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Toks2008:
On the contrary, because people like you can not submit to a man, it is utterly baseless to even think you can sustain a marriage so just go ahead,have a child and face your front.

Marriage is not for people like you.

Then you think marriage is for people like you with your outdated biased and misogynistic views? Keep your advice to yourself

Toks2008:
I think Satan should be more scared of men who are so mean that all they do is mess up the lives of ladies.

My write up will make sense to any reasonable woman who understands that there is nothing any lady can do to right the menance of Randy men.

They come online to bark like dogs but they still go back to face the harsh reality...some of them are now so clueless that they have accepted that most guys are Randy but if you must cheat then you must be rich.

My guy abeg I no fit shout. My threads are in support of ladies but cos I write realistic stuff, the ladies with indomie brains won't catch the drift but the wise ones wiĺl understand.

Why not advice your fellow men to stop cheating and show love to their wives instead of forcing women to accept crap and maltreatment.

Start creating topics to encourage men to behave themselves. Women did not come to this world to chop men's bullshit.

Toks2008:
You no do your FBI work well.

Yes she left but that was not the end of the story...go back to where you got the info from to finish the story.

Tantafo.

Go back to your life of seeking validation from nairaland front-page.
Nonsense and ingredients

The guy is now so bold, declaring that women don't need love or faithfulness from their husbands but must continue submitting to same husband and raise God loving children.

I no come know which religion him dey follow that allows men to cheat and not show love to wives but wives must submit to them.

pocohantas:
There is nothing new he would write!

I am sure he is brainstorming to prove me wrong now. Make una advise unasef small na.

Next thing na to dey tag lalasticlala

"Lalasticlàla, I am sure you will find this enlightening"

"Lalasticlàla, don't sleep on this"

"I would still not want Lalasticlalà to miss this"

We have these manuals already ooo

Lol you already know his way of requesting front page, very irritating thing.
Lal@sticlala hope this makes sense?
Lal@sticlala am I communicating?

Evil human human being trying desperately hard to frustrate women's lives because his former wife left him.
And the lal@sticlala gan does not waste time to carry his evil agenda to front page for all the sociopaths and sadists to cheer him on.

DanielJones:
Many women leave their husband for this same reason on a daily basis. They don't need to post it here before you know. Shit happens from both sides. In fact the society is now becoming more sympathetic to the women than the men today. We blame the men for everything and anything. When he rapes, he deserves to be castrated. If he is raped, he is an slowpoke. When he beats his wife, he is a beast, he should rot in jail. But if his wife stabs him to death, he is the cause, he is a coward, he is a serial womanizer and a pathological liar. There are now many charity organisations supporting women everywhere while men are left to cater for themselves. Now tell me, are we not human? Why won't we be heartless?
#InsideLife

Where is the sympathy for Nigerian women? Women that are always blamed for what husbands do wrong even when they get physically assaulted. If he cheats or deserts her she is told to work on herself and pray for the man something nobody will ever tell a husband of a cheating woman. If he maltreats her because she has no job or money she is told to stop being lazy and get a job even though it is extremely difficult for married women with children to get jobs. Nobody will ever tell a husband to learn cooking or cleaning if his wife refuses to do house chores.

I am not in the mood for arguing Abeg.

Can you imagine if a woman started a topic claiming she married her husband for his money and ability to provide but now he's very sick and can't hustle so she's irritated by him and his laziness.

Imagine all the insults that would have littered this thread if that happened.

Mr op better find someone to assist her now she's pregnant because pregnancy hormones cause extreme tiredness and sickness, there are workers going door to door in Nigeria looking for any work, in fact that's their name, "any work", and they charge cheap for helping you clean and wash at home. Ask neighbors for their contact if you dont know any.


This thread dey make me vex
Selfish and heartless men littering everywhere mtscheew

chikitobabe:
Madam,I will advise u to take a walk out of that marriage,emotional abuse is the worst punishment any one cn give to a person
People outside dnt understand it except the sufferer, it will get to a point you begin to question ur self worth .u begin to see urself as a failure yet people wont see it that way.
These type of men are narcissistic,they hv no empathy, no conscience, and they only tell you sorry to keep u staying while they manipulate and treat u bad.
They find solace in the hands of women out there cos they do not want any emotional attachment either frm you or them.
Thank God you have a child.
6 years of my life was wasted cos people said make it work and I stayed and it still didnt work, rather I was defeated emotionally.
So my dear,pick your child, get something doing and move on.
Trust m u need to be emotionally healthy for that angel God has given to u.

Trust m ,men like this dnt change

I am happy you had the strength to move on with your life, that is something so difficult for many women to do. I wish you success in your new found peaceful life

Personally I have heard cases of men misbehaving like the one you mentioned and they rarely change. Their wives just stay and put up with abuse till old age because she is scared or what society would say or she is scared of losing her children.
The irony of advice from the men critisizing you is that they can NEVER advice their fellow man to stay and tolerate abuse and maltreatment from a woman. But when it comes to women these men think anything goes, they think women were created to be their doormats that tolerate every sort of rubbish in patience while praying for their useless husbands.

