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Hmmmmm.

cooooooks:
The people who seem to advocate doing away with it are older women.

Younger women are usually brainwashed to see the price as a measure of their worth:

"Get a master's so your bride price will go up"

"Learn how to cook so your bride price will go high"

"Go abroad so your bride price will increase"

These "jokes" are conditioning.

I don't think women really see brideprice as a measure of their worth.

If there was no bride price, they would measure their worth on something else.

Jaqenhghar:
He has to show people that he has arrived.

The sickness of poverty.

Unnerve:
Yes, that's my bae.

Normally, I would have reservations about single mothers, but for her, I might throw my principle out just to have her and her spawn around me.

She still needs some brushing up though, it's not an overnight thing to make her skin glow & look fresh.

@bold:

A whole lot.

I hope she doesn't become another Jumoke sha.

Instead of this photoshoot, a trust fund for her kids to cater till university, a viable business and reasonable shelter (a two bedroom flat) is much more important and sustainable.

Unnerve:
This man should please return to wherever he came out of, some of us are already planning how to get blue-eyed children through his ex-wife.

Carry your story go...

Bukatyne, take a look at this tortoise, lol.

The truth is between the husband's story and the wife's story:

My thoughts:
1. The husband saw the blue eyes in addition to other stuff and married her (I don't want to use love {not in the context I understand});
2. He believed the eyes was a freak of nature and while fine with a blue eyed wife, he probably didn't want all their kids to have blue eyes, hence his family put a lot of pressure on him to desert her.
3. The family did not support the marriage: if they did, they would feature in her story. especially when she was pregnant. It was her in-laws obligation to care for her first so it was easy to tell the husband to bail.
4. The husband alleges she was unfaithful, discontent and disrespectful. The discontent graduating to disrespect is easier to believe than adultery in her case.

My own is that if she was terrible to live with/stay married to when she was dirt poor, she must be terrible to be with now she has 'blown.'

Oga, disappear to where you came out from

bbbabes:
Some Nigerians came together and gave Risikat Azeez-Ayegbami, and her daughters, a makeover and the photo shared online is breathtaking.

Risikat who is from Kwara state, went viral recently after a Nigerian lady shared the story of how Risikat's husband walked out of their marriage and their daughters because they have blue eyes.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=it7TAFU_4mc

@Unnerve

Come and see your girlfriend

The 2nd picture in the OP.

Jaqenhghar:
Truth is the publicity people can only take you so far. Na you go use that small publicity to rebrand and market yourself. If you can use it to develop a skill or promote your skill, good and fine. Look at that success girl, I hear they made about 9m. 4m was spent on lavish wedding. The rest used to build house. Now the house is incomplete, pickin don go back to the former school. Resources have dried up

What is wrong with human beings??

N4m for wedding?

Poverty is of the mind.

A man truly married to a wife or saw his father enjoy the dividends of been married to his mother would know the benefits of marriage.

If you don't see the benefits of marriage, move on.

But no, they want to enjoy the benefit of marriage without the responsibilities of it.

Anyways, why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?

Side chick loun loun.

You created a new moniker for anonymity yet posted your kids online?

Kwantinue.

Yoir friend can Establish his presence without uprooting the son from where he has peace.

Does the ex have other children for her hubby?

Is your son Legally adopted?

What is the assurance that your wife to be would cater to your son the way his step father does currently?

xynerise:
I have heard some women say " I am still in this marriage because of the children" when they complain about how terrible their husbands are.

Domestic violence is now common in many marriages and I am not specific to any sex as both are victims of it. Apart from domestic violence, there are other reasons one may become fed up in a marriage..

Inasmuch as some religious folks will speak against separation in marriage, there is still a point one can draw the line to let go.

My question now is, would you rather remain in a psychologically uncomfortable marriage because of your children or let go irrespective of how it affects the children?

Hmmmmmmmmm

Between the devil and the deep blue sea.

