₦airaland Forum

pak: Have you ever heard of that wonderful invention called 'paragraphs' ?

and please, typing from your phone is not an excuse

deols: I cant see a post like this and just move on. well done Op. This is a good one

maclatunji: ^You are just a stubborn young lady. You know you have no basis for your assertions. You are just hoping to get more than is your fair share. Allah has given the man the go ahead- so don't bother.

fyneboi79: Tell me baby "DULL",what's better than sex in a relationship?

sharp man: Of course i knew you were not talking about women......you were certainly referring to the men......and you implied that they did not know what marriage was about. You conveniently ignored the original question about women doing chores.

Your post meant that men should stick with their women regardless of what the women do....and not sticking with them meant that they did not know what marriage is about.

My position is that a woman who knows what marriage is about should be ready to sacrifice....in other words do chores.....for the man you want to marry. That you should have also mentioned.

Sagamite: It is very, very tough nowadays.

Very, very tough.

We are social animals. I would do all I cab but they would still have a world bombarding them with nonsense from all angles and mediums, and they might still mix with kids of people I despise their parental ideology (like Miss Ife and jidegirl12) in environments I can't control. Moreover, the liberal funky ideology is more fun even if damaging.

It is a village that raises a child, not just me the parent.

Evolutionary efficiency is kicking in as I am subconsciously keeping my seeds in the sack.

sharp man: If you know what marriage means......then you won't have issues doing chores for the man you want to marry.

Sagamite: So damn right!

Many things I see in the modern society contributes to my lack of desire of bringing a kid to this world.

You can go buttnaked and have sex infront of the world and become a superstar millionaire, you campaign/innovate/volunteer and make lives of millions better, you merely get a transient acknowledgement at best.

Secondly, intellect has been relegated to fall behind sex in the modern world.

carmelion: Aside other things,you mean before ,during or after harmattan and rainy seasons?

ochallo: here are way in which your wife/girlfriend would be different from your mother

http://www.elijahforce..com/2013/02/the-common-differences-between-wives.html

mathewalab: It is extremely sad that majority of those who have responded on this topic were fake christian who did not understand why they attend church services or being a CHRISTIAN.

A Christian is a little Christ( a follower of Christ, living and abiding with the principles of the word of God -BIBLE)
Please anytime we face with questions as regard our faith, the first question we should ask ourselves is - what is the position of the word of God - Bible?

Now, follow me to read: HEBREWS 13:4 "Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefilled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge"

So, if God said He condemned a behaviour and He will judge the act; then you agreed with me that pastors and the church are custodian of this Biblical injuction, how then do we blame church for conducting pregnancy test before marriage.

Are you saying the church and pastor should share potion of the punishment for the offenders of the sin? Definitely no truly called man of God will support heresis in the name of civiliazation or whatever you call it.


It is on this note, I am persuading Nairalanders to stop misuse our freedom of expression on topics we know nothing about.Therefore there is no basis to support sex before marriage, it is fornication and our God disapprove it.


The act of a young ladyperson keeping himself/herself till weeding night, apart from Bible is a cultural thing; which I knewn Yoruba and other tribe too practice it. It is civilization that spoil our way of life this day's; And as a matter of fact, the word of God prevail culture and civilization.

To those of you who supported the act of sex before marriage, I by the mercies of God call you to the alter of Jesus Christ now, and obtain true salvation that the king of Glory gives freely. It is well with your souls. (Amen)

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and why shouldnt she do the chores for her man!!
do you know how many other women out there are DYING to do those chores

Kmt, if she cant do it, then make she carry her body go one side and let those girls
who are ready to WORK and KEEP A MAN WORK and KEEP A MAN

Ladies take your MAN for granted! and another woman declares him WANTED

maclatunji: Yes, she is obliged to show obedience not kindness.

olu4life: It aint a bad thing. I know CAC,Redeem also follow this procedures. And for a case i knew in CAC,the pregnant lady got punished for it. Churches preaches against pre-marital sex so why should this be a case

dammytosh: My dear, God bless you. You don't enjoy a relationship through principle. There should be a place of you shifting ground and that is called love.

If you have this guy who can stake his life for you. Defends you. You know how unsafe you feel without him being around. there is a problem, all you need is just for your baby to say , "It is well." Tell me what is too much ?

Please don't follow all this anonymous users that scream God Forbid. I know their type. The last girl that claimed she will never play with a guy with her penny confessed to me that her ex-boyfriend is oweing her 1.9million after they broke up.

Follow your heart. If he is worth it, u know.

