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This was my lunch this past week: rice and braised chicken.

Great minds eat alike!

Akeem79:
Late lunch

This was my lunch this past week: rice and braised chicken.

Akeem79:
Late lunch

Sexual chemistry is key to long-term relationships and is an integral part of most healthy relationships.

People should take their partners as they are and find the 'correct' answer to this question for their relationship.

Do not have (or eschew) sex to 'save' a relationship. If you differ with your partner on this question, do not change your principle to 'save' the relationship. There is no guarantee that this will work in the long term. Even if it does, you are likely to despise your partner for making you break your principles.

Personally, I don't see how my spouse and I will be in a healthy relationship and not be yoked.

Then again, the major problem with 'pre-marital' sex is religion. I am no longer religious, and those reasons are now less pertinent.

KimVenom:
Good evening every please I just want to know if any of you can live without sex with your potential future partner.

Incase you can please drop a hint of the secret behind it.�

Also, what's your opinion about sex before marriage subtracting religious belief out of it what just you plain opinion.

Thank You very much.

Yes sir/madam.

Warrgidanairala:
Don't give silly escuse please,go get treated

I am extremely lucky to have close family members and family friends in the medical field.

There were at least 2 major events within the first 20 days of my life that could have led to death if not for my dad's friend who was a consultant.

The problem is that you are in Nigeria. As with any other business, if 'authorities' see that you are making some money, they will come after you.

If you do this:
- ensure consent amongst all performers
- target online sites
- stay anonymous, wear face masks or something else
- vary your style: let the product be enjoyable by both men AND women.

Nigeria is the biggest adult video market in Africa and my guess is a lot of Nigerians, Africans and non African blacks will be interested in this product.


Good luck. Avoid yahoo boys, police and local touts.

Just run from women like that.

They don't care about people, they care about what people can do.

If the ability to perform (whether monetarily, sexually, etc) fades temporarily or permanently, them go disappear. If they manage to stay, 8/10 they will lament publicly and nag incessantly.

MrLucifer:
Do you read what you type?
He is a man simply because he didn't ask for anything in return, so other's who ask for something in return are not men or what?
This is too shallow even for female standards...

There's no information here.

You said there was a disagreement. What is the disagreement?

You said he asked for a break, she's turning 26, ...; How old is he and how long have they been dating?

Has their relationship been smooth, rough?

Have they talked about, seriously, marriage and what they'd want together?

There is no info OP.

It is sometimes caused by wearing tight boxers; so I've been told.

1. The person was probably trying to make a statement.
2. The person may be working 2-3 tough jobs and this is the only time they can eat properly.

What's good for the goose is good for the gander.

Depending on their relationship history she antecedence, she should consider supporting an application to study or work for her spouse as opposed to a full spousal sponsorship.

She should remember that in Canada, even if you guys break up or divorce, the Canadian sponsor is financially responsible for the sponsored for 3 years.

I never said anything like that.


Take your dishonesty elsewhere.

Sixfeetbelle:
You're the one who was stratifying rape, whatever that means, by saying since some ladies get raped in their younger years, this event wouldn't matter much/differ.

As if any of them suffered rape in the hands of six men at a time and survived.

Her being pregnant does not mean that the baby is yours. #DNA

In don't think it's a good idea to marry someone just because you guys are pregnant. Married life is a lot more than giving birth and raising baby

Go to Saudi Arabia.

AntiChristian:
I keep saying it.

Fornication or adultery will be rife when most don't call against indecent dressing, free mixing of opposite sexes, watching/listening to sexually provocative videos/Music, pornography, etc.

Almost all the men God guided in the Old testament has one or more mistake. It's only Jesus and maybe a few others are seen as perfect. Even David Jesus' ancestor was accused of adultery, murder, covetousness,...

What do you mean?

Is rape by 1 less traumatizing than rape by 6?

Are you stratifying rape trauma?

