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Buy food, plan your meals, do NOT make a big deal about this.

Just show that you can feed independently.

RARELY, cook dinner for everybody using everybody's ingredients.

SaveMeLord:
Ok so I'm writing this to ask whether some of you live with your parents but don't eat their food to avoid "see finish". You know how some parents mentality is they feel because they feed you they will disrespecting you and talking to you anyhow and sending you errands meant for 12 year olds.

I feel if I start from not eating their food and be getting my own food the disrespect will reduce until I finally leave them for good. What do you think? anyone has experience? BTW I'm 24

And go to prison like all the other big scammers out there.

PopSmoke:
my dream is to go to America and enjoy not suffer and work my ass out like a morafucker

I won't be a Simp to a jigolo white lady

I will rather sit my ass down behind computers and scam them (like their forefathers did) and enjoy life with their dollars like I have always done

I repeat if I get chance to visit USA , then I'm going to ball not hustle

Labourers and skilled workers make enough money to live comfortably in parts of Nigeria.

I always pity people who look down on them.

Looks like a Yorkshire Terrier.

I don't?

Like your name says, you are frustrated.

What is the magical thing about age that forbids dating?

Frustrated007:
you shouldn't be dating an older lady in the first place!
Wtf is wrong with you?!
She probably saw that you are young and naive.
Older ladies have a knack for tricking young guys into marrying them.
We see it here on nairaland Everytime.
Dump her sorry ass and find a younger girl.

You will die before your time dating an older lady.
I can even send you a research paper that proves this fact.

Exhibit no infinity.

Nothing special for a girl to ask you out, codedly or blatantly.

They have as much right to ask out and it is a further confirmation of interest.

Perfect if that interest is mutual.

Yusufisraelj:
Lols, well when a woman is the one asking you out, you know what that means, so I had less headache and have no cause for regret bkos they went out of their way to move mountains for my sake and I never took them for granted.

Well I guess am lucky then.

Trust but verify.

If the verification makes no sense, say bye bye.

No need for excessive thinking. Your time is better spent on other matters anyways.

Red Pill, as far as I understand, is about shaking yourself from fairytales.

MGTOW is about focusing on your life.

None of the above involves bashing women. Just realise that they are human beings like you and deserve no special treatment. Shikina.

Molahnelson:
A Red Piller does not hate women, but reveal their true nature character

Bam!

Exc2000:




The toxicity goes both ways, Nairaland anonymousity barely amplified it


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Liked for the funny white knight pictures.

I don't see OP's post in the same light.

OP left out any mention of his experience with women in his life demanding money. Yusufisraelj

Yamiriflathead:
Shut up your mouth you attention seeking Simping WHITEKNIGHT

Nice story.

They should both keep their friendship, I hope, past this girl.

If this is prolonged, one will eventually have to step aside. They better not let this affect their friendship.

They should hire you to do some jobs as needed to cover that amount.

There are supposedly 200 million people in Nigeria. Obviouslyre will be sensible people and not so sensible people.

Generalized to your peril.

You did not make much sense in your reply sir.

You devolved into craziness.

Men need to stand up for themselves and get into this century. Marriage is and should be a partnership.

Men should not attempt to buy love, it won't work.
Men should not try to provide all the finances, they are just seeking an early grave.
Men should not even be paying bride price, it is a partnership not a cow market.

Men who do the above cannot now stay akimbo like idiots while their mothers slap their partners-wives.

Of course they should not slap their moms, that is insane; but they should not retaliate against their wives (partners) who defend themselves. That is, as you say, 'pussy-ass-nigga' behaviour.

BlueAir:
You don run of sensible argument so quick?

Somebody will now marry this woman and want his mother to slap her anyhow. Lool.

@BlueAir.

Marriage the way don't people advertise it in Nigeria, is not sustainable.

You can't go looking for submissive wives. Not in this day and age. You also can't expect a man to create all the money for the family.

Marriage should be taught as a clear partnership, both partners must contribute equitably.

I feel for him. May he rest in peace.

It is not a do or die affair.

Even if she used him to get to Dubai, that is not enough reason to kill yourself. He should have learned from it.

Suicide is becoming an epidemic in our country. Everybody shine your eye and never assume that you know 100% about your so called boo.

Happy Married Life

Lol.

Threatening to slap someone is threatening assault and possibly intimidation.

