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I am the happiest man on Earth right now.

Liverpool must never let Man U derail our train of success. We must widen the distance even with a game in hand.

Hespee93:
Psychology of human learning. We shouldn't be looking at matters the way it is. The lady might not have the intension in killing him. To before warn is to before serve. The lady might have been warning him several times to stop and he didn't. One thing I do like most to do in my life is that when ever am playing with someone and discover that the person have started picking up object to hit me, I will imediately stop. 'The person that's being hit by a verhicle will never waite to to get the plate number.

You have a point.

However, the problem I had with some people's posts is that they are of the opinion that it served the man right. That is, he deserved to die.

Many of these people have at one time or the other greatly provoked someone (even if not sexually). Supposing the person they provoked had smashed a bottle on their heads and killed them in the process, how would their parents feel if someone said their child deserved to die?

There are men who beat their wives to death because these women were provoking them with nagging and thereby causing them mental stress. Would it be right to say it served the women right? We all know nagging is bad habit, and constitutes domestic violence. But is the punishment for nagging death? Moreover, how many of these men set out to beat their wives to death? It always boils down to anger, and not premeditated act. But yet, we condemn the man. Life is very precious. But it appears like men's lives are not as precious as women's.

A man beats up a woman because she provoked him. The world condemns him, calls him an animal, tells him that he has no excuses for putting his hand on a woman.

A woman kills a man because he provoked her. The world condemns the man, tells themselves that the man deserved what he got, that the woman had every excuses to have put him in his place.

No, that should not be the case. Without knowing it, we are creating yet another unbalanced world in our bid to protect women. We are victimizing men in the process.

kashoggi:
There may be an underlining trauma she previously suffered which could have started from being touched like that. We can't know what went through her head at that time. It's unfortunate

That is a possibility.

atmstyle:
I am happy you agree that the charge should be more like voluntary manslaughter.

Did the man pay her bride price that he'll be manhandling her waist like that? The refusal of the man to stop handling her waist clearly violated her sense of purity, dignity, and decency, and led her to react in a flash of righteous indignation , otherwise called anger, aka '5 minutes of madness'.

Unfortunately, a weaponized object was close at hand. Otherwise, the woman should have reported him to relevant law enforcement/ human rights entities for legal disciplinary action.

Might not be the case.

What if he had always had his way with her in the past? Maybe she was angry about something and transferred aggression. It could be that the man was trying to playfully calm her down or make her smile and she got angry and stabbed him inflicting a wound that proved fatal.

There is not enough background story. We don't know if it was his first time or that he had done it in the past. We don't know if her reactions to his actions had always been hostile or friendly.

Even husband and wife fight in a manner where husband might repeatedly touch wife to indirectly ask for forgiveness and wife will keep saying, "Don't touch me!" Supposing wife gets too angry and stabs husband, she might make her case thus, "he was trying to get violent with me..."

The police report did not also state the extent of the relationship that the woman had with the victim prior to the incident. Was it cordial or has it always been cold and hostile?

thatigboman:
temporary insanity

Yes, temporary insanity would be a component of voluntary manslaughter.

atmstyle:
She might have done it in self defence. May be the 'play' was getting to look like sexual assault.

The man should have restricted such play to wife,fiancee, main lover.

One guy just got sacked for same reason.

You people should stop abusing the word self-defense.

The summary of the police report stated she stabbed the man because he would not stop touching her waist. There was nowhere it implied that she felt that her life was at anytime in danger. She stabbed him out of anger, not in self-defense.

This does not even remotely sound like a legal homicide. Although it is more of voluntary manslaughter than murder.

Smartchoiice:
She's going to get out scot-free

Never.

The least she would get is a light sentence if she gets a good lawyer to help revert her charge to voluntary manslaughter.

But, she can never escape prison.

Xavfra:
She should face d wrath of the law

Exactly.

Although with a good lawyer, she can have her main charge turned from murder to voluntary manslaughter so that she can get a light sentence.

But light sentence or not, she will never come out the same woman. She will remain an ex-convict for the rest of her life.

Hespee93:
What is callous and insensitive in what he said? Lets be frank if someone he or she doent like someting we should let it be. Men are storbun

So, he deserved to die

LadySarah:
Not making excuses for her though but he kept touching her after severally warning him. She didn't know it will end up killing her.

One just lost his job cos of touching too.

Get the message, when a woman says no tke it as no. Going further could result to something regrettable.

But that was what you ended up doing.

You didn't even condemn her extreme reaction.

Many women don't even want to hear excuses for a man beating up a woman. But you are making excuses for a woman killing a man.

