state she has never dated a youth corp member before, in my presence this guy called the Emeka put it on speaker and asked him (Emeka how is your girlfriend tonia when last did you saw her hope you guys are still dating, and Emeka Replied yes we are still dating and we were together yesterday.) The guy went ahead and showed me pics of Tonia and Emeka together, i was really surprise and couldn't say anything because a girl who told me she can't trust guys and wanted me to treat her nicely and she want to learn how to trust guys again, how can she build our relationship on lies? So i went inside didn't say a word about what transpired between me and my friend to the girl.

A month into the relationship i didn't say a word about the incidence to the girl, generally the girl was nice, lovely caring she recharge me almost everyday when ever she is coming around she must buy some things for me and my guys at my ppa( i live inside my ppa), always buy foodstuff to come and cook for me at home she wasn't living on allawee as most of us because her dad was always sending her something. All this while no sex because she told me it's been more than 2years she had sex and she isn't ready for sex yet when she is ready she is gonna let me know so i respected her decision because i wasn't dating her for sex i was dating her because i love her, But in my mind seriously i didn't believe her all i was thinking is maybe she is getting it from Emeka so she doesn't want it from me.

So on a faithful day i happened to be holding her phone she wasn't around and a whatsapp message pop up on her screen it was Emeka so i was tempted to check the message, though i have never gone into her messages before or private life, but because it was the same Emeka i opened the messages and i just scrolled up very well to read past messages, behold everything that guy told me was all true, this girl and that boy were actually dating, so reading to the last messages i saw were she sent a breakup text to the guy telling the guy she wasn't interested in the relationship again. The date on the messages showed it was two weeks into our relationship she broke up with the guy i was a bit relieved that she broke up with the guy because i love the girl and i didn't want to lose her, but i was sad at the same time seeing a message on her chat showing that she had been having sex with this same guy even a week before they broke up.

This also i never disclosed to her because in my heart i wasn't actually dating her because of sex and since she broke up with the guy it showed she choosed me ahead of the guy so i let the issue to end. There was one faithful day this same Emeka was calling this girl repeatedly in my presence and she wasn't picking so me knowing who the guy is and to not show i don't care attitude i asked the girl who is this guy disturbing you with call her response was "it's one stupid boy asking her out" i just laughed and said nothing. So we dated peacefully for the next four months even when i know occasionally this same guy still do call her i didn't let that bothered me because we were dating peacefully no issue and she was been a sweet girlfriend despite the lies and others.

So our service year came to an end and we all went to our separate state and we promised to keep loving each other and keep the relationship in good shape, even after four month of not seeing each other the relationship was still flourishing and i loved her more than ever, she do credit my account occasionally because i had nothing doing at that time still job hunting. So on one faithful day i just decided to ask her what about that guy that was always disturbing her she said since after service she hasn't heard from the guy. Till last month here on her birthday that same guy who told me about her and Emeka called me and asked if Tonia and Emeka was still in talking terms or still seeing each other, i told him she said they haven't talked since after service and she doesn't even have his contact again, this same guy told me that Tonia was lying to me that this same Emeka's status is filled with different pics and writeup for Tonia's birthday, that if Tonia wasn't in talking terms with Emeka again and Tonia Doesn't have Emeka's number so how come Emeka is posting the status and who is the status made for then? This guy screenshot all the status and sent them to me, and the pics are recent pics she took a day to her birthday and she hasn't even uploaded the pics yet on any social media and the time on those screenshot was past 12 midnight, so how come Emeka got hold of the pics if Tonia didn't send the pics to him. At that point the trust i have decided to start building up for her just disappeared, this is the girl who has been lying to me from the beginning yet i stood by her and never judged her by her actions always thinking she might have reason for not telling me about this same guy. So that same day because of the anger in me i called her and i asked her about the Same Emeka, when last she saw him or talked to him and she repeated the same thing that since after service she hasn't heard from him, in my heart i was like what is wrong with this girl, ok i decided to ask her the real issue, Tonia did you ever dated Emeka before we met, she started swearing with everything even with God, bible and her grandmom grave that she has never dated Emeka that Emeka was just someone who was disturbing and asking her out, sincerely hearing her swear while she was lying was really breaking my heart, i decided to confront her by telling her that a friend of mine told me she dated Emeka, the next thing i heard was her preaching about trust, that how can i not trust her and believe what she is telling me why should i believe my friend ahead of her that she is disappointed in me for not been able to trust whatever she is telling me that i am the last person she will ever lie to, she ended the call telling me she is angry you can't believe i called her all through that day she didn't pick up even leading to her switching off her phone. The next morning i called her she picked and told me she was so angry with me last night accusing her of dating Emeka and disappointed in me for not trusting her, looking at her fooling herself i decided to send all the screenshots of her chat with Emeka from her phone which i sent to my phone back then. All she could say after the screenshot is that she owns me no explanation because she kept Emeka issues away from me for a personal reason, she never told me anything about Emeka because she has a reason for not doing it and i shouldn't have gone into her privacy and whatever i got from her whatsapp was at my own risk.
She later called and sent a text apologising for lying to me and acting the way she did, that she never wanted to tell me about Emeka due to some personal reasons and she never wanted me to find out about Emeka, and i shouldn't breakup with her because of Emeka that she loves me and can't lose me.

