₦airaland Forum

Eriokanmi:
He claimed he's 70 years old whereas, alhaja his first wife died at 74 in 2018. Does he look 70 to an ordinary tot?

Is this really an issue?

Is there something wrong if his wife happened to have been older than him? It's 2022.

GogetterMD:
When did it become possible to make sponsored posts for the FP on NL?

You should have known that it is paid once you see 15 topics in one day on :

"My wife is turning the children against me"
"I just dumped my girlfriend, she's so lazy"
"What do men benefit in marriage?"
"See my response to a girl who asked for urgent 2k"
"My girlfriend just did this!"
"My marriage of two years is falling apart! Why are women like this? I locked her outside and she started misbehaving"
"I'm so heartbroken, she says she can't marry me. I only have Waec certificate"
"Did I do wrong to my wife?"
"Is my girlfriend taking me for a ride?"
"I went to my ex girlfriends wedding."
"Why do girls like inviting their exes to their weddings?"
"How to be a good woman by 2008"

And it happens every week.

Especially the political threads. Ukraine threads. Etc.

ReadingIsWealth:
Feminism by itself is just that women and men both deserve dignity and mutual respect as equals. Some women do act closer to a "female supremacist" but thankfully this is rare. Though it is tempting, try to not let this "vocal minority" - that being female supremacists - define the label of feminist. Technically speaking, feminism just means equality of the sexes and no supremacy can exist with this definition.

Feminist women make good partners and are typically more intelligent. There is nothing like a woman with a body AND mind that excites you. Intelligence and humor are so strongly related and I thank God my wife makes me cry with laughter from her wit!

As a country we are very far behind rich and powerful nations when it comes to gender. Feminism has made the western countries rich and hold back so many ones like nigeria. If more women were career oriented here instead of just baby-machines, maybe we would not have a terrible population boom that will cause so much tension and instability in the coming years.

God help us.

No, they should keep women submissive

ccffwx:
Nigerian men can exhaust pages going back and forth on how women should submit to them, yet they can't contribute positively to the development of the world and even their country is in a shambles. What a confused and childish set of men!

Yep. That's why Nigeria is nonsensical. The few that can halt those thoughts to try being productive aren't much better. Once a man thinks like that, no matter where he gets to, he remains bottom of the barrel material.

It's probably because Nigerian men are empty without women in their lives. Thus the obsession with relationships and marriage comes from the men. I don't think the women are that vested in it. When their women aren't vested in it, after all the nonsense they post to make them feel shamed and do anything to have a man by insulting them and endlessly trying to deride them with a new paid thread every few hours, they call the women feminists.

Almost funny.

cococandy:
So you don’t want a submissive woman?

All your online preaching only to go date and egalitarian? If she’s egalitarian, then she’s feminist. End of discussion.

Glad you had enough reasoning to understand that a mindset of equality breeds the best type of relationships where your partner can truly be a partner to you not like a child under your authority.

Keep it up!

Female privilege, he says. Someone that wants feminism. When it favors him, of course. What is she bringing to the table? I want everything that I want.

Kobojunkie:
I have a very simple question. Why can't a man submit too?

Why must it be a woman submitting and not a man submitting?

Because that's the only verse in their Bibles that takes men to heaven. Without any logical reason, they wield fat Bibles hypocritically.

Kobojunkie:
Oh, I see now! Feminists don't submit, and the some is you can't submit yourselves, but expects the females to submit to you on grounds that they are females. I get it now!

The only thing poor men think of/entertain themselves with—apart from unending sex without contraceptives—must be the subjugation and objectification of females, without which their lives are intolerable and lack influence. Especially the "submit" crew.

A survey needs to be carried out on the red pill/"am-high-value"/macho/alpha segment of the forum. They all share one trait from childhood.

SKhanmi:
You'll be surprised most Nigerian women and even men won't agree with you. The women especially like to espouse the belief that it's acceptable for a woman to balloon up after childbirth without doing anything about it citing stress, busy schedules, hormones etc then turn around and complain about the husband eyeing ladies outside. Barring the genuine cases, the rest just have a lazy mindset.

It's not enough to marry a slim individuals, marry someone who sees marriage, health and wealth as a personal lifelong job and is constantly improving. Those types will never allow you settle for less.

P:S I know a woman who has 5 children and still looks extremely fit. Cars regularly stop to offer her lifts and numerous toasters whenever she goes out, even the husband is tired.

