seunmsg:
I thought she wanted to sue directly. Why ask police to investigate when she can sue directly?

At the end of the police, the CP assigned to handle the case will invite both of them to his office and an amicable resolution will be reached. Both will smile like slowpoke in front of the camera and no one will ever get prosecuted. Life continues thereafter.

You can have a civil and criminal suit on same case. Her reporting the criminal offence doesn't mean she won't sue in civil court

oldtimersince06:


I'm being threatened by this right now. Just came to search for the name of the organization you referred me to earlier.

I hope you have made a move.

Why didn't you call and then arrange to do the repair while he repays you.

You left your own family in the dark for 3 weeks haba.

Stephjeff:
he said he is doing yahoo that pays once in 2 months like 100 or 200k

You are upset that your boyfriend is not getting anybody to defraud and because of that you are broke.

You dont know you are now both cursed; cursed from the sweat of those he defrauded. Your businesses will continue to crash nansense

Suresoniaabia:
am just 31 I have a fiancé I can’t start training 2 kids now when there dad is financially okay and they family hates me because am from another state which they don’t like. My mum is there I wanted to get them to stay with my mum while he drop something for them at least every month while I do they remained ones that’s all am asking for but he refuse

I am sorry you are both irresponsible parents thinking about yourselves alone and not the innocent kids.

First it will take a lot of evidence of abuse to remove kids from an environment they are in to a new one especially with a mother who has left them for years.


Secondly you want to take the kids not to raise them yourself as a parent but to abadon them with your mom and be collecting child support; you are not serious.

Anyway go to social welfare in the local government secretariat and try your luck.

DaddyRochie1642:
Madam if nobody here wants to tell you the truth, then I DaddyRochie will Tell you the Bitter Truth.


From your Story up there, you are displaying the typical Nigerian woman Selfishness and I say this without Remorse.... Even if that man eats Five times a day and you eat twice a day, the mistake you made from the beginning is to wait for the man to complain first before you start contributing to food stuffs,

I read in your story where you said you and him contributed half of the money to pay for the DStv subscription and you said you find it absurd..Didnt your mother tell you that marriage is all about Team-Work.. don't you know genuine team work from the parties involved moves a team forward.

Let me tell you a Secret, anytime you hear a woman say "I'm Fighting for my Marriage or I Will Fight For my Marriage",... believe me, that woman made that Statement because she invested alot of effort into that marriage, thats why she won't let that marriage crumble just like that without a Fight.


Lastly, why do I have this feeling that you just moved in with that man out of Pity,

I put it to you that you have no feelings for that man.. you moved in with that man with this mentality of
"I Deserve to be taken care of and he is supposed to move heaven and Earth to take care of Me".... Better discard that Foolish mentality in your Head and Contribute positively to that man's Life, give that man peace of mind, support that man, you don't need to wait for him to start lamenting.

I know you have no feelings for that man, and you're with him out of Pity, stop Deceiving yourself and that man and do the needful.

A smart woman will never see anything wrong in equal contribution in order to move a home forward that she will still enjoy the Lion Share in the Long Run.

Simply put, I can tell you without Remorse that you're not Mentally ready for Marriage..go and meet your mother to educate you more on marriage.

Thank you

You have a 60 / 40 budget agreement why not stick to it?

Sit down draw up a budget for expenses and decide who does what.

It is 2021 nobody should over work themselves to provide for another adult same way you both should share house chores. You are acting selfishly, you bought only what you need yet you have everything else for free.

If you want to marry a traditional man who will pay all the bills it is fine but dont complain when he demands traditional behaviour from you as a wife.


An adult pays bills where they live this is not strange; the kind of marriages our parents had should be phasing out and we should be learning to do better

PRESS STATEMENT
ISSUED THURSDAY 28TH JANUARY 2021 BY
THE HON. JUSTICE ANTHONY EZONFADE OKORODAS, PhD.

