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Trulydude:
Hello House,
Please I have a dicey situations here, can you give your input.
After concluding my youth service at Firm ABC in Lagos, the company wanted to retain me with a gross salary of 100k, but I don't want the job, I am an engineering graduate with average skills and so much potentials. I hate the job just because of it's description, it is base on trial and error and sometimes a lot of energy and effort is used to deliver some services, Moreover, the job is frustrating and tiring and also I don't think I see any likelihood of carrier growth from that job; because as an engineer you are to work under the supervision of a registered engineer before you get COREN certification.

Then, company CDE gave me another offer for 70k Gross, and the company is Telecoms company and I see a lot of potential with this new company, though the pay is something else.

So, please I need some experts views, comments and recommendations; which one should I go for?

Truthfully, I think some of these posts do not really need any input, as the bearer could easily analyse his/her gains and losses with the options available and settle for anyone perceived to the best for oneself.
But for the sake of giving us something to read about... Thank you!!!

Theonlysonofher:
While others are celebrating the new year today I am here sobbing because my marriage is at the verge of breaking.

I loved my wife with all my heart but I don't think I will ever forgive her for what she has done to my mother.

I am the only child of my mother. I have three sisters on my father's side.
I am married with two beautiful daughters. my mother suffered from diabetes, bp and high cholesterol. She is on a special diets strictly no salt or too much sugar.

She came to stay with me because the person who was taking care of her wasn't doing her job properly so I had to bring her to my house so I will be monitoring her health.

I have a house help who prepares all her meals with less salt and she also makes sure she takes her medicines on time without fail.
Everything was fine, my mother is not a troublesome person, she gets on well with my wife and most of the time she is in her room resting.

On the 20th of December my house help had traveled to the village to see her people and she will be back in January 4th so my wife and I have to take care of my mother making sure that her foods is less salty and medicines on time.

Since I am always working so my wife had to take most of the responsibility. It is only for a week and fews days until the house help is back.

She had agreed to take care of my mother during this periods of time and I thought everything was fine but I noticed my mother become distant and tired unlike her and I had no idea that she was actually dying and I have never suspected that my wife was maltreating her.

So Thursday being 30th December I was at work when my wife called and asked me to join her at the hospital because mama had a seizure.

I rushed to the hospital and my mother was in a coma state and I asked her what happened to mama, she said mama woke up that morning complaining about shortage of breath and she told her to go back to bed and rest hoping she will be fine by the time she will wake up.
Only for mama to fall off the ground and started shaking with foam coming out of her mouth.

I was in panicked I couldn't stop praying for my mother to get better and I didn't leave the hospital, my wife went home to take care of the children because she has left them with the neighbour and I had spend all night prayer vigil at my mother's bedside and glory be to God my mother woke up yesterday being 31st but the doctor report was not a good news for me.

Actually my mother was poisoned with salt and guess who did it? My beloved wife couldn't bothered to cook a different meal for my mother, she used to feed her the same meal we ate knowing full well that mama cannot eat the same foods as us because we are salt lovers, especially my wife, she love eating too much salt which I have warned her over and over again because it is also not good for her health.

I confronted her, she said she only fed mama the same meals we ate twice only but according to the doctor it was more than two times.

I am hurt that my wife doesnt love my mother or treat her like her own mother because if she truly loved her like her own mother she would have put her diet on consideration and not allow her to eat the same meal as us. I love her mother and u treat her like my own mother.

It pains me a lot when I remember five years ago when her mother was in coma state and she was staying with her at the hospital, she is her only daughter amongst three boys.

I used to visit them everyday after work, I will bring foods and I have even washed her mother clothes with my own hands, I have done with love because she is my mother. I called my mother in law this morning and I have informed her about what her daughter has done to my mother and she couldn't stop apologising and she is very disappointed with my wife.

But see how she has repaid me by hurting my own mother.

She has apologised to me and to my mother, I have forgave her but I don't think I can stay with her again because one day if I become sick or bedridden she might treat me the same way.

Honestly speaking I am not even at home with her and the kids, I am at my cousin brother's house since yesterday I left the hospital and my mother is still in the hospital because she needs more treatment and hopefully she will recover by next week.

I don't feel like going home today and I don't know when I'll go home but I will always be there for my girls because they are the best thing that ever happened to me.

What other advice would you give me on this situation? What are your thoughts? Thank you for reading all I love this community.