She has no excuses whatsoever for stabbing that man. No excuse whatsoever.

gidgiddy:
Well history tells us that Awolowo went to serve Gowon who was young enough to be his son. Ojukwu, on the other hand, declared the independence of his people and fought for three years for that independence

One person who had no fight in him went to lick the boots of a Northerner young enough to be his son.

Another decided to lick nobodies boots and declared his independence.

Who do you think the world would admire amongst both?

Just like Nnamdi Azikwe served Ojukwu who was young enough to be his son.

isnovic:
It amazes me how we have become partisan and polarized.

A man's parents are dead, and we are playing politics with the dead.

Woe betides anyone who do not see a problem with the government posturing to harm him whilst he buries his parents and may it never happen to you.

At least, Generals call time off in war front to allow the dead of loved ones of the warring parties to be buried.

This is just sickening to think of it as Kanu's problems only.

It was Kokori the day before yesterday, Kanu yesterday and Sowore today tomorrow it may be your turn to stand up for the things you loved dearly, maybe your kids, parents of a cause who would die for.

We should stop this different tongues because at the end of it, it is US that suffers, this people and their children have not even know lack since they were born.

We earnestly should stop fighting ourselves for a measly online/internet e-warrior payment.

Trash!!!

Kanu is a terrorist.

No general will call time off just so a terrorist could bury his parents.

The rules of war do not cover terrorists. While warring soldiers show utmost respect for each other even while they bomb and kill each other, soldiers are not expected to show any form of respect for terrorists.

Wahala90:
It is funny how you picked an article written by one "nobody" on some unknown website as your proof. To continue with you come just tire me. Too poor.

A nobody call someone a nobody

What a life!!!

The NYSC has outlived its usefulness.

It is a waste of resources, and it has failed to unite the nation which was what its founding fathers had in mind.

I understand that tribalism has been rife from the 40s, and that the civil war deepened it, but the NYSC has failed to address the issue. Why should we continue to waste resources on such a scheme?

Military service is a better option. It saves resources, and it is far more dignifying. And this program would produce far more disciplined citizens than the NYSC could ever produce.

Wahala90:
Is this link your proof? So you can take this to a court as proof that Atiku rigged an election? You disappointed me. I give up. Gosh.

Then, you have no idea how the court works.

Everything is accepted in court, from eyewitnesses' accounts to publications. As long as this writer is willing to support his publication which was made with some level of confidence, and unchallenged as well for so many years, the court would only ask that the publication be corroborated with more proofs.

And there are many publications off and online attesting to Atiku's rigging prowess.

Investigative journalism outfits such as Sahara Reporters also published one such expose.

Miffia:
Hi everyone... Good Afternoon

I will keep this brief and short.. Ignore any typographical error, please.

I have this boyfriend, we've been dating for years now. The thing is, he doesn't last long during sex, he's a 2 minutes man, as you people call it. There was a time, we had sex, less than 1 minute, yes, I mean less than a minute, just 3 or 4 thrusts and he released. He was shocked, sad and disappointed, I was shocked too. I was even the one cheering him up, not to be sad, that everything will be okay, that's not his fault, he just wore his cloth and left.

This is someone I want to marry, we will soon do our introduction and wedding, and I don't want our sex life to be boring, we are not enjoying s*x at all, and I don't want to cheat on him... We love each other so much.

Please, anybody that has experienced this before, or know how to stop it should advice me on what to do, its not making me happy neither is my boyfriend happy too

Your advice will be appreciated.. Thank You.

Just know one thing, my dear. There is a difference between a boring sex life and the sort you have portrayed in your post. It is not until your man lasts 1 hour that your sex life becomes interesting.

An interesting sex life is one in which you are willing to try varieties of options. A 2 minute man can give you a fun sex life. For instance, you can have small sex throughout the day. If he ejaculates in one minute, you both rest. You can move about your room naked and even make him or allow him make you some toast and serve you without his clothes on. Then the next scene can happen in the kitchen with you leaning over the sink or against the fridge. You can start the next scene with a rimjob or a Mouth Gig. Whatever, just take it out of the bedroom or take it off the bed. You can even wrap your legs around him and let him do his job

Boring sex life has nothing to do with duration. If you like last 1 hour in bed, if you or your boyfriend are not willing to try out varieties like MouthAction, bathroom sex, kitchen sex, outdoor sex, toilet sex, doggy-style, corkscrew, face-off, g-whizz, pretzel dip, 69, party (optional), then your sex life will be extremely boring.

So, don't think that because your man is a 2 minute man that your sex life will be boring. Even with a 2 minute man, your sex life can be far wonderful.