While you want your kids to have stability, you also do not want them to think the abnormal traits your partner has is 'okay'.

Afterall, if daddy beat mummy and she stayed, why should I end an abusive relationship? If daddy endured mummy's emotional abuse, why can't I endure Titi's manipulations?

Sometimes, the home becomes so toxic that the kids while physically fine, are emotionally damaged and are not fit to sustain romantic relationships until they undergo some sort of therapy or introspection.

You also have kids replicating the pattern of their parents.

Walkong out of relationships often times bring instability to the kids.

That is why I would always scream people should do very very due diligence before they marry.

Consult whatever you believe before choosing a spouse.

A martial mistake is sometimes almost impossible to correct.

J111333:
I no be indomie generation but I don't know what the game or riddle means. Can someone explain?

I don't understand the game myself.

I love the last picture sans the hair.

Belated happy birthday.

I don't know this guy even though he seems popular. Is he a member of the Kunle Afolayan family?

WoundedLamb:
Lol... guys always want to put themselves in a superior light in every thing.

This is not true. Both genders sexual values goes down as they grow older. The difference is the time frame. Girls start having sexual values much earlier than boys and consequently, they also start declining earlier such that at the end, both genders still have comparable amounts of peak time. You couldn't get girls at that age cause your own sexual value hadn't quite peaked. Girls of your age at that time were far more sexually valuable and thus had their eyes on men of comparable sexual value (which were men older than you).

Sense will not kee you.

Joshmodest:
The man who said vanity upon vanity in your bible was the richest man in bible history solomon not ananias or Lazarus...
leave that phrase for big men go and hustle !!

Brachaa:
Wow those women were smart and fast thinkers.

Kudos to them.

100%

What about their kids though?

boman2014:
3

I think I prefer this type of fit to the 'six packish' type of today.

DriggityDre:
Nice write-up, boman2014.
I know about 80% of the facts stated here.
Shout out to Eminem

Eminem is really good musically.

Sometimes, some people project their inadequacies on others.

oblozzolawrence:
Good morning guys.

This my flatmate is a very nice guy and we are very cool.
We stay in a 3bedroom flat, having each room to ourself and the last room is for visitors.
Well he has this girlfriend that use to come around a lot, sometimes she stays around for a week before leaving and I must say she's nice and really fun around to be with.

Two days ago I was on instamessage jus checking pretty gals out(I don use dis platform nack a lot gals) den GBAM!!!!! naso I see my guy babe picture, i con dy doubt maybe na somebody wey resemble her, na I click her profile, na hookup things ooo!!! And na she, even one of the dress she wear, she don wear em come house before....Strictly hookup, no long story.....chaii
Till now am still in shock I don't even know wat to do cos she came to the house yesterday and I know she knows that have seen her profile on instamessage.

She and my guy dy their room like this..I fear who no fear woman!!!!
Should I tell my guy or jus mind my business...

Inbtw
I don't like involving myself in people's relationship plus this guys have been together for 5years before I even knew him.
She was even the one that loan him money to add to his while we wanted to rent this apartment.

Guys, I need to add that his elder sis was the one DAT introduced her to him cos they work in the same hotel, and this gal is a masseuse.

I hope you are not in a relationship else you are of the same stock as the girl.

Should you tell? You can drop hints.

sexdoll:
what a bad guy!

he has purposely ruined that marriage already.

except if the current husband na the type wey no send.

but knowing what many men are like...

I know that he will definitely send one day...

na dat day kasala go burst.

it's just a matter of time!!!

How is the ex trying to ruin the marriage?

By saying the woman is good in 'cowgirl' and wishing it was him marrying her?

1StopRudeness:
Wait.....what’s wrong with being on top a pen!s.?
While the ex may be petty, he ddnt say anything horrible about her.... unless she lied about being a virgin to a new man...

I honestly don't understand the trend of this thread.

I am not even looking at it from decency/indecency; afterall, the said guy could be the ladies first lover.

