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Be straightforward. Don't buy gifts with the hope that she will respond in a certain way.

Nobody dey your mind.

Stop starting chats with sexy or pretty. Too many people say that, say something else.

New day same topic?

Guy all these references no dey compute.

april2018:
How I go take DM Oshomole sister, na me kill Jesus?? See wor worness Abi you sef na SIMP?

Why d tin pain you high chief. Na because you wan send DM.

april2018:
Chairman the gal come wor wor die.. tueh. The one wey pain me pass she come write NO DM. Chaii.. SIMPS dey suffer oo

And e no mean say sge go dey follow you like say she no get sense.

Using all these manipulative strategies to get somebody no dey work.

Chii59:
Emasculated is the word. They get intimidated by such. Hence they keep making posts in why it's best to marry a virgin girl. I laugh
Just because one de flowered his babe no mean say she no fit chook eye for outside.

You are proving her point.

april2018:
Are you also an olosho feminist??

Lool.

Many guys allow this false info to create false expectations that could harm real life relationships.

They should go and check polls thay measure how many women fake satisfaction and other related questions.

When they meet real life and realise that the konji they think they have hook their girl more than them, they begin to feel emasculated.

Chii59:
That's how one 'bro' on nairaland was busy arguing that women have little to zero sexual urges few days ago.
Till he hears the extent some ladies have gone just to get the D
She herself that is lying to her parents because of a man also wants the D

Lol. Only if you lose your head.

At least i know that our education système teaches about contraception.

As long as she doesnt think she can fvck him to the altar, no premium tears are necessary.

clive2u:
lol. Unless she's wise if not such stories ends in pregnancy and premium tears

Divorce is not fun. Staying in unfulfilling marriages is also tetrible.

Get it right the first time. Marry right. Marry with purpose. Marry someone you love. Marry your best friend.

What is the comparison between this and other forms of block moulding?

pakingzzzzz:
It costs N1,700,000 for one..

Yall should leave NL because in the normal wlrmd, women are bringing a lot to the table.

[Quote author=Trex4 post=92885593]What exactly happened to being a feminist and having your own money? Isn't it Degrading to women to think that any man coming into your life must have monetary and financial value? Like a beggar and a giver sort of dichotomy? [/quote]

You know she wants to fvck him right?

clive2u:
You know he wants to fvck you right?

Abeg secondary schools should do and open.

bigpicture001:
U talk like an 18year old.. Is it every relationship that u jump and approach someone's parents.. Won't u get to know ur partner properly..?

I'm waiting for the guy to answer lol.

People should stop saying age when they have no sensible advice to give.

Chii59:

22 was considered too old. By 15, 16 you're married.

Biko when did your grandma marry? Was it even a marriage?

Had society no value then too?

greggng:
What I am saying is that society 've lost its value ...at 22 a serious person should be thinking about getting a job before putting all her mind on a man ...

Do not advice her to marry just for sex.

Marriage is a serious matter.

seunjungle1:
You're very sick! All you enjoy doing with that guy is fuvk fuvk and fuvk!!! If you know that you love him and he really want to marry you why can't him tell your parents you want to marry and invite the guy to do every needs to engage you in marriage. I smell that your relationship with the guy cannot last

[ author=Heartheart post=92860414]Hi I just needed to bring this here. I am 22 years of age and I am not happy at all. My boy friend and I are in a long distance relationship. Not long perse. He is in lagos while I'm in abeokuta. I served in lagos so that's how we met and we got to spend quality time together.

Now since I've passed out I've been at home. I passed out in June. So it's been June that we saw last and now we're in august. He has been disturbing me to come visit him as it has not been easy staying alone, loneliness and all. I promised to visit him next week which also happened to be my birthday week. I have super strict parents but I still promised I will find my way.

I told them (parents) that I was travelling to visit a friend (girl). I could not tell them it was my boyfriend I was going to see because I knew deep down they wouldn't allow me travel to another city to see a guy. But my parents have blatantly refused that I cannot visit this girl. I had to tell my bf that I was not going to come. He was so sad and angry and he let me know he has wasted a lot of money preparing to surprise me for my birthday. He was so excited to see me and he had made a lot of plans. He told me he was disappointed in me and he doesn't think he can continue a relationship like this. Yes he comes to abeokuta sometimes but he mostly lodges in the hotel. He told me he can't continue lodging in the hotel that if I love him I will make effort. I tried to convince my parents they did not gree. Imagine, I told them I wanted to see a gf that they knew and they refused. What if I had told them he was a guy.