Why wouldn't she be fit when she has to walk everywhere, so that "caring men" in cars stop to give her lifts? She must have no choice in that "fitness".

Baawaa:
This is what you get when you married a harlot

You are trying to imply that Mr Nwachukwu is a harlot?

Magnoliaa:
Me, give you watin? Look at this one. Hehehe. If I cook for you, wo, you will just close eyes and pay 2 million bride price on my head straight!



You see you're a very stupid fellow wey im life don burst. You no get sense. Were you not the one bragging the other day about how WE used to avoid you? Ozuor. Ordinary to mention monikers, you dey edit nonsense. Na so fear catch you reach? Why you no mention dem with your full chest if dem born your baga well? Epa.

That evolutiolove is a callow clown. He saw me viewing the page and quickly copied and added to the the list of names that give him deep ulcers. Was curious as to when the mentions would come up. His modus operandi is familiar, almost as if one can pinpoint his brand of unwellness in the sea of his unwell "comrades".

I'll leave him to Klass99, JovialJune and Pocohantas. Because I like it when they descend on the unwell. Their brutality is a virtue.

But at least he knows to add the Lava separately. Anything less than that is treasonous.

And you, oga Magnoliaa, you! Lol.

FERNANDEZISBACK:
Your u**le deserve what got him..
Boom laying in the morgue with his mouth wide open like some trash ...

In your life don't you ever insult that lady.. transfer the agression at ya m*m..if you hate women then go hurt your m*m..just do it so everyone can have some decorum here..the fact that your m*m still feeds you doesn't give you the opportunity to troll people for displaying their meal..since you don't know the worth of a lady then do something about that woman at home..

Romanoff:
This one wants to get out of the trenches.

If legal, why not? Same thing as egg and sperm donations, surrogacy, porn and other things.

She should only be made aware of the risks to be sure it's what she wants. If she's happy to help someone else have 3 kidneys while she lives with only one, that's great.

But she looks as if bleach has entered her own kidneys too.

Hydroxide:
When she dey enjoy she no remember home and she did not even call home for years. When things do really bad, she remember home. I pray make I look that kinda person for face self. Rubbish

Have you ever cheated in an exam?

Don't care what people will say, do what is right and makes you happy. Congratulations to her. It must have been a dream close to get heart.

Education is not a scam.

BigBashiru:
It's not about entering marriage looking for exclusive benefits.... asking to be shown exclusive benefits is to demonstrate that it favors women more..... the redpill is good because it makes u aware of women's manipulations

And you aren't manipulative yourself? Has anyone made a gospel about that? Stop acting like only females are manipulative.

Red pill boys want to enter marriage looking for benefits and constantly scheming against women so that they can stay on top. Real life doesn't work like that. After a while, she will realise she's with a weak narcissist. And then you will know what favors men really receive.

Psalmistproject:
There's nothing like male prostitution.
It can be a phase in his life. But you know no man can actually survive or earn a living through sex to get paid. That guy you see there is only jobless. If you offer him a job of 50k per month he will leave that place.

It's a hard task for him to make it there vagina is not penis. How many rounds can a man go in a week?
Women that can pay for sex are domineering. If they finds him, they wouldn't want him to be with another especially if he's good in bed. This is also where the guy takes the advantage to cash out from sugar mummies.

So men can love sex. But to play prostitution? it'll be a joke except he's gay.

@bolded stop lying to yourself. It is recognized that men are prostitutes worldwide, but you prefer to live in denial.

As earlier stated, you are only moralistic when it is the female ones.

Mindlog:
You just keep offering your girlfriend sex and she provides for you in exchange ....what a lucky man you are!

Nothing like "a liability or unproductive man" in any comment. He's doing great with his fables!

Psalmistproject:
At least he's better than most men that spends their nights with different women and still pay with their own money.

Yeah let the ladies take him out and spend on him just as we stupid men do just for sex.

That means you support prostitution. You are only moralistic about it when it's female prostitutes.

Kingray10:
This nonsense is gradually spreading, the other news it's was Abuja, now enugu. Nigerian men are not known for this rubbish. This is new.

It's always been around. But Nigerian men like screaming loudest about Nigerian women being prostitutes. That way nobody looks in their direction. There are a lot of male prostitutes in the major cities. And they don't care if you're out with a wedding ring.

Purple2003:
Good morning everyone,
Pardon me if I am posting this under the wrong section (this is my first time of posting on this platform).

