₦airaland Forum

Joshmodest:
I would have said you were lying if not that we had one like that in my former compound ....
This man has literally become a burden to his wife and 3 sons... He doesn't work as a full time minister , his wife does all the work and if she complains a little he'll tell her she's not the only one ...she pays the kids school fees one of them is in the higher institution , she takes care of their clothing , every expenses , even food the day Mr pastor go drop 500 the whole compound would know ....
His kids must not sing any genre music except "Gospel" , if they do na curse , they must not have girlfriends a child of 19, they can't even watch film in peace , they barb stylish cut problem, even football watching na yawa , keeping friends is an issue except na deacon son or Sunday school teacher son , he even said they must marry from that his church or he'll reject the wife ...so bad that the senior son once told him that hope he remembers it was him God called ?..he doesn't gist with the kids and blames the mother for doing so instead of reading bible ....one time dey once he sees then laughing , he'll bring bible and hold prayer....
Ladies stay away from strict pastors ,.they'll ruin your life and your kids life with their sententious mindset !!!

Wolgrace:
The only person who should complain most is the marital partner. Some pastors or pastresses are very strict, sanctimonious and pious in the public space due to conduct policies but might be more jovial, romantic and fondler in the closet, which we don't have much access to it..

So, the score sheet and mic is with their partners.

tobechi74:
They can be boring. No room for fun Always serious face. Hardly play with family

They do not know how to handle women . Most strict pastors spent their youthful days avoiding dating and friendships with ladies in general so as not to commit adultery.

They are fault finders . They go about looking for offence. Every thing is a sin.

They are not romantic They grew up avoiding ladies. They are not used to giving hugs and kisses. They only know one position. Anal sex is a sin. Only accepts style is missionary. The mouth is for praising God name and not oral.

They can be routinal .. They have a structured life style. Easily predictable. Wife feel bored.

Lack of emotional intimacy. Wife is emotionally starved. His priorities are in the things of the lord. Time for heart to heart discussion and he is quoting

estheremma:
The song has been banned in my diocese

adioolayi:
The Lord reigneth !
Blessed be my rock..
Let the God of my salvation be exalted.


"I've heard...Blesses be the Lord" "Blessed be the rock and so on"

pek:
You alone are worthy lord.....
When success trouble comes my way, I will praise your name.

AbuAeesha:
just imagine how this christian posted with no distractions or foul words from other religions but come to Islamic post and see how how some christian faithful misbehave.
may God grant us wisdom and guidance

flyca:
We bring the scarifice of praise
Into the house of the Lord
As And we offer unto thee
The sacrifices of thanksgiving

wildikeman:
I even thought it was "o singer sing on, praise the lord"

Blackbelly:
You'll have to clarify what you mean by the bolded. In your opinion, does "enjoyment" cease the moment a man gets married?
While there is no hard and fast rule on the time a man should get married, some unmarried folks use questions like this to shield themselves from the pressures of being unmarried.
No time is too early or too late for a man to get married.

nick50:
True that I don't support the cruel act but e still get reason why the man set her on fire.. I don't trust people especially women.. They can be very terrible

MISSCONGENIALITY:
I believe that anyone who eats should no how to cook. He must not cook better than me though

NUJABEZ:
I know how to cook too, and I have run into problems just twice.

The first time, my babe could cook but was always worried I didn't find her food appetizing. Granted my cooking had more flavor and richer/multi-layered taste compared to hers, I still happily ate everything she gave me.

The second babe couldn't cook when I met her, but she liked how I handle food prep and cooking, she made me teach her all my methods.

The third babe was a horrible cook, either she burnt food, or she oversalted, or overcooked. However, she was very arrogant and always insisted that there was nothing better than her food in the whole wide world. We dated for two years, but in all that time, I only ate her food in the first six months of our relationship. After that, I handled the cooking or we ordered take out.

Yes, Nigerian women hate men who can cook. I think it's mostly because of the fact that they can't do shakara with food that causes the jealousy or anger, whichever you choose to see it.

mariahAngel:
I will breakup with you and it is not about insecurity. I simply don't fancy men who can cook so well.

dominique:
Don't raise all that money on your own, she MUST produce part of it even if it is 20k or 30k. Tell her your reputation is about to be ruined, you can even lie that your group members might have you arrested if you don't produce that money by a certain date. If she still insists on not giving you any money, bear in mind that you married a selfish, inconsiderate, evil wife. You owe her no favours or privileges henceforth.

