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Love800:
Omo i went to boarding house. There was this one told that if u keep late nite studying ur book alone wen others are sleeping, one spirit will come and take u away.

There was this other one of going to urinate at nite, and you will start seeing a shadow that will be following you

And the tree in front of our hostel then, it was said that if u go and urinte under it that something bad will happen to you. Some people even said that sometimes it makes some kinda strange noise at nite

[b[Abi is it the one of that girl that remove her own head nd start to plait it on her lap every nite till one student saw her nd scream.

Omo boarding house na die[/b]

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Boarding House eh!

For those saying it is Eastern schools, she was everywhere; I schooled in Lagos.

It is possible most of these boarding houses were haunted; it is said that a number of them was built on burial grounds.

ImaIma1:
I think it's because of the extra love and attention that the mother gives her children even when they have a full time job like the fathers.

But I think things are changing now. Fathers pay more attention to their children now, not just supplying money.

At weddings, we also have the part where a bride dances with her father. And marriage lists include the father too

True.

They are finally waking up

Twenty8:
(1)It is because most fathers are deadbeat, it's not that they don't love their children but they don't sacrifice as much as the mother. I experienced this recently, I was always going against mothers being more celebrated than fathers, but I understood why recently, I was going to school and needed a lot of stuffs yet all my father could do was only to give me transport money(at least he gave a little compared to most fathers), my mother carried the major bulk of every thing and even added to the transport fare again, this happened the same with my siblings. So honestly, why won't mothers be more celebrated than fathers?( This in my own case sha )

(2)It can also depend on the relationship the father has with his children compared to their mother, he might be doing everything but if he's not friendly enough with his children he won't be celebrated.

(3)Due to some women taking the bulk of child raising, society believes it is so for everybody because children from such homes are very loud when it comes to celebrating their mothers.

The solution to solving this bias is for the men who are letting women do the majority of child raising is to man up and take their responsibility and for children from homes where they are raised majorly by their father to celebrate them loudly too.

Let them keep deceiving themselves.

The law of planting and harvesting is natural: whatever you sow, you will reap.

If you want to reap future celebration, sow in the present what would birth that.

illicit:
I like long weekends

Friday to Monday

O make sense gan.

I love Friday parties if I can attend. Makes me feel like a won a lottery.

Flexing on a day and the next day is not work or Sunday

illicit:
Why don't traditional worshippers have a worship day and public holidays especially in Africa

They are marginalised

I concur.

Anything for more holidays

nifemi25:
It's common here in Nigeria... this is what Pablo wife's wear to the mall on weekends for shopping

@bold:

True.

That jalamiya is unisex over here

If that oga should come here, he will pass out from laughing.

OneCandleAway:
Even new Zealand. That's what Israel adesanya is facing presently. Once you've dated for 3 years the woman is entitled to half your property

Strange.

And what makes her entitled to it?

witsel4:
Which yeye girl friend.
Baba is paying respect to the queen of the waters

You mean Baba knows Oluweri 😉 😏 😜 🤣 😄

Toor!

Staphylococcus:
Bezos!

I love that dude!

He is a definition of silent and loud! Keeps killing it without you knowing.

Unlike my dear Elon, loud and loud. 🤣


Let me go and put Iya Tunde’s statue on my Toyota Carina too. I need show love.

@bold:

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Don't you have a baby girl name for her?

Oga detective, I hail o!

Why is the father in Onitsha while the mother and children are at Abuja/AKS?

Did the father ever call her to encourage her during the cookathon?

Apart from borrowing money from loan sharks was he present in their lives?

We have told you fathers over and over; you have seen what befell your ancestors yet you don't listen:

Financial sperm donorship doesn't make you a father: at least not one that would be remembered.

You need to present in your children's lives; play with them, train them, discipline them, correct them, encourage them, love their mother, show them love, don’t treat them like an inconvenience, be involved in all aspects of their lives, introduce them to your faith or even lack of it, have a routine with them outside their mother. Know them for yourselves.

Let them have a personal relationship with you.

It is well.

frozen70:
Laugh my dear this guy wants to see the negative side of me that's why i am loading it for every of his silly mention on me

Mama de mama!

Well, each to their own.

Acidosis:
Old age favour women? This is really new considering the rate at which old men become sugar daddies.

