₦airaland Forum

dominique:
These people will file for divorce and still be calling themselves best friends. Why divorce when you're still friends? Are you not supposed to be married to your "friend"?

As in,

It is always surprising.

Maybe they want to marry their enemies or strangers.

pansophist:
I suspected this.

She faced backlash a few months ago after a video leak of her clubbing went viral. Her husband was not there with her. Then I knew there was a crack.

How would a Prime Minister
1. Go clubbing (without shutting down the club for 'privacy')
2. Do 1 without her husband and be seen necking or kissing another man?

See her still looking sharp and like a spec almost 30yrs after.

Congratulations ma!

Come and share the source of this fountain of eternal youth.

Nemesis0147:
Sorry boss but I will advise you go for a medical check up and also run an X-ray…you might have sustained an internal injury without knowing.
Lost one young man of recent….the same story as yours but he was a carpenter….dude didn’t go for any check up and died 2 weeks later after complaining of chest pain within 3hrs…he was rushed to the hospital but it was later already….he sustained a heart injury.

Cc: Blossommind

Go to a Govt General Hospital like this poster has said. General Hospitals are much more cheaper and somewhat standardised.

Sorry, God would crown your efforts with success.

Those two kids are perfect, just put an end of birthing of kids so you are under more pressure.

Chinyerem1:
Some doctors (both male and female) need more orientation in handling patients.

Which kind of lack of orientation would cause raping a sedated nurse ( though it seems like a setup to catch him after his cup is full)?

If the doctor was accused of lacking empathy or been rude or discussing his patients carelessly with others, we can talk of reorientation.

Who doesn’t know that sedating someone and raping them is wrong?

nkemdi89:
My boyfriend got another girl pregnant due to distance, he barely knew her and she insist on keeping the child, but he still going ahead to marry me . Both of them are irresponsible, but the girl feels she could use pregnancy to trap him . So many baby mamas today are as result of ladies thinking they van play smart over a man.

This is a joke right?

Zooposki:
The Nigerian wife is easily replaceable with their house helps because Nigerian men marry house helps disguised as wives. I've been preaching this message to Nigerian women for awhile now.

@IyaTola:

It would be helpful to differentiate between what occurs in Nigeria: prostitution aka exchange of sex for money

And what occurs in the West: causal sex aka one night stand which is actually the hookup culture.

For Nigeria: prostitution is caused majorly by greed, unresourcefulness, laziness etc. on the part of the men & women. A few women/young girls are victims of trafficking and kidnapping for prostitution.

For the West: hookup is majorly caused by feminism which taught women that they are free to sexually explore aka sleep around. Now, feminism claims that men have been promiscuous for ages and applauded. Instead of holding the men accountable, they strangely preferred to 'join' the men and rather insist that they are not slut shamed. Because of free sex, men wonder why they should buy the cow when they can get the milk for free.

In all of the above, there are young men and women in Nigeria & the West who have decided (due to religion, morals, upbringing or personal determination) to apply sexual restraint and shun instant gratification. To them I say kudos and may God/life lead you to similar partners who have reserved themselves.

Dshocker:
In developed countries, before a woman will open her legs for a man, it means she loves him.

So poverty and lack of jobs are the major cause fueling the insatiable greed in some girls to open their legs anytime, provided that the theme; money for hand, back for ground

These girls just wants to survive.

Imagine an oil rich country like Nigeria paying her citizens above 18yrs 250k for monthly upkeep, do you think that hookup will be thriving?

What happens in Nigeria is prostitution: exchange of sex for money/other valuables.

Hook up is really about casual sex aka one night stands prevalent in the West and trickling down to Nigeria.

Funny how the lesson learnt by the majority of guys here is not to give birth to sons that would kill them instead of not having marriages where they beat their wives in the first place.

Like the son just woke up and hit his father with a pestle.

This one leg out - one leg in you are advocating for doesn't work.

If you are not into that lifestyle, steer clear from them.

Like a poster said, all these things are spiritual and there is no free meal in Freetown.

May we not lose our destiny for peanuts.

NoToPile:
Superb performance.

A lovely Nigerian-green colored dress

Talking drum.

Infusion of Yoruba in the song.

She represented naija well.

She did o!

FireUpNow:
The two people I pity most are the sick daughter and the doctor who messed up his name and license

From the story, the Doctor was the cause of the catastrophe.

Mr. Ekweremadu paid the Dr. N4.5m for David because he did not want to deal with him directly.