To the matter....
I need legal & other advice on how to handle a situation that's causing me a lot of mental stress. I loaned 280,000 Naira to my cousin's husband around January for his business. There was no written agreement (I blame myself for this) because I felt it would be awkward to ask a family member to sign papers before I help him. Although I have other proofs like recorded calls and conversations where I asked for my money and he kept on begging for more time. The agreement we had was for him to payback by March. I had plans to purchase a fairly used Keke-napep with this 280k (plus some money I had reserved in my account).

When it was time to pay, I called him a lot to ask for my money. Sometimes, he'll pick and beg for more time. Sometimes, he'll pick and just leave me saying "hello hello hello" without a word from him. Most of the time he won't even pick my calls. He once asked me to send my account number but he didn't send anything (I felt like a joke). This went on from March, April & May. During this period, I had spent, on feeding & other bills, all the money I was supposed to add to the 280k in order to purchase the Keke-napep. This Keke-napep would have generated money for this bills if I had bought it then.

I've been staying at his place since beginning on this month because I don't have any money to fend for myself. When I came here, he told me that his customers promise to send the money before 15th of this month but they didn't. Now he said they promise to send it by the end of this month. All these while I have been patient and tolerant with everything, including the treatment I've been receiving since I came here (I don't even want to go into these treatments). I've been staying indoor since I came here because I don't know anywhere in this area. Just sitting one place and waiting for time to run makes me think about a lot of things and it's depressing.

I can't take this anymore. Even if I have a soft spot for family members, I also need to think of myself by taking necessary measures to get my money back before they ruin my plan of purchasing something that will help me survive daily. I need advice, please

It's simple, really: don't loan to family and friends. You can give a perfect stranger, but not those ones.

Vahat:
We got married two years ago. My challenge is that my partner has a higher sexual drive and love sex so much.

Ever since we do make love,she has never for once be the one to say she is satisfied and that I should stop despite that most time it takes me between 10 to 25 minutes atimes to cum. The highest I can recall that i stayed long was 32minutes before I cum, yet in all these it looks to her as if I have not started the work and she feel disappointed anytime I cum because from her body language;she demands more and can withstand even up to one and half hours to 2hours before she can be satisfied and I can't go such.

I tried all I can but honestly I don't feel like a man for not even for once tell me or appreciate me on bed by telling me 'thank you, please cum na, your have stayed long,I am satisfied etc but will always rather willing to consume more and more despite that she needs sex most time and I responds to her demand. Even when I am tired and sweating profusely I keep on just to please her and I am getting fed up over this. I have never taken sex enhancement drug and will never take such.

I don't want to complain to her about. her insatiable sexual drive and how stressful it is riding on me to avoid her hiding her sexual feelings to me or taken it as insult or hurt her feelings and at the same time the fear of her looking for satisfaction from elsewhere. Please advise on how to handle this challenge.

This is why men should be virgins before marriage. Because other women have been begging you to cum, you have overused your organ and you expect to be praised for that. If you had stayed a virgin you wouldn't have any woman to compare with.

Now you're dissatisfied because you thought you are a stud. Men should marry as virgins. This is a reason why.

Learn to use your organ. Something about you is unstimulating to her. It has nothing to do with her sex drive.

GingerbreadMen:
The laptop is dated.

Wire him funds for a spanking new one.

Ryan03:
Good evening mamas, I have been reading but guilt has not allowed me post my problems, pls don't criticize too much, I am feeling very low as it is.

I am a single mum, had my son 2016, wasn't planned at all. Got a govt job in 2018 but one of the major rules is that I must serve for 2 years before marriage and I must not be pregnant before marriage else you risk dismissal. Started dating my husband in 2018, I try to track ovulation so I don't get pregnant and also take postinor when I am not sure of my dates. In December 2021, I got pregnant but opted for an abortion because of my job but I got pregnant in January 2022 again.

We were already preparing for Marriage but that was suppose to hold in February of which I am suppose to do a pregnancy test before the marriage, I couldn't stand it so I opted for another abortion. As I am typing this, I am regretting my decision cause I can't seem to get pregnant again. I have been trying but nothing and I am scared to tell my husband about going to the hospital for tests cause he thinks it's too early, he thinks I am just being anxious but I feel something is wrong, maybe it's guilt, I don't know but I just can't keep calm.

I no longer experience that ovulation discharge (egg white), it's just creamy through out the month. Is it that I am no longer ovulating? Is pregnancy possible without the egg white discharge? My next period is on Friday and I feel so scared. I am itching to go for a pregnancy test but I am too scared to be disappointed, yet it's so difficult to wait for my next period. I am in a state of confusion and guilt, it's so difficult going through the days, it's just so slow.

