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Heavens, please help Nigeria. I can't even begin to imagine the horror of living in some of these places up North.

Meanwhile, Mr Monarch, bandits are raping your female subjects including the married ones. Saying "bandits raping wives of my subjects" implies that the women are properties owned by your subjects and most importantly, it de-emphasizes the plight of the unmarried ones. The women are the ones directly suffering this particular violence, why make a statement that makes your male subjects seem like the victims?

Please, where can I watch this online? Preferably a site accessible in North America without VPN. Thanks!

AllahOfBlood:


It's like this uncle Tony Elumelu is the new Ned Nwoko in town

all celebrities dae allied with him these days


God please help me make I make money in this lyfe wey I follow come

It's a win-win situation for both parties.

Gbadugbakun:
I Know this might sound funny, but it's the truth. I lie too much, most especially when I'm talking with people.

Most times there wouldn't even be any need to lie, but I would just find myself lying up and down. It's beginning to bother me and I want to stop it. Please how do I go about it?

Mods, please help me out.

@bolded: Before nko, when else would one lie? When you're alone?

I believe you sometimes lie not necessary because you're scheming to get something out of it other than just to keep the conversation going or just to sound more interesting. I suggest you talk more slowly and thoughtfully. Think of your weakness before starting a conversation and make it a point of duty not to say more than absolutely necessary. Remember that the only way to attract the right crowd is by being yourselves. If you have nothing to add to a conversation, don't speak. You can ask questions instead or bring the meeting to an end. You have no idea how lucky you are to know your own weakness.

Radicalwarrior:
Some girls do not hear word no matter the yelling of warning and advice on them, still they will try to do their mind which is practicing prostitution either through hookup or staying in brothels and when they are about to be killed by ritualists they will start blaming poverty whereas there are girls who have decided not to do hookup or any form of prostitution but to start small businesses to help themselves financially.

Say No To Hookup Practices!!

Do Not Patronize Hookup Girls So They Can Be Discouraged And Go Into Starting Small Businesses.

Ashawo (Hookup) No Be Work!!

Do Not Let Anyone Lure You Into Prostitution Or Patronizing Prostitutes!!!

Two MEN died because they were doing hookup, but you'd rather focus on the one girl involved and wrote an epistle about the gender. Just because you want to steal every opportunity to call out the opposit gender, you turned a blind eye to the fact that two guys sent to school to study decided to be doing hookup instead. You'd rather tell us how girls are this and that. If someone comes here to make this unfortunate incidence about men, you'd be the first to insult the person or remind them to talk about the individuals involved and leave the gender alone. Honestly, sexism makes you people come off as shallow thinkers.

This was after the police said the slogan was dangerous?

Why didn't you just say N800b? Why start with a trillion and then count backwards to 0.8? Lol

So the bombshell is that he believes the UK is in a state of “political crisis”?

Gabriel Attal was appointed the PM of France today, this didn't make headlines for you. He'll be the country's youngest PM ever; this didn't make headlines on your internet. He'll be the first openly gay PM of France; again, no headlines. Then he says the UK is experiencing political crisis (something anyone with a smart phone knows), then boom! A bombshell worthy of headlines. You even called him "French government spokesperson" as if neither his former position (education minister) nor his new position (prime minister) matters.

You probably saw this somewhere and copied it, but you should know what the big news is and why he's suddenly gaining attention. And if you already knew this, and yet decided to write about this rather vague comments while introducing him as a French spokesperson, then you should reconsider your niche as a political blogger.

flakkypastries:
I got a job with a small micro finance company some months back.
And I have been doing my job effectively without any complain

I notice I was having chest pain throughout Sunday, so I had to call my supervisor that I will be late to work on Monday morning because I needed to visit the doctor...
I'm not the type that take permission from work
I was at the hospital when my supervisor called me that the manager said I shouldn't bother to come to work again on that day , I thought maybe they wanted me to rest

Lo and behold, I got to work this morning, my boss said I should handover all the companies properties with me that I have been relief of my job.
I pleaded to him but he wouldn't listen to my pleas


Thank God he paid me January salary and gave me 3 rubbers of rice.

Wow, just like that? That's harsh and unfair.

