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Simplyleo:
I know your response is based on my last sentence in which I erroneously omitted the keyword thereby turning it to the exact opposite of what I actually meant.

It should have read


I have modified accordingly.

Noted. Cheers.

Na wa O. I have read this fabricated tale online so many times I've lost count. A producer at some point wanted me to turn it into a movie script for him. The way the story keeps reappearing like Banquo's ghost is becoming rather irksome.

Sorry you have to go through that. The black thing is most likely dawa, a spice that is a variant of locust beans. Next time, be specific about the seller grinding the melon in a machine meant specifically for melon seeds. I can relate because I can't stand that egusi and ogbono mixture. I find it disgusting. Also emphasize that you don't want dawa next time. Pele.

The so called husband and his entire family did not want the OP and were looking for a reason to kick her to the curb. That much is evident from the previous thread. Unfortunately, she played right into their hands by bringing the tale online. At this point the only thing she can do is pick herself up and fight to make a living for herself and her child.

OP do not under any circumstance abandon your baby at anyone's behest. If your aunt won't accommodate both of you, look for another option. The so called husband will come to his senses one day, that much I'm sure of.

Simplyleo:


Pls who understands this statement?

Is that really what the law says?

As in, when a case of emergency comes up, I should start going to the police station first to get permission, then when it is granted, I can start coming back to attend to the case.

I think such is applicable to only gunshots when it is life threatening.

Even at that, the victim should be stabilized first and then made to face the music afterwards.

madridguy:
“ We have arrested the owner of the clinic and the staff that treated her because they did not inform the police."

If am not mistaken, Nigeria government passed law on " Life First " before Police report a while ago. The NP should leave the owner of the clinic so this won't send wrong signal to other clinic in the state.

R.I.P girl, always run away from jealous partner.

This will only worsen the issue of hospitals abandoning victims to die because they don't have police reports. To be honest, that requirement is barbaric and makes no sense. In saner climes, everyone, including criminals are treated or at the very least, stabilized first and then handed over to appropriate government agencies if need be.

ArticleBeast:
You might even be surprised that Op is one jobless fool with 10mb data o

Very likely.

This is the most pointless tale I have ever read. Meanwhile 'Mr. I Drive a Benz' is claiming to be street smart, yet the girl and her fellow thugs are playing him like a fiddle.

Your destiny is in your hands. Rise up and take it. People with a lot less than you have, have been known to make it. Determination is key. Take these steps.
1. First off rise from the bed of self pity. Leave your past in the past and don't look back. You are all you need to be happy and to succeed. Tell yourself that a hundred times a day if need be.
2. Channel your energies into developing yourself. Are there skills you possess that could stand you out? Develop them.
3. Determine what your goal is and take steps towards that.
4. Finally, if you are a Christian, pray. Develop a close relationship with God. Talk to him as you would a friend. Tell him to show you what to do and how to go about it. Consult God for every single thing. He actually answers. I know this from my own experience.
The future is waiting and it's bright. Claim it now.

nlPoster:
Is pointy nose not important in marriage?

As per fighting, I just saw a post where someone said he proposed after seeing his intended in action (pugilistic).

Maybe there's a thrill there and the op also knows who he rolls with, aggressive types.

Oh pointy noses are super important. Flat nosed women make the worst wives, you know.
I wish the OP well. There's someone for everyone.

Chokmah:
Was looking and still looking forward for your recommendations. Oputara na enweghi nwata nwanyi bu so mma n'ana Anambra na Enugu nwere ike inu?

Ha juru eju. God will point you in the right direction. Unfortunately, I don't know many single ladies who are searching.

Richy4:
It would have been better or safe to say that you were looking for a female Basketball player from Enugu or Anambra state... This one that she must be 6ft..

Everything on Nairaland is giving me the giggles today. By the way did you see the part where he wrote she has to have a pointy nose and be strong...as in she go need fight to defend her territory, according to him.
I wish him luck though. We all have the right to want what we want.

sisisioge:
Wow! Sorry fa....what can one say bayi. It is well fa.

This your post cracked me up seriously. Still laughing

agemmy113:
I wrote Good pm ma, what a nice look.
She haven't confront me but she told her housegirl that I will have to explain what I mean to her when she come back..

Your comment sounds kind of inappropriate considering she is your boss. Since she did not say anything directly to you, I suggest you wait until she confronts you. When she does, please simply say "I am sorry ma. I did not mean to offend". Hopefully, she'll let it go. Not everyone is open to unnecessary chit chat. Always keep things professional and formal with your bosses so you don't fall into a ditch.

Again, the house help angle get as e be. Remove monkey hand from soup o oga poster.

Erediauwa:
Then worry less.

I believe what the poster is worried about is the fact that the said uncle gets street children to come in and pose as orphans in a bid to get funding from donors. That is fraudulent, regardless of whether the institution is registered or not.

Nope. It doesn't apply to my family anyway.

thorpido:
Me: Secondly, apologizing to them teaches them a valuable lesson; to accept responsibility when they are wrong and to learn to apologize when they’re wrong.

That's all.

My sentiments exactly. Many African parents are sadly lacking in skills required to raise emotionally balanced children.

Dande55:
She should keep the child with them. It's also their child.