Sixfeetbelle:
How many experience it with six guys at a time?

That 'cured mentality' of thinking that weed = lazy is not limited to Africa.


If he hides or 'changes' and the weed habit comes back, she may feel like he is not the same person she fell in love with.

He should be honest to reduce matters that touch the heart.

DaddyRochie1642:
Listen Closely lemme tell you a secret,

You said you don't want her to be ashamed of you because you smoke,

Believe this or not,.... If you smoke and you take very good care of yourself, you are neat from head to toe, you dress well and smart,( even if your clothes are cheap), you smell nice, you have good Dentition, you think, behave and act matured and you have good social skills( ability to interact excellently with people), you know your priorities and you know your set goals and you're obviously and visibly striving to achieve those your goals, ... Females have this tendency to respect you more as long as you display your qualities I listed above because Africa here have this Cursed mentality that weed smokers are irresponsible and useless.

So if you possess those qualities I listed above, in the process you have indirectly showed and you've also indirectly proven to her that there are indeed weed smokers who are absolutely responsible individuals even though the smoke and He knows fully well what he wants in Life and he's focused on achieving his goals even though he smokes,... trust me, her love and Respect for you will tripple because you've just proven her wrong and you've also proven to her that there are responsible weed smokers. (Mind you, she will not tell you these).

I don't care if you believe what I wrote, I said this without Remorse.

Then someone will post:

"My hubby/wifey does not talk with me"

"My bf/gf is very boring, we only talk about normal stuff"

"I feel like my fiancé is cheating on me, we barely talk"

MummyD2020:
Somethings are better left unsaid

How many of these SO MANY women out there is he compatible with? Can he have a relationship with?

squash47:
You want to settle down with a 20 year old baby Mama ? And u are just 26.

She is 20 years and d baby is 5 years.

Omo, she started swallowing dicks at 15. OP, this lady is more experienced than you in sexual things. Stay away from her.


Don't use your hand and put yourself in problem. There are so many girls out there. Who are better than her.

25 is an okay age for marriage.

However, it is a mature 25. This guy is 25 but his question is not all that mature and his proposed spouse is just 20.

Liposure:
25 is ripe for marriage sir

This is why I don't react too much to all FG rules. They will confuse even themselves.

This is not a new situational question and the responses are usually 50-50.

50% think like your wife and 50% think like the lady who died.

Nothing your wife said is shocking. She would be acting like 50% of women in such a situation.

Also, let us not act as if many women do not experience sexual assault and rape as young adults, including in relationships.

Canadianelenu:
Recently, the increase in armed robberies and banditry has become a disturbing trend in Nigeria. It is even more horrendous when the men of the underworld not only steal when they attack but will also rape any unfortunate female caught in the invasion.

My wife and I were watching a real life crime documentary one evening and in the documentary, a lady was shot and killed after resisting rape advances from 6 men who invaded her residence.

Fortunately, the criminals were later caught using forensic evidence and paraded by law enforcement. These men were tough looking strongly built men who no doubts would have torn the lady apart if they had succeeded in raping her.

However, the shocker was when my wife of 4 years said, and I quote “she just died for nothing and has caused her family a lot of grief...if it were me, I would just let them have their way and live to see another day”.

Although this sounded very right, it also sounded very wrong at the same time and has since been messing with my head as I cannot get the picture out of my mind. We could both see that they were 6 hefty men and yet she felt she should have................

Ladies, am I over reacting and men, what do you think? How can something feel so right and so wrong simultaneously?

My guy said 'reduced'.

Kwontinue!

Chii59:
You go still give one geh belle.

Why should he care what others think?

The sad thing is both of them are likely to lose based on his actions.

Chii59:
He's embarrassed she's a single Mom. Even if she's the best thing that has happened to his life, he'll never know her worth.
I hope she finds a MAN, not a boy with esteem issues.

