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We seem to lack respect for humanity in our country. There is an epidemic of people placing a value of 0, ZERO, on life.

If we had that respect for the dignity of a person, we would all mind our business and allow people to live their lives.

Now, they say we are 200 million people (no census has been carried out since 2005). I fear the disregard for life will only worsen in the near future.

Say no to bride price. You can buy a cow in the market, do not buy your wives.

In a country of 200 million people, you will find who you seek.

The steel buildings will likely rust in the coastal cities (Lagos, PH, Uyo, etc).

Did you read this statement before clicking submit?

shantti:
What if in the process of hugging her u forget shes your brothers wife and thinks shes your girlfriend and then you grab her ass deeply

Biko mods should create a paedophilia sub for people like this to post, let them leave this section alone.

Marriage is a partnership.

Both actors must contribute equitably.

I refuse to lead with the thought that half the viewers on this sub-thread are that callous.

cococandy:
You’re not going to change anyone’s mind who’s already biased against the woman (or man). It is what it is. Half the people on this thread came to jubilate that another Nigerian woman nurse is dead.
It’s a sort of consolation to them.

I have already made a suggestion.

If you are not ready for a serious relationship, let sleeping dogs lie.

Adejoncy01:

Our culture paints women as investments. This has even been furthered by religious teachings.

From paying on dates, to bride price, to 'providing'; the 'ideal' and 'standard' methods of relating paint women as investments.

Some of us will continue to reject these so called norms.

VNTS:
Nigerian men are so quick to blame women for everything. That is why I fear things will not change. A woman is not your investment. She's a real life adult human and if you can't live with her, leave. I say it agaig, your wife is not your investment. Stop feeling entitled over another person's life even if you brought her to the USA. If you cannot stay, divorce, find another babe and treat her better.

I know you're being sarcastic but it only fuels the fire of those looking for something to say (with ZERO evidence).

R.I.P to both of them.

cococandy:
No. it’s a Nigerian nurse. We already know she did it. Whatever it was that went wrong was her fault. Shikena

Callous of you and others to be making foolish points when the entire story is not yet out.

delishpot:
You must be naive to think Indian women don't face domestic abuse abroad too. You can Abeg use Google. Women across the world are expected to be onlookers in the game of life and when they are unfortunate to meet wicked men they get killed for not allowing themselves to be enslaved. If this was a wife who killed her husband now, then world peoe will tear her apart and ask why she did not leave the marriage(Most times empty handed) if she was not happy with the man's character. People hardly blame the man even if he made her bankrupt and was caught banging the woman's mother people will still say she should have left instead of killing him.

Let's wait for details to come out before running wild with conspiracy theories.

Life is all about action.

Don't bring it up if you are not ready to move ahead 100% right now. If and when you are, bring it up with your full chest. You can't be unsure about something like this.

Adejoncy01:
I don't want to tell her. Like I said, I just don't want to be seen as being clingy or obsessed. Another fear is rejection. What if she's into someone now? Many thoughts in my head.

The bolded show, I think, that this was a conspiracy.

They knowingly disposed of their son's belongings and may have felt that doing so could be illegal.

ogbiwa:
According to the lawsuit, Mr and Mrs Werking admitted to dumping dozens of porn boxes when probed on their whereabouts.

His dad said over email: “Frankly, David, I did you a big favor getting rid of all this stuff”

And he fired back: “You don’t have to take someone else’s stuff, and I would like it back, along with the intimacy gadgets… [and] 1 long container of slutty magazines.”

His parents also kept some of the porn — described as the “worst of the worst” — in a safety-deposit box because they feared it might be illegal, according to court papers.

https://www.dailystar.co.uk/news/world-news/porn-collector-sues-parents-throwing-23190980

Okay.

Then can't you guys still talk about this new update?

Adejoncy01:
Oh!... I now get.

You're thinking I don't want to tell her about this because we ghost each other? Off course not. We still keep in touch.

When the first, false report came out, did you just disappear from her life, she vice versa?

Adejoncy01:
I don't understand.

Downsides of ghosting

Go and argue that in court. They will arrest her for prostitution.

SmartyPants:
I'm not a fan of silly women like these but what he did is a close relative to rape.

Rape is to obtain sex without consent. To obtain sex on the basis of payment and thereafter to default in payment is to vitiated the consent.

It's as close to rape as fraud is to theft.

What does "pray and pay" mean? I wouldn't want to make a false assumption.

It's more than just having sex.

Some guys want to get with all these fast rising yeyebrities.

toyflare:
Guy for use Coded runs. At least with 30k you I'll get a very neat preety girl.

I feel for some big boys like this. Very few girls roll with them for mutual fun. Either they are sex workers or they are pretending to get some kind of immediate marriage.

Guys should never take rape accusations lying down.

What is the connection between 'deducing' a partner's problems and being born in this generation?

Sixfeetbelle:
What's the connection between 'sensing' when things aren't alright with your partner and women working?

You don't need all that space to define prostitution Nne.

Lucyspa:
Babe, u re a girl, so u have inner instincts that speak to you in times of troubles. The main reason you even came here to talk about this issue is because it is bothering you already and that is not a good sign. A man who loves will willingly do things for you without you having to ask. I don't think that man loves you to be honest. I've been in this sort of situation before and it didn't take long before i broke up with him. That relationship made me unhappy and constantly tired. Infact, before i broke up with him, i started dating this guy that spoilt me silly and i became happy. The greatest need of an average Nigerian guy in a relationship is SEX while that of a woman is constant care and money. If you constantly give a man sex while he doesn't give u care and money, u will be unhappy like u are now. U can talk to him and see his reply. If he doesn't give you a reasonable reply, prepare ur mind for a breakup

Women in the elder generation were working.


All the women in my extended family were and are working. None of them expected to be dependent on their husbands.

Some of them even out earned their husbands.

Sixfeetbelle:
Why do people get into relationships nowadays if a partner's problems can't be deduced?

I will never understand what I'm doing in this generation

Rubbish statement.

Wyry:
Nigerian girls are useless.

Using 'no' instead of 'know' was confusing.

I think you are extrapolating things that are not in my statement.

It's okay though.

lexy2014:
But ur statement says otherwise:

"Bathe your babies guys. Develop that bond with your kids independent of your woman."

Who is painting d skewed picture? If am to leave d skewed picture, how come "no" is now causing u problems?

*know.

I do know guys who do it. In this generation and the previous.

Leave the skewed picture painted on NL.

lexy2014:
How do u no that guys aren't bathing their babies and bonding with them independent of their women?

This does not make a man any less manly.

Stop with that tired idea.

QuintessentialW:
I love men like this!

Men who are in touch with their natural feelings... who can show care and affection without restraint rather than always wanting to act a certain way that society has regarded as "manly."

Stop with this toxic masculinity shii.


Just look at this thread and see how many of us Nigerian men are saying this is a normal thing.

Mtchew.

Exc2000:




Correct guy


The child is yours too, bond with them

Bath them, cook for them, take them out, enjoy conversation with them

Toxic masculinity must end

All my father's siblings and friends do brag about how much they enjoy his cooking while growing up, but for some macho manly fatherly reason my Dad would never cook for us the kids all this decades I have never seen my Dad warm common stew, even when my mum was on coarse out of city



.

How did you 'hear' a sound through text?

lexy2014:
U sounded like it's a new thing

Of course not.

lexy2014:
Is this d first time u have seen a man bathing his baby?