Dr. gave David N270k and pocketed N4.23m.

sisisioge:
Their issue is quite devastating. A sick daughter, parents incarcerated, family in deep sorrow, doctor's family wellbeing jeopardized, a career lost, useful skillful hands locked away, victim life at risk...honestly the chain effect is much. All for what? They didnt do the right thing when they had the chance to do so. A lot of poor Nigerians have died unceremoniously from kidney diseases and even less severe health issues because this particular politician and many more like him prefer to embezzle money meant for the public health sector. The day of reckoning is here...

Hopefully, this would be a wake up call to their fellow politicians that a day of reckoning is coming for them also.

It is hard to feel pity for them.

BTW: Do you know what happened to the boy?

A lot of Nigerians are terrible employers and employees.

I pray God comforts the loved ones he left behind. Amen.

WesternPanzer:
Mbaise people are very horrible people. But because its a fellow Igbo kingdom, I can't say more than this.

They are to Igbos, what Ijebus are to Yorubas.

What an analogy!

Rokiat:
Marriage offcourse. Now why would I wanna use my womb and body to give a baby to a man that wouldn’t marry me? God forbid bad things never!

💯

Why would a woman want to short change herself as a baby mama?

Arsenal threw away three matches that could have solidified the cup for them. It seems the boys are tired and the coach is too rigid to change his strategy.

It would have been nice to see them win.

oldienavie:
1. Since you lack comprehension, I will break it down for you.

2. A man working in Abuja impregnates 3 women while engaged to a lady in Lagos.

3. He comes to Lagos to marry the lady he is engaged to, how does pregnancy test address that.

4. Also, a woman can get pregnant abort and still wed in the church and

5. so does a single lady who has given birth previously.

1. That's your forte

2. What concerns the Church with the three side chics expect they are marrying another man which is then paternity fraud because an innocent man would not be wedded.

3. Is the lady he is marrying pregnant? Do you know the purpose of the pregnancy test Go and do your research and stop asking nonsense questions

4. Is the woman doing the Church or herself? Would the Church grapple with the guilt of murder and complications (if any)?

5. I ask again: do you know why the Church does not wed pregnant women?

Omolanwa Iwelabi 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏

Kare! Omo daada ti o gbe oruko ebi ga.

Congratulations 🎊 👏 💐 🥳 🎊 👏 💐 🥳 🎊

flexyrule:
That's some critical asset...

Subscribing to Cloud solutions should reduce the number of physical infrastructure...

Banks run away from subscribing to cloud solutions. They like to see their physical infrastructure live.

I wish them quick business recovery, I can imagine the pressure the Network Infrastructure team would be under to bring up their services.

oldienavie:
Typical Nigerian lacking in deductive reasoning.

If virginity test discriminates against women does pregnancy test not encourage people to abort their babies ?

Of what importance is a pregnancy test if the church will still wed a single mother/father ?

Does pregnancy test not discriminate against the women considering a man may have impregnated multiple women and still be eligible for wedding in the church ?

Lazy Nigerian youth who waits for half educated so called Men Of God to decide what directions their life will take.

Yet the country is the most corrupt and sexually depraved, pretenders forming holy.

Do you lack comprehension that the Church is not forcing you to marry with them or are you just in the mood to tell us what you think about Nigeria today because this your ranting ko yemi.

Church is not forcing you to marry with them; their policies are also stated months before the wedding so you are not stranded if you can’t abide. They even give you the opportunity to clean your slate if you have been having sex prior to that.

So what exactly is your problem?

Bros, it is not everything you must have an opinion on. How can pregnancy test discriminate against a woman when the man & woman is penalised? How can a man pregnate multiple women and still be eligible for marriage when he would present himself as the partner for at least one of the women assuming he is so promiscuous that he has multiple sexual partners?

You have stated your point that you do not want to abstain from sex or want to be allowed to marry with pregnancy. We hear you and I believe that our traditional & court wedding allows that.

Do as you deem fit; the Church has decided to do as they deem fit and your opinion or lack of is inconsequential.

Won ri tie ro rara.

pocohantas:
Only him can tell. I will suggest he starts afresh.

Goal 2023 in the mud.

Klass99:
@ Beekind,

I am genuinely surprised that you are dragging your feet about this test and being reluctant about it. I expect you to be the one taking the initiative here and not your father!

Even as a lady I have always had it at the back of my mind to initiate, suggest and insist on this kind of tests for a potential spouse. And if a man drags his feet or displays any funny behaviour about getting tested I will be gone like the wind because I am not desperate for marriage.

Additionally, I will not accept just any test results he presents to me, people have be known to fake results. You will either go to a hospital of my choice or a doctor friend of mine, where I know a bribe won't be accepted and test results can't be tampered with. Test results will also be presented directly to me by the hospital not you, my expectations will not be one sided as I will submit myself to the same rules of scrutiny too. I like myself too much to be joking with my life and well being the way you want to.

