₦airaland Forum

occfx:
If you have a good woman, you don't know what God did for you. I have exactly like you in my home but I am thinking of the best surprises I could give her when money enter. I just dey plan am but money no gree enter yet. I don't know if I should start with these small surprises and encomiums. God bless your home. Devil usual makes us believe marriage is punishment but in essence, it's the sweetest thing after palm wine and ugba.

Please do.

It is easy to know those who have good marriages, grew up in loving homes, grew up in bad homes but have healed.

Xosh:
You need to register for therapy as soon as you can.

Seems you grew up in a family where lOve,care and attention weren't showered on you?

ikeno:
My elder sister's husband always thanks my parent for allowing him to get married to my sister. Whenever i visit them, their home is always filled with love.husband always playing with my sister and the children all so happy.not once have they had issue or even quarrel and funny enough,sister got married to him when he was very poor, staying in 1 room apartment with just a bed😃.now they have their own house and also a wine company. Love is great and God is greater.

Great husband your sister has got.

Well trained and appreciative.

Your sister would also be a gem to keep inspiring that in her husband.

God bless them.

Namaster:
Dude woke up early to shove his way through the depressing Lagos traffic to hustle for money.

Girl took her time lounging and having a good night rest. She's a stay-at-home Mom that has no job other than taking the kids to school.

But somehow, the girl wakes up to a note praising her and Naira notes to pamper herself while the dude woke up to Lagos conductors raining insults on his generation.

ALSO, the dude is acting like he doesn't deserve her. He shouldn't be surprised when he finds her sucking the black dick of his jobless neighbour.

Your mom was lounging and only took you to school?

Your dad also did not appreciate your mum 😒

No wonder this post.

Because if you had an healthy family, a mother who took good care of you and saw your parents appreciate each other, you won't write this post.

GO0dharddick:
The subject of discussion wasn't about family. A sane man is expected to provide for his money.

However at the bolded, if the critical for a Nigerian girl to love you is money, what happens when the money finishes? She dumps you and looks for another maga with money to continue funding her lifestyles?

Money will get you any girl Dude but your money can't keep her. She dumps you the moment she had enough of your money or the moment your money finishes. So what nonsense are you saying?

If your post wasn't about family, then why comment it on a family thread?

OP talks about a husband appreciating the wife.

What brought about girlfriend talk?

money121:
Why you self broke?
Hustle and make money let nigeria girl love you

Shikena

Or you want turn gigolo
As a man you need to provide for your family

So go and hustle and make money
Shikena

KingMack:
While growing up I had friends who live in a single room with their parents jus a curtain to do the demacation in the room..they eventually grew up in that one room even the parents had more children in that single room and all their children slept on the floor either cold or hot jus a mat to lie on....when God started blessing the children they moved their parents to a better place.


What I gotta understand is in life ehn if God no bless you but knows your toil e fit still use your children bless you!

Please let's stop glorifying irresponsible parenting.

If you are starting life in one room, then you adjust your responsibilities accordingly. This is primarily the number of children you have.

Tou would be able to train them properly with the little you have and ensure that you don't create a generational problem of poverty by expecting children not standing properly to fund for their younger ones.

ExudeLoveToAll:
Women and emotions, this is why women opt for divorce more than the rates men do, when they longer feel they quit.

If you must have a long lasting relationship, emotional feelings would not be the top priority for marriage to strive.

Emotional feelings and connections have been what the feel good industry ( Hollywood and Nollywood fantasies) have sold to most women from their time of birth to adulthood. If there is a mismatch between ideal situation (Hollywood fantasies) and real life situation they term the relationship as 'I am not feeling this marriage or relationship ".

Dopamine rush will wane off as you progress into your relationship, you are then required to bring in habits that are independent of dopamine secretion because those are the habits that ensures a lasting marriage or relationship.

Some of the things that make one enjoy a lasting marriage or relationship includes
1. Tolerance
2. Kindness
3. Empathy
4. Committement
5. Loyalty
6. Mutual respect
7. Selflessness
8. Forgiveness
9. Communication
10. Finance

Once you base your strength of marriage on that feel good syndrome that marriage is bound to fail than succeed. Marriage is work, it's a place to train and mentor the next generation of leaders in the society, this process doesn't always come rossy, most times it is exhausting, energy consuming, financially draining and require resilience and doggedness to meander through all vicissitudes of life with a positive outcome. Those traits that are independent of feel good are what helps us overcome the challenges of marriage or relationship.