Sorry about your situation. You are not at fault here. You have done your best! And this is not also enough reason to break up your family, just re-advice and re-instruct your wife to stick to the rules of engagement with your mother, that's all.
Most women are like that, they always think they work harder than their husbands and easily feel maltreated or cheated. I think it's in their gene.
Just straighten things out with her and move on. Thank God mama is still alive and she will live long

Nigeriadondie:
Thr idea if kneeling down is what I don’t like. It looks so dehumanizing. If I were the pastor, Inwould have lifted or prevented the man from kneeling down in the first place.
Also, publicizing this is not necessary. The principle of what your right hand does do not let your left hand know has been violated

I had to watch the video to see the kneeling down part and to be honest, I don't see anything wrong in that. It's not worship, it's just a show of appreciation. I would even prostrate I if given that kind of gesture to show gratitude. The preggy wife also knelt but was quickly raised, he tried to raise the man but he chose to remain. Absolutely nothing wrong.

amnesty7:
Congratulations to them.
Thank God they are both from Bayelsa...if you know, you know

Infact, until they wrote from Bayelsa, I already believed they were Hausa/Fulani. I had to see Bayelsa the 2nd time to be convinced.

Aburada:
Not surprised always hungry of attention.

Someone that has $30 billion dollars in is account is bragging of making 22 million dollars

$30 billion bawo? Someone cannot play with you? Is that how you used to do...?

If I must reciprocate your gesture of bringing the quagmire here... I would advice you act within your capacitation. It is good to share and help, albeit they may not be able to recompense you for it, only God will.
At this point, I just want to pay you back in your own very coin (Prof!).

thorpido:
Well,due to exigencies, the husband's apathetic nature and the wife's unceremonious position,you have to ruminate and decide if being benignant is laudable at this stage or one considers towing the path of frugality and responsibility.

Score Board 1:1

Let's even forget about PSquare's criticism, is this a good way to request for help with timeline? Bastard! I am having a feeling he is even Ghanaian.
" I NEED 500K BEFORE NEXT YEAR". Go and rob na... Bastard!!

yuping:
This monarch get him own for body, I just imagine what a terrible and horrible husband he will be without being a King. He is a joke let the truth be told.

It's very certain that Nigerians love to be victimized and used anyhow. Those who respect them and treat them with humaneness are tagged "a joke".
The same way Sanusi was never appreciated for all he sacrificed for this country and her ungrateful people.
Educate yourself this maligning fellow. Watch his clips and learn the kind of person the King is. May be his getting too comfortable with you miserable people is why he is being disrespected.
Nigerians love those who enslave and abuse them from time immemorial.

EBMedia:
https://www.instagram.com/p/CYEajmLNvEI/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

Mumu man!!!

Kay17:
The North is responsible for the corruption in the oil & gas industry and in the politics of the Niger Delta.

In what sense....?

Stargurl20:
Just as being married do not stop men from being attracted to other women and even going as far as frolicking, it's exactly the same with women, just that most women are able to tame their attraction towards opposite gender because they respect their marriages.

And husband's don't respect their marriage?
We should know better than generalizing our perceptions.

isaiah4life:
Oil belongs to Nigeria but the soots belong to Niger Deltans, right?

Oil spillage belongs to the populace in the suburb.

The region giving the supposed giant of Africa wealth is not reaping the dividend of their proceeds.

How banal!

Well said, sir.

How about the ones you were given? Have you accounted for any? We all saw what happened with the NDDC the last time and the fainting Chairman. How the south-south past governors (Alamieyeseigha, James Ibori others) mis-managed funds. Ownership of oil that you cannot do anything tangible with. As far as I know the monthly allocation of the south-south states doubles and some times tripples the allocation given to some states in this same country.
The south-south (& Nigerians) should be accountable first and every other thing will be fine.
The only thing I find unjust and inappropriate is the ownership of oil Wells in the south-south by the Northerners, that is what should be fought against.

Northernblood4:
You hijab wearing pigs supported when Soldiers were sent to do all these atrocities to SE indigenes. Now, you guys are crying.

Die pigs die. Iko onye ji ama ka eji amara onye.

It's like you have a psychiatric issue. they are talking bandits and you are speaking about soldiers.

You guys are bastards! So becos of your useless 20k you organized a stupid drinking competition just to make someone lose his life. This is part of how stupid we behave and be blaming others for a bad country.

Ocholu:
Back then in the university, when I was mildly still a simp, I met my ex towards the end of our third year. So beginning of 1st semester, final year, she had a little accomodation issues. She was unable to a hostel allocation from the school so the only hope was for her to stay off campus.

Money for lodge to stay off camp wasn't there. Will her parents send her money? Nope! Upon all these lamentations, she was just looking at me to shake body. So one day, see dragged me out to go see a lodge an agent found for her, while we got there, she liked the house and was ready to pay for it immediately.

After them give her account details; oya pay na she started doing anyhow. Few minutes she came to me asking me to borrow her 60k. That she'd refund me soonest. As a lover boy then na, I no too reason am. I think say the banny go pay back. I wired the money Everything settled.

So one day na, after we finished some heavy gymnastics in za other room, my ex open mouth tell me say "as of today, she's not owning me anything". That she has balanced me. Meaning all the s**x we've been having she's been deducting it from the money I borrowed her.

The thing shock me. I just shake head. Well, after our graduation, if our relationship was based on transactional s**x, I for de owe her up to like 10 Million. Because wetin we knack ehn! Hmmm!