People need to respect themselves.

Exc2000:
A sensible Elderly woman, peacefully advises her grown up Daughter in law after the debtor goes, on why she should not spend like that, and not slap her

This same scenario happened in Canada, the Wife is white, the Man his black, his Mother came around from Nigeria and rudely treated the white wife, immediately the wife called in cops, and both the mother and the son got kicked out of the house, as the mortgage was in her name


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Clap for yourself. If and when you marry or even with a gf, call all your family members to be slapping her daily.

That will be her breakfast. Cornflakes and slap.

BlueAir:
. Imagine.The fact she went behind his back to incur debt! And expected him to pay it off isn't crap!! If she wanted a king's party within and outside her means,then she should incur it on her account or why drag the husband into her own misery! The fact that she has the mind to slap his mother and may have been disrespecting him before this incident isn't crap?! The fact that u pussy unwashed niggas believes shes entitled to drive the family anyhow she wants,because she reimburse him sometimes isn't crrap? And she also thinks the same hence the mind to slap her husband's mother! Wahala for man wey no get manhood.. don't blame you guys tho,too much of chasing and submitting to pussyy nowadays don dey cloud y'all reasoning

She has not and will not. It is not even within the realm of possibility.

Who is raising you that you think this scenario is remotely plausible?

leksite120:
No one mum slaps him. .
What I'm asking is that, if she lose temper one day and she does, would u?

Where is the crap that OP endured from his wife?

OP's wife was somehow expected to endure an unprovoked slap. Na magic?

OP's mum should not be going around slapping people anyhow. That is the main lesson here.

OP should stop being a Mama's boy and make independent decisions. He has his own family now.

BlueAir:
And so damn what! Because she's feeding and buying him clothes and feeding his family at worse means she should disregard him to a good extent?And he should take any crap from her!? If it's the other way round and the op is the one spending on her ,would u commentors advice her to endure any crrap from him? Hypocrisy of the world mehn

Did you forget that OP is currently being owed salary? It is only OP's wife who is bringing in money currently.

BlueAir:
Op mother was not wrong for what she did.chances are high the stupid woman's mother would have done the same .. and op mother didn't slap her because of her son! She slapped the stupid wife because the idiott disgraced the family and marriage.big difference! That wife deserves all blames from all corners. She's a insatiable woman with no sense of contention!she wanted to blackmail the husband into paying for what she had taken on credit without telling him regardless of wether he'll break his legs to pay.shes a dirty player and op is shooting himself more to say he misses her or if he takes it any easy with her!

My mom does not slap me. Her mom did not slap her as an adult either. I'm not 10 years old oga.

leksite120:
Yes, it may not be okay, but we're in Nigeria.
so u mean if your mother slaps u, you'll retaliate

The latter seems more apt.

Do you think the current rules pertaining to family/relatives will persist post COVID and affect/guide future Invitations?

NaijaCanadian28:
Do you mean the statutory declaration form? Or are you asking if inviting your girlfriend/boyfriend with the new arrangement the Government of Canada just implemented will affect future invitations from you to other people?.

Abeg dead dat yarn.

EVILFOREST:
Which MEN..?
The same Men you Ladies address as DOGS...?
Why would you want to end up with a DOG..?
Go get yourselves GOATS.
DOGS are no no longer available
Diz LADIES don't know how hard working Nigerian men are. [s]Diz are MEN who marry u alongside ur entire Family[/s].

Tough to see so much generalizations, half truths and beer parlour statistics in all this English.

HandsomeBlack:
Hmmm.
A rich guy can come from abroad and head straight to marry a semi-educated girl in the village. Same is not true for the ladies. An educated and/or financially independent lady will seldom marry a man who has not attained her level of academic/financial status.
Naturally, she desires to marry a man that is higher than her in status or at least in same status with her. Unfortunately, most African husbands can't stand the guts of a wife that is better than them academically or financially because the later will revolt the traditional headship and control exercised by the former, thereby bruising his ego often.

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People want to trend abeg.

lastempero:
These dont fear God anymore, when akwa ibom internal revenue is not upto 1billion.

*Can't?

Teaveapoet:
My mother can't hit me cos she doesn't pry in my marital affairs.
I stand against violence, abuse or whatever from anyone. I'm an adult you can hit an adult over a mistake.