I still believe that old age will only "favour" women in a Tinubu/Oluremi or Buhari/Aisha kind of relationship. Buhari is 80 years. Aisha is just 52. I won't consider Aisha's state an advantage or "favour." Have you imagined an 80 year old Aisha? You have to imagine a typical 80 year old woman to draw this conclusion.

We also can't use Tinubu's situation to draw any conclusion. Even after declaring a fraudulent age, Tinubu is still 10 years older than Remi. Remove the fraud and we are nearing a 20 year gap. These are no advantages in my own understanding. Both Buhari and Tinubu have lived and seen it all, they have been previously married to other women with kids here and there.

The favor I understand here is not sex related.

Old women get natural favour and help from the world. It is like she's 18 - 27 again.

Even Biblically, there is no emphasis on caring for widowers (who we assune would be older men) like there is for widows.

On this same NL and in the real world, men often complain how they are 'abandoned' in old age, not reaping the fruits of their labour while their wives are jetting from country to country doing omugwo.

Women also tend to build emotional relationships they can leverage on in old age.

OfeAchi:
I once had a gf who said she only slept with men for money. No feelings! Once she gets funds, she goes back to loving me , her only true love.

Warris this?

MrBrownJay1:
the dude was cheating when she was born, was cheating when she discovers about who he was, was cheating to be with her (and she knew it), was cheating when during their time together and will be cheating when he is done with her.

CHEATING IS PART OF THIS MAN'S DNA...forget the above excuses he will give you, and dont confuse that with other men.

a man that has respect for his woman, respect for his r/ship, respect for himself, would CONTROL HIS IMPULSES TO GO FUKC SOMEONE ELSE!

@bold:

The expression though true is extremely funny 😁 😂 😀 😄 😆 🤣

Persephone1:
Abi? Make she move closer to God she will realize she misjudge God.

I don't have lots of NEVER but one thing I will never do is argue God, spirituality, religion on a forum. I can only teach but if someone want argument, I can only remember him or her in prayers

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pocohantas:
Annie the virtuous woman.
Chioma Davido is Annie Idibia Version 2.0.

Look at both women and you would understand what a brazen cheat can do to a woman. They both look psychotic and restless.



Amen my love. From your lips to God's ears.

May the daughters of NL redpillers marry men like Tuface and Davido.

Outside the normal Annie is foolish for marrying 2Face because of his babymama ish, I never paid much attention to the dynamics of their relationship or whom 2Face was.

Then I watched their Young, Famous and African part 1 and I realised that Annie was not just foolish; that woman is seriously broken inside.

I don’t know if it is juju, dickmatization, hypnosis or an extreme lack of self worth, that woman is seriously broken; 2Face knows and exploits it.

2Face is not a good man to Annie at all. I remember him telling the divorced lady with two kids (can't remember her name) that they should 'whine' Annie small to yank her chain and that one gave the vibe of 'don’t rope me into your mess'.

This is beyond 'men are polygamous' and the other bullshit they use to excuse lack of sexual control; he deliberately yanks her chain to mess her mind up.

Persephone1:
"God has always settled every form of problem that may arise among HIS CHILDREN."

I intentionally capitalized 'his children ' o . Aside this even as an unbeliever if you acknowledge God and tender your case before him, He will respond. It's the grace Jesus Christ has given to all. Part of this grace is why sun shines on all individual, plant grows for all, rain falls for all and air is free.

God is not wicked, nah you dey judge him from far.

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Anytime I read that Kobo's post and she/he repeats that post on threads regarding prayer, I chuckle.

Na the same God Kobo describe so?

FairlyUSEDpussy:
Check this few verses first......
Proverbs 16:3. ...
Romans 8:9. ...
Colossians 3:2. ...
Philippians 4:8-9. ...
Philippians 4:5-7. ...
Romans 15:13. ...
Proverbs 2:6-8.

1. Prov 16:3: commit your actions to the Lord and your plans would succeed

2. Prov 2:6 - 8: For the Lord grants wisdom! From His mouth comes knowledge and understanding. He grants a treasure of common sense to the honest. He is a shield to those who work in integrity. He guards the path of the just and protects those who are faithful to Him.

3. Romans 8:9 But you are not controlled by your sinful nature. You are controlled by the Spirit if you have the spirit of God living inside of you. (And remember that those who do not have the spirit of God inside of them do not belong to Him at all).