Right now i don't know what to do because i love the girl but with her lies and with what has transpired between us is she a girl i should continue with or i should let go.

Please no insult i really need advice from you all.


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Love kill you there people like you is the problem we
Have in this Nigeria, a girl is playing you around and you're here talking about love

Asuito7:
Are you OK?
Did you not read the part I said because of economic reasons Nigerian men can't marry in their 20's since majority of the populace are poor

Or you just rush to quote or comment

Now go back and read what I wrote, thereafter check who is not using his sense and his comprehension ability

Even with good economy a man supposed to be matured mentally before marriage, at least 30 years of age you people should stop copying white people and come here to talk nonsense

Tdstaar:
Currently seeing this girl .. am 25 year old and she is 17 years old .. we both love each other and enjoy being with each other but now people are starting to talk .. should I back out or ignore ? Who have had any experience like this ?

Idiot you deserved to be in prison

Asuito7:
The best time for a man to marry is in his 20's. The satisfaction and rest that you will get later in life after using your youthful energy to raise a family is beyond description.

Check back, our forefathers marry early.
Even today, many men in Europe marry early. They really know the reason.
Even in Africa, Nigeria in particular, look very well the majority of men from wealthy homes graduates early and marry early.

But the reality for the majority of Nigerian(note that majority of Nigerian are poor) is that our men marry late mainly because of economic reasons. Even at that, there are exceptions, those who know the benefit of marrying early even when they are poor.

All in all the best time for a man to marry is in his 20's

Bros before you comment on sometimes use your sense
In this Nigeria that someone will marry at 20s , when at 20s 90% of them don't have up to 10k in their account

Yenefer:
Namidi kamu wakes up in his grave.. he is the Messiah that will defeat the Anti-Christ.

You will die of heart attack one day ,

shegzmartinsduke:
are u not a fool to believe that is the real Madzi Kunu? Look at the video closely.

Yoruba people and foolishness is like 5&6, keep on
Fooling around

illicit:
we go drink beer noni

Oga stop making mouth because you don't know me

illicit:
Keep shut or you come to me and I show u how it goes..... Mara ko. Para ni

If I meet u

illicit:
bros it's not about the armoury.... what does Mara do with the Glocks and saucer Colt whatever's, they fire into the air that's all...
here, an awawa boy can take lives with a kitchen knife just because of 200 naira, imagine the kind of Carnage that Fulani does with a matchete.... American gangsters are Hollywood abeg.....
here shit is real

Guy keep quit or you go and watch this Mara guy on YouTube

Eulalia:
Wow... Thank God I goofed around a bit today. I would never have known you're a guy hiding behind a female moniker and trolling people here all the time with your shabby grammar. I wonder what sort of girl would be writing such trash all the time. First it was your grammar that got my attention and kept me wondering with all the levels, you can't even construct simple grammar. Now I know better.
Good riddance. Dang!

Why can't stop all this your drama and prove her wrong
Than you are here claiming what you're not

Corporate2020:
You will all weep for long. Losing two consecutive elections back to back is really traumatizing. Your weeping continues till 2031. If Goatluck Jonaddaft was the President, all donated funds will be in his wife's accounts.

Where is that donated fund now, In your fathers account

mimimile93:
If GEJ was the President, Min of petroleum and aviation Min would've added more bulletproof cars to their garage.

Yourba idiot you people prefer to suffer

SangoOlukosoOba:
"If"

Nigeria would have been in a confused state.

They would have used the pandemic as an excuse to siphon what's left in our treasury.

GEJ's government was a "looting for all" and lawlessness.