Someone introduced me to gorontula fruit, I ate it from my last period and stopped about 5days ago, the only change I noticed is that I didn't experience crazy PMS. I use to feel very hot, headache, breast tenderness, tiredness, increased appetite and pelvic pain during my luteal phase but I didn't experience any of it this month, the person that introduced me to gorontula said it's effect of the fruit. I only stated experiencing sore nipples this morning and slight dysentery which is one of my tell tale signs of approaching period, I am feeling disappointed already, the acne scattered on my face is enough sign already.

I feel like I am ranting cause I am finally letting this out, I can't talk to family, I don't have friends I can confide in neither does my husband takes me seriously because he thinks it is too early to be worried. I feel stressed out, someone pls help me, I don't even understand myself again pls

Relax. Everything will be fine. If what you want comes today? Tomorrow? It doesn't matter. It will be okay. Be anxious for nothing. You aren't barren.

babyfaceafrica:
Even marriage of 10 years doesn't guarantee you will know anything about a woman, life is deep

Then why are you against the OP color matching clothes with her?

Besides, even in 10 years of dating a man, a woman will know nothing about a man. Life is deep.

babyfaceafrica:
He is taking his time sir, no be everything person must rush.. It's just three months, not three years.. The gal should calm down

People have gotten married in less time. Every man who has focus will know what he wants already. Unless he's just there to play around.

Born2winnx:
Hello all
My girlfriend wants me to wear same native attire to her niece wedding on Friday. I thought she was joking when she suggested it last week, because I don't even plan on going due to my busy schedule. But to my surprise she's just came to my house with some yards of the material she bought with her money.

Though I appreciate her good gestures, but I don't think it's right.. We are not married. What will her people say when dey see me with her like that because her father, mother, brothers and sisters will be there, not talking about her extended families.

I had to confide with a friend and he told me blantly that it is a set up, I should abort. That he had witness a similar case in a party when a guy was behaving as if he had paid his girlfriend bride price...what happened was the guy didn't leave the way he came. I won't want that to happen to me but before I decide I like to hear from you all.

relationship is 3months
I don't know her family house, talkless to know who born her.. not yet ready to.

If a lady doesn't take the first step, you lot will taunt her with growing old while she waits for a man to approach her and set things up.

Now she has done it, you have all manner of condemnatory insight into why she's done what she did.

You Nigerian men are fond of pointless scheming about the intents of women.

This is where you will find them: fighting to control, coerce, dominate and subjugate women.

They can only quote their Bibles for that. But they cannot quote where it says to have one wife or keep away from fornication lest they be stoned to death or to love their wives. Or where it says not to steal and to pay their taxes. It where it says they are infidels if they can't provide for their families.

Everything pivots on submission—the only way for Nigerian men to get to paradise and feel good with a harem. The blame must go to someone else, and who else is the usual scapegoat but women? Neanderthal logic.

Deride females so that they will drop their standards and accept shit stains as men. Testosterone logic.

Billygee2u:
Deal mercilessly with him.
He's even an eyesore , destroyed his skin with yoruba bleaching soap.

This is very harsh, but funny. How do you know it is Yoruba bleaching soap? Do they have such a thing?

moneyissweet:
Afonja local agbero

Lol. You people just hate this guy. Maybe because he's not conventional.

whippersnapper:
Is it only me that hates this guy.

Because he's handsome and clean or what? Accept him as he is.

penultimatee:
Really,and the alfa can not tell him/her the truth.

We call others pastorpreneurs.

These are their counterparts, the imampreneurs and Alfa contractors.

By the way, what is an Alfa?

Righteousness2:
Just keep calm, and watch How this nonsense from the devil's kingdom will begin in Nigeria and various places in the world. They will call it fun and harmless.

We are living in injury time. The devil and the host of hell are very aware, and so they are throwing all sorts of things in various means. The target is lure the Inhabitants into all sorts of Immoralities, sodomies and evil so as to ensure they are kept away from Heaven.

Do not Fall for the gimmicks of Lucifer. Conciously put on the whole armor of GOD so that you will not fall a victim in these Last of the Last Moments..

That "nonsense" has been around for decades. It's just like television: the problem is that Nigerians didn't own one until a few years ago.

Garters are now panties.

chigoizie7:
There is this misconception that they are either taken or that they are players.

Same with beautiful women.