What did your supervisor say when you told them you'd be late to work? If he okayed it and the manager still booted you out for coming in late, then it speaks volume about the organization. It means the dude is a micro manager and power is overly centralized in the organization. Otherwise, he should've have queried the supervisor's decision instead of directly punishing you, especially given the fact that you did the right thing by informing your supervisor about your plight.

While there might be some advantages in working for small organizations like that, the fact that one man could just get up and kick you out without any due process/formal HR hearing is one major thing that makes it unnerving.

Pele. Ndo. I hope you find a better place.

Kryzboy:
nothing like lies oga, make your research very well(not talking about the death aspect)

If he's dead, then why did you write "the man who has no slept since 1973"? Is it that you don't know that simply implies he's still awake till now?

There is a difference between occurances and a trend. Do you really think a page would be enough if one starts collating all the anti-women threads on this platform, especially in the romance section? At least, you were able to name some specific people and tagged them with whatever label you've chosen. One can't even pick a specific set of names if the table is turned because it has become a norm for most guys here to insult Nigerian women all because they want to "belong". Nobody has an better view of this platform that the owners who monitor it very closely. If they are out to tackle the anti-women trend, it's because they can clearly see that it has become a very serious issue on here. I've seen many people create threads like this just to undermine that effort, but that only goes to show how deep-rooted the problem is.

When we say black lives matter, we're not saying that others don't. We're only identifying and addressing the lives that have been treated differently for long. When Seun says he's out to wage war against the anti-women trend, it doesn't mean a war against men and certainly doesn't mean there aren't threads like the one you referenced. It simply means that he and his team have observed something that poses a threat to the existence of thier platform and they are facing it head-on. There'll always be some people bickering on both sides, but when it becomes a dangerous trend where everything leads to the abuse of a whole gender so constantly to the point where they have to leave the platform for you, then it begs for attention.

When you open most of the threads up there, you'd see that most times, it's always the OP versus other commenters. But when you open the anti-women threads, the whole page would be full of other guys joining the OP to insult women. That is already a movement. Even in unrelated threads, you still see people typing "Nigerian girls are useless", "fear women", etc. A lady cannot create a thread here to seek advice without being abused for things a guy would easily get a pass on. We see threads of crimes committed by guys every single day, and no one mentions anything about gender, but once it's a lady, everyone would be on about how women are this or that. How are you not worried about this dangerous dichotomy? How do you expect our sisters and daughters to feel about themselves when they read these things? It's time to grow up and know that always calling out the opposite gender doesn't make anyone more manly. If anything, it's boyish.

muller101:
OK bring an antelope with an ape home let's see which will attack you first.

How does this relate to anything I've said? What you eat or don't eat has nothing to do with the animal's disposition towards humans. A snake is more likely to attack you than a chicken, yet more people chicken than snake. I just gave reasons while people would be weirded out by the idea of eating a primate, and you're talking about attack. Is a human not more like to attack you than a Tilapia fish? Do you then eat humans because of that? Nawa, I don't understand you people's logic on this platform.

Seun:
If you help a man, he will appreciate it for a long time. If you forget, he will remind you. It is as if he owes you a debt. The guy that helped me to bring back Nairaland in 2014 could do no wrong in my eyes until last year. And even now, you won't catch me saying anything against him.

If you help a woman, she will appreciate it for a short time. 3 days. A week. A month. 3 months. Then it's as if you never helped her. It's history. Your help is like a subscription. Once it expires, you can be ghosted. Unless you renew it. And there are many other subscribers, so stop feeling as if yours was such a big deal. 😭

PS: Please o; I don't do redpill. Women are not ungrateful. They recieve help all the time, which they deserve. I'm just speaking from pain. 😭

It's disappointing to see you putting people in a box based on gender. Your fighting tribalism by declaring war on name checkers, but you're not discerning enough to know that calling out a whole gender based on your experience with some ladies isn't any different. How many women have you helped? How many countries have you lived in? How many cultures have you experienced? How did you come to this sweeping conclusion about an entire gender? You really think it's smart to profile the women of this world based on your experience with some ladies somewhere in Nigeria? You think some of us don't have men we've helped that did not show any appreciation? You think we don't have uncles and male cousins that feel entitled to our wealth? If you type this way on NL, how do you intend to combat sexism? Or you just don't know how important your posts are as the owner of this platform? Do you have an idea how many people have used this your post to push thier anti-women narratives on other threads? Shame.

panafrican:
That gangsta Trump boy will order his military to nuke the judges, the prosecutors and the FBI if he wins the presidency in 2024.

