₦airaland Forum

Well said Bishop - you know your colleagues very well and their predictive spirit.

higherpower:
At the end, no good and reliable answer. Some even came to quarrel. Na wow Church goers and Choir masters n Pastors. Isokay!!! I will keep searching

Reading their comments just make you laugh. Why the insult. If you read that bible verse, it literally means Jesus had come during the time of the disciples. Jesus kept referring to himself as son of man - well I actually don’t know what son of man means to him except the translation was gotten wrong.

dikcom:
What do you mean by privacy in an institution of marriage?

My first question to you is - Are you married? When a man begins to monitor the wife, that’s the beginning of the end of that man. The man will know no peace.

A lot of people are screaming - DIVORCE YOUR WIFE. Divorce is not as simple as ABC. This is his family, they have a child together. He must first seek ways to repair and save his marriage. I agree that he should report the man to his wife, so the man can begin to feel some impact too. However, this also depends on the power dynamics in the man’s house.

Please Oga OP, manage your home. I cannot advise you to divorce your wife. I won’t be there when you go through that painful process, neither would any of these loud mouthed commentators who are reacting to your news. However, what I would say is that whatever action you take, like it bring you peace.

I thought she was engaged at some point.

This woman belle no dey big? This the same, no change

Tolexander:
I had to scroll down to verify the source of this news.

If Sowore actually said this, he is not fit to lead Nigeria.

I'm expecting him to tell us what plan he has to develop the economy and not manifestoes like this.

Words like this hasn't made him different from the semiliterates that have been leading us.

Well said. Small business owners cannot pay N100k. Where are they going to get the money from? It’s a campaign promise that depicts the unseriousness from Sowore. Once you pass such bill, anyone paying less than a N100k for labour is committing a crime.

I don’t think he is thinking properly

Attention seekers

vanida6:
I wish to get that kind ass one day to tempt does rich men's in abuja

i don die here ooh wit NL guys

Go and look for work to do. Lazy girl

Aremolekunowo:
I really appreciates everyone that has contributed advice, lashes,rebukes, pity etc...may God bless u all. The following are my points, view and decisions;
1.as at the time this thing happen I was not well informed about the danger of genotype error I only know its not proper for as and as to marry because of (sickle cell issues)
2.my mother in-law later owned up that she took my name to different mountain and prophets to change my decision spiritually when I said I was not marring her daughter again.
3.I went to different doctor's when my in-law said they were both AA gene. and their daughter can't be AS and the doctors affirmed it
4. I was convinced when they show me the result that reads AA
5.I accept my foolishness by believing in deception and manipulations
6.The real reason I named him Ikechukwu...when I was in IBO land (Ohaja village in Awgu LGA Enugu state) for six years the people really love me and took good care of me and I love them too I also grew up together with them in Akure. when my son was born an IBO woman took the delivery here in Lagos,that same day I named him Ikechukwu, Ayodele, korede,king/Oba. but every body choose to call him Ikechukwu.
7.Each time I take him to hospital for treatment makes me very sad, for the pains and the money going down d drains.
8.this year alone I have taken him to hospital 5 times all my savings are gone, as my wife is not working and business is dull, I am just praying to God that he will not have any crises now as I am in a panic mode because of cash crunch
9.the love I have for her have disappeared to thin air, and shame has made my in-laws keep off from me and my family.
10.I expose my story so that anyone that read it and the comment's will surely learn from it and avoid my kind of error
This is now now my decision, my house rent(mini flat) expired this August as a matter of fact I told her am not renewing the rent for their is no money for it at the moment. In about 2 month time, two of us will have to go a separate way.For at least 3 years.
God will help me in taking care of the financial aspects.
Within the 3 years, if God help me and turn me millionaires, we can come back again or if her God help her too and change her genotype to AA. I will accepts her but if nothing of such happens,then to your tent oh Israel.
am writing this with tears in my eye for I love my boy soo much.
in case you have any private advice or help for me pls contact me on vinctay2003@yahoo.com or 08025863159 . yours in naira land. IBUKUN Victor GBADEBO. thanks God bless you all.

This is a sad tale. I feel for you, your baby and also your wife. She should have tried to work to relieve you off the financial pressure because her lies got you guys into this. I can see that money is the main factor for your decision and I completely understand you. Her Genotype would not change so forget that. However, please note that she is your wife and family and I’m surprised that your wife’s family had abandoned you in this time of crisis. You need all the support you can get.

southernbelle:
I don't think you were right to send this text to your girlfriend's father irrespective of what you were told, what you have witnessed or how you feel about them - you haven't married their daughter yet and even if you have, there are limits to what you can say.
Parenting has no manual, you will get there someday and I am very sure you won't appreciate it if someone treats you like this as well.
So please apologize to her parents if you still want to continue the relationship.

