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To all the ungrateful elements above my post.....

It is a woman's duty yen yen yen.

Let's assume you guys even stick to gender roles and provide 100%;

Shouldn't your wife thank you when you pay the bills even if it is your duty? Shouldn't she show appreciation to and celebrate you as a dutiful husband?

An ungrateful person is like a thief.

Go and learn gratefulness and stop taking your wives for granted.

pocohantas:
Thanks for this.
Now it adds up.

Many women marry poor men everyday. Majority of Nigerians are not rich. I don't know why we act like the real world is not there.

Last week my sister told me our cousin is getting married. A young guy without a stable job. He still lives and partially feeds off his aged father. There are many women that love comfort which itself isn't bad and they would either get it or not.

@bold:

All Nigerian men online are rich

Let's forget the fact that majority of them have no gold to be dug

Tallesty1:
She is not trending because what she did was a big deal.

I followed the story from the start.

About a week before her tweet, some men on Twitter had been trying to prove to others that one doesn't need to make money first before going into a relationship. They argued that relationships can develop and thrive without one breaking the bank. Surprisingly, the other men, who claimed that all Nigerian women are gold diggers, argued that it is impossible. According to them, you need money first before you can approach a woman, or else other men who are richer will take her from you.

Women, the gold diggers, did their best to prove them otherwise, but they wouldn't have it.

So, when Debbie made that tweet and feminists started dragging her for waking up to cook for a man who doesn't have a freezer (they dug up her old tweet where she said that she needs a mattress and a freezer), men took it personal.

Firstly, because feminists, who were supposed to empower their fellow woman, were trashing her instead. One thing led to another, and the other group of men who had been arguing that you can be respected without money saw her tweet. They checked her timeline and saw that she had always been respectful to her broke husband, so she became a practical example of all they had been theorizing for over a week. They started trending her, and suddenly, people began asking for her account number to get her the freezer and mattress she was being mocked for. The rest is history.

So, it goes beyond waking up to cook.

Thank you for putting a context to it.

While I do not hold brief for the late prophet and think him controversial that I would never attend his church, is there any reason why BBC is leaving the palapala in their backyard and hunting lice continents away?

Are they so jobless that a religious leader dead for about three years now is their focus?

To think people are applauding this rubbish when a Nigerian Broadcaster would never dig their ghosts for a report is shameful.

Capernum:
Is he your husband or your boyfriend?

If he's your husband, it is definitely awkward not only here but it all cultures.

For him to be your husband, we can safely assume he should be in his home and be man enough to provide some basic items like adequate bed, if his mother is staying with him.

But is he still living with his parents? If he is, it is still abnormal too. Ain't there enough mattresses? It's all shades of wrong.

Give us more information. Don't let anyone here blackmail you with soft emotions of you coming in between him and his mom.

When a man is married, it is not expected to ever sleep with his mama on the same bed. Is he poor? Is the mama poor? why are they together?

@ bold:

And let's assume that they had to share a bed due to certain circumstances, why would the mother be angry that her son is chatting with his wife?

lexy2014:
how is he trolling? is there anything he said that is not true?

Do you do chores at home?

If yes, does it tire you?

Fidecoo:
I don search up and down this post to see jeon comment.
Men and women can never be equals.
A man is a man
And a woman should be a woman.

It pays to know your stand and status.

Humbleness pays.

What has equality got to do with this?

Or how is the woman 'inferior because she wakes up early to cook for her husband?

Vinnie2000:
Anyone who sees Chores as Stress is LAZY!😕😕

If you are staying ALONE in a Self contained for instance,
won't you wash or Clean your Dishes, clothes, Bathroom, Kitchen, etc by yourself? 😒

Now you are just trolling

We4all:
If chores ain't stress, then what is it? Who wouldn't want to have maids do the chores?

I wonder o!

Animegirl:
This lady is in between an on-going war on Twitter, patriarchy and feminist society. Patriarchy proving what doesn't need to be proven because of their ego. At the end of the day, the lady won.

I don't care in an ongoing War, God confuse both sides to bless me abundantly. May Tinubu regime favor me, Lord.

@bold:

@OP:

I believe there is this instinct to 'protect' what is ours.

I remember when a colleague's wife started making a type of salad for her hubby because he bought custom home made salad from another female colleague.

A married colleague collecting specially made meal from another colleague is actually crossing boundaries.

If it once stemming from a discussion or the colleague has become a friend of the family, it is a different case.

BloomingDale:
God forbid me to wake up so early to cook for any man.

Speaks more about your decision making skills.

You couldn't/ can't pick a man worth it.

NuclearWinter:
This is a Pro LGBTQ thread


The thread aims to promote homosexuality as natural which is never the case.


By advised accordingly.

The thread glows harder than a glory hole .

