₦airaland Forum

thorpido:
He won't be the first.He should wipe his tears.
Men dey mumu sha.You get to dey sharp whenever you decide to go down with any woman.

Fhemmmy:
I think i will like to know where it does NOT happen so i will know where to advice friends and kids NEVER to try and marry from there.

Alexaonfleek:
yes ooo.in Delta,single or married women also share inheritance.

My mum just recently got her share of her family's inheritance.

Felicity001:
[s]Minds like these are the once that will even chase their last brothers' wife out of his late husband's house leaving her with the children homeless and claim the properties. How could you even think of something or ask such a stupid question? So women no be human beings abi? I'm sure you're from there east.

My wife is the only person that inherited the only land her grand mother has whereas she's just the last born of the family. At some point she wanted to sell the land and give me the money but I declined telling her not to. That's somewhere in Eco state.[/s]

sassysure:
I'm not going to go that part with you pls

sassysure:
I don't know about other tribes, but yes it's a serious cancerworm in igboland. When I was in school, my neighbour was given almost half hectare of land from her maternal side she wasn't even aware of. She hasn't been to the place as her mum died while giving birth to her. From calabar.

We will get there. This is the only place we got it all wrong. But it seems like onitsha people do share inheritance among all children equal.

ambient:
Men have always complained on how complex the female mind works, a lot of meme have been created on how a woman saying 'go' actually means stop and the others.

I think some men have been putting a lot of effort in understanding us (women) and is now our turn to try and understand them a little.... Lol

In this thread a woman get to ask a question and the men get to answer or give their opinions on what they actually mean.

I will go first....

When a man keeps complaining to his wife or girlfriend about a friend or friends who is always leeching on him what does he really want the lady to do with the info?

A) just listen and do nothing?
B) try and get the so called friend off her husband or boy friend back?
C) none of the above?

Matured answers only, ladies if you have questions to ask the men folks this is the thread for it.

sassysure:
Igbo don't give their daughters inheritance that's why they can do anything to get a male child eg baby factory.
My state legislature passed a bill against that recently so I don't know how far.

Yes, it's that bad. Although the rich don't obey that useless tradition.

armyofone:
Just like that, eh chief judge!

yeyeosoronga:
Don't get it twisted. I'm ENTITLED to an inheritance from my parents if they have anything to bequeath (and they've not refused me one in a will).
Would you reject your inheritance because you already co-own property or have your own money? Or are you greedy if you want a fair share of your inheritance?
Should Dangote be termed greedy if he collects an inheritance from his wealthy mother's Dantata family?
Marital property as you rightly said is co-owned and so it's not an inheritance. Majority of young people marry as hustlers with no wealth, and wealth is built during the marriage with a lot of sacrifices from both the couple. They both own the property.
That doesn't make them greedy if they still inherit from their parents. It is their right to do so.

bukatyne:
I do not think Igbo women inherit land in their village. I believe wives can farm on their husbands' lands though if Nollywood uncles don't take it from them.

I doubt culture stops an Igbo man/woman from adding their offspring to their wills (for non-landed properties in the village).

Truthfully, everyone's experience is dependent on their families and husbands.

No matter how restrictive Hausa's culture can be, no one can stop Dangote from handing over his empire to his daughters if he so wills.

yeyeosoronga:
Just give us equal share na. Nobody has ever asked for everything. Infact, many female children are more responsible towards their parents in old age than their sons. You cannot deny some cultures in Nigeria do not give female children an inheritance, and they can never even give them landed property anywhere. I mentioned the South East earlier (unless someone says that's not true), and they are a very large population in the country, so it does affect a lot of women. I'm sure other than S/E, there are other regions/ethnic groups with similar practices in Nigeria. A lot of women are affected (even from the S/E region alone) when we look at absolute numbers

bukatyne:
I am curious.

How do ladies offer men sex?

oracle009:
Majority of Yoruba do give their daughters, married or not, part of their inheritance. Infact, from my own side, Ijebu, it is SHARED equally or as the father willed.... Infact, the daughter's children sef have rights in that house....

yeyeosoronga:
You conveniently forgot to highlight- the female child gets only half of what the male is entitled to meaning the male child gets double of what the female gets. That in itself still sounds unfair IMO, but it's still better than nothing at all.
Many South East Nigerian cultures do not give their female children any inheritance from their father's house. Though things are changing, and I guess the rich still try to settle their daughters. I

Efewestern:
Very untrue, most tribes share inheritance to women, I have seen a situation where a lady chanced her brothers and took most of their Dad's inheritance, thou she was the eldest.

ireneidiva:
So the single unmarried woman that got the inheritance cannot marry and come to nairaland to ask questions?

yeyeosoronga:
No, she's not expected to hand over her inheritance to her husband
Yoruba families give inheritance to their female married and unmarried children.
Muslims give their married or unmarried daughters an inheritance even though it may be half of what the male children are entitled to.

Janelle08:
First, this is not the issue here. And if I may ask, is there any law that states that father cannot include his married daughters in his will?

It's not about list of places it's happening. But how families decided to share their father's wealth.

Efewestern:
In my side we give properties to women (married and single), It's a common thing with some of the ethnic groups in the Delta.

Now to the OP, the property belongs to her, she can decide to share, but not handing it over to any man, everything belongs to her kids anyway.

SensualMan1:
It's all mind games.

All the while her husband was talking she kept mute. Now her husband has kept mute she's now talking

She pressured her husband to stay off NL for the mean time for her to clear the mess.

Authoritatively speaking too, UyaiIncomparabl is pregnant too.

UyaiIncomparabl:
I am not married, okay? Let alone to a bipolar. You guys should quit this rumour already.

UyaiIncomparabl:
LMAO. So, I'm getting married and it has/had to be the bipolar OP? Are there no more men in the world? I don't take men on this forum very serious. You people should keep feeding the troll. He's playing on all of you, and in turn enjoying the attention. Let me sit here, sip my drink and continue to watch you all make me popular.

Janelle08:
Hi Nairalanders,

What is your opinion on this topic.

In a situation where a woman receives some inheritance from her father or a share of her late father's property, is she expected to hand over her inheritance (money) to her husband?

Married folks over to you. Women, how will you handle your inheritance? Men, how do you except your wives to handle her inheritance?

UyaiIncomparabl:
I am not married, okay? Let alone to a bipolar. You guys should quit this rumour already.

UyaiIncomparabl:
Crackhaus, I hope all is well with you?

UyaiIncomparabl:
But I just said the truth. You're a joker. How you men fail to dish out advice without being lopsided is what never ceases to amaze me.

wired4comfort:
thank you all for your response.
A little story
My husband gives me 22k every month for the running of the house(food,water,tolietries etc), while I complete the rest according to the budget for that month. the problem is, he thinks the 22k should be enough if I was more carefull. I make a budget every month but he always refuse to look at it, but keeps insisting that 22k is enough for the two of us.
I am yet to get my pay for last month and I have ran out of cash from the 22k. He is upset and is asking what I did with the money.

YorubaPrince:
Which beauty?

maryjames9:
Nigerians. Always forming. I won't be surprised if those people saying the money is too small, the money is not even enough bullshit are actually broke Ass people who will find it hard to spend 500 naira on food with Mama Put.

@ OP, do you complement the man! I mean, how much do you bring to the table at the end of the month? Can you personally currently afford right now to spend 35k of your hard earned money on food stuffs considering the fact that many family earn less than that monthly.

If you earn more than 35k and you bring more than that to the table at the end of the month and you know you can afford to spend 35k on monthly feeding by yourself without any input from your husband, then by all means, spend the money. If however the answer is no, then sorry to say, you spend damn too much.