Pls guys how do u advise me to save my relationship, I'm in a tight spot right now and really sad.

Advice should be understood else whats the point.

Saying nothing is not an advice.

MartinsD12:
I guess you do not understand simple English read it again it, it's just an advice, if she likes she takes it if she no like na her cup of coffee

No parent, will allow frivolous travel.

Travel, spend money just to visit a friend?
It doesnt and cannot nake sense to parents.

Chii59:
OP, Long distance relationship is not meant for everyone o. Is not by "we love each other".
You need the patience of a Saint, the willingness to stay committed and keep in touch and discipline not to look elsewhere.
Babe, although your bobo has made effort, he has tried, he has to understand your situation. [b]It's not ideal for one to allow his or her children to just travel around nowadays. [/b]Especially as a lady. The days are evil.
Try to talk to your man and see if he'll understand and exercise some patience.
If not, let him go. You're too young to get high BP because of love.

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Looks like nollywood.

I talk am, so you almost kiss am. You are one of the foolish men thqt give men a bad name.

Forming woke woke only because you want to cheat on your wife.

This OP that has all the time to be entering his sister-in-laws sex affairs is suspect.

Once in 3 months is not frequently.

He and her should be planning their lives.

They should be drawing up job, education, business pathways. And acting on those plans.

Gabriel99:
The guy is not understanding at all. And it's a dangerous path when you're dealing with people that lack understanding because not only will they perish but you'll perish also. My counsel: any serious man in a long distance relationship with a lady that is still living with her parents and still expects her to come frequently to visit him is not a serious guy. You're lying to go see him, he'll use it against you tomorrow as a basis for disbelieving you when argument comes. Young lady the foundation is clearly wrong quit the relationship and save yourself. In a relationship always hold strongly your integrity, truth is a must and defend it, don't lie for anything, that's how you gain respect and value even when your supposed partner disagrees with you.

Do. not. marry. For. Sex.

nelskals:
If he doesn't like it and he loves U then he should put a ring on you or kukuma come marry you . He is not yet ready just there for the fun dear

Stop. Belittling. Adults.

OP, consider yourself an adult. Apply for jobs. Start businesses. Dont wait until you "grow up". You grown!!!

Galactico4ever:
You're still an under aged girl.Grow up first.

People saying konji na bastard are being unfair here.

If he cheats now what will yoy say?

It is good that the guy is open about his feelings.

That is a different matter from where this relationship is going. OP and the guy have to make that decision from themselves.

Living your life based on the misunderstood interpretations of a thousand year old book of fables is weird.

I hooe you do not eat shrimp or wear mixed linens. I also hope you banish all women during their periods because they are unclean.

ume1000:
the Bible says the man is the head of the home, and that a man or woman in marriage should not deny each other sex

If as a man you let a woman do as she sees fit all in the name of gender equality (a concept that advocates for equal opportunities but unequal responsibilities )

Then you are just been manipulated

So because you decided to wait until 30, everyone should decide like you?

People sjould stop making sex a do or die affair. Just dont use it to measure your self, build your esteem or make decisions based on it alone.

greggng:
I was age 30 when I tested sex but amazes me how endomie chikdren of today now play with sex and lies up and down . I only hope that boy won't use u for juju ..unfortunately u 've even lied to your parents ....as a result they won't know where to find u

What is the ruining agent here?

OP should stop chasing shadows not because shes just 22, she should stop chasong shadows because they are shadows.

However if the guy has been visiting her in Abeokuta, that shows that he's not a shadow.

MartinsD12:
At 22 you should be in school and stop chasing shadows, get a future, plan something to do with your life not some useless sexx relationship that will ruin u

Long distance relationships always tow a fine line. I understand your bf but he has to be more understanding of the fact that you live with your parents.

How old is he? How serious are you guys? Do you have a job/destination lined up?

Have you guys talked about moving forward in life? Because he might be throwing away a potentially good relationship for no sensible reason.

We only have your version of events though.

A lot of people seem to want the leader-follower relationship. Even in churches.

Very strange for me because that's not how ANY of the marriages in my paternal extended family is. It's like a culture shock in my own country.

At least if it is the real BDSM, it is understandable

Chii59:
Bdsm . More like dom-sub right?
I don't even know why someone should be demanding submission from a supposed "partner".
I mean if we're partners, why should one person be expected to submit to the other.
Simple!
Marriage in Nigeria in many cases is not a partnership. But at best a leader-follower relationship. Some are even master-slave kind of situationship.

Activists against bride price agree.

Miniso:
Nah, he paid for it ,