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Esthersmall: I belive in doin ur best in relationship. Doin his laundary or cookin 4 him culd make him respect u or not. If a guy is nt treating his woman right despite al she's doin then is indirectly tellin her 2 go.

and you think cooking and doing laundry is doing ur best in a relationship? we ladies should learn to improve ourselves! if a man needs cooking and laundry, he'll get a maid! if he wants sex, he can go to redzones! we should learn to input into their lives and add value to them. teach them something new. positively affect their lives. read proverbs 31 and see if the virtous woman/wife is the woman washing clothes and all that. it also goes for men too. if she needs someone to pay her bills, she has her father! add positive valu to her life!

Nedum05: Hellooo peeps, i have been wondering what really can make a man treat his woman right. Some men no matter how hard you try to pls them e.g wash their cloths, make delicious meals etc will still treat a woman like a trash, as if a lady is forcing herself on them but when she gets tired and decides to leave him, he comes with disturbance. Ur opinions are welcomed.

when a man loves a woman he'll treat her very right. this brings moi to a question: how did ur relationship start? did u just sleep together and gbam u started or wat? wat is the basis of your relationship? that determines how he would treat u. doing a man's laundry and al that is the quickest way to lose his respect especially if he doesn't love you. you have to have a healthy dose of self esteem and know ur worth. however, self esteem doesn't translate to being rude or lousy. note that gals don't chase men, it's other way round. and note that if a man loves u and treat u right but you don't reciprocate, d love can diminish after a while so u also have to treat him right too.

Myself2: Dont mind him,he has forgotten that Bible passage where it is written that God took one rib from the side of the woman and formed man,that makes the woman superior to the man.Dont tell me it's the other way round

dude i doubt that u got the conclusion that women are more superior from my post u quoted. like i told the poster i quoted, if u don't understand something in the Bible, ask around or pray to God for understanding. don't misquote it. if u think dat making Eve out of Adam's rib made Adam superior, u have a very long way to go!

Myself2: Dont mind him,he has forgotten that Bible passage where it is written that God took one rib from the side of the woman and formed man,that makes the woman superior to the man.Dont tell me it's the other way round

dude i doubt that u got the conclusion that women are more superior from my post u quoted. like i told the poster i quoted, if u don't understand something in the Bible, ask around or pray to God for understanding. don't misquote it. if u think dat making Eve out of Adam's rib made Adam superior, u have a very long way to go!

CeaserB: You Gals Are Still Crying Over Spilled Milk!?
See The Question Sef: What's So Special About Male Children?
Are you saying God made a mistake giving Man the authority to rule the earth?
God Blessed Man With Authority (Dominion) Over Every
And You Are Still Blaming God Why He Made Man So Special?

Who Are You To Question God's Authority?
Who God Has Blessed Let No Man Curse.
A Man Is The Head Of The Home
All Staunch Feminists Can/Will Go To Hell If They Keep Ranting About The Equality Of Man and Woman

Man's Superiority Is Not Just About Marriage Alone.
Man's Superiority Encompasses All Things Since The Beginning Of Time.
Who Rules The World? Men
Who Were The Greatest Philosophers? Men
Who Are The Strongest Physically? Men
Who Are The Greatest Scientists? Men
Who Are The Most Inventors? Men
Few and few are still women (even when population of women are more, men still surpasses them)
...In all sphere of life Men dominates Women even sexually. A woman's sexual prowess is only limited.
Many Men at the age of 70 can still impregnate a woman.
But can a woman of 70 give birth naturally? No.
Women were made for companionship. Men are core idealogists. If Not for men, life would still have been in the stone age. The best a woman can do is support our ideas.

Nevertheless we (men) owe our women Love, Care and Respect. Everyone is entitled to be treated with that.

...On a last Note, [size=21pt]"ANY WOMAN WHO FEELS SHE EQUAL TO MAN CAN GO AHEAD AND DO AS JOB's WIFE SAID 'CURSE GOD AND DIE!"[/size]

A Message To Ye Daughters Of Jezebel.

wit dis ur post, i can see that u really don't understand the Bible nor know the mind of God. just state ur opinions and stop adding Bible/God to them

CeaserB: Na Baba God (Jehovah, Allah, Eledumare, Chukwu) Sign, Seal And Deliver The Authority To Us (Men).
So We (Men) Suggest You (Women) Send Your Appeal To The Supreme Creator If You Have Any Case Against (Men) Being "Special". Until Then You (Women) Can Keep Ranting. That Does Not Remove An Inch Of The Authority From Us (Men)


"And God said, Let us make Man in our image, after our likeness: and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over the cattle, and over all the earth, and over EVERY creeping thing that creepeth upon the earth" (Genesis. 1:26).