What kind of apology does he want to give. He should end the relationship because he has blown it due to his stupidity. The lesson he needs to learn is never interfer into people’s matter regardless of what you hear. They may never be telling you the truth in the first place.

smartcodesng:
I know we do have some shots here. I need your advice on this. It’s about my girlfriend and her parents. While she was in 100 level they catered well for her till she got to 200 level that we started dating. Her parents doesn’t send her money cos they think she is wayward. I have been taking care of all her bills to the very least of them. Anytime she is on call with her parents (either of them) it’s always quarrel and arguments. This has made me develop hatred for them. She claims that since they became deeper life members that was when all these problems started cos she doesn’t wanna be acting the way they want. No trousers and all that. Now he wants her to go for her Masters and it’s causing a huge problem. Knowing that he didn’t contribute anything to her since her 200 level I was infuriated cos if you didn’t contribute nothing during her Bsc pursuit then how does she cope doing masters. I was so angry that I did the most stupid thing I have done in my life. I texted him this and my girlfriend goes rogue on me. Is it safe for me to continue in this relationship?? One thing about hatred is that you can’t undo it so please I need all your advice on this. ⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️



This is not intended to disrespect you in any way. The way you treat your kids is not right. You don’t have to force a career on them. Sorry to say but you and your wife lack the understanding on how to go about your kids. Just because you don’t want them to be useless doesn’t mean you have to stress them mentally. They don’t have the parental support that they need in life rather they are scared of you. Why do you think they don’t like coming to the house. Their fathers house is more like a lions den to them. If all parents were like you and your wife then the world would have been a disaster. Take it or leave it you have failed as a parent to your daughters, who knows what you will put your son through. The sooner you realize that we are no longer in your good old days the better for you. Don’t make your kids hate you because you need them. Have a lovely day..[b][/b]

ARE YOU MAD??. What right do you have to send such a message. Even husbands who are legally married do not text their father-in-law such. What kind of child are you? Who are your parents? Your girlfriend should leave you because you are not matured.

First, I must say you are causing yourself more harm by intruding into your wife’s privacy. At this point, I don’t think you have the right to arrest your wife’s lover. He has committed no crime. Your line of thought would only cause you more damage.

Second, your wife is actually not matured. She is seeking romance outside of her matrimonial home. She is putting her marriage and family at risk. That lover of her would dump her if circumstances changes because nobody wants extra financial baggage.

Third, call a meeting and bring forth your evidence because after all confrontations, your wife has refused to change. However, if you consider your wife promiscuous, then that’s absolutely a huge problem because it has nothing to do with the guy, but your wife. If the guy leaves the equation, another player may enter.

Finally, I cannot advice your to divorce your wife. That’s a sensitive situation. However, like you said that your wife may read this; let me ask her - MADAM WHAT’S WRONG WITH YOU? YOU’RE COMPROMISING YOUR SITUATION WITH STUPID GAMES. THE MAN YOU’RE CHEATING WITH ONLY WANT FREE OR CHEAP SEX. PLEASE STOP IT AND ACT MATURED AND BE RESPONSIBLE.

Lirqur:
Well i am not your grand ma. Just watch and pray.

If you’re waiting for a rapture like in the Bible, it’s never going to happen. If you’re waiting for a rapture like mankind destroying itself, then I can believe you.

However, there is no Hell Fire

Liars

Wantedmiller:
Mr Moghalu, please can you add the Voters too.......

Voters are the highest clowns to be sincere.....

Ask some of them now, It either PDP or APC not even the people contesting.

They always chose to vote for party and not the person contesting!

At the end, trust voter they will start blaming the person and not party

The electorate votes don’t count. The main struggle is at party. Whoever controls the party determines what goes on in Nigeria. That is why there is so much party dramas and cross carpeting. There is no law criminalizing cross carpeting or effective control of members by their political parties

Temptee101:
This is unfair, the two of them enjoyed the act. Thought prostitution is illegal

I think he was charged for assault and not refusal to pay for services rendered

I never liked Jonathan’s Administration, but God bless that man. He is a responsible politician and well his regime is quite better than Buhari’s regime.

Reno no politics matter for you to talk about?

Is the petition sufficient to ban the music on YouTube? I don’t think so. The music has gone viral and the damage done already.