Idowuogbo: My dear, dats another topic entirely. D main discussion hia is... Would y'all cook, clean and wash for boyfriends? YES or NO!!!

safarigirl: those were in the days when men lived till 400...these days, that theory just doesn't work. The world is different, too many iniquities and God is not smiling. The average life expectancy rate in Nigeria is 45, and you're talking about marriage at 47.

I agree with the second point, especially with women, see someone like Goldie for instance, 31, dead, no kids, God forgive me, but as she left no child behind, can anyone say she actually left a mark?

maclatunji: In Islam, our wills are submitted to God and adherence to his injunctions, you cannot submit to your wife as the leader of your home, that is not love at all. It is God that has made the man the head of the home with lots of responsibilities.

Now in Management, assigning responsibility without backing it up with authority is a recipe for disaster. God being the supreme Manager has prevented that.

This is an example of what happens when responsibility is given without authority- http://www.techrepublic.com/article/assign-responsibility-and-authority/1046495?mobileView=fullonce

poopli: even the bible say faith without work is dead

prayer+hardwork- success

hardwork-prayer- success

prayer only- failure

hatdwork only- success

THEREFORE PRAYER IS ONLY A WASTE OF TIME.

snowbaby: Has I ve said earlier †ђξ rules r to help u in ur christain journey if u can put it in place buh they shud not be called sins
1. Not wearing of lace, glittering cloth, reasons given, lace has holes(can't it be lined as dey do dose stuff materials dey wear),dose glittering materials distract members
2. Not wearing of hats (can remember mum almost slapping me wen I was younger that don't I know better than to wear a hat to church in deeper life)
3. Marrying frm anoda denomination (as if only deeper life members r bornagain christains)
4. wearing of white wedding gown ( don't want member to be extravagant in dere dressing,want modesty for them)
5. Back in dose days wearing of jeans is prohibited among male(becos it ll make u look like ppl of d world) dose aint serious anymore
6.Back in dose days removing any gold materials frm ur bags, shoes cover,recommending wearing of leather wrist watch n not gold chain wristwatch(cos gold is only meant to decorate d house of God) well no one is listening to dt again
7. Wearing of suits by d female workers cos suit is a men cloth (deut 22:5) by our pastos wife den, don't think anyone is listening to dt
8. Buying aso ebi is a sin( cos it means u r worldly,remeber love not d world and d things of d world)
9. Drumming in d church (most churches dt drum r not wordly, n d house of God has to be solemn)

If u do dem u ll be look down by dose members dt u ll not known wen u ll stop doing dem cos of fear of acceptance
If u can look beyound all dis den deeper life is d place to be
As a Christian u ve to deny urself of some of dese things not because they r sin buh to differentiate urself frm d world as a changed person so dt wen u preach to others they ll known dt truly u ve conquer d flesh buh it shud be as d spirit leads n not wat is enforced by d church dt most youth can't just understand cos dese things r labelled sin, it is evn d sisters youth dt leave enmass

coolheed: May Allah bless the author of this thread.
I think it is important to state scriptural evidences on the rights and responsibilities of the husband and the wife. These two elements are combined in the quranic and biblical verses below:

“Men are in charge of women by [right of] what Allah has given one over the other and what they spend [for maintenance] from their wealth.” (An-Nisa’: 34).
"Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord" Ephesians 5 v 22

It is not uncommon that women of this generation find it difficult to obey their husbands all in the name of civilization and gender equality. This is one of the key reasons why divorce rate is higher in recent times.
I heard some people say "he cannot command me but he can lead me with care and love". This is all syntactic gymnastics. I disagree that husbands cannot command the wife but my question is this "Can the husband instruct/lead/direct/oversee the affairs of the wife?. If the answer is yes, then it means the same thing as command. In trying to balance the view of the womenfolk, the word "command" could also connote "being authoritative" and "dictatorial". As we know that some men also misuse this God-given right. A good husband communicates, listens and deliberates with his wife. However, this does not take away his right as the head and leader of the family affairs. The important thing is that women should be obedient and submissive to their husbands. They should not display arrogance where submission is required. In as much as your husband does not instruct you to go against the will of Almighty Allah.

In the same vein, the husband is responsible for the provision of food, clothing and shelter for the family. This is the way of the Lord. If a man is not capable of supporting his family, he should pray to God for sustenance as it will greatly affect his right to lead the house as the two goes parri-passu. Little wonder why some financially buoyant wives choose not to submit to their husbands, afterall he does not provide for their material needs. This is not the way of the Lord as we have read from history very rich women who submittted to their husbands despite their financial status.

Rukemi291: By the time a aman starts giving orders like these....uhm, he has definitely started cheating.
God will punish any idio.tic stu.pid girl that makes anybody's husband start giving orders like that...

CFCfan: GBAM! 100 Likes for ur comment.