"To the woman God said, I will surely multiply your pain in childbearing; in pain you shall bring forth children. Your desire shall be for your husband, and he shall RULE over you.” (Genesis 3:16)

"But I permit NOT a Woman to teach, NOR to have dominion over a Man, but to be in quietness." (1 Timothy 2:12)




[size=21pt]...AND GOD SAID, "CASE DISMISSED!" [/size]

before u re in a hurry to quote Bible passages, understand them properly. Gen 1:26 refers to male and female (man is a generic term) that's why we re called d sons of God, brethren etc. Gen 3 was referring to the consequences of the fall of man (Adam and Eve). so dear, Gender inequality didn't originate from God.

tadysmart: Are you saying that our fathers who passed down this tradition to us were stupid?? Btw if a lady want to a share in her fathers property,two options are available
1. Remain single,we call them ''Nwadinniamma'' . They receive equal share with the men.


2.Go for surgery to add the third leg,I assure you, all your father's property will be yours or you have a share.

and is it all the traditions of our fathers we are following?

KDULAR: One of my female friends father decided that he's not taking her daughters marriage ceremony and rites to the village but where he resides, Lagos, because of the attendant demands by the extended family and community , who doesn't know and would not care about the realities of his family development. Also considering the attendant cost on the groom who happens to be a civil servant and her daughter who is a medical doctor though, to travel home to the east with the whole family . He said NO. Any one who considers himself family will come and take his rightful position inthe celebration in Lagos. At the end of the day, it was the people that mattered that came for the wedding ceremony and the cost according to my friend was,so convenient for the two parties (families involved).

this is a sensible father who has secured the future of his daughter, made her husband and inlaws respect her and her family and reinforced d values he must have taught her.

Lagusta: seconded, here is my riddle,
1. What has teeth but cannot bite
2. What goes up and never goes down
3. What goes down nd never goes up
4. What always kisses its mother before dying
5. What is always refered to as the window to the soul

1. comb 3.rain 5.eyes

apocalypse: You broke a rule , when the father takes the second son across he would be with the first daughter without the mum around.

Here is an easier one

What do you pray not to have but when you have it you pray not to lose it ?.

Peeps think hard and don't tell me love , friendship or any of those mushy things cos no one prays not to have/find love.

a court case

walexydon: Two women and two doctors walk into an ice cream parlor. They each order an ice cream cone. When their ice creams come, there is only 1 strawberry,1 chocolate and 1 vanilla.
How come they didn't complain?

Three fat ladies stood under an umbrella but none of them got wet. Why didn't any of them get wet?

Which word, if pronounced right, is wrong, but if pronounced wrong is right?

Which word is the odd one out:
First Second Third Forth Fifth Sixth Seventh Eighth

1. there is a woman, a female doctor and a male doctor 4. forth: it was spelt wrongly

dlex21: My first is twice in apple but not once in tart.
My second is in liver but not in heart.
My third is in giant and also in ghost.
Whole I'm best, when I am roast.
What are u?

pig

MRbrownJAY: answer: NOTHING

here is one from me (i posted it in the riddle thread but i got no replies):

10 thieves were caught red handed and arrested. they were placed in front of a firing squad, and shot at point blank range (with real bullet), yet no single men was killed. how is this possible?!

the thieves were women

[quote author=sofa-dj]Okay this one is simple buh let's see who gets it first.


U in a race and u overtake the 2nd person what will be position.?[/quote]

[quote author=sofa-dj]Okay this one is simple buh let's see who gets it first.


U in a race and u overtake the 2nd person what will be position.?[/quote]2nd

as some posters said, d OP's not clear. this is why i do tell pple to resolve all issues and pursue their relationships to the very end b4 calling it quits or how can someone stil have feelings for his/her ex except they lost contact? if the woman knew she stil had 'feelings' for her ex, why did she go ahead and marry someone else? how do you vow to love and cherish someone when your heart is somewhere else because i believe that nobody can love two people at the same time. since the deed is done, the OP should just erase the guy from her existence! she should also pray to God to remove the love of her ex from her heart and replace it wit her husbands'. Goodluck!

TechRev: Una don pursue the guy, who knows which advice he has gone to implement.