Women who the same men claim to be softer and more emotional, so called weaker vessels, are the same ones supposed to bear the most painful emotional blows. Not the so called unemotional men who logically should have better capacity to recover from hurt if they are indeed less emotional than women.

Another irony is that they are the heads of the family, so called leaders who should be in charge, but 80% of the time they are the ones doing stupid shít to destroy peace and unity in their families, while women who are told to be submissive followers are expected to build homes and pray for everybody and keep the family together.

It's only in marriage that followers are consistently told to do the work of their inept leaders as if it is normal.

Concerned members of this house have talked to Seu.n tire to make this forum more civil but no, oga is only after traffic that gives him money. Aside from politics section, i don't see reason of throwing jabbing in other section.

I was going to write about the issue of sèun and how he runs this site with outdated model but I don't want to get banned. Instagram videos cant play on this site, also twitter videos.Many People complained of this bright theme he started using like a month ago but he left it like this without explanation.
If he explained I dunno where he did it. Blocking certain members should be an option like someone said before. Outright banning for tribalists and non tolerance for hate speech, tribalism etc.

midnighter:
If he disagreed with you he could have just stated his point sensibly instead of showing his poverty of reason.. HIV+ person no be human being? Mtchew

At least 2 men have entered the thread already to say that the black race is cursed but he will never see those ones...just to look for pink (f) to abuse

That is even the reason I didn't engage him, I don't want the thread to degenerate to insults and discourage others from contributing. I see threads like this on sensible forums like reddit and lipstickalley and they go smoothly beginning to end.

Just leave that uncivilised thing alone.

midnighter:
You are not serious, what has being a lady got to do with lamenting about Nigeria? Do you know how many guys will still say the same thing and worse?

Youre just proving her point... if somebody has a wrong mentality according to you, why must her being a woman come into it?

My post pained him jare, that's why he is letting emotions cloud his reasoning. Men are also emotional like women, let no woman be fooled into thinking otherwise. Difference is that unlike women they are more prone to displaying violent emotions.

midnighter:
You are not serious, what has being a lady got to do with lamenting about Nigeria? Do you know how many guys will still say the same thing and worse?

Youre just proving her point... if somebody has a wrong mentality according to you, why must her being a woman come into it?

Don't mind that guy. Men don't have sense. I don't know how that lie that they are more logical came about.
See how easy it was for you to get my point but he read it upside down and came back to start typing upside down "logic" and shedding tears everywhere.

1. I truly honestly believe that majority of men at least 80% have innate hatred of women. The way they get so excited to put women in inferior gender status and undermine and insult them is proof. I don't believe they consider women inferior because of religious scriptures, they do it because putting women down makes them happy even though it's not justified. Christianity is trying to be more modern and overlook or ignore the more anti female parts of their religion especially the ones in the old testament, but Islam just said fvck it we are going to demean them as much as we possibly can.
Time and time again in different eras and different religions men keep doing their best to stop women from progressing. It must be some kind of mental illness they suffer from.

2. Women truly lack unity and cohesion among themselves. Let's not pretend that is not the case. In any system where a certain group of ppl are oppressed, it would make sense for them to unite against their oppressors won't it? In times of slavery black people had code words and coded songs they used to say to pass messages so white slaveowners won't know what they are saying but if you put a four women in a marriage or house with a man that harasses and maltreats them, they will turn on each other and their co wives children instead of the person making their lives miserable. This lack of unity doesn't manifest in only marriage settings, it's there in offices and hostels and compounds etc. I think th e reason they direct their frustration to their fellow women instead of men is because they are taught to believe men are better than them so they subconsciously think they shouldn't engage their superiors.

3. Marriage has outlived its usefulness but of course backward stoneage countries like Nigeria will never realise this and majority of the people here still put pressure on young unmarried people. How can your country be overpopulated and impossible impoverished but your idiotic self still thinks we need more kids from marriages? Is adoption a crime?

4. Nigeria can never get better, I feel sorry for those hoping it will.

5. Black people have a problem that is keeping all their countries backward. Even the black countries outside Africa.

But why are men like this? So selfish and heartless?

Even after his wife withdrew and started avoiding them he couldn't use his conscience and adjust his character, he started gossiping her instead.

Tufia for Nigerian marriages. This is why I don't buy the idea of total submission of wives in marriages. Some men become tyrants and dictators if they see that they have quiet and gentle wives like op.

Norabay:
50 percent of women are really suffering in this thing called marriage,madam follow your heart

50?

Just 50?!??

Because men hate women and want women to remain inferior to them.

90% of men at least have innate hatred of women and the hatred manifests itself in their blatant and shameless misogyny and constant attempts to put women down and retard_ their progress or advancement in society, that is why they hate feminism and feminists because feminists keep insisting that no gender is better than the other
Trust me, guys know that gender equality is the whole Idea behind feminism but they will pretend to be ignorant or engage in outright self delusion and start claiming that feminism is all sorts of evil things and evil ideologies because they hate the movement and want it to die off. They want a world where women are subjugated and kept under their rule not because that arrangement is fair but because of woman hate, selfishness and evil self centeredness and desire to feel superior and Important.