4. Romans 15:13 I pray that God, the source of hope, will fill you completely with joy and peace because you trust in Him. Then you will overflow with confident hope through the power of the Holy Spirit.

5. Colossians 3:2 Think about the things of Heaven, not the things of earth

6. Philippians 4: 8 - 9 And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise. Keep putting into practice all you learnt and received from me - everything you heard from me and saw me doing. Then the God of peace would be with you.

I wouldn't write out Philippians 4:5 - 7 because it was Paul's encouragement to them and I have written out the subsequent verses.

I painstakingly wrote out those verses from my Bible so that someone would not stumble on this thread and say yes, he quoted the passages, nobody responded.

I do not know the assembly you worship but it is tragic that you who are a man and supposedly would be the priest of your home has no grasp of what is expected of you. It is disheartening that we ask for Bible verses and you quote irrelevant passages to insult our intelligence.

Not one of those passages talk about marriage, mentions a woman or a wife so that you would be charged for misinterpretation and not this outright nonsense you just did.

If you claim to be a Christian, give your life to Christ and go back to Christian foundation 101 so you can start the scriptures from the milk designed for babies.

Klass99:
Bukatyne I've found the link to the husband's story/narrative. I mean Debrief's hubby.

I'm feeling like an expert research pro right now . Clap for me and enjoy reading.

https://www.nairaland.com/959965/men-learn-mistakes#11063528

Below is an intriguing quote from 2012 by the husband. A quote I'm afraid is still a reality today

Let me clap 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 for you first, you deserve the accolades

You have been searching for this thread for ages.

I will go through the thread.

His post is true na. Simple 1st Peter, Men are told that their prayers would not be answered if they don't treat their wives right. In Malachi 2, God said He hates divorce and went further to say men that 'betrayed' the wives of their youth I.e. discarding their marital vows and discarding the old wife for someone younger.

It could be the consequences of their actions that makes some of them not to enjoy the fruit of their labour or be despised in old age.

Persephone1:


I don't hesitate to tell them maybe i will do it more often.

Although I must confess directives like "pray and fast " isn't mostly from a place of religion but to pepper them

True believers know how to sort out marital problems within themselves through the help of the HOLY SPIRIT who is the true guide. And all through years and centuries, God has always settled every form of problem that may arise among HIS CHILDREN.

frozen70:
I never knew that your mum hate her husband

And it's possible your wife will hate you when you marry

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frozen70:
Honestly in my own case, my children are my next of kin

My husband can decide to pregnant another woman and marry her

Or he may decide to marry another woman

So my properties maybe claimed by such woman thinking it's the man's property

So once my children are my next of kin, so far am still alive it belongs to me and my husband

But if am not there it belongs to them all, at least they will have something from their mother

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Wahala Wahala

The baby decided to land this earth by hook or crook.

Drama everywhere.

Who announced the death?

And the Mr. Zulu alleged he died on the 7th of May, why are they just telling us now?

Kudos 👏 OP.

More sales.

Klass99:
It is not as simple as choosing as well. I am all for doing your due diligence and choosing well when it comes to a spouse but change is a constant fact of life and people sometimes change.

Debrief's husband is a great example. Who would have thought that her godly, devoted, Christian boyfriend turned husband, whom she met and dated in school from their fellowship days (without sex) will turn into the monster he did?

I have been searching the forum for the husband's side of the story, so I can post the link to validate this point about people changing. It was an interesting narrative, the guy owned up to all he did and even more like fracturing three of her ribs. Gosh, I need to find that post.

I watch a lot of YouTube shorts and I love to dive into the comments section as well because YouTube has a more diverse community than NL. A woman shared that her husband of 17 years or so, left their marriage informing her he no longer loved her etc. It came out of the blue, it was unexpected and it really broke her heart. She spent time crying and praying that God would bring him back to her.

One day she heard The Lord clearly tell her - Mary he has to return to me first before he can come back to you. That gave her some relief and she quit her crying/praying, putting hubby in God's hands and pressing on with her life.

The point here is that - when a man's heart is turned away from God, he can and will cause you pain, without any fault on your part. You can choose well from the beginning but if or when their hearts start turning away from God there will be trouble. As shown in Debrief's and Mary's case.

I also think the turning away starts with things like gambling, the other user complained of on her thread.

I firmly believe that marriage is a spiritual matter hence spiritual guidance (depending on what you favor) is important.