Don't take this the wrong way, but I believe this kind of thread is the reason some people don't take Nairaland seriously. Even a secondary school kid wouldn't type this thing put up there.

99% of you saying Nigeria might be the least developed country in Africa have never crossed the border.

Sorry, I don't get it. Where should he have built before? In my village? Most Igbo men make it a point to duty to build a house in thier hometown. Why are we pointing this individual out.

How do most of you on this thread not get the fact that this is just a happy father? The DNA reference was just his humorous way of expressing himself, not that he was suspecting his wife or had any plans of taking his child for a DNA test. Many of you are just from broken homes.

Oh... I didn't know know he was from Port Harcourt.

The comments I'm reading on this thread only shows that the kind of development we need in Africa goes beyond electricity and skyscrapers. We need mental development cause it's very obvious most of y'all still think like the men of old. In 2024, someone still thinks that hitting a child with hard objects will change thier sexual orientation. Like seriously, how do you guys think? Do you know the unspeakable things they did to gay kids in places like Germany or South Africa before people eventually accepted that sexual orientation isn't something to be cured? They were subjected to electric shock, corrective rape and flogging. If you are going to hit your child for liking feminine things, then you should never have one. Sexuality isn't something you switch on and off. A gay boy is a gay boy regardless of how much you flog him or force him to behave manly. You'd only make his childhood miserable.

@OP: If your brother is good mannered, intelligent, respectful, loving, etc., has his sexuality changed any of these? Your brother needs you now more than ever. He's at the most difficult stage of his life. He must be yearning for someone to talk to. This is the point where they hate themselves for being different. This combined with the bullying from friends and rejection from family has led a lot of gay teens to commit suicide or harm themselves. A couple of years ago, one came on NL to ask if there was a surgery to get rid of his libido. Your brother is a teen with raging hormones just like his straight counterparts, if he doesn't get the love and guidance he needs now, you'd end up with a directionless younger brother. Therefore, my suggestion is that you let him know that the world is a cruel place for people like him but you'd always be there for him. Gain his trust and use that as a tool to point him to the things he should be focusing on right now. The only things worse than being a gay guy in Africa is being a poor gay guy in Africa. If he's able to make something out of his life, he'd be able live anywhere in the world where he'd be safe, find love or even be a single father if he prefers.

muller101:
What is the different between this and antelopes. Both roam about in the bush. Something higher got to turn them into delicacies.

Does that really need an explanation? The difference is that this is more closely related to human than the antelope. The biological differences between apes and humans are so little that eating one feels like eating a fellow human being. While other animals arguably feel pains and emotions like fear/love, apes are more likely to feel and express them the way we do due to our common features. That aside, anyone who isn't grossed out by the skull or fingers of a chimp in their pot is a divergent.

Your title is funny, sir. You cannot use the word "declare" when it's clearly a question. The lecturer declared the question?

"At first it was just sex but somehow it started developing to feelings (from her end though). The sex was so good that she became pregnant"

The statement above shows the writer isn't ready for sincerity. If you want to get sincere advice, start by being sincere to yourself. You've long passed the point where you try to present yourself in a good light. You should, therefore, acknowledge the fact that your actions resulted into this mess you're into. Don't brush them off and most importantly, don't even attempt to make this all about her cause she's not the one crying on NL. The feeling was from her end, yet you were the one that brought her into your house? At least, she could say she moved in cause she had feelings for you. What excuse do you have for allowing her? Sex? And the sex was so good that she became pregnant? What does that even mean? So getting pregnant is a matter of how good the sex is? She became pregnant? Really? So it's just her doing, right? Dude, you impregnated her. You are extremely wayward, and the fact that you tried to casually brush that aside while making the write-up all about her only casts a shadow of doubt on every other thing you wrote up there. As a man that lets his third leg rule his life, you cannot convince me that you weren't sleeping around while you guys were together. That woman is exactly your type. Her actions, extreme or not, were just her reacting to yours.