And then you graduated with a 3RD CLASS, because it's obvious you were too busy knacking

optimistfeel:
Ivory coast is using Nigeria govt and it people to catch cruise..............cos they know things are not working well in this country, they are ready add to sands to garri of Nigerians living in their so called country. .... .... Nigeria govt should make things right for us in this country so we won't av effrontery to go that route again..

THE TRUTH IS THAT - A LOT OF TIMES WE JUST SHOUT... THE NIGERIAN GOVT! THE NIGERIAN GOVT!! BUT YOU AND I WHO ARE ALSO NIGERIANS BEHAVE VERY BADLY. ITS SO SAD.
We can't behave in this terrible manner and expect a fantastic nation. It's impossible!! This so called Nigeria is not getting anywhere and there is perfectly nothing wrong with the nation but the people.
Nigerians are the most selfish, inconsiderate, unreasonable, lawless people I know...

This is a case of WHEN GOD WANTS TO EXPOSE YOU, IN ALL YOUR WISDOM AND SMARTNESS YOU WILL BE FOOLISHLY CAUGHT.
I admire a man like you, you really have strength not to have fallen for her lies after the incident and ending the relationship. You be man!

jrusky:
Guys guys pls why can't you ask the police the picture of the dead man?

Yea he slumped and died baa? Where is the picture or video evidence?

Exactly my thought!

How are we sure he is really dead? I hope it's not all an escape plot. Cos I don't trust the Nigerian Police.

This is how they get COVID and later say it's Africans. Bastard Americans!!!

Successmind:
Tooor, congratulations to the ripper, the ripped and the observers...

And the rippees

Only to get divorced few months after

You and your girlfriend should go for a thorough treatment preferably with Sulbactam (injection for resistant bacterial infections). You will be fine.

What the Nigerian Army and all other miscreants under the identity of uniform wears don't know is that, this vicious circle will also consume them.
"
The NA being a professional force has utmost respect for the sanctity of human life and zero tolerance for infringement on the rights of the citizenry."
And we all know that the Nigerian Army is not anywhere near the above statement.

These are the kind of useless youth we have successfully bred in Nigeria today. Acting crazy and commiting suicide is their watchword.
I don't know how these stupid boys and girls are allowed to attend shows in the first place.

Ebubeslym:
Nigeria is not a real place

There's nothing wrong with Nigeria as a place. We the occupants are the problem. Nigerians are badly behaved people (at least, above average).
We indulge in acts that will destroy the country, yet we pray for miracle to happen. It will never happen! No miracle will happen in this country and we are all trapped inside it.

My advice for you is not to be too picky, as none of us are without our shortfalls. Just look for the one you can manage and can manage with you.

KiNg0G:
I didn't know it was hard to pray, untill I was given microphone today unexpectedly.

I wouldn't say I disgraced myself, but bro you supposed know how that kind thing dey be.

Elders are there, deacons and deaconess are there ever ready to be called at any giving opportunity, na me when sit down my own jejely for congregation dey look time...na pastor see call.

The full church was just observing as the usher was bringing the mic to where I stood.

I fumbled, even my voice for the speaker echo, the way my voice sounded in the speaker, some people Burst laugh.

Where I want start from,

My buddie that came with me to the church.(guy man just smiling sheepishly)

I just had to coordinate myself a little, I kept it short and simple.

Well, na small thing dey disgrace person.

A young man like myself go come dey fool myself say I nor sabi pray.. thank jah for how it played out.
It wasn't really that bad... he's not supposed to Take me unaware.

Because it was just as if the pastor get me for mind before.

Ever since have been attending that church it's elders, deacons, evangelist he normally calls to give closing prayer... and I know he normally informs them down.

As for my pastor am thinking about having a chat with him, I really didn't like it.

He can't just take me unaware like that.
if he wanted me to pray the closing prayer, he should. Have sent the usher with a piece of note to come inform me.
That would have been better, not calling me unexpectedly.

Just let it slide bro! It's nothing much. I believe as a young man, you should be ever ready for any challenge, situation, condition life throws at you. Be ready... more will come from your place of work, meetings, other gatherings etc.

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Gaggii:
I must confess, the only challenge in my marriage is sex, I was not a masturbator as a bachelor because I have girls around me, if one no come another go show, but as a married man have turned a chronic masturbator because my wife is always complaining that she is tired.

I would gotten a side chick, but I had a second thought because the consequence will affect my home financially.

Am just so fed up.

If you are married and in same shoe, how have you being coping

You need to also adjust your Psyche. Being married doesn't mean sex-at-anytime you need it. At least, It's not like that in 95% of marriages.
Having a side chic too will put you through a lot of inconveniences, and it's not as if you hadn't done all that in the past.
Sir, you have to adjust your self a little to the current circumstances, most especially if your wife is also working and contributing to the home as well. You will be fine.