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mariahAngel:
I'm loving your "new" views

You're beginning to understand the plight of most women better and empathize with them more.

midehill:
Dear guys,

I humble write to you all. I am sure some of you will go against me and some of you will surely support me. Anywhich way, I got to say what is on my mind.

Before I start, pardon me for my use of words, I am not perfect.

I humbly beseech my humble men to stop deceiving women mainly because you want to sex her. If you eventually have your way with her, what did you gain. Absolutely nothing. You only enjoyed it when you are doing it but after the deed is done, you feel so tired and empty.

Most men have loose it because they want to have their ways with the girls... The reason why most guys does this is because maybe the girl is sexy, that is having a big boobs and a gorgeous ass with a beautiful face. But I tell you, all this are just materials things because when you eventually reach there, you will realise all this things are just vanity.

Most men have married wrong wives just because they were deceived with the ladies structures which is having a sexy body features, beautiful face and a cool voice. I am telling you, so many men married their partner based on this assertions.

After some years or months into the marriage, they begin to see that they made the wrong choice because the wife is no longer cute like before again, no longer sexy also like before again. Even though she is still sexy, there will come a day when the solid breast will fall. When her beautiful face will become wringle, when her cool voice will be coarsed.

So men, before you marry any lady, ensure you pray about it earnestly. I know no one is perfect but at least when you pray about it, you receive directions from the spiritual sides. Nowadays people just jump into marriage without doing any courtship, without getting to discuss together things they can accept and things they can't.

After getting into the marriage, they will now be maltreating their wives by not taking care of them, by not paying school fees, by not paying house rents, by becoming totally irresponsible.

Some even beats their wives, some shouts on their children, some comes late at home, some run away from their wives when thy are pregnant. Though I know some women too are terrible but we dont have to pay evil with evil.

Let me summarize what I am trying to pass across below:

--- when we maltreat our wives, we are hurting ourselves also in one or the other because when we do this, we are hurting another guy brother, mother, sister, child which is the wife you married.

What I am saying here is your wife is either any of this, (a wife to a guy, a child to guy, an elder sister to a guy, a junior sister to a guy. So When we hurts her or maltreat her or start coming home late, we are also hurting ourselves as the male species on the long run) I hope you grab my point.

--- Dear men, are you finding your wife unattractive, this is what you should do. Take her to get new clothes, the ones that turns you on, take her to a makeup shop, let them make her up for you... Make her happy and give her peace of mind and you will see your wife very attractive to you once again.

--- Men, don't act like a weakling in your home... Always be in charge and also give her a chance to say her mind also...


Dear guys, please let us stop hurting women or deceiving them. If you know you don't love her, please avoid her, don't engage with her.

If you love her, don't tell her yet, make friends with her to be able to know who she is exactly. Then this will let you know if you want to stay with her or not.

Guys, so tell me why are you hurting your wives or girlfriends, why are you maltreating them...
Let's discuss

Kind regards!!!

Obio4real:
The presidency has reacted to the current campaign to end the activities of the Special Anti Robbery Squad (SARS), Grassroot Reporters reports.

An aide to President Muhammadu Buhari on Social Media, Lauretta Onochie, reacting to the renewed campaign, said the campaign is "coordinated attack by cyber criminals" who are joined by unsuspecting citizens.

She said that this not the first time such attack is being launched on government institution, calling on Nigerians to stand by institutions while working on its effectiveness.

She wrote on her Twitter handle:

"I have no doubt that there are some staff of SARS who are unprofessional in their dealings with the public, same way we have unprofessionalism in the Army, Mainstream Police, Customs, Civil Service, Public Service, traders, lawyers, doctors, journalists, teachers, pastors etc.

" But what is going on now, is a COORDINATED ATTACK BY CYBER CRIMINALS joined by UNSUSPECTING INNOCENT CITIZENS.

"This not the first time. We must stand by our national institutions while working to improve their effectiveness. That's what patriotism is about. NO SENTIMENTS." She said

https://mobile.twitter.com/Laurestar/status/1312721150175326209

Dayoebe:
Honestly, it works.
He will get tired of it quickly.

Gloriagee:
Waoh, just waoh!

anonimi:
I like this tough love.
Quite useful for a situation like this and similar ones.
Thanks.

AbuAeesha:
I can't decipher who is the genuine christian or not,but I know that they do come to thread as imposters to insults, trying to make point they are real christian,kept wondering what kind of Christians are these.its disgusting

Simplicity96:
Have you ever visited the doctor, and you try to explain to him, Doctor, I'm feeling cold, I have headache, my temperature is high and the Doctor looks at you and say "Oh that looks like malaria!"

The Doctor is not trained to only focus on the effects but to diagnose the cause with the effects.

This scenario can also be likened to real life situations, that you find many things happening in and around you - they're the effects of something.

Job woke up one day and saw all kinds happening in his life, business going down, lost his children, in the space of little time he has lost everything he had, but all that was the effects of something going behind the scene.

To everything that happens in life, there's a cause, and this brings about the effects we see.

When you enter an office that's cold while the atmosphere outside is hot, you don't just jump and shout Hallelujah we are in heaven, by intelligence you know there's a cause.

Most times we focus more on the effects, because they're the ones we can see. If you treat the effects without looking into the cause, those effects will go, others will come. It will now become a cycle.

Don't just look at the situation around you, they didn't appear without a cause, whether good or bad, there's a cause.