Follow the advice I have given above. Aside the fact that it would make both of your enjoy sex more, it will also strengthen your bond and make you conscious of each other's bodies. And when your sex life improves, your boyfriend's premature ejaculation issue will just die unnoticed.

Wahala90:
Our reasoning show in what we say. Your stand is based on speculation without any proof while mine is based on fact.

SPECULATION: Atiku is a "master rigger"
FACT: Buhari toppled a democratically elected govt and killed youths unjustly as a dictator.

Read this then:

Atiku’s rigging prowess came to the national and international reckoning in 2003 when he spearheaded the gang that went on the fraud spree from state to state in the federation fixing the elections that ensures the return of the brutal government of Obasanjo to power. Few years later his blatant hunger and greed to ascend to the number one seat, and Obasanjo’s menacing dream to be a Life President threw the political cronies apart. This was indeed among the greatest blessing to Nigeria and Nigerians; imagine another 8years under Atiku after Obasanjo, only God knows what will have become of Nigeria. The pair became heated enemies. Hitherto, Atiku has been so supportive and loyal to Obasanjo; it went to the extend that, he was once reported to have described himself as the ‘Handbag of Obasanjo’.
http://www.gamji.com/article6000/NEWS6953.htm

Wahala90:
I was forced to read through my post to see where I cited PDP. You just showed your way of reasoning.

I didn't just quote you for the sake of it.

I ensured to first carry out a systematic randomization on your posts, and as soon as I saw your posts supporting Atiku for 2019 presidential elections, I began to frame my post.

If you didn't see anything wrong with supporting Atiku, an obvious master rigger, I don't see why Buhari's past as a dictator should be any of your concern.

ArticleBeast:
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KingSatan:
Like I said, no woman will ever tell her the truth.

If you had read my post, you would have seen where I said "Marriage is not a smooth sail". What if you have comprehension issues?

If you had compared both posts truthful, you would have noticed that there is a big difference. What if you have a microscopic Intelligent Quotient?

Or better still, you are a just being a WOMAN THAT YOU ARE!

For the records, my story is not a true love story. It's actually a MARRIED MANS EXPERIENCE IN WRITING. NO LYING, NO HYPOCRISY


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Trash!!!

How can Satan be happily married?

Demaduka:
My dear, is any man of God forcing you to pay tithe or first fruit? Please keep your money and your poverty. However, it only fools that doubts proof. Those who are obeying God are reaping the benefits that follows their obedience. Problems with some chronic unbelievers is that they claim to know it all while as the scripture says of natural man like you in 1Corinthians 2:14 But the natural man receiveth not the things of the Spirit of God: for they are foolishness unto him: neither can he know them, because they are spiritually discerned.

Pastors use emotional blackmail to force people like yourself into paying tithes.

Pastors are very smart. They don't use guns to rob people. They pervert the Scriptures and use the perverted Scriptures to rob people.

One component of emotional blackmail is fear and that is what the controllers/manipulators (pastors) use the most on their victims (people like yourself).

For instance, when a pastor says things will be tight for you if you don't pay tithe, he is using fear to force you into paying tithes. Some pastors, like Adeboye, use the fear of hell to force people into paying tithes. He says that if you don't pay tithe, you will go to hell.

Pastors are like Yahoo Yahoo boys. They don't rob with guns. Rather, they use strategies that work on people who are easily fooled.

A Yahoo Yahoo guy does not need a gun to rob a white woman in Canada. All he needs is to pretend to love the woman. He gains the woman's trust and uses other tactics to force the woman to start sending money and gifts to him. Yahoo Yahoo boys' major targets are lonely old women who need love in their lives. The Yahoo Yahoo boy promises the old woman love and she falls for him. The major targets of pastors are the poor and the greedy like yourself. The pastor promises them money if they tithe. And they fall for the pastor's tricks.

Very simple, my friend. It is left to you to continue to let them scam you. You have a brain. Please, use it.

And yes, you ought to have a Bible. Read it!!!

engrelvis:
who told u dat ? n where do u get ur statistics from? Few complaints from married couples doesn't mean dey r nt happy. Just b sincere n also b ready to make sacrifices for each other .every other things will fall into place

The question the OP asked can be used to get people's opinion on whether they are happy or not in their marriages.

I used a standardized questionnaire on a study some 2-3 years ago on 530 participants from three cities. I also used certain couple-based scales with high internal consistency.

About 98% of those whom I sampled (men and women) were unhappy in their marriages. Mind you, I controlled for age and other such demographic variables and years of marriage, so all those things had nothing to do with it. Sex, age and years of marriage played no part in how unhappy my participants were in their respective marriages.