@bold:

Hmmmmm......

An interesting angle.

Already seeing pro-homosexuals plying their wares.

illicit:
Love is stupid some of the time

It is no more wicked according to Brick & Lace?

maestro299:
Oga Seun, wetin happen?

His post script has told you the problem na.

Oga Seun would be alright

Tranquility2345:
Na only you spit facts. Man, woman. All are the same. Man wey you go dash money today, tomorrow he go expect you to dash am again. You no give am, then you become enemy number one. All of them are the same. Broke people are very wicked and ungrateful

Na woman show Seun shege; Na broke person show you shege......

Every mallam with im kettle

renderme:
Congratulations to them. The lady's name is Boluwatiwi. Such a unique name.

Makes sense.

Was wondering what Tiwi meant.

God bless their home.

Dreal1247:
This is pure child marriage. Some people are more interested in sexual satisfaction that raising a responsible children. Very soon we shall being to read of domestic violence against each other. Hope the young women are economically engaged?

Child marriage on whose part?

The guy in question is still officially a teenager

searchlight:
Percentage. A little exception doesn't change a fact

If all the men who got married around you start looking like scare crows after marriage, it speaks more to your circle than the reality and you should find out what the problem is.

It might be poverty, bad choice of a wife, a contagious disease or a mix of the three.

Yet everyone knows that men add weight after marriage even the very health conscious ones.

Not adding weight is seen as an anomaly that it is pointed out.

Yet online, he becomes thin.

When una log out, you will face the real world.

DanielsParker:
There is no gain for men in marriage .

Yet when the first wife dies or is divorced, you quickly replace her.

You guys must be masochists then.

GreatOchuks:
So all the Married men carrying Pot belllies everywhere,, where are they from ?

From Mars

ednut1:
Lol fake story

Of baby switching?

I remember reading about a nurse in an African country who confessed to switching about 2,000 children at birth.

dawnomike:
It was not a case of negligence by the hospital, it was intentional.

The license of such hospital should be revoked!

True, it was intentional.

Thank God they got their baby back.

Emmaskill:
What they need is a proper renumeration not your fu*cking education.

I hope the amount they picked equals or is more than their monthly salary.

oluwaseyi0:
And the father who paid for all this will probably not even be in the picture

Another level of wahala!

abc115:
One day, his wife or girlfriend will ask him to choose between her and his mother😃🤣🤣
Heartless girls. Imagine struggling with ur mom and a girl who comes from nowhere trying to control what your own mother does with your money. They even go as far as stopping your mom from living with you in the same house.

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In your world, mothers don't take care of their daughters?

Because even if the mother carried a whole building for the daughter, she/we/society wouldn't see it as a justification to meddle in her daughter's home the way she would do her son's.

Icesnow:
In as much as you've got a point but this is just u generalising. Remember the Op didn't made mention that d wife has been demanding to gift her mum things. He only mentioned Xmas which means once a year. The op is very wrong and a bad inlaw. He could be a good father though buy he appears to me as a bad husband and an inlaw.

@bold:

Interesting.....

The wife's siblings who did not give their mom anything are not bad children; the OP himself who decided not to gift his mother anything is not a bad son.

Because he decided not to buy rice for his MIL only THIS YEAR because they are expecting a child, he is suddenly a bad in-law & husband.

Well, if the wife thinks like you, she has the option of quitting the marriage.

Ubanz:
Everyone is just talking, no one knows how long it took him to save that much.
It's not mandatory that u should send anyone anything,what is mandatory is the bride price u paid.

When your wife delivers safely your mother in-law would still visit ,you can gift her a bag of rice & any other things u can afford.

If u tamper with the money now ur so called in-laws will make mockery of u if God forbid ur wife has complications during delivery.

Some years ago my friend lost his wife because he couldn't raise the required amount for CS on time.she died before the twin boys were rescued. It was so unfortunate that weeks after my friend discovered where his wife hid some 100's of 1000's of Naira.

Don't listen to anybody telling you to tamper with ur savings,afterall it's Jesus birthday not theirs.

Wait, she had some savings & couldn't bring it out on her death bed?

lele007:
She isn't even saying you should buy rice for both mums, na her own mama she dey prioritize? Isn't your mum her mum too?

You done marry nonsense keep for house

@bold:

Unityp:
What will you say is your achievement in the life of others when you eventually leave this world if your brother who is looking up to you to finish his programme that you helped him to start is left stranded in his final year?
Pls finish what you have started and leave your reward in the hand of God.

This really cracked me up!

I have never seen a case of a human loving others more than himself/herself end well.

Acidosis:
Go to YouTube, search "Black Tax by Apostle Femi Lazarus." Listen to the message and thank me later.

Some people would never break the cycle of poverty plaguing their generation if they are not careful.