The ex is petty or too loose mouthed; yes. What bad thing did he say? That she is good in cowgirl style? Is that not a compliment if private?

The thread just highlights the difference between men and women irrespective of wokeness.

If a lady commented that 'the wife to be is lucky because her guy is good in MouthAction or something sexual', it would not be seen as a 'threat' to the new marriage.

okwadatigbogal:
The funny thing is that they might not even have dated. This might be funny because it is not you! There are many evil people in this world. Just pray that evil people don't remember and defame you.

I used to believe in this saying 'In every rumour, there's an atom of truth'. But believe m life has taught me that this is false!
I hope the idiot is sued even if he was truly her ex!

Sued for?

@ Other parts of your post, true.

There are wicked people in this world who want to ruin and sabotage good things.

My people say 'If your yam is very white (sign of premium yam), you eat it in private'.

internationalman:
Guys would be happy if an ex girlfriend praises his sexual prowess... But girls are usually ashamed about it..

One of the differences between women and men.

Funny thread

Siratro:
I work as a pastor. Now I discover that my wife is no longer in love with me. She no longer agree to intercourse. I monitored her phone and found a man she's has been talking to all this while. There is no need fighting her because you can't force anyone to love you. I didn't even confront her.

I can't even try to divorce her because that means the end of my job. I don't even want to be separated from my only daughter she has for me because my daughter is my everything.

If I resign from my job, there is no hope of finding a new one because of my disability, and I have no money to set up a business with my skills.

The most painful of this is that I have inspired a lot of people who made it out of darkness alive.

But here I am a drowning being. To remark in the passing, I have been praying for a long while.

I have realized that sometimes, you are obligated to give support to people out of nothing.

Unfortunately, your own support and pillar is proving to be a caterpillar.

Instead of staying in the marriage because you are obligated to or it signals the end of your 'job', why don't you go back to the drawing board?

Sometimes, prayers are for wisdom to direct your steps. Remember faith without works is dead so prayers alone would not restore your marriage except the issue is solely spiritual.

Introspect on what went wrong in the marriage. When did she change? When did she start rejecting you?

Also discuss as husband and wife not pastor and member. Please drop the pastor speak and engage her as a man losing his lover to pinpoint what went wrong and solutions.

@Job: Pastor hood ideally should be a calling and not a job. You seem too worried about the livelihood part of your pastor hood and what people would say.

What is God saying?!

nkemakonam100:
Good afternoon great people of nairaland. I have been really sad with myself or should i say my current state. Early this year (january) after my graduation and completion of my project defence, I got a security job that pays 20k/month to help keep body and soul together while i await service.
Now the problem i'm facing is since january i started the work, i can't boast of 1kobo as savings. Once the salary comes (which comes very late) and after like basic expenses, everything is gone leaving me depressed and angry for another 1month cycle. Salary alert do come with joy but mine is the opposite as the whole process gets me angry. I have many business options like domaining and importation of hot products but funds is really setting me back and my business plan is left hanging.
I have a mapped out plan during my service that comes in few days because i will be leaving very soon with current batch B. I plan on venturing fully into importation of choice items that would sale well as a part time hustle but my problem now is how to raise the fund my salary. May salary will be paid nextweek and i have already removed my mind from there because it's been mapped for clearance of debt that covered my clearance and nysc registration.
My major concern lies on june salary that i'm currently working for. How can i save please as i can't just forgone some certain needs especially family needs. Or if there is any reputable credit facility that can grant me loan that would cover a 2months salary while i pay back gradually, it's okay. some salary just be like cage. Thanks people and sorry for the long post please

How are you doing now?

ayobarmy:
At some point in my life, I almost believed that my problem was spiritual, because I have tried all I could to do something meaningful with my Salary, but as each month passes by, I just discovered that I have just been moving in a circle..... Salary can be very frustrating, expecialy when it comes late and in bits like mine......

How are things with you now?