Most women wailing on hide my id platforms on social media are architects of their own problem but they won't tell us the part they played in making mess of their marriages, just how poorly they're being treated by their husbands.

ITbomb:
Babatunde, to say you buy 15k something give your mama, she for bless you o

flyca:
From the time I was in Primary School up until today, my dad goes to food market and cooked /cooks every meal in my house. Prior to that, my mum was the family chef. But my dad loves food shopping, he loves the kitchen, he does it happily and we love him for that He cooks for everybody and will even ask for personal preferences. Lol

The day my in-laws came to our house, my dad was busying happily in the kitchen, my mum was gisting with my mum-in-law and my dad-in-law was watching TV till food was ready I matched in and served the food, my in-laws were surprised.

Personally, I like that my sweetie cooks for survival only and he is not a very kitchen-y person. I am good at kitchen patrol so he can confortably leave that to me

For yada-yada pipu, my dad is a practicing Civil Engineer, worked as a high ranking civil servant until he retired to practice on his own. My parents are happily married 38 years this year

thorpido:
Many people will blame the hospital whereas the hospital will pay tax to government,buy fuel for electricity supply,repair generator,buy drugs,gloves and other consumables and still pay the staff.

Chaulay1:
Different strokes for different folks. I remember the day that I was having this discussion with my hubby, we recently just got married then, somehow sha, he implied that he was working because of me. I said no, I did not agree that he was working to make himself a better person. Till date, he still makes reference to that statement cos he felt hurt. I wish I didn't say that though. To me, I felt that was the truth but no, he was hurt in the process.

People's psyche are different. Your wife might feel diminished by your statement. Apologize o.

NoToPile:
I strongly agree with the bolded, when they walk the walk then they can talk the talk. Its easy to criticize and say all sorts when one is not in that situation. I am also yet to see that man that can wear that shoe.

The OP has a right to be very upset but the solution is not running away.

Chinnybaby190:
After going through some comments here, I have a second thought. If this is really depression, I don't want to add more to him emmotionally. I will stand by him.

Please can you help him with a job if you have the power?
He can learn easily, intelligent, very detailed and hard-working.
Please can you carry him along if you can?
We are really going through so much, me in particular.

tunjilana:
Men need to stop marrying women who can't and wont support them when they are down

His only crime when he had money was not carrying u along(which is wrong really) but u never said he didn't take care of you!!!

All along when he had funds, you should have bn thinking of how to make the household strongly double incomed. You could have tot of good businesses to do so that in times like this it will be easy for the family till he gets back up

How long as he depended on u compared to how long u depended on him. Dont overthink his dependence, it is a phase that will pass. Dont do something u will regret cos when u leave, God will increase him and he will bring in another woman only for u to start slandering

The child u want to leave behind, who will take care of the child?

Men, pls marry women who have it at the back of their mind that u can and will have financial lows and has made up their mind to be there when u are down. Such women also prepare for days like this by being empowered and dont hesitate to empower such a woman once u are sure her heart is made of gold

EditorAdorableM:
First, I don't subscribe to these wayward lifestyles. But I was just thinking, didn't this girl ever sleep with someone else after laycon before she became pregnant? Abi after laycon, she went home and sat down till she became pregnant? Didn't she go to club again?

Romanoff:
There was a lady who boldly came out on social media claiming Burna Boy got her pregnant, I no know where she dey today but last post I saw of her, there was no pregnancy or baby.

Why did this baby mama wait till he won 35mil before saying something. Why didn't she search him out on social media to let him know he's a father, when BB Naija started and he was trending, why didn't she chat his handler's up with receipt?

There's almost no man in his age bracket who is not obsessed about sex. I just think it's funny how she's just coming out.

35 mill got rodents, exes and baby mamas creeping out of different holes and corners. Some women have no shame.

Thank God for DNA.

FarahAideed:
Laycon is also moving around with policemen so was Ozo