If not not for the intervention of the Almighty God, GEJ and his cronies would have ruined the present and future of Nigeria.

But we still must be grateful to God almighty to have made our years of pains , turn into joy via the emancipation of His Excellence President Mohammadu Buhari (GCFR)

I sense Yoruba Muslim idiot

gasparpisciotta:
No big deal Mr Reno, there will always be opposition.

When will people like you get sense , please my friend find your sense of reasoning

Theundertaker:
Good evening house , I need ur help

I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for more than a year now and our relationship seems perfect , but the only problem I have is that she has a serious boyfriend, I really love her and I know she loves me too but this her boyfriend has been our obstruction. I don’t want to leave her , that’s not an option, She doesn’t want to leave me too , She’s so perfect for me and I think I am done searching.
I am thinking of plotting a way to make the guy know we have been dating , without it coming from me , so they can break up . My sister is discouraging me but it’s my happiness.

What else can I do ? leaving her isn’t an option, I have tried dating other ladies but non of them seem to meet up .

Karma they said is a bitch , it's coming to you very fast

Chuky7:
my guy no b so O...my G was just escorting me down to my destination he had somewhere else to be sef along that same route
but babes no one hear

Everybody is not the same maybe she want it private
Or she have issue with ur friends or that ur friend is toasting her some of friend can be crazy atime don't over trust friends

Chuky7:
she walked out on me on my birthday...she was jealous of how I was always rolling with my guys every time...
The day of the birthday she and I were to go out to a nice guest house n chill. we were to meet at a certain junction. on getting there she my friend with me and got pissed off and went home. saying stuff like we were supposed to spend time alone and together. I was so fvck pissed off I went to the guest to chill with my guy instead. ordered drinks like mad.
Girls get moved by stupid shit sha

Oga tell yourself the truth, you bleeped up you don't suppose
To involved your friend during your special time with your babe

dangermouse:
A hungry man answers only to his stomach! Who am i to condemn thier action? The government need step up thier game and stop paying lip service in the fight of this pandemic!

Why will you condemned them while everybody know that's what only Yoruba people can do and it your job

holocron:
This is total nonsense. Government is insensitive and heartless. These are poor market women on their way to buy supplies they sell at their home markets for the upkeep of their children. Perhaps their children will go hungry this week because of this.

You're senseless, what if they have this virus and go there and spread it to aba people

Undissputed:
I've heard of guys here trying to shame women by asking what women offer in relationships. But the truth is, same questions should be asked of we male folks.

In the midst of the growing moral decadence, we are as guilty as every other gender, and that leads me to my hypothesis:

Most Nigerian guys have nothing to offer in a relationship.

Now, apart from money and sexx, what do most Nigerian guys bring to relationships? Most of the time, nothing else.

We are guilty of constantly sitting on our high pedestal, expecting the women we meet in our everyday life to come in a box with all the qualities we desire, yet we have done next to nothing to improve our own self.

So, again, apart from money and sexx, what do guys bring in a relationship?

A relationship cannot be built on just money and sex. We have set the standard so low that a man with money and a working dickk feels he is a god and can do and undo in any relationship he finds himself.

Because of this lackadaisical attitude, we see these men laying up women like eggs in a crate and paying their way through their many immoral fantasies. These are the men intentionally fuelling the current moral decadence and indignity among women, yet they are the first to shamelessly come out with their big mouth asking questions of the women whose decay they've been fundng all the while.

Today, try to have meaningful conversations with guys and you'll be surprised at the emptiness oozing out of their skull. Apart from boozing, smoking weed, and womanizing, what else do we offer?

God gave man a woman to nurture her, to teach her, to build her, to protect her, to encourage her in all things. But before a man can do such, he must first develop himself.

How many guys today invest in self-development? Very few.

Yet they want women to come to the table flawless, in their best attitude, and having developed into the woman of their dreams.

Men, keep dreaming.

The truth is, a woman is work. The woman was made for the man, and not the other way around.

That woman you are currently dating, God gave her to you. She is your responsibility. You must work to fulfill your responsibility to her and to God. Her only assignment is just to help and comfort you.

The bulk of the work is on we the male folks. So, if you cannot handle a woman in a relationship, please stay away instead of asking stupid questions and trying to ridicule the responsibilities (women) you are making a mess of.




PS: I am a man and this hypothesis applies to me as well.

If you're stupid and lazy , others are not like you, clout chaser

Babapyro:
Use your brain whenever you want to comment OK,it's very important.

Tell the idiot