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perambulator:
either way we are saying the same thing. When a man says that he doesnt think much of the woman.

perambulator:
You are right, when a man asks that question he only wants sex. he doesnt see you as a future wife!!!

hucknall:
It's not just fair but also wise to audition a woman esp. if you plan spending rest of your life with her.

It seems you're scared of the auditioning

pocohantas:
Well said. He never asked me that stupid question. That question is not meant to be answered! Anyone asking that question doesn’t really care about your response. He/she has formed an opinion and anything you say would be used against you.

That said, I brought light skin and vibes. A good man should be able to build an empire out of that.

perambulator:
bear in mind there are also a lot of women who dont have much to offer (or bring much to the "table" but feel entitled of feel they should put on a pedestal simply because they are women. In my experience a lot of women also overestimate their real value to a man simply because throughout their youth they get a lot of attention from men seeking sex and men play along because they want sex.. by the time they realise all the attention they get from men is not for marriage it is usually too late to adjust their mindset or to find a husband.

perambulator:
No real man survives or wants financial income from a woman. For me, when a man says what do you bring to the table, he means what female qualities do you have. Are you a supportive woman, are you a home maker? are you a woman that will give a man peace, are you capable of having children and raising them properly, are you the kind of woman that will help a man acheive his potential or the type that will drag aman down with drama? are you the kind of woman that a man is proud to call his wife etc etc

Yes there may be times when things are tough and a wife may need to support her husband financially but it is a "loan" so to speak. No man enters a relationship looking for financial support from a woman...at least no real man expects to live of a woman!!!

Bigbright7:
The best it for each person in the relationship to offer what they can offer, without being stereotyped. Let men offer to take care of the home, do some house chores, go to the market , bath the kids, and let woman too offer to pay the utility bills, fuel, etc this roles shouldn't be gender based anymore.

Fiscus105:
How many girls/ladies who have something to offerrrrrrr?

Even few that have, how many ready to release it for the benefit to strengthening relationship??

I doubt if u really base in naija.....

Fiscus105:
Worthless girls who cannot offer anything but pusssyyyy, who is leech, surely guys will brag upon drilling her pussyyy hard.

nahzyla:
80% of Nigerian men will NEVER do these things.
I don't know if it's insensitivity or ignorance. But many of them absolutely DO NOT want to bear the burden of catering after a small child.

Which is just unfortunate for working mothers.

Winneygirl:
Maternity leave is not enough.
There's 9 months of pregnancy, and maternity leave is mostly just 3 months after birth.
A 3 month old baby still requires round the clock care and monitoring.
Plus frequent hospital visits.
Where do you keep the baby while you return to work? The baby needs to be breastfed multiple times during the day, as well as at night.
Some jobs are actually very demanding. Some jobs require travelling a lot. Imagine some new mums stuck in traffic for hours while trying to get home to a crying, hungry and sick baby.
Now, add the experience of having twins, or having a toddler and nursing a child, or having 3 kids and nursing the fourth.
Women give up a lot.

nahzyla:
Women who actually have kids or have been pregnant hardly contribute to these threads so the true situation is hardly ever known.
Its mostly men parroting the idea that their wives must work so as to bring something to the table.

Working a morning till evening job while pregnant or pregnant with kids is not a walk in the park.
Pregnancy itself is not just moving around with big belly for 9months. Many women suffer severe sickness that makes them sick and nauseated morning till evening while pregnant. It's just that some women are lucky their sickness only lasts the first three months and some few ones don't even get sick at all.
Then in the last three months there is waist pain from carrying the pregnancy and constipation and heartburn and difficulty sleeping and God know what else but the same woman is still expected to wake up every weekday and go to work, stay the whole day there, maybe sitting at a desk, and then return back in the evenings.

I can write from now till tomorrow, the truth is that people who have never been pregnant will never understand the difficulty in it.

Then when you put to bed if you are lucky and you have a job in a company where you are given three months paid maternity leave you get to focus on your baby and raise him for three months. Then what next after that? You start dropping a tender three months kid in daycare from 8 in the morning till 6 in the evening because of your job. The same baby that had not collected all their vaccines and immunizations and is still sensitive, you expose that baby to germs and infections (cataarrh and cough, diarrhea ) that children in daycare are prone to getting. You continue like that till they are old enough to go home from school and stay home by themselves, usually around 10/11years old, and at that point it's daycare that has helped you raise your child not you the mother.

The way jobs in society are structured, placed working mothers' lives and wellbeing as an afterthought. The system was arranged to favour men and fathers that don't have to worry about pregnancy and kids.

Fiscus105:
They are bragging becos the lady not worth it

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Magnoliaa:
Ohh. Thank you! I literally love you clarified and simple you put this. Yeah. Fulfilled, happy, with everything for a short whole or long with absolutely nothing of the comforts of life... When you put it like this now, I'm definitely going for the short and successful life. And the success include everything- fulfilment, happiness, 'perfection', a great family or career, etc...

But I guess it's (the OP) opened to other interpretations somehow.

Dtruthspeaker:
few decades is what we mostly have and that is long.

Magnoliaa:

Magnoliaa:
For thousands of years, spanning the spread of evolution and the rise of civilization through all ages, nay; from the beginning of times, from the first bang that produced the world, I've been meaning to tell you my thoughts and that: I WANT TO PUT YOU IN MY HOUSE, AFTER PUTTING A RING ON IT. But something been dey always hook me for throat , and I'm just saying dammit now! Anyway, anyhow, I have to compliment you.

I honestly LOVE your food pictures. So much. You're a great cook and photographer. ♥️

waistbead:
Chai I forgot to mention ma cococandy,ma pretty brother's wife..that ugba ati kpomo ati trophy beer to step down is for ya

MISSCONGENIALITY:
Some time last year I went out by 1am to complain to this church that was doing night vigil in an uncompleted flat close to my house.
They had mounted 4 giant speakers outside since 9pm and they were not even upto 15inside. A group of people that can hear each other very well without even raising their voices yet they mounted speakers to disturb the whole neighborhood. No one from my street was even there. I struggled through the night to sleep but the vibration and the noise was just too much. I'm a light sleeper and u came home tired hoping to have a good rest only for me need mad people disturbing the whole neighborhood. I patiently waited with the Hope that when they started preaching the bad and the singing will reduce and I will sleep a little. But now way. They never even stopped to preach. I stood up, dressed and opened my gate went there and asked to see their pastor. One dry man came out and I complained to him. He apologized and went in. As I was going into my house I heard him telling his members that someone came to complain. They didn't still reduce the noice so I decided within me that i will deal with them next time. But luckily for me, they didn't come again.

Akposy:
Thanks! Good old memories. We keep improving everyday

Twoclans:
I am a very light sleeper,any noise at night and my sleep is over for the night.

descarado:
I stumbled on this. Watch and tell me what you think.
Have been watching it non stop.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JJaGKA-NGSI

beautyhd:
Are gate crashers allowed?

caesymore:
Mehn...

The adopted will be made to know he is not my biological son, and I will definitely take care of him as mine but definitely not as my first child and I pray I trained him well not to feel jealous because any atom of jealousy will mean I'm sending him away far away

FlowerGirl040:
But I heard one can easily get satisfied with goat meat or purge if eaten much , unlike other meats. Especially goat pepper soup. Right or wrong?