When I say choose well, I am not just referring to the physical. And like church speak, God will not give His daughters (who rely on Him for a choice of spouse) to spiritual bustards who would turn negative in future.

Are there exceptions? Yes. However, if as a spiritual person (especially a child of God) there are more cases of godly husbands/wives changing for the worse, then there is a fundamental problem somewhere.

Is it possible that God's choice in marriage is a thorn in the person's flesh for a lesson? Yes. An example was Hosea in the Bible whom He told to marry a prostitute. Sometimes, the change can be a spiritual attack which I do not deny.

Again, on the physical, I generally don't believe people change 360 for the worse. It is however possible for the intending spouse not to know that aspect of them. Reminds me of an acquaintance that boasts that he has different faces (aka cupboard life) for different people. To some, he is jaiye jaiye person; to others, he is 100% career driven; to others, he is a church boy. That's where God comes in and show you things you need to know.

I have also seen cases God showed people things and they went ahead because of age and other circumstances.

I gather that the OP in that thread knew her husband gambled before they got married.

@bold: As a Christian, don’t you think there are too much instances of turning away especially for husbands (assuming they were 100% right with God initially) not to go to the foundation?

P.S.: I personally don't think the personality you see in the church gives you enough scope for a martial life. And anyone meeting in the church or any religious gathering without further contact in a more natural environment has to do even more due diligence.

MrBrownJay1:
they are BOTH TO BLAME.
- if there was NO WOMAN ready/willing to open their legs unprotected while not being married, then the above wouldnt happen.
- if there was NO MAN ready/willing to have unprotected sex while not being married, then the above wouldnt happen.

but then again, being a babymama/babydaddy isnt viewed as a bad thing today, thus why so many people would rather become one than get married. marriage is hard, babymama/daddy is EASY!!!

End of Discussion.

All rise!

Hmmmmmmm!

Klass99:
Lol 🤣. You just like some kind of pointless debates that induce a headache and leave you feeling like you've lost some brain cells after engaging with someone. His first post revealed a lot na, I am not even surprised he is a professing Christian.

Choco's thread and the thread that prompted this one has me wondering, what value do some if not most of these men actually bring to the table or marriage?

1. They slack off on their responsibility as the spiritual head of the home. Often leaving the grooming of their kids in God's ways, to their wives or Sunday school teachers. Most do not even hold once a week family devotions in their homes, neither do they lead by example.

2. They still slack off on their responsibility as providers, either insisting on a 50/50 sharing formula or completely slacking off and allowing their wives take up the responsibility of providing.

3. They are lacking in moral excellence and values, they love to play the filed while married, always trying hard to justify adultery, with some going as far as quoting scriptures to do so, like that Toks guy was doing here. And it's not just online I have experienced this, even offline.

I am not even trying to be funny or sarcastic with my question, it's an honest and rhetorical question. What value do they bring to the table? From where I stand it looks like theirs is just to be causing women heartache and palpitations, turning you into a fasting and prayer warrior over their poor choices/bad behaviour, causing anger, bitterness and resentment in hearts.

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Please blame my 'I think this can be savaged' and ensuring peeps are correct when they reference the Bible.

I don't want some girl not deeply rooted in the Word reading that ans saying 'Christianity is too burdensome for women; we are even expected to pray for erring husbands while we don't get that privilege'.

@other parts:

That's why I 'scream' that women should choose well. If a woman marries baruff, she would not even chase 10 not to talk of the 1,000 the Bible says a single person would chase.

She would turn to prayer warrior or inspector running from pillar to post looking for what is not lost.

Then live a life filled with bitterness and start tormenting her DILs.

NoToPile:
Zero tact, very disrespectful and insultive. just open mouth waa waa waa.

Don't you have a house
Stay were you belong
I didn't marry mother and daughter

You said these three sentences to your Mil? Seriously?

There seems to be something fundamentally wrong somewhere.

@Bold:

Just simple lack of home training.

If he has elders in his family, he would handled the issue with more tact if he was angry with the constant visits.

A child that was trained and re-trained him/herself is not hard to spot.

thesilentman:
that's harsh!

What's harsh?

Isn't it the same thing you did to your MIL?

Or do you have two heads?

The poster just told you that the same measure you uses for your MIL, someone would use it for you.

And I join him/her to say amen! Amin! Ise!