1. She had the child at 15.

2. If she is a great match with you, you will not be able to do 'better'.

3. I think 20 is too young to be getting married, however, being a mother (who has not transferred all the responsibility to her mom) may increase her maturity a bit.

4. 25 is also a bit young.

5. How do you guys pay for life together? Are both of you working, earning money? Are you guys going to school?

You know what is going on, get rid of this relationship.

Serene123:
Please I will need your constructive opinion on this. Been battling with this thoughts for some time now.

I engaged my girl last year. Reason why I did engage her was because I saw her intent to be with me. I have seen her gave out her cash to help get somethings for our new apartment. She has even used her cash to buy some properties she wants in the house when we get married.
She has stood and defended me to her family on why she is getting married to me. She has really earned my trust and never regretted engaging her. She is one girl that every man will like to have as wife

In the course of our relationship months back, I noticed there is this guy that call her. I questioned and she said is just a friend. I have told her I am not comfortable with the call. Yes I have listened to the calls and it doesn't sound serious
On 25th Dec I place a call across to her phone and she wasn't picking. She later told me reason why she didn't pick.
While we were together I noticed she didn't pick cos she went out with the same guy I have been complaining about. I got to know via a pic.
She has insisted nothing serious is going on.
I was so angry and I needed to take her phone and check up something. We struggled with the phone and she injured her nails.. She is saying I am a woman beater and I have anger issue.
She started keeping to herself and phone and was bold to tell me that this action of mine has succeeded in killing the feelings she has for me.

She has asked for time to get her mental health back and for close to two weeks now we haven't been flowing well..

I have tried to talk to her so we fix this shit but she said she needs time.

I have decided to give her the time she needs while I focus on something else. Yes, I miss her

I won't lie, is emotional for me and someone is currently trying to fill her vacuum by being all nice. I am getting closer to her, but my heart still yearn for my fiance.

I don't know if I am doing the right thing by being close to another lady. I don't know if I should belivee her that she has lost feelings for me and move on.
I need your advise.

Sorry for the lengthy thread

I had to delete my first comment.

Chii59:
Pastor cooooooks

This proposed way will not work.

Even in Europe/N. America where the fertility rates are below 2, there are still nannies.

One of the ways young women, who want to travel, pay for their travel is by becoming nannies (there is even a PR pathway for this in Canada).

The laws and the people in these countries do not expect and will not tolerate maltreatment. Your post, imo, downplays the clear evil act.

It is like saying, "one of the people ways to reduce rape and sexual assault is to only were burqas". The statement is false, glosses over the evil act, and trivialized the pain caused.

Romanoff:
No. That's not my point.

In Nigeria, only less privileged children are maids and there is no way to know if they will land in good homes.

Not all women are kind, some are vile and just plain wicked. Some of these maids go through physical and sexual abuse, even as minors and their madams keep mum about th sexual abuse their husbands mete on these maids.

One of the ways to mitigate this is to give birth to children one can cater for so your children won't end up in the hands of abusive women.

Caffeine (in coffee and tea) is a stimulant.

sageb:
Yes it does. In social sciences research, we call it distorted state of
consciousness. Marijuana is a stimulant

You need deliverance.

Cumtroller:
Attention seeking behaviour. When she was adding weight did she notify the general public?

Aunty park well abeg.

This statement completely glosses over the inhumane and illegal actions of these terrible barbaric women.

Maid is a profession. There are schools in Nigeria and abroad for becoming a maid or housekeeper.

So if someone studies to be a maid or housekeeper or cook, he/she should expect to be tortured and maimed?

Romanoff:
It's important to give birth to kids you can take care of to avoid situations where your kids end up as maids.

Many parents do not care about the people who are getting married. They are more concerned with the 'pedigree' of the families these people come from.

So if their son or daughter comes with someone to marry, many times, the parents are not guaging the "worthiness" of the potential in-law on who this in-law is.

Hee looks married

Chii59:
The younger man on the right. Cute!