From what we see in our society though, men need the lessons more than women do.

And during the lesson, include the wonderful list you added up there. A number of men (NL a good evidence) do not realize that those qualities are required to be a great spouse.

Win12345:
If you have Bible in your language and still refuse to study it, you deserve to be deceived.

Gbam!

DKM123:
Hahahaha! Ride on pastor! Invest this January and get ROI latest middle of the year with money back guarantee!


Nigeria na cruise nation. Walahi!
MMM no do pass this one.

It's how those in the church didn't burst out laughing. If I dey there I fit burst laugh for good 5mins. The Jerry curls won't even help matters..

Tallesty1:
What I find crazy in all these things is that educated Christians who have access to the same Bible will still foolishly believe him.

The fruits offering found its fulfillment in Jesus. After being raised from the dead, he became the first fruit of those who had died. So, the first fruit offering, as it was in the Old Testament, is an adumbration of what is to come—a shadow of what will take place in the future. The fulfillment was in Christ.

Christians are not required to pay first fruit offerings because what it symbolized is God's harvest of souls. Christians are now Christ's first fruits offering to God according to the Bible.

Having access is not same thing as reading or studying.

YourGFsnatcher:
When he's mentally stable enough.. it's not by age. In Finland, schooling starts at 7 years. They have the best educational system. Education is not stressing children, giving them overlaod work and pressuring them. I will never do that to my chidlren. These days we want to force children to grow into fast adults. I don't know all the need to rush. Success in life is not about how early u finish school, u might finish early and still don't have sense. Because your brain has been over pressured.

Once a child is mentally strong to attend school, that is when he should start

What happens before the child is 7?

Odewaleadesoye:
Nigerian actor, Samuel Ajibola has revealed why he quit the popular soap opera, ‘The Johnsons.’

The thespian who played the role of Spiff, an imbecilic clown in the soap opera, said he left the television serial to chase his dreams.

He said leaving the soap opera has re-established him as a producer and director.

Speaking in a recent interview with Channels TV, Ajibola said: [/b]
DAILY POST

Interview could have been better worded.

Ghostmode2two:
When will this country have sense?

When as in when?

splmosixx:
This Op na bed belle..

Leave this people make Dem do there trade in peace.

You are the senseless one.

Foreigners come to your backyard, steal your goods and export and you are talking of bad belle.

If it were Nigerians profiteering from the illegal trade, Maybe MAYBE we can shut our eyes that 'our rulers are useless, no jobs bla bla bla' because the wealth would circulate in the economy.

These are Foreigners who are not allowing Nigerians touch the stuff. Did you read that the Nigerians there are just 10%?

Sense is far from you.

laurel03:
Those guys are fucking rich.. They have precious stones market at ojoo Ibadan which they export to thailand honkong and other countries from there.

Ha!

What kind of uselessness is this?

God comfort the families of the dead and grant speedy recovery to the injured.

Franzinni:
What if ... Just what if it was a distraction? To drown out a topic that has started gaining momentum nationally. ... Well, we will never know .

What topic is that?

laurel03:
They mine outskirts Ibadan but reside in Ibadan.. majority of them are not Nigeria and they have been doing that business over 30years in Ibadan.

How do non-Nigerians come into a city (not even a boundary city) and mine resources illegally for years?

Is that how useless our country is?

Missyajoke:
I pray you don't live with a person you'll find it difficult to tolerate . I lived with a roommate last year and I knew there's a difference between living in Heaven and living in hell. That girl is really stubborn and never listens. My ex roommate has a very bad character and I just had to leave the room to remain sane. Highly disrespectful, proud, arrogant, dirty, nosy. When I left like this my sister and parent said congratulations .

Happy birthday Sage, God bless you 💖

The things that happen like season film

Why would a wife commit her husband's money into an acquisition without involving or acknowledging him?

@OP, since you are honest enough to admit that you are concerned, call your brother in law using the script some posters dropped.

If Muhammed does not go to the mountain, the mountain would go to Muhammed.

janejjjjj5000:
She comes from home and works just Mondays to Thursdays. She does not live with us.

Does she see it as a regular job ( I go to my place of work which happens to be Mrs. Jane's residence and I do my job which happens to be cleaning/ housekeeping) or she sees herself as a househelp ( I am Madam Jane's slave/househelp)?