When I was in University an older guy who wasn't a student wanted to take his relationship with a certain lady to the next level (I don't know if that meant sex or marriage) but he wanted her to get tested for HIV first. Three times she failed to show up for the scheduled test/appointment at the hospital, it's possible she already knew her status or she was afraid to find out. People with nothing to hide or fear will always make themselves available for medical tests of any kind.

PS: Kindly note that my post is not about your girl being in Naija or being a Nigerian. If she was from Kinshasa or both of you were in obodo or Naija, I would still say the same thing. And if I were her you will get tested too by my hospital of choice, it won't matter if you've lived in US for 50 years.

@bold:

12inchess:
How is this a win for both parties. Money means nothing. It's the resources,skills and value for your time that matters. So when the Kenyans themselves get sick how will their money help them when they have no doctors or nurses. We Africans should be learning to use the brain that God has given us now!

Oga 12inchess,

As an African, follow your advise and use your brain.

If the Govt is involved, it would be regulated i.e. they would know the number of medical staff required, the number that can be loaned to the UK Govt, the number of additional facilities required in-country to meet the number of medical staff we need etc.

Qualer:
Where have you been hiding all these while??

In Dollarland

pocohantas:
None babe.
The first one go kill am.
He would kill the second one.





Anything for you.

Has OP decided which of the evils to go for or is he starting the selection process afresh

Persephone1:
Lol how did you get that?

Oh they can be very serious with weddings.
On house I think t they encourage couple to live in at least a room and parlour not a single room and there is age band. I remember when my big sis got married, the fact that mum was pastoring a church then and sis was getting married to someone from another denomination the vetting no be here

But it's a good thing though

I know my people and I love them with their plenty wahala.

They frustrated me that I was at the verge of cancelling white wedding

Told my pastor that I would do a garden ceremony and he would preach and he said God would not bless marriage in an open space. Then I asked why God did miracles and answered prayers at open ground crusades

I don't envy your big sis at all o! A different denomination to a pastor's daughter, Bob yen a sweat gan to prove he is worthy of one of their recious daughters.

Like you said, it is good and sometimes expose the intent of the couple.

An aspect I enjoyed was the counselling. The manual is so rich that some friends read it after their marriage.

Another win for me is the fact that they do the court runs for you so they present both RCCG's and the Registry's certificates on that day and they process the submission and other wahala themselves thereafter.

oldienavie:
Are you saying the church asks for fertility tests for intending couples ?

If not that Nigeria is a lawless country, the church would have been closed down in a sane society.

Peoples medical history is not anyones business and the fact the church is demanding for it is against the law as your medical record should be confidential.

Why is the church not conducting virginity tests instead of pregnancy test if they are not hypocrites?
So someone who is pregnant and chose not to abort will be denied wedding but someone who aborted is worthy of marriage.

You see the hypocrisy in that action ?

Mr. Sane Society,

In a haste to discredit what you do not understand, you started fumbling.

1. Virginity/Chastity tests in this case are actually discriminatory against women because only women can be tested. The Church acknowledges that a person might have fornicated before giving their lives to Christ or getting married and are giving you a clean slate to start afresh before marriage. At the start of counselling, you both are told to drop all old vices and consecrate yourselves towards the wedding. Considering that counselling usually occurs about three months before the marriage, it is not too long for a serious couple to abstain.

2. There is freedom of association. Infact, the Church is sometimes overburdened with ceremonies because they cannot conduct ceremonies during national/regional/provincial/area/parish programme days that they move marriages to sister parishes or combine weddings. In essence, the Church is not begging anybody to marry in it. If you do not like the rules, you can move on and continue attending the church after your wedding ceremony. The people whom the rules are made for are not complaining. The Church also stipulate their requirements during counselling; it is not a surprise. If you don't like it, waka. This is not a case for social justice warriors. Stick to your sane clime and do things as you like.

chineduace:
Lol...

You don't need to cram codes for different networks nah

Hmmmmm

Sounds like an advantage after we learn it.

Probably take another year or two to learn

I check all required details on my mobile app and get notifications from my providers upon every transaction.

Modified: just realised you are the OP that's why you are supporting them. 🙄 👀 👁 😵

mariahAngel:
Tell your cousin she's not a lesbian or any of the endless letters.
She's a human being who's still growing and yet to fully discover herself.
How she feels sexually does not define her.
Let her put away sexual thoughts from her mind for now, and focus on building herself.

Homosexuality is not normal even in nature, it's a disorder.

@bold:

Absolutely on point.