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I was reading through this thread with happiness and contentment, I am glad more and more women are now rejecting the lies men have been peddling for years that it is okay for them to cheat while their wives stay faithful.

Bullshit

If he is cheating find a way to get back at him, if you can't cheat back physically then then do online romance, even if just for entertainment or revenge, just find a way to cheat back.
Yes I said it, gone are the days of forgiving useless randy men. Take vengeance against them.

If you don't want to cheat on him back maybe because of religious or moral reasons then put some really gross sh!t in his food after cooking it, spit in it, wash your feet in it or put some small amount of filthy gunk in whatever food he will eat alone, let him eat rubbish the same way he expects you to eat his rubbish and stay submissive to him.

genq:

"My father beat my mom, cheated on her even with a woman old enough to be her mom throughout their 30 years marriage and I know the pain we went through and I would never ever want any woman or child to go through that. Sometimes he would cheat when she complains he would beat her and his family members will ask her to kneel down and apologize".


I guess this is why you are so bitter Mstick. Almost every post of yours echos the same thing.
Why not take time to recover from your childhood trauma instead of spreading venom on nairaland.

Just look at who is talking about spreading venom.
Almost all his posts are filled with bitterness and resentment against women.

Such hypocrisy.

Mstick you gave him the perfect reply.

Why was I tagged here? I resemble relationship councilor?
Anyway let me answer, since many Nigerian men are selfish and egotistical tunde will marry the one he sponsored in school so that he can forever lord it over her in the marriage and constantly remind her that she owes her education to him and she is nothing without him.

Thanks

Jman06:
Lolzzz....we'll not leave you ok, cheer up! We understand how bad the world would become for the womenfolk if we decide to stay on our own. So we've long decided to pity your aszes and treat you like necessary evils.

Lmao, what kind of confusion is this?

One minute they want to go the next minute they will stay and treat women as necessary evil.

Biko go on your way don't pity us.

Goodbye and please don't come back.

genq:
One look at your profile tells a lot, countless man- hating threads.
Even got a thread saying "unmarried childless women are happy" It's pitiful really
Who hurt ya?

Jman06:
Lmao...e pain am well well

Una still dey here? When is the bus that is going to carry you to go your own way getting here? Hope traffic isn't delaying it.
Hurry up and start your mission of leaving women alone, we can't wait.

baby124:
You have no clue what you are talking about.

genq:

Exactly the same way Nigerian fools women adopted feminism to thier own detriment. Now y'all have to bear the responsibilities of being a man in addition to the natural burden of being a woman. You now bear children, raise kids, maintain a home and still have to go out to work in slave corporate offices. Congratulations!

Yes, men will continue going their own way and proudly too

Hahaha
So Nigerian women adopted feminism so idiotic criminal gender decided to be copy cats and adopt western ideologies even when they live in a country that places them above women?

Thank god you are determined to go your own way, be fast about it. Get lost, don't let the door hit you on your way out.

Women can have peace of mind and deal with less crime and corruption if majority of men go their fvcking way.

What I have realised from talking with mgtow and redpill losers is that they are just angry about not being able to get the kind of woman they desire so they childishly resort to insulting all women on earth and swearing to avoid all of us as if we all ganged up to cause their frustration.

Men are free to go their own fvcking way, they should go, get the fvck out, get lost! Leave women alone ooo, men, please leave them. Maybe then all these violent crimes perpetrated against women will drastically reduce, no rapes, no serial killing like the ones in port Harcourt, no domestic assaults or armed robberies from their criminal minded asses.

I strongly believe women will be far happier without marriage, if they stuck with their families and raised kids with her own family instead of the traditional system of women abandoning her father's name and adopting the name of some loser that will most likely maltreat her and cheat on her without remorse at least her blood family will show her more love and care then the family of strangers she was forced to join and adopt the name of because she married some guy.

And the nerve of those deluded mgtow fools to claim men don't gain anything from marriage.
The fvcking nerve.

You he goats are the ones who own children from marital unions, they bear your names, not wives names, after a poor woman goes through the pain and misery of pregnancy and childbirth and raising the kids the man gets to claim them as belonging to his family and having his place as state of origin.
You he goats are the ones cheating on your wives with impunity and getting away with it because African society overlooks your bullshit, infecting wives with all manner of stds and still expecting respect and submission from her.
Where in Nigeria do women just relax and let men provide everything without working and supporting him? Where? Which part?