Ladies and gentlemen of the Press, I thank you for attending this Press Conference.
I have taken the decision to address the Press in respect of certain traumatic developments that have arisen between me and my ex-wife, Barrister Celia Juliet Ototo of the Ototo Family of Ovom in Yenagoa Local Government Area of Bayelsa State. It is now nearly 11 years since our separation and divorce. This Press Statement is important in order to prevent damaging speculations, half- truths and outright lies from persons who may want to cash in on the tragedy that has befallen my home.
Sometime during the coronavirus lockdowns early last year, I received information from an anonymous source that indicated that the last of the three children from my previous marriage was in fact not my biological child. Due to the COVID-19 restrictions at the time, I had to wait until August 2020 to carry out a DNA test. The DNA test result which came out in September 2020 confirmed that I was not the biological father of the child. Consequently, I convened a joint meeting between my extended family on the one side, and Celia’s paternal and maternal families (i.e., the Ototo Family of Ovom Town and the Agbagidi Family of Yenagoa Town) on the other side, where I confronted her with the paternity fraud allegation. Although she initially strongly insisted that I was the biological father, she has since confessed to having the child with another man during the course of our marriage.
This repulsive act of my ex-wife prompted me to conduct DNA tests in respect of the two other children. A few days ago, the results came out. Sadly, none of them is my biological child.
This abomination has caused excruciating mental trauma to me, my present wife, Barrister (Mrs) Ebi Okorodas and all of the innocent children involved. This is particularly so for Ebi, who has had to agree to having DNA tests on the four children of our own marriage. Thankfully, the test results confirm each of them to be my biological child.
It is important to state that Celia walked away from the marriage when her youngest child (who is now 17 years of age) was just 6 years old. Since then, all of her children have lived with my wife, Ebi and I, and we have been wholly responsible for their wellbeing and education. Friends who are close to my family
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would readily attest to the fact that unless specifically informed, no one could tell that the children were not the biological children of my present wife.
Ebi and I would continue to support the children in any way that we can. Indeed, even after the release of the first DNA test result which proved that I was not the biological father of the last child, we have continued to pay for his education in a private boarding school. The two other children are University undergraduates. The first, a female, will be a graduate later this year, and the second will soon enter his 4th year of study. We pray for them to overcome the trauma and become responsible citizens of our country.
For Celia and her boyfriend or boyfriends, we leave them to their conscience. Thank you very much.

The Hon. Justice Anthony Ezonfade Okorodas, PhD. Judge
High Court of Delta State
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The man accused by his ex wife of defiling their baby has released a statement.

He says he reported to the police where his wife acted out and disappeared. He was taken by the police for anal exam and as shown to have never had anal sex as his ex wife had alleged he was gay.

His ex wife has deactivated her account and refused to show up at the police station or hospital for medical examination of the son she claims was abused.

He has been released by the police.

He promises to take legal action against the wives and the activists who went to social media to malign him.

https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=10222142202018278&id=1660227133&fs=0&focus_composer=0

90 percent chances that one of the men you brought in has raped her hence her behaviour.

It is hard not to judge you because you are abusive and a bad mother. Stop beating her first. Ask her what happened calmly if anybody has hurt her and stop this behaviour. Work hard let her see you working.

She may need counselling as she had been introduced to sex far too early for her young mind.

oldtimersince06:

No update. Spoke with them and was asked to physically come to the office. Can't explain where I'm heading to my husband , so, I let it slide.

I wish you the best

You must have been physically abusing her for her brothers to come and move her out. You are lucky you are not even in jail

Perfectman91:


Would have done this left to me but the mother keeps putting alot of pressure on me for a cake, it's well.

Let her go and work and buy

Recall that peaceful protesters who attempted to occupy CBN were attacked by alleged thugs on the 19th of October.

A video has emerged of the thugs in action.



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wGZKSuUe9CQ

oldtimersince06:



Thank you. I will get in touch wit them tomorrow.

Any update?

You do not have to buy cake. Pray for her and sing happy birthday.

oldtimersince06:


I'm in Lagos. I don't think he can do it. His mum will take the kids if I ever leave them.