Facts from OP:
1. You dont trust your best friend: Shows you too can not be trusted.
2. You are scared he will hurt your sister: Just like you been hurting other people's sister, see what goes around comes around. So next time you want to hurt a woman, remember she is someone's sister or daughter.
3. You want the suspected relationship to stop: You feel your sister is too good for the guy even if he may want to marry her finally.
4. You want advice from NL before even talking to your sister or best friend of 10yrs: Further proves the type of person you are, MAYBE you have no moral grounds to talk to any of them

IMHO, If your sister is an adult who gave you the right to decide who she takes as friend or even date?? If your friend is a bad person, how come he is your best friend and you even brought him into your parents house??
Whether you like it or not, your friendship with that your friend has come to its final days its the fact, irrespective of the action you take. If you talk to him and caution him, he will remove you from his friends list or best friend list cause he will say you feel he is not good enough for your sister and they will find another venue. If you keep quiet, the friendship will still crumble when they break up cause from your fears of him, shows you know him as use and dump just as you been doing.

Be prepared for the eventual loss of your friend but make sure you part ways peacefully.

i agree wit ur post though i don't support his frnd not telling him first. the poster's way is not clean.

genie

Goddess12: We need to quickly lunch "I support the consular" or "consular Abu appreciation day" campaign to counter what this kobokobo are trying to do.
I can get some friends in NY to set this up and get there myself on Friday.

on a second thought, Are You Alright

Goddess12: Why must he go to church? you ibos need to get a life, if he were to be ibo would you have forced him to go to the mosque, you get as much as you give, you want to tell me that a consular must and have been visiting all bereaved families in the US? you are not even nigerians.

and did u read anywhere in the whole gist that any of the programs was held in any church?

honeric01: Maybe you should work with the responses i have given so far? at least every case is unique, this is unique too and i have given reasons which can then form the kind of response you're to give. the instances you used here are not what is actually on ground. you typed in a general terms but some of my responses were and are specific.

Lastly, let me ask you this, which would you prefer to stand first, the family foundation or individual's career?
Which is more important? the children and the wellness of the home or the career of the woman?

Like i said, what i painted is specific so i would like to read responses that address the specifics.

let me make you know something today: a bitter woman can never make a good mother/wife. don't force a woman esp a career oriented one to resign and ve a biz so she can take care of the home more. it ll backfire and she will pass that bitterness to the children. they are the types that make horrible mother -in-laws. most of our mothers had jobs and we stil turned out well! a child that ll be bad ll be bad even if the mother lapped him/her all through her life! remember that those children ll come and go while you will stil have ur life to live. so to your question @nmph, both are important! i've seen many bitter women forced to sacrifice their career/ambition for their 'family' and the bitterness leaked into the lives of the children.

@OP, it's not a woman's thing, it's a nigerian thing. it is like a reaction to past actions. in the past, women were taught to build lives wit their men(surulere) and not look for made men (bolanle or olorunsogo). however, we ve seen and heard wat surulere husbands can do; when they jam money, they suddenly remember that their wives are 'old school' and want to marry trophy wives in some cases young enough to be their children! hence, parents esp mothers want to secure comfortable homes for their gals especially as most of them don't believe in love. as someone would say, 'he hates u he stil buys a car for you', 'hé hates you, you stil go on trips abroad' etc if we say such a woman would be unhappy, d question is 'how many women married to poor men they ''love'' are happy?' as for men, how many would leave a classic chic wit designer bag and go for a humble lookin chic? as many of them want fellow poor men as friends? also the media doesn't help at all! we no longer have heroes and heroines, we only have celebrities. moral uprightness and excellence is no longer celebrated, it is now all about glamour and glitz. we need to be ultra beautiful and ultra rich b4 we are happy or even find 'love'! we are all to blame for this and we need to re trace our steps, shine in our little corners and before we know it, we begin to change our world.

Ganys: PigHead, So..You want them to be a useless slut like Your Sister Below?? Huh

and so if a woman doesn't dress ninja style, she automatically dresses like a slut? is dat picture the average dressing of a non-muslim woman?

doofanc: I actually had to reread OP's original post to determine where all the venom being poured him is coming from. Could it be just that simple innocuous observation--a valid one at that--that gave rise to the needless bashing?

Why would any decent married lady choose to bring disrespect to her family and her husband all in the name of modernity?