Stupid lonely socially inept whiners. You go on the Internet where you spend your entire lives and read about the travails of men in western countries where their laws and ways of life differ greatly from what obtains in Africa but you stupidly decide to adopt their movement in Nigeria because you all are fools that cannot think for yourselves.

Please get lost and go your own way as quickly as possible. Idiots

You did a great job on this thread baby124

Is the Tacha train still taking passengers? I want to join

So that I can claim to have been on winning team for pepper dem bbnaija

Lwkmd,
Who am I kidding? I can never support a dull, dirty and smelling rude person for any reason. I supported ceecee last year because at least she was smart and neat.

I can never support Tacha

crackhaus:
I doubt it allows you concentrate on anything generally.

Are you a happy person?

But how can I be happy when I am not in my horsebands house submitting to him and being a good obedient wife with feminist mystique? How



***Sob sob sob***

crackhaus:
Later she will say I'm the pained one, yet she can't point me to her painful comment.

The baby mama offer is still open, are you interested now?
Your life is about to undergo a major makeover oo.

No, I dont want that one.
My feminism, misandry fight will not allow me concentrate on being a good baby mama.

crackhaus:
Which one, simpleton?

Your mother is the simpleton.

doitforyou:
This is not normal behavior, all this back and forth wouldn't have even happened if he had addressed the topic I raised and not come for my grammar, which he clearly knew nothing about. I really do feel sorry for him because I don't think he has much going for him in real life. I don't know why else he has this pressing need to prove to strangers on the internet on how smart he is, which judging by this thread, proves there is nothing up there. Pathetic.

Truly pathetic.

Some people just choose to live their fantasies and dreams on the internet.

crackhaus:
You should have stayed home with the chickens if you didn't have the capacity, but no, you wanted to have a piece and ended up making a foól of yourself.

Haha, am glad my comment pained you

Nairaland is just an outdated and archaic piece of shytt site.

Till today we can't watch Instagram or twitter videos on this site, we have to click external links to view them.

What kind of rubbish is this?

doitforyou:
lol you just confirmed you are indeed a dunce. You need to quit now before you disgrace your ancestors. Empty barrel.

Ohhhh
Fatality!!!!

Flawless victory!!

crackhaus:
Lmao..

Are you crying already?

Oga leave my front abeg.

Mtsheeww

crackhaus:
Ignoring me the previous day, then jumping in on a comment talking about me the very next day just to throw shots...and this simpleton says i'm the one who's pained?

And you still wonder how I know you're just another stvpid dumbed down chic among the multitude?

I wasn't wondering anything about you trust me.

All the insults you wrote there apply to your mother.
Simpleton, dumbed down, stupid.

All of them are descriptive of your mother.

crackhaus:
By the way, you are yet to respond to this on the other thread:


This comment still applies here..
Always take several seats at the back when you see me around.

Yes, I saw the comment on the other thread and I knew that ignoring you will pain you more than typing anything in response.
If you like deny it
So I ignored you and I wasn't even wrong.

Look at you bringing up a stupid meaningless comment that has nothing to do with this equally useless thread because you still have it in mind that I didn't reply your post.

Since yesterday.

doitforyou:
Go away, no one has time to stroke the ego of a dunce. When you have some sort of knowledge of what this post is about you can come back and quote me.

Chai,
BRUTALITY!
FLAWLESS VICTORY
Doitforyou wins

That dunce wey you call am pain am well well, considering how he is always going around talking about how intelligent he is.

KanwuliaExtra:
I rest my “basket case”!
Please, up your game on your next “copy and paste” thread.

Just make sure the title is as “catchy” as this one, so it does not offend your audience. At least you have improved your format from “the joyous morals and ritualistic raptures of marital rape”.

Kudos!

Kikikikiki
You are really good with words though

I don't understand what Op is doing these days with her funny topics. I used to think she is a female rights activist kind of person.
I was clearly wrong

enemyofprogress:
So because she was raped she now decided to kill herself? She no fit take cold shower?

Why are you trivialising rape? She was raped as a virgin.

For heavens sake @topic, which one is feminine mystique? Is it American/British version of femininity where romance is defined by what OP described (love letters etc).

Cultures change
Values change
Norms change

There was never any globally defined meaning of femininity or feminine behaviour
In some parts of Tanzania being a woman entails tending to cattle and farming and bringing harvest back to take care of the husband. Or is it in India where women are the ones that pay bride price
On front page of Nairaland some days ago there was a thread on a certain country in Africa, I can't remember the name, where men adorn themselves with makeup so women can choose from the most attractive one of them.

