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Acidosis:
No such thing as "two good people"

Better to say: Two people who are good to each other.


When two people are good to each other, they can NEVER have a bad relationship.

Is this the remix or updated version?

Acidosis:
I disagree with him.

The question is who is a good person? "Good" will always be subjective whether we like or not. The subjective nature of "good" invalidates his argument.

If two "good" people can't have a healthy relationship, it simply means they're bad from their individual viewpoints.


Ask yourself, why would you want to leave a "good" person? Isn't that madness? No be juju be that?

It's either the "good" person is bad, or you're the bad one and you don't measure up somehow. Either ways, one is bad.

Make una no dey rush digest motivational quotes.

Honestly, as knowledge increases, confusion sets in.

Bluewitch:


I'm happy for her that her husband didn't cheat...and she's angry...
Kilo shele?.....
Other women wish they could see men like her husband

Eni ti o lori, ko ni fila.

Did not watch the video;

This sex for roles is getting stale.

Odunlade built himself and started producing his own movies.

If he asks for sex and you are not inclined, walk away.

I am sure if all the ladies walk away (if true) he will have sense.

Or if he is getting only low budget actresses because of sex and people stop patronizing his movies, he will sit up.

Not that you create an ecosystem of demand and supply and start crying foul later.

Some of these ladies offer directors and producers sex for roles; you don't see them shouting.

They either sleep with the lady for the role or turn her down and move on.

See how Lola held her husband tight

Beautiful pictures.

Congratulations Tobi

Oruko eni l'on to eni.

Oluwa tobi loba looto.

So a wife reported her husband to his friend that he is masturbating?

I am very interested in how the convo went.

The husband even told the wife that he is masturbating because he is Hot & she still reported him instead of giving him BJ to top it up?

And the foolish friend came to accuse the husband?

People that have such spouses like the wife try sha.

Choo choo choo upandan.

Local woman cannot can.

Bluewitch:
Yes!

There's nothing wrong with masturbating....
Or she should have given her sister to help him since she's not happy he was helping himself

The way you people bring gun to a knife fight sha.

Ki la gbe, ki le ju?

You were a way maker

On a serious note, be happy, he wasn't worth it.

If he thought you were not good enough, he should have broken up with you before exploring other options.

Bamzyriches451:
She won't eat the food

Na wa o!

Ever heard of profitless hard work?

Your own is zero to one thousand

motymop:
The story started falling apart when the writer started pumping out fictional figures.

His marketing salary was ₦30k working for a hair company in 2008 and he was spending 8k for transportation.

In October that same year, he got a job as graduate trainee in a bank and was earning 107k in 2008

Minimum wage as at 2008 in Nigeria was 5500 to 7500 naira.

The way the story is written is far from reality, it just like a normal nollywood script of from grass to grace.

N107k/mth bank job is fictional?

What if you now head stories of people earning N10m per month?

Or graduate trainee in Oil & Gas earning N800k/mth?

My brother, you need to expand your mind.

Not everyone is earning tashere salary on Nigeria.

There are people earning VERY WELL with their brains in Nigeria.

The combination of grace, diligence, hard work, brilliance, and continuous improvement.

Very interesting write up.

Also, the child's trauma starts when the family is dysfunctional and toxic.

The separation just adds another layer to it especially if they are not old enough or enlightened enough to understand why their parents had to part ways.

The solution is from the foundation: be right person and marry right. Also resolve any trauma you have to enable you raise well-rounded kids.

Some marriages are not toxic however, the parents' method of training the kids are.

Bamzyriches451:
Damn
Ain't married yet but once I do, I can never reject food in my own roof, rather I'll pursue my wife from the kitchen after she has finished cooking and I'll lock the kitchen door till she beg me

Lock the door to do what?

Finish the food? Stop her from eating?

ashatoda:
You are the worst fool for trying this. You sweat to bring food to the table and now reject your own sweat? I wonder why some men reason that rejecting food will change a woman. If she dey prove difficult at least my food no go prove difficult why should I lose on 2 fronts? It's only fools that reject their sweat because of a person

@bold:

You have taken it VERY personal

motymop:
It has every trace of being fake, many things do not add up in the story, also the site is known for cooking up fiction and presenting it as reality.