Women are known to be highly intelligent creatures; however, some of the supremely inane comments here --'marrried or not a ladies can do as she pleases!!! F>UCK the hubby!!'--have caused me have a rethink.

and who talked about bringing shame to d family? everyone agreed that it is wrong for anyone to dress indecently irrespective of ur martial status or sex. the op said the married women shouldn't do anything that would make men hit/compliment them. maybe if he have specific examples, we would understand him better. if he doesn't want men to hit on his wife, he can marry an ugly duckling or wrap her up ur style! as far as a woman is beautiful, neatly dressed etc men will hit on her. it's up to her to know the right response to give. and why are we discussing married women only? sorry, i forgot that 'african' values of fidelity and decency applies to the women only!

iragbijile: I hope one day, that God you are trying hard to please would [i]i[/i]find you attractive enough for marriage. Until then, c'est la vie with you and your dog making love to one another. I know, who needs a man when you have a DOG GOD

and so living irresponsibly is wat makes me attractive for marriage! don't feel sorry for me, i know d kind of man i want and it's irresponsiblity is not one of his turn ons! it's ur type that ll marry and start crying later that u married a hoe! go and sleep!

iragbijile: You must be boring. Boring people are not allowed in here. Take your boring life elsewhere please. No difference you say? What an a/s/s/

and wat is interesting to you? i guess if a single dies in sin, he/she ll tell God he/she was gyrating singularly! we all have to be disciplined as humans! a lot of people have ruined their lives even when they were singles!

deols: Did you see the word more? I know you are educated. there's never anything wrong in having more of anything


btw, I knew someone was going to ask..and that person was you?

ms teacher, i could actually learn more. i ask again, more freedom for what? run around in underwears or wat? or do the saudi men limit them from doing sometins currently? that more freedom stuff makes no common sense or maybe u could explain...

deols: why are you all shouting lesbinanism. did u go to a boarding school?
did you attend a Nigerian University? was your dormitory in any of these places mixed? Are you a lesbian??



this new city is even an industrial one as claimed..I'd like to c it function.

In years to come, such would be built in Nigeria AMEN!

i don't expect that question from you except u want to bury ur head in the sand! did u go to a boarding house? if u did, did u go to classes, eat and sleep in ur hostel? so are u telling me that after work, the women would go back home daily? would their husbands/fiancees come to visit them? if it is for only industrial purposes, why seperate in the first place? if u don't know that d rate of homosexuality in same sex schools is higher than that in unity schools, then... as for bringing it to nigeria, u can wait until nigeria divides into christian/islam states and if u're impatient, go join them at saudi!

deols: why are you all shouting lesbinanism. did u go to a boarding school?
did you attend a Nigerian University? was your dormitory in any of these places mixed? Are you a lesbian??



this new city is even an industrial one as claimed..I'd like to c it function.

In years to come, such would be built in Nigeria AMEN!

i don't expect that question from you except u want to bury ur head in the sand! did u go to a boarding house? if u did, did u go to classes, eat and sleep in ur hostel? so are u telling me that after work, the women would go back home daily? would their husbands/fiancees come to visit them? if it is for only industrial purposes, why seperate in the first place? if u don't know that d rate of homosexuality in same sex schools is higher than that in unity schools, then... as for bringing it to nigeria, u can wait until nigeria divides in christian/islam states and if u're impatient, go join them at saudi!

maclatunji: Not really, it just indicated that I have a problem with a married woman posting pictures as if she is single. For me, there has to be a difference. A reduction in "see me" or "notice me" posts even if she can't help it sometimes, you get?

well, i 'seem' to get where u're heading to now but i don't see much difference btw a single lady and a married one, u know y? because i feel that as a woman/man, u should always behave responsibly. the way a woman dresses b4 marriage should not differ much from after marriage maybe better. as a person, i don't keep necessary friends esp male or dish out my numbers anyhow. i don't just make meaningless friendship wit guys cos that's how i like it so i don't live my life anyhow as a single wit d hope that i'll change during marriage! i live my life trying to please God so i don't c any reason for any change in behavior. i see nothing wrong in a married woman/man posting pictures on fb as far as it is decent period! besides, how should a single post pictures?

deols: Good move.

I'd so much love to work in such a city . Women would feel more comfortable outside of their homes and would more freely express themselves.


I think allowing that woman go for the olympics is a bad move. She probably was allowed with the thoughts that she'd be less exposed when compared with other sports. but arent sports with the purpose of inflicting harm on you or somebody else UnIslamic?

so right now, women are not free outside their homes? wat kind of freedom are you talking about?

maclatunji: The bolded is totally unnecessary as I have no problem with above. It is how she manages them that I would be more interested in. I enjoy photography, a few Nairalanders can attest to that. However, everything comes with a perspective and relativity.

ur previous posts indicated otherwise!