Take time to look around your life, when you see good effects, try and know the cause in other to gain mastery over your results and if it's the other good too, know the cause in other to put a stop to it.

-
Dabo Olawale

virtuouswoman77:
exactly, am scared what if he gets drunk and while coming back has an accident what will I do with my kids, the taught of me being jobless fr now how do I fend fr my kids.

TheRareGem1:
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MISSCONGENIALITY:
lol. You should like my little cousin who doesn't like eating and asked the mom to buy him a machine that will be feeding him.

nick50:
..what if the man was infected with HIV by his ex wife?... What if the woman legally collected all the man's wealth and means of livelihood through the help of the court?.. It's a woman's world and things like this happens often.. Women are being adored by the western culture at the expense of the male counterparts.. Even here in Nigeria so let's not sentence the man to prison without hearing his own side of the story

CHoccolaTE:
Oga get lost abeg, take your attention seeking elsewhere

virtuouswoman77:
pls how do I handle this problem of hubby that does not have self control when it comes to alcohol he drinks to much and sometimes messes the bed up with urine have talked to him still no change pls I need practice solutions that will make him stop because he is the type that doesn't take things serious unless it gets to him and this his behavior is making me regret my marriage to him

CHoccolaTE:
@topic

Many Nigerian men are truly devil incarnates

You people have still found a way to heap blame on the innocent suffering woman and tell her to pray for a drunkard

God forbid

If a woman was the one doing the irritating nonsense Op husband is doing and peeing on the bed no single man will advice her husband to pray for her or treat her with love. The only advice he will get is to treat her with harshness and punish her or even send her out. Very evil people, Nigerian men.

Dayoebe:
Pray about it.

Don't try to force him to quit.

Be supportive. Even buy it for him sometimes.
Let him drink it at home.
Only God Can change him.



As a guy, I do drink also. But I drink responsibly.
The best is to drink at home. Not in pubs with friends.


I pray your next thread will be a testimony of how God used you for miraculous turnaround in your family.

IamD18:
If only people will leave sex, cheating and money to focus on important things during courting, we won't have people in miserable marriages or high rate of divorce.

Anger management, personalities, addictions, abuse, level of mutual understanding, friendship, goals, genotype, differences, family background and histories are very very underrated in relationships these day.

Sex, money, birthday, hanging out, cruise, sexchat, cooking and gifts are the only things existing in 99.742% of relationships in Nigeria.

JulieJules:
My husband also say please to me while having sex. Like babym biko, bikozienu ( my baby please, please now) and repeats it on and on. He does that all the time. Has anyone experienced or done same? What does it mean?

Like I said, only matured inputs that's why I brought it to the family section

KidDarkness:
Kemimarch and emmmyN, is there something going on we don't know about?

Munzy14:
Tiger! oooh!!!! easy o...

Munzy14:
we are creating content for thread... with personal experience..

Klass99:
You're a mad clown



Did flatmate and her boyfriend wake you up from sleep with the "haaaaa" or did you stay awake to hear him shout, whenever he was around? Ayam curious like that o!

@ JulieJules, your cookies must be really sweet to get hubby running a one syllable commentary like that till he comes.

I hope you move your hips to meet his thrusts and you are actively engaged in the process too or is the please too distracting for you?

toye440:
Finally I have a like mind. Op should talk more on " brothers pls avoid churchy sister.
A quick story to buttress my point. one innocent bros got married to one sister, always active in church, after enduring no sex till marriage, night after wedding, the man ask the wife to open the gate of heaven that the king of glory may come in. To cut the long story short, the wife demanded they pray and hear from the holy spirit.
Op if na u, wetin go b ur reaction?

BreconHills:
First off the idea of a strict Christian is wrong. One is either a Christian or not.

Secondly, being a Christian does not change one's natural attitudes, there are quiet Christians, loud Christians, social Christians and even anti social Christians. Over time a Christian will mature into being joyful, moderate and having sound speech and behaviour.

What you have described is an abusive man not a Christian. The fact that he hides behind the bible is not proof of being a follower of Christ. He is a church goer.

Asour:
It's not necessarily Religion. It's usually cultural and can be a personal decision too.

The Jews and Romans greet with a kiss. That same gesture (a kiss) is abhorrent in another culture.

Again, what really is "exposure"? I see many people use is as a synonym for being influenced by Western values I do hope that's not the context you use it.

Why do I say so? Well even in the western world, personality differences abound. Different value systems coexist. You must have heard of the liberals and The Conservatives.

Even in Britain (UK), the typical British is not expressively given to the outward show of emotions.
The British Monarchy exemplify this trait too.

I am saying any lifestyle is wrong? No!
Within reason, no one should dictate the lifestyle of others or deem them strict. Because to the one you call strict you are probably loose.

We should all learn to be accommodating of the lifestyle choices of others. Except where it affects you negatively.


The funny reality in all this is that what many describe as being "Romantic" today is effectively the residue of decades of western influences on us.

Not that I am against it but most "acts" of modern romanticism would be completely alien to most african pre colonial cultures.
This cannot mean that african cultures were devoid of loving and caring familial attitudes. It just means that they didn't demonstrate this by kissing in public, holding hands, giving flowers, celebratng Valentine's days and other niceties of western influence.

iamjavadem:
The keyword here is 'strict pastor' not playboy pastor, always read well and understand before commenting.