Wow, what a thread

cococandy:
The problem I have with posts like these is that they target women and make them out to be evil for behaviors they praise in men. It’s disgusting to say the least.

While I wouldn’t personally chose to be loud in a movie theatre about who I humped or what not, I’ll make a point to condemn such behavior equally in any gender. If it’s an issue when women do it but doesn’t matter when men do it, then the problem isn’t the behavior itself but our need to fit women into a certain mold. A mold that pleases men and on which the value of womanhood is defined. ie by how pleasing we are to men.

In those “good old days” when men were more mystified by women. When men used to write love letters and what not, what happened then? How was that era more beneficial to women? Fighting for basic rights and clamoring for simple respect. Did the supposed mystery stop men from beating up women or deny them access to infrastructure and positions of power? Did that all too wonderful mystery solve any social problems for women that we aren’t still fighting for today?

I don’t take seriously any moral caution that doesn’t apply both ways. Maybe I agree with the idea that the behavior isn’t optimal but will never agree to the bias against women which is what it really is all about.

yeyeosoronga:
Nobody writes letters anymore, and that has to do with technological advancements. Emails are going out of fashion too, especially when it comes to matters of the heart when you have WhatsApp, instant messengers etc.
Bad behaviour is rife amongst young people these days, but it's not gender dependent. The same rate low quality men are been churned out, is same as that of women.
Rude, entitled young people like the movie goers that made this person write this are everywhere, even in the good ol' days. It had nothing to do with their gender, but more like their age.
Young men brag about shifting wombs with their cassava, scattering pussies etc in public places making a nuisance of themselves, so such senseless talks and behaviour it's not gender specific. More to do with stupidity in young people, because almost all thrash talkers like that are young <25years. The older ones have perfected the act of silence/chop and clean mouth and this has always been the case since time immemorial (because it doesn't mean the older generation have better morals tbh. Many of them are hypocrites)
The world is changing, and what was of value those days is no longer valuable. Values are changing worldwide.

You two are very brilliant women.

DBestDoc:
That Lady you quoted and called a dumbo just told you the truth, albeit rather harsh with her usage of words.

People are refusing to say things exactly as they are just so they don't come off as judgemental but trust me, the result may be three kids for three different men if we keep hiding the truth. Oh yes!

The Nigerian society doesn't favour women in any way, from the youngest of us to the oldest so it's our duty to protect ourselves in every possible ways we can, emotionally, physically etc. Being in a relationship shouldn't make you lose your sense of reasoning and self preservation.
If you were living in an organized society, the law would sort you out and that would be a different kettle of fish altogether and Of course you wouldn't be on Nairaland posting this Crap. Yeah, this is bullshi.t and crap.

It's Bullshi.t because you totally planned this out and unfortunately, it's a plan gone wrong. The public pric.k is 40 and single aha? but that doesn't mean he's a father material or even ready to be one or married and you went ahead to take your chances anyways.

He had a live in girlfriend(who was smart enough to not fall pregnant) whom you knew about but you still went on to play.

You caught him whoring with three different women and you still didn't leave. At least, you would have borrowed a leaf from the live in girlfriend that left him because of you, but you didn't. You clearly had a mission to achieve.

He still brought his public peni.s into your Vagin.a (which you clearly don't respect) and you didn't make him use a Condom. You weren't scared of contracting some incurables from him. Wow!

The 'morning after pills' would have saved the day even after all the intentional 'mistakes' but you again chose not to use it.

Women make this 'intentional mistake' for one of three reasons; to have a baby of their own with or without the involvement of the father. These women see and treat the pregnancy as a gift, they have the means and are happy to take care of the kid all by themselves. The idea of being able to have their own babies whether or not marriage happens is their motivation.These ones are the wise sisters, they don't go embarrassing themselves because they know what they want.

The second category are the ones that tie a man to marriage with pregnancy. It works for a lot of sisters but some others get their fingers burnt and their lives altered forever.

The third category are the ones that want some extra cash from Child support. This is a mistake in Nigeria as you'll spend more in time, energy and money trying to get some kobo that isn't worth the hard Labour The law will work for you abroad and you could get an extra coins from the government for the upkeep of your kids
The last group are the genuinely ignorant and innocent sisters who were deeply in love with a man, got sweet talked and lied to and mistakenly fell for the lies and got pregnant. These ones, i feel some pity for 'cause they never saw it coming.