What does not add up?

The story is very similar and relatable to most people who have grown their careers deliberately.

ahnie:
I was told sex with past ex's is always a banger.







Pls note the **I was told part**
Thank you!

See how I dey use Isoko eyes look you

pocohantas:
This life ehn. The funniest thing is, if you still give them the EX, their eye go start to chook for another one again.

Human wants are just insatiable…

How else do you explain a man saying he wants a homely and peaceful wife, he marries her, leaves her at home and goes smoking loud with a 200L girl that can’t even cook noodles?

How do you explain a woman prioritizing the financial capability of a partner, only to go knacking her broke EX and even doing giveaway with her husband’s money.

I feel very few humans would have a sensible bargain in this marriage thing. I mean, get a partner that ticks like 7 out of 10, such that their wandering eyes would reduce small.

Many are caught between the partner they want and the partner the society wants.

Was just going to say the bold.

Genuinely knowing yourself, flexibility & contentment is key.

@OP:

Nice story, shows the power of hardwork, focus, diligence and consistency.

@Domestic workers:

Hope Zikoko told you to pay them much better than you are doing now.

You can afford it and the amount you are paying them can't carry them from your house to the bus stop not to talk of taking them home.

motymop:
I have never believed anything written on this site. Everything looks fake and madeup.

What is fake in this story?

The husband has custody of the child and still has to pay the fees.

What is the wife's responsibility towards the child (from the Court's perspective) apart from the periodic visitation?

Klass99:
Lol, Buka this is solicited. I said unsolicited gift of money, when you're not expecting anything and I hit you with it.

See me see wahala

If I send my accant in September and you send something in December unsolicited unko?

Or are you our dear Apostle that sends money to people's accant without having their detaisl?

Have my details first mbok.

udede:
I met this South African lady on a dating sight. She is middle aged and simply wanted a husband. I told her planely that I will marry her if she helps me relocate to South Africa. I also made it clear that i have a Nigerian wife at home. I want to be genuine and treat her well and marry here as a second wife.
She is still interested but I need real advice especially from Nigerian in the South.
She lives in Johannesburg

Is your Nigerian wife aware of this for a start?

Klass99:
Different things make me happy;

1. Quality time with family and friends.

2. Just touching, petting or holding a dog makes me happy - I love dogs and whenever I run into neighboours who own one I always seek permission to touch and pet.

3. Good company and companionship from either gender, but most especially when it's from a member of the opposite gender.

4. Cuddling, touching and holding someone I really like. It's so sweet when he is toned and muscled in all the right places.

5. Crime and mystery novels by any of my favourite authors James Patterson, Mary Higgins Clark, Frank Peretti etcetera
It's a real blast for me when I'm reading one of their novels and all of my favourite old school jams are playing in the background as well.

6. Listening to good music, watching entertaining programmes like The Survivor, The Debaters, Gulder Ultimate Search, movies and documentaries too.

7. Working out makes me happy too, I feel a massive sense of accomplishment when I successfully complete a workout routine - if only I could stay consistent

8. Having money to do things and not being broke.

9. Surprising people with an unsolicited gift of money.

10. Toping up and growing my savings with Cowrywise, towards different goals/targets.

11. Learning new things from the internet without having to acquire more formal education in a classroom.

Jeez, the list got long but you asked and I couldn't resist .

@9:

Let me send my accant biko for Christmas package

Congratulations to them.

God continually bless their home.

Shim, eku imoran.