I only pity the little girl that you both brought into this. In case you don't know, being her biological father doesn't necessarily give you any right over her. You need the mother's consent to take her in, and to be sincere, I'm not even sure she'll be better off with you cause a man like you could expose her to a lot of things or leave her at the mercy of the next woman that develops feelings and moves in and then becomes pregnant when the sex is good. At least, your promiscuous baby mama was honest enough to admit that she isn't fit to be a mother. There's nothing in this write-up that shows you're any different.

vislabraye:
Men are allowed to speak. I totally agree with you. Did you listen to Emeka Ike's trouble with his wife ?
He got the sympathy of the public. In fact, many eyewitnesses spoke on his behalf. Truth is that Emeka Ike's was hardly at fault. He was a responsible man who loved and took good care of his family.
Can you compare that to Yul ? WHich reasonable person would come out to say 2023 was his best year after losing a child ? You have to be sensitive. What would his other children think about him ?

The kind of nonsense these boys support on Nairaland all in the name is gender solidarity is just mind blowing.

Why do you guys like making everything about yourselves though? The country is stopping foreign students from bringing in dependents, and you're creating headlines that make it look as if you're the target. The UK receives more immigrants from India than from Nigeria, but once they make a policy change, y'all assume it's all about you. Nawa

iInjureHerYansh:
See that number 2 eh. Avoid it at all cost when it involves the other gender. Make dem no Con find wetin dem go use Deh manipulate you

It's 2024, and you people haven't stopped this gender thing? Nawa

thesicilian:
The man was probably more interested in getting the video for his social media engagement than actually saving the lady. But however true or untrue that may be, he has done his own little part of raising alarm and gathering little evidence.
The police should now focus on using that as a stepping stone to investigate further, instead of quarrelling with him for not doing more.

@bolded, that's not a fair thing to say, sir. He did more than most people would do.

He said "for the record: I raised an alarm, called on area boys, but most hesitated. The driver got back in the car and drove off. I followed the car around V.I, hoping to see a policeman to report to, but none was on the route they followed. They later started driving back."

He's not a trained security expert. He did what he believed was the right thing. Let's not question his intentions, even if we do not agree with his actions.

Mynd44:
In the 5 years of living out my purpose through the Chess in slums project, I have personally adopted 6 children.
One is currently in the university, two are interning at a law firm and the rest are completing their secondary school education.

Happy new year from all of us

Adoption is one of the best things anyone can do to help humanity.

Honestfrend:
Truth be told... Something is not right with Nollywood..

Weather spiritual or otherwise..

I believe these things happen to a lot Nigerians after a certain age. We just don't hear about it. We only hear about these actors cause they're popular.

Druss:
You state logic and in same post generalise millions ... You attribute too much to Toke.

Toke has more than 5 million followers on instagram alone. These fans of hers see her posts. Nairaland is visited by millions of users and a handful of threads have been created on here regarding her presence at the event. There was a trend about her attending the event on Twitter where people were calling her item-7. I'm certain that a lot of people like me who aren't even following her also saw this trend. She has granted a couple of interviews on platforms watched by so many people where she spoke about the event. So saying that her presence publicized the event to millions of people is a very logical and informed conclusion. I'm not a fan of Toke, but arguing that her attendance did not bring the event to the attention of a lot of people who would've otherwise not known about it is just sentiment.

Except his account was actually deleted, this doesn't necessarily mean he's quiting the platform. Meanwhile, Seun probably needs a PR manager. A PR manager would not use the expression "promote good ideas and discouraged bad ideas" when talking about the controversial and mostly subjective subjects that he discusses on Twitter. Apart from being too basic, that expression puts some of his audience that didn't agree with his takes in the past into a defensive mode cause he just called their opinions bad. Now, this would undermine the main gist of the post which is that he's going to focus on Nairaland. In summary, a PR manager would, for communication sake, highlight the main point and downplay every other thing.

Example:
For the past 3 years, I have used Twitter to engage people in debates with the goal of calling attention to and sharing my opinion on some of the salient issues affecting our society today and also with the hope of creating positive impact on the minds of my audience. Apparently, this did not work quite as intended as I constantly found myself attracting vituperations on multiple fronts. This year, I have decided to channel my energy into making Nairaland a safe, inclusive and standard online forum. I am excited about the plans we have for the platform, and I believe you will be thrilled to learn about them too. I will, however, need the help of every single Nairaland user to make this transformation a reality. This is why I beseech you all to work with me as we gear towards our common goal of creating a better Nairaland.

Thank you for your support so far, and happy new year to you and your loves ones!

Seun Osewa