@OP:

Marrying the male/female breadwinner of a family especially a poor, large one can plunge the new couple into poverty.

It can also breed hate from your in-laws especially when they exploited the breadwinner and the spouse/nuclear family responsibilities opens the eyes of the exploited.

Sometimes, life is funny. You might marry an average Joe/Jane who grows to become their birth family's breadwinner.

If parents are responsible, have the number of kids they can cater for and adequately do so, there would be no burden on one of the kids to win bread for the family. This is sans emergencies/tragedies.

BadBradley:
Buky, Buky, No Nairaland old frustrated hen will find that post easy.

How's your husband? Does he still eat 3 times a day in a café? No, he dumped your Nairaland+addicted ass

You must have confused me with one of your sisters.

Confusion and lack of comprehension is a terrible combo to have.

OP talked about a lady breadwinner aka sponsoring her birth family; in your haste to spew the nonsense they taught you in Redpill school, you went on a
tangent.

Instead of you to go back to the OP and modify your post or even ignore mine, you started telling me about your sister.

My sympathy to her.

God will give you all peace.

BadBradley:
it takes a special grace for a woman who is the breadwinner not to be toxic and useless.

Women generally cannot handle power and responsibility.
Here are some of the disadvantages of women with so much money.

* Her Family will not respect you even if you have your own money

* She will not seek your permission before making certain crucial and vital decisions

* Given how vulnerable and easily deceived women are, expect many idle men both family members, neighbours and friends to patronise her with false praises to obtain money grant or gift from her.

* Make no mistake, God made men to protect women not just with physical strength but with a key sense of caution, suspicion, and a bit of conservatism. The more money she has the less likely your control and protection will be.

* When she runs into trouble with her money either being duped by family members or friends, it becomes your responsibility to get it back or fight for her but not your responsibility to control how she spends the money.

* Remember making money takes time and effort, the more money she makes the less time she has at home and the less sex.

* Unlike men, when a woman comes into money she looks down on everyone including her husband except you're way richer than her.

Bros, try to read the OP before writing epistle wey no make sense!

saphiere:
Nigerian men are afraid of independent women.
They are intimidated by our successes.
They need women that are solely dependant on them so that they can use those women as they whish.
Genevieve Nnaji,
Funke Akindele
Tonto Dikeh
Are a proof that Nigerian men can't stand independent women. They need people they can intimidate. People to bruise their ego on.

If the aforementioned women weren't independent, they would have been in their husbands' houses.

I spit on a gender who hates other gender's successes.

Can you see how the above monikers made mockery of Nigerian women? Asking if it's Akeke bread or sliced bread. Because for their minds no Nigerian woman deserves to be a breadwinner.

I guess Omotola, Omoni Oboli, Ibukun Awosika, Sola Borha, late Dora Akunyili, Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala, Oby Ezekwesili and other married notable women are not 'independent' enough.

The thread is talking about women who feed their birth families and not women earning more than her man in a relationship.

[quote author=adesegun121 post=127834028][/quote]Joke * Jide

When was your wedding sir do we can create an hashtag....

#Joji198...

Or #Jijo198...

Or #Kede198...

Or #Deke198...

Happy birthday ma, God bless you.

BloomingDale:
What the husband needs is a cook if ordinary food can split up his marriage. And Nigerian women will wonder why they are all miserable in the marriages.

From the story:
1. The husband did not even ask for the food; the wife took the initiative to wake up early when he came home with the two spoon story.

2. I don't know all the Nigerian women miserable in their marriages. Perhaps all the women in your circle.

A colleague consistently bringing food for a married colleague is not just about the 'food'. It is about the thought, the care, the concern the food represent which is an abuse of the boundaries of marriage. The food can be a ride; excessive compliments; extraordinary assistance etc.

While all marriages might not require a wife waking up at 5am to cook, all marriages require sacrifice, compromise, thoughtfulness, care and concern from both parties to succeed. If you can not choose a husband who would inspire the above in you and can replicate same, na your business.

Fidecoo:
,

Ok I will tell you.

Can you pls, try and go through comments of some ladies who claim feminist here on nairaland.
They try sending messages that women doing their duties are like "inferior" .

I really don't want to mention names though ,if not.

Then you draft yout post in a way that shows you are addressing an opinion you disagree with.

lexy2014:
that is not what I asked you

how is he trolling?

is there anything he said that is not true?

If you answered my questions, you will get the clarity you seek.