You know which category you fit in but my advise is that you let it go. The deed has been done, pregnancy has advanced and you got an amazing gift from God already. You said money is no problem and you can pay people's salaries on here so, save yourself this stress and channel all energy to welcoming your gift and giving it a good life.

Forget about that man, he's a dead beat and very irresponsible. If you want to stress yourself fighting him, you'd be doing your mental and physical health no good as High BP may set in. The agencies and lawyers you're calling on will not do you much good. An order will be given that he pays the Child support but paying it regularly may not be achieved.

This guy rejected this pregnancy from the start, forget about him. If in the future he decides to come take responsibility, that would be fine. Let your family and friends channel all their resources towards you and your baby because you'd need as much support as you can get. Being a single mum isn't a walk in the park and that phase of your life will begin soon.

This is just an opinion and you may decide not to take it. Any quotes with insults will not be dignified with a response. i'm a very busy person but i took out time to write this here. Maybe some girls planning on using this 'intentional mistake' method may reconsider because it hardly ends well. The exact advise i'd give to my flesh and blood.

I sincerely wish you all the best!

@ mamatoppy, wow I just came across this post.

Please forget the number of likes this post has, likes do not equal good advice. Notice its mostly men supporting the post, there is an obvious reason for that.

Do your very best to make him take responsibility for the child, I don't care if you planned this or not that's not important. What is important is that there is a child in the picture and you both need to take responsibility for it.

Talk to legal bodies and child welfare agencies to know what next to do for him to pay child support. You might want to give up and let him go Scot free because he is proving difficult but the truth is that when this child grows up he will possibly try to get back into the child's life especially if the child turns out to be successful and judging from his character so far, he will surely start telling lies about how its your fault that he didn't have access to raise him/her.

Try to get him to financially support the child, document everything about his refusal to be part of the child's life, download a phone call recorder, record his calls or download a screen recorder if he doesn't pick, so that you can record screen videos of how you tried calling his number so many times and he didn't pick. Save screenshots of messages in WhatsApp or text messages of you asking him to help care for his child.

Document everything in case you try your best and he still refuses, you will have ample evidence to turn his child completely against him in future since he refused to cater for him/her.

If you have to pay school fees in future, record it, save bank receipt pictures, statement of accounts in emails, everything, take may pictures and upload them to google drive to store them forever then give the drive password to two people you trust to keep in mind in case of anything.

Don't listen to the poster above telling you to raise the child with your money and your family's money and then when this foolish father comes in future when the child is grown up its completely fine.
No.
Record every evidence of his deadbeatry to prevent him from reaping where he didn't sow in future.


Why am I even typing epistles as if na my personal problem self. I really need to address this issue of my liking revenge so much.
Pheewww!!!

ThothHermes:
Hahaha
Very laughable.
I did not say they want to. They have to.

Young man byebye abeg, I am not even in the mood to ague today, I just want to eat snacks and watch movies.
Good day

ThothHermes:
I am guessing you've never been never been in love. You cannot fail to submit if you love. It's nature. Women will always seek out higher men. Those they can submit to.

Women don't seek out 'higher' men because they want to submit to them. What a very laughable notion. Nature made it so that women seek out more dominant men to reproduce with because the women wanted their offspring to carry the strong dominant genes of those men to increase their likelihood of surviving in a harsh and competitive environment. That's just how females evolved
Every living human desires freedom.
Nobody wants to subject themselves to another persons authority except maybe they have been brainwashed by religions or society to think they have to submit to others.
You sound like one of those very young boys who have never had a girlfriend. If you stay in close proximity with a woman for any considerable period of time you will see their vicious and rebellious and manipulative side then you will realize that the notion of women being naturally submissive is crap.

Men also build civilizations, if they left development will also come to a grinding halt. It's a two-way street

Women would have contributed more if men were not depriving them of education and advancement telling them their place is in the kitchen. Or at home, submitting to men. Women were deprived of many of their rights in the past, rights to educational and to vote. Or just read the bible to see some of the animalistic injustices meted out to them, forcing them to marry their rapist, killing her if she didn't shout loud enough when getting molested, in the past women couldn't inherit property because they were considered property to be traded away in marriage.
Besides men have equally contributed just as much carnage and destruction to humanity as they have contributed whatever inventions you are talking about.