You underestimate a narcissist.

In Lagos please go to the office of the public defender. Lagos is very strong on laws against domestic violence. This is their number 0708 060 1080.

They will guide you. If he is truly as abusive as you claim why will you be ready to gamble with your kids lives.

Zetty177x:


Na wa o. What kind of accounting software error is that? I fear this country o..are u sure of what u are saying? I have never heard of this. I don't even know what to say

Yes the bank confirmed this at the hearing

If you leave the kids he can kill them and commit suicide just to get back at you.

Where do you live? If you live ? There is a lot of help legal and otherwise in for victims of abuse. There are very good laws

Zetty177x:


Most comments I read here don't seem to get d gist..but u are in order....for me, my Summary:

The money hit the account from what the church said. the church said, they didn't know until 4 years. To Me, that the biggest lie on Earth. So no one checks the balance of the church account on a monthly or yearly basis. The only way I will believe the church is if the money is still in tact.. if the money was spent, then the Bank or Magu should counter claim against the church or sue for #10billion as damages.

The law is once any amount exceeds a certain threshold, then you need to report it. Financial institutions are required to report all cash transactions in any currency above a threshold of N5 million for individual and N10 million for corporate bodies to the CBN and NFIU.

Once it exceeds these amounts, it becomes suspicious! I wonder what d Church is suing for.

To me, if they spent a dime from that #500million,they are very guilty...

FCMB should get a good lawyer be and trash the church. He can join CBN and NFIU as parties

It was an accounting software error. The money didn't relect in the church account, the pastor didnt have access to the money or have any idea it existed till this drama started .

The money never actually entered the church account it was just reflecting by software error

Please ignore these women who turn everything including a childs well-being into a gender war.

When you get home please make the milk for your son. Alternatively employ a nanny with strict instructions for the child's nutrition.

You can report her to social welfare for child endangerment since she is also ignoring doctor's instructions
Social welfare is in the local government secretariat they take these matters seriously; a visit to the office will reset her brain. Also if you plan to divorce her making a formal report against her improves your chances of getting custody.

So sorry about the pain your baby is facing

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If you marry now and live in the family compound; it will be easier for your brother. He will come and drop the kids with your wife and make life more stressful for her.

Since you are not willing to do anything to help yourself keep managing till you build your house and move out

Use the 120k to register for a comprehensive health insurance scheme for you and your siblings. Ensure you get regular check ups at least 6months intervals.
See what risks you have health wise and have a lifestyle change if you engage in unhealthy habits.

Death in Nigeria is always present because of general systematic failure apart from our own carelessness.

Still we do our bit

No matter how much you make in Nigeria if you have an emergency in Nigeria can you comfortably relax and say you will be safe in any hospital? How do you even get to the hospital?

You talk about racism tribalism here nko? Police can arrest your sons and declare them Yahoo you will be going back and forth trying to get them safe.

Lets not talk about herdsmen and insecurity

Beyond what you want to give to parents have the full financial debate


1. What do you both earn and what are your family monthly bills? Rent, light, fuel, DSTV,food etc. Who does what?
What kind of ideology does she have towards finances?
Does she expect a husband to do it all?
Does she expect a wife to support?
Does she expect a husband and wife to come together put resources together and pay bills?


What are her views to extended family?

Please please please whatever you do; do not let this die as a family matter. Report it, dont let the girl end up dead because neighbors refuse to speak up. If you are in Lagos let me share the hotline to call with you

ruzell86:

You got points actually few women out of there got this description you gave, and it's just not possible for all men to have them either, because they are few.

Now, does this make other men who fail to get then idiots? I think not either.
I believe a man and a woman should have sense, and most importantly, a woman should have the sense to support a man that has sense.

Dangote, Otedola, Adenuga and other few successful men, may also not flow with your reasoning on this.

Among these 3 men only Otedola has a successful marriage. Dangote has 3 failed marriages, Adenuga here and there, actually Otedola married a woman I described above. Keep marrying those kind of women and stop complaining when you get the consequences of your poor choices