EmekaBlue:
Thats how one hugged me tight yesterday with her big chest....

I felt embarrased

My goodness - what a creep! She has no right to touch you in inappropriate places. How are you feeling now? I hope you considering seeing a therapist to ensure you are stable. There is a support group for traumatized men suffering from PTSD as a result of sexual assault or harassment from women. Please don’t forget to report that creepy women to the authorities. This world would be lots better without such a creep.

revolt:
U may think its weird but deres nuffn more irritating than when a woman (esp Lekpa or fat) u don't fancy touches u. It feels like rape. I feel u bro

You feel empty man. You feel very violated and irritated. Please where can we report such creepy women who go about sexually assaulting men. The other one is seeing women revealing their camel toes or cleavage. We need help. How can these scums keep revealing their privates in public.

Where are their mothers. So much oestrogen

pauljumbo:
They did not invite the nuisance called daddy freeze

Which would you prefer - Invitation from God or from Man?

These men are only important in Nigeria. When they step out of Nigeria, who get their time.

There are salient statements made by Fatoyinbo that o would love to analyze to show how these men with the fictitious lies and salacious tales engage in the habit of fleecing their members off their hard earned monies. I hope I find the time to do so.

marvinsync:
b!tch please...
judgement isn't coming on anyone,
that woman would keep doing this until someone shuts her down !!!

Yes you are right. She would continue and even become bigger like her godfathers Adeboye and Oyedepo who now dine and wine with politicians. However, her greed for material things shall be her downfall spiritually. Jesus said it in the Bible.

jchioma:
I have always loved this man - Kasali. He is true to his convictions. However, seeds work. It is a principle... whether you are giving to the poor, rich, god or devil, man or nature... spiritual laws of giving and sowing works. However, what is wrong is mandating people to sow to YOU.

I WILL RATHER IT BE FREEWILL.

Come; hey you! Will you shut up. It’s people like you that continue to embolden these pulpit robbers

jchioma:
I have always loved this man - Kasali. He is true to his convictions. However, seeds work. It is a principle... whether you are giving to the poor, rich, god or devil, man or nature... spiritual laws of giving and sowing works. However, what is wrong is mandating people to sow to YOU.

I WILL RATHER IT BE FREEWILL.

Come; hey you! Will you shut up.

Caseless:
@aremolekunowo

You actually believed AS can change to AA despite the test saying otherwise? You fall my hand.


Divorce your wife, not because she's AS , but because she's a liar. That woman can easily cheat on you. Imagine her parents joining her in the lies; this is the reason I'll even send her home more.

This is a tough decision, but why would she and her family deceive the young man and coerce him into marriage. What were they trying to achieve. Now the product is an innocent baby who is going to suffer the consequences of selfish and manipulative adults. That baby does not deserve it.

obi4eze:
Hmm...
This is deep. I really sympathize with you but I think you are to blame. Two different medical laboratories gave her genotype as AS but you still went ahead. Even if you divorce her look at what your poor son would be going through because you weren't a man but bowed to deceptive pressure.
It's your cross. Carry it!

Well said! He has to man up for that boy. However, it is sad to live with a deceptive wife.

I didn’t want to comment on this but I decided otherwise because you are traumatized. Like you have said, you need to take care of you because of your emotional instability.

In all honesty, nairaland is the wrong place to come for advice. 99.9% of the monikers commenting are only reactors. For you this is your reality, to them it’s another sad thread. However, this is a bad situation and complicated.

You can try doing a situation analysis. If you have the money, try to see a therapist. If you don’t see someone trustworthy and respected in order to avoid further molestation. Anyone you talk to will only offer their own opinion, but only you would take action.

Also, whatever action you intend to take consider it critically. The justice system in Nigeria is not an effective one and it would be sad if you experience double jeopardy in the view of seeking justice.

Furthermore, I know you are religious, but nobody can tell or show you the husband to marry. Please discard such belief. I know you are torn between the love you have for him and the harm he has caused you. Notwithstanding, only you can sort yourself out.

Try to care of you!

Quite an unfortunate situation. We await the full investigation. I know Calgary Police will conduct a thorough investigation.

MrPresident1:
At least you too heard no denying that

You don kolo. You don mad. Go see doctor.

modelmike7:
“Tell Senator Ben Murray-Bruce to complete the Ibom Tropicana Project,” he said refusing to disclose further information on his new claim.
Bruce is nothing but a thief and pained politician that is crying because there is no more free money to steal like usual.
He lacks common sense.

Are they not the same. My worry is Nigerians killing themselves over these people