No good mother will abandon her child, let alone an eight month old baby.
@OP, you are neither loved nor wanted. Take your child and leave. Stand up for yourself and make something of your life. Your husband may come back to his senses and look for you, and if he doesn't, someone better will come along. But it is imperative that you realise you deserve better than what you are getting and act accordingly.

Oh, and please don't call him out by revealing his moniker. It is immature and will do more harm than good.

I got the two messages, but no compensating data.

A few years ago when I'd just moved into a new area, I walked into a shop run by a couple to buy an item. I gave the wife a thousand naira note. When I demanded my balance, she claimed i didn't give her any money. I was shocked. I calmly explained that i gave her a very new one thousand naira note, but both husband and wife didn't believe me.

At this point, the husband was getting very hostile and almost volatile. A few other shoppers, most of whom were friends with the couple, were present. They all supported the shop owners. At this point, I just fished in my bag and was about to hand them another one thousand naira note, when the husband found the one I'd already given them in a bucket where they keep their money inside.
He came out and was like "Aunty you say na new one thousand naira you bring? E be like say na im be this." The wife apologised and one of the shoppers present told me to be grateful that the man was even honest enough to admit he was wrong. I'd been humiliated for nothing. I left.

A few days later I returned to that shop to buy some things. The wife was shocked. She told everyone present how she and her husband had accused me wrongly, and how she felt I would never step foot in her shop again. She kept thanking me over and over again. Today, they are my regular customers and I shop there often.

@Jakumo - I don't have anything to contribute regarding the topic, but I do have to mention two things:
1. Thanks for sharing this information. If the methods you laid down are effective, then you would probably be saving many farmers a lot of heartache in future.
2. You write well. Your proper sentence construction and intermittent use of wit impressed me. Kudos.

Dr. Nnamdi Azikiwe. He was our first president, a great nationalist and most importantly, he was de-tribalized.

You both look good. I wish you and your bride to be marital bliss.

A woman can be as much as 2 months pregnant and not know especially if she has no warning signs.

Kingosytex:
Just because of some useless and worthless instagram likes.

What on earth is she gonna tell her creator?

Some folks on Nairaland can do same, judging by the way some struggle for the first to comment stuff as if their lives revolve around that.

Ndi ara na ata guava!!!!

Laughing hysterically at your last line. Nairaland!

Ladylite:
Why do housewives look unkempt and ugly. Don't blame the men for looking for something more appealing. Many ladies stop taking care of themselves once they marry. This video tells alot

I have to agree with you. Put both ladies side by side and you'll probably understand why the man is with the side chick. There's no excuse for cheating though.

smat101:
I Am Planing To Seriously Beat My Kid Sister 2moro Morning

What I was scared of is finally happening...
I've a lot to say but let me try to be brief...

It's been 4years+ since I last went home to see my mum and siblings. I really love my kid sister so much even more than my mum.

There is a lot to say but to cut the long story short, when I came back she had already developed breast but she is just 14 years.
Just today I talked to her about sex, boyfriends, pornography relationship, sex, everything in that area.

Recently she was using my phone for Facebook, then I asked her consent to read some of her messages which she agreed. As I was reading through she dragged the phone from my hand when I wanted to click a particular chat. I became inquisitive but respected her privacy. I then asked her to log out when she is done...

Just this night I wanted to login to my Facebook then I clicked the Facebook icon her account was still logged in... What I saw broke my heart, she was planning to send nudes to a guy and the guy was planning to have sex with her this weekend, she kept on telling him that she was afraid, but he kept on telling her he will use condom, that she should not be afraid...

My problem is that she is a minor and this guy is 27...

So this is what I plan to do, Flog her thoroughly very early tomorrow, then later talk to her again...
Then that bastard beat him up in the evening with two other guys...

I really love this girl and Want the best for her pls parents preferably how should I handle this matter .

Do not flog her. That will be counterproductive. Let an adult preferably your mum, if she is available, talk to her about the consequences and dangers of being sexually active now. Reason with her. Also find out if she's doing this because she's been promised financial and other kinds of rewards. If that's the case make sure she lacks nothing. Finally, get her involved in a hobby that will be beneficial and keep her busy outside school.

As for the 27 year old creep, the world is full of them unfortunately. If you deal with this one, more will creep out from the woodworks. The more effective approach would be to handle things from your sister's angle in such a way that she is no longer gullible to paedophiles. Pray for and with her also. It helps.

looseweight:
Happy new year 2029 guys. May we have every reason to thank God this year.

Its 2020, but we'll all live to see 2029 by God's grace. All the best.

Happy new year guys. Wish you all the very best of 2020.

The girl is wrong. There are no excuses or justifications for what she did, nor do I blame the friends who set her up. Her decision to cheat was hers and hers alone, and she should carry her cross. The guy should have called it off as soon as he found out though and not allowed the wedding preparations to go on, because in so doing, he has punished and humiliated both families and people who share no blame in the girl's indiscretion.

That said, what's done is done. The girl should move on and learn her lesson. Cajoling the man into marriage will definitely backfire because he doesn't sound like a very forgiving person. He'll just make the marriage unbearable for the girl in retaliation.

Finally, women are women's worst enemies. The catty friends were obviously very jealous of her because of the England based fiance. I wouldn't be surprised if one of them ends up with the said guy.

TechCapon:
How on earth would a mother do such a horrible thing? Her punishment should be worse than the killers

My sentiments exactly.