Forget the lies men tell about hating feminists because of paying for dates or whatever they claim the real reason for the hatred is because they DO NOT want a world where females are equal to males.

This their desire to keep women under their feet has manifested greatly in history and in the major religions in the world today, men keep making societal rules to keep themselves in the position of demi gods.

flyca:
She throws you out of the house.
She is insecure.
She is (was) jealous (when you got your first job)
She insults you, says hurtful things to you.
She accuses you falsely (calls you a scammer even when she knows you can't scam anybody).
She raised lazy and lousy kids.
She argues endlessly.
She does not want you to establish yourself in a foreign land.
You want kids, she doesn't (I mean, she already has at least 2, and not very young anymore).

Okay, so lemme ask you. Would you tolerate a quarter of these from a Nigerian woman?

Will you marry a 35 year old Nigerian woman who is not in marriage? Either as a single-mom or a divorcee?

I hope you did not change your moniker because your past here will hunt you? Are you one of the she-males that calls spinsters “evening newspapers”?

You guys (esp here on NL) are strangely amazing!

The same guys, if given the opprtunity, will lick the assssss of a white female who is “few years apart with her being on the high side” and with kids! You just imagined escaping Nigeria to live a happily-ever life of splendor “in the abroad” without putting in a decent amount of work?

3 years of dating, why were you not researching and developing yourself in employable skills in oyibo's country. Now, money to feed oyibo's kids you want to use and read book, huh? Well done sir. Mucheche

See the characteristics of a woman that you are painting a saint, because she is oyibo and oyibo no dey do wrong for una eyes

Your eye never clear sef.
Chances are you are just getting by abroad, so you are not truly independent. You also will rather chose to be oyibos “bom-boy” than being thrown back to Nigeria. The reason you are trying really hard to make your marriage work.

Don't worry, you will be fine las las.

I like how you went in hard on him. Ignore other people criticizing your post. Males on this site would have done same if a female started a thread like this.

Another idiotic thread for small boys with no life experience to whine on. If you hate marriage so much then don'tget married. Simple.

And it's very funny you men think you are the only ones who carry financial burdens in marriage when many women are working like dogs to support lazy or jobless husbands. They don't announce it to outsiders because they are ashamed and they dont want to be mocked.

The only problem men have with marriage is the fact that they have to spend on the woman they married. You want to be leaders and superior to everybody but you don't want respnsibilities. If women start listing all the problems they face from disrespect to neglect to catching stds from men who got married but want to like single guys to countess other family issues your thread will not have space left.

Naggers and complainers. Men these days just have nagging problem. Always complaining but never doing anything to solve problems.

healthserve:
Or I'm mistakening it with chocolate me and the thread she posted just now. My apologies


Anyways, whatsup. Are you married at the moment. If you are, how are you handling the 2013 post?

Yes you are confusing me with chocolateme

Sorry I can't divulge my marital status on naira land

If I say am single the next thing I will hear is that am an old miserable frustrated evening newspaper feminist that will never get a husband because of my feminism

If I say am married I will start hearing advice about marriage counselling and recent situation from people like you

Read my posts and understand them, don't worry about whether or not m married

healthserve:
Have you ever tired marriage counselling before. I'm seeing a pattern with you. Between that thread and your recent situation.

What am I getting counselling for and what is my recent situation?

healthserve:
Are you for real ? 2013 Thread in 2019. You hold on to those ideals till now?

Lol, nothing has changed about the things I wrote there, marriages are still like that

healthserve:
My dear. I'll wait. Even if its a week. Mo fe mo idi oro na iya mi

https://www.nairaland.com/1265450/why-men-think-womens-lives

Along with the reasons op stated, and other reasons as well

healthserve:
How so?

Am too tired to explain for now,

I am very glad more women are realizing marriage is a giant scam to females.

Men gain over 70% of marriage benefits but they will keep pretending and lying to themselves that marriage benefits women more.

Just imagine people talking about stealing archeological discoveries.

This is why blacks are not progressing, criminal mindset everywhere

emmaodet:
Na wa oooooo
Na wa ooooooooo
Na wa oooooo
Why this anger and bitterness?
Is cheating the only quality you can emulate from men?
Why not also picking one positive quality of men?
Buying of car to a man, abroad vacation, sponsoring is family to school, buy land for him etc
There are many good qualities in men you can pick despite picking the bad quality of cheating or does it mean the only language an average lady understands in relationship is cheating/unfaithfulness/dick riding?
God help us all, help your son

Hahahaha

You don't like it then don't cheat on ur wife
And women have been doing those things your mentioned and more for their poor husbands
They don't announce it because of shame.

genq:


You couldn't cheat even if you wanted to madam - as the unmarried, childless, overweight, 35+ year old that you are.

Comments on Nairaland gives you joy and contentment? Lmao!

I can see you are in sifia pains over my comment

Good, continue crying