BLOODYSPERM:
It's evolution, even to our basic somatic reproductive cells sperms and eggs we have millions and you have very few, Biologically and spiritually we are not equal, strong men retain riches and gracious women retain virtue ( dignity and Chasity) that's proverbs the wisdom that founded the heaven and Earth agreeing with evolutionary science, men are designed to spread their seeds and women to be very selective of the best man for their eggs, that's why in religions female virginity not males is a virtue, even Biologically men experience wetdreams releasing sperm and having the Sexual sensation of physically masturbating, most men can't fulfil their mating strategy because they are focused on survival and they die off during wars in history as women have higher like expectancy in Mordern civilization

You lost me at the bold:

I don't know the religion referenced, however in Christianity, male and female are expected to be chaste.

Fornication and adultery are not gender specific sins.

So it would be strange for God to judge men for adultery and fornication when He 'made' them that way.

debbydams:
im telling you

Na so we see am.

Lordsonn:
Hahaha hahaha. You made me laugh until I shed tears

I am even seeing somewhere that the woman's father booted out some of the husbands.

And she said she is still searching That's Tuface's sister: still searching for love after three women and seven kids

BLOODYSPERM:
A man will always be a man
Innately promiscuous that's our nature
But the sister is very wicked to do that, a shameless woman, she must apologize and family meeting must be called for final resolution of the matter

Who created you to be innately promiscuous?

And if men are innately promiscuous, who do you intend to sleep with?

Goats?

Fellow men?

Pure cruise

This world is coming to an end o!

If a man is a serial adulterer and useless, why do you want to stay married to him?

kingthreat:
The worst thing a man can ever do in this life is to get married to a woman who doesn't love him. Annie Macaulay never loved Tuface. Tubaba should stand his ground. Her two daughters for him will probably turn out to be just as toxic as their mother. He should invest in his other children.

Before you feminists insult me, remember the reason you know Annie Macaulay, is because of Innocent Idibia.

Did you type this with a straight face?

12543675:
Let me start off by saying that I always had self confidence until I entered middle school. I wanted to be the girl that everyone liked. However, I didn't know how to do that, and I ended up being the girl everyone hated in a toxic way instead. Girls were really cruel to me by excluding me and bullying me. I even got a nosebleed from one of them. Guys bullied me and even assaulted me for being ugly. High school was the same, minus the constant assaults.

Flash forward to my 20s and things haven't really changed. The only thing that changed is that men have stopped bullying and hating me and they are friendlier. Other women, on the other hand, have continued being cruel to me. I have had terrible female friends in the past who took advantage of my naivety, bullied, and humiliated me in real life and sometimes social media.

I used to think that I was an easy target of bullying by other women because of me being socially awkward and frumpy looking, so I decided to take better care of my looks and carry myself better. Turns out this made a couple of them hate me even more and they would cyber bully me by screen-shotting my photos on snapchat and sending my pictures to people on Instagram.

I tried talking to my family members about my issues with other women, but they invalidate my issues too much. They talk about how those women are "just envious" and that "they just want to be like you." They don't even find it disturbing nor weird how I don't like a lot of women my age, yet they found it disturbing how I hated men. Sadly, I'm starting to think my family is enabling me when it comes to my hate of other women.

I am fully aware that not all women are assholes and I was just unlucky to constantly run into terrible women, but my patience has already wore thin. I am almost 30 and it's a shame that I feel this way.

I just want to get over this internalized misogyny and fit in with other women. I am fed up with feeling bitter towards my own gender and being friendless for years (7 years to be exact).

@bold:
1. Pre-middle school, did everyone like you/did you feel liked by everyone?

If yes, what changed in middle school that you were no longer sure of people's likeness and started to want it?

If no to question 1, why did you suddenly want /care about been liked?

2. Why do you think the girls hated/bullied you? In your pursuit of likeability, did you do something wrong (real/imagined to them?) Something changed the dynamics from liked/ignored to bullying & hatred.

I am not asking for the boys because you said they bullied you because you were ugly.

3. Do you like being a woman?

4. Did you school in Nigeria? If yes, were you a minority where you schooled? Different tribe, race, religion, family system etc.

5. Have you tried to make female friends and your hand of friendship is rejected? Or you assume they are not interested in being friendly with you because they don't approach you?


No vex with the questions, it is from your answers we can determine the problem & solutions.