Moreover, my scales had relatively shorter items, and it was very obvious that there were no central tendency bias.

It is one study I would like to do again, though. But I have the feeling that the result would be worse than the first.

onadana:
I don't think you're in tune with reality.That was then...times have changed when people suffer in silence.

Nothing has changed.

Seeking public validation has some form of association with a lack of life satisfaction whether in marriages or in personal life. It is one reason why people live fake lives, for instance. They are on social media giving the impression of scoring high on life satisfaction when in fact, their lives are far from their ideals.

So, many people are suffering inside but they come to the public domain to project the perfect life. This desire for validation might be a coping mechanism. And it might also be for the trivial reason of satisfying society's expectations.

A classic example is Tonto Dikeh who gave us the impression of a perfect relationship until their marriage fell apart.

Psoul:
Yes, I will marry her again and again.
We have shortcomings, sure we do, but we are perfect in handling each other's imperfections.

I don't think another woman will be able to manage me the way she does and also, I don't think I will be able to manage another woman or see perfection in another woman's imperfection the way I see in my wife.

We are made from above.
Two imperfect individuals managing their imperfections perfectly.

I love my wife.

Another lucky man.

God bless your home.

queengift:
I will never marry him again, I made the worst mistake in life, Thank God I came out alive.

Lucky you.

But I hope you have identified your own contribution as well? Because we always tend to put all the blames on the other person so we end up not learning anything.

For instance, if you are hot tempered, accept that fault and work on it so you don't carry that issue into your next chance at love. And if your own problem is excessive jealousy, work on that as well.

YorubaLord:
Yes, Yes, Yes, Yes and YES !!! I'll marry her again any day, anytime!

There's an adage in Yoruba: A pe jeun, koni je'baje! Literal meaning... "A late Diner never feeds on scraps".

Proverbial translation... "A Patient dog eats the most sumptuous and juicy bone"

I kinda married late but, I definitely hit the bull's eye! The most perfect thing for me. I remain appreciative.

Bro, you are one of the very few lucky ones.

Vyolet:
When you are with a guy who is handsome facially with good physique, beautiful eyes, well behaved, not stingy, respectful, overall sexy and most importantly crazy in love with you. You will never want marriage with any other guy even if you come to this world ten times over.
So I will choose mine over and over and over again.

This sounds like fantasy.

Women and fantasy sha. SMH...

SouthSouth1914:
improved economy? In what sense?? A telecom driven industry where data is super expensive in a third World country is a yardstick for them to tie their findings!

Data is super expensive in Nigeria?

Please, say something else.

It was definitely not Messi that blocked her

His wife did

Anyone who understands women will know what I am talking about.

hazan041:
Please dear nairalanders I need your dearly advice

Am a student from a university here in Nigeria, it happens that I got 3.39 as my first gp which makes me unhappy but I didn't allow it to depress me... So the following semester I got 4.75 and now out of 8 semesters in total.. Am done with 4 now and my cgp totals 4.26 ... I have four semesters left.. Can I make it to 4.5? And what gp do I need to keep for each semester left to achieve that.... Thank you

Note: Don't talk about how grade doesn't matter in my life, am quite aware too as am not even planning to work with the degree

Bro, you have 4 semesters to go.

With 4.26 on ground, you can make beyond 4.5.

Just aim for As from now on. It doesn't mean that getting a B or C along the line will affect your goal. Don't get me wrong.

But just work harder for the As. If one or two or three Bs come along, no problem. Just make sure you work towards getting far more As than any other grades as from now on.

If I give you a GP to work on, it might affect you in the sense that you will start working towards that GP rather than working generally for excellence.

Don't limit yourself.

Good luck.

I am a first class graduate myself. I just aimed for As. I had some Cs and Ds but I didn't dwell on them. My sight was on getting as much As as possible.

Wahala90:
It is impossible to deceive any reasonable person that a man that believes in toppling an elected, democratic govt can respect people's votes or the rule of law. Only a fool will argue this.

When PDP wins at the tribunal, we don't hear you give credit to Buhari.

But when APC wins, you all remember that Buhari toppled a democratic government.

Tell me, was the 2003 elections free and fair? And yet, Atiku sat through it as Vice President. Yet, some people were/are of the opinion that the man should be president.

All those rigging down the line perpetrated by PDP is tantamount to disrespecting people's votes, isn't it?

If you have forgotten, by 2010, people were already so disillusioned that their votes don't count, all thanks to the master riggers, PDP, which included Atiku Abubakar who has become a saint to some Nigerians.