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Innobee99:
Bros am just folding my hands and waiting to see how the movie unfolds. No kobo is coming from me to her until she gives birth and paternity test is done.




I cannor come and carry another man's headache

Point of correction, though, I am a sister not a bros.

I think someone somewhere is confusing her. Just get your acts together and be wise.

Take care.

Innobee99:
I want to date a fine babe, See wetin fine babe done put me now?

Don't let her dull your sparkle sha because not all that glitters is gold. Calculate the dates and make sure she's not transferring another man's pregnancy to you ooo.

Shine your eyes wella.

@Op. And that girl fine sha.

[quote author=Tirips post=82256100]Wow! so we birthday mates[/quote

Happy Birthday to you.

[quote author=wwwkaycom post=81964878]What is this thing about clothing for ceremonies. I don't buy aso ebi, in fact I hate it. I will wear whatever dress I have to attend your function.

But there come instances when you just have to buy. My brother in-law got married late last year and I had to join them in buying their aso ebi only to discover that the dress they sold for 7.5k is just 3k in the market and the dress faded on first wash. I told my wife that she forced me to buy it. That one is gone.

Now, they are planning a funeral programme again and my wife is telling me I must buy their clothing material again. The dress, mine and hers will cost 29k, I got small sample of the material (for male and female), gave it to my textile dealer friend and she told me four trouser length of the male material will cost 6k, while the one for women (wrapper and head tie inclusive) will cost 13k making a total of 19k. I told my wife I'm not buying but she has been on my neck since two days now.

How can someone be extorting me just because they wanted to do funeral? What kind of family thing is this? I'll cough out 29k in this Baba's economy and still give financial assistance to the woman whose father died o.

Why are our people like this?

Still standing my ground while my wife is still insisting I must pay even till now. The funeral comes up first weekend in October.[/quote]Op, you didn't even finish the gist. Money for sowing the fabrics nko? And some tailors, abi fashion designers can charge for Africa. Not to mention shoes and bags to match for your wife.

My neighbour stopped talking to me because on two different occasions she brought aso ebi for me to buy, I objected. She kuku doesn't even invite me for her functions.

Wetin concern me. Who aso ebi epp?

Skmoda360:
Gbam!!! This could work but his wife is just frustrating him.....didn't she gave birth through that same veejay? Hmmmmm!!! She is using him simple.....DNA is a must and valid option here.

Her behaviour is strange, but that shouldn't make him doubt his child's paternity. Let her go see the gynaecologists first.

Something is terribly wrong with the new place. Some Lagos Landlords are fetish. Tenants move in with cars and lots of household items, and leave with a nylon bag. God will help us.

Try and anoint the whole of the flat every morning before start of business. Fast and pray. And if the owners of the house start hating or attacking you for no reason, then know that something is truly wrong with the house and your prayers are hitting the mark.

Freehuman:
She's really felt her divorce. From that picture one understands she cries every night because she loves her man but her friends told her " hey babe, don't cry for Blossom , pour 20 litres of emulsion paint on your face and walk your flat ass to the photo studio for a shoot and then post it on Instagram so that sympathizers will give a damn"

Well, Maureen Esisi doesn't give a damn about me and so I don't give a damn about her.

When I saw how flat her ass was, I knew her marriage won't last.

Jisos

pryme:
I disagree,
few years ago few men believed a woman can make it to the top without a man or smashing at some point,
But these days women are given the respect they deserve.

Look around you, we have more female Presidents and female CEOs than in the past, and most times the majority that vote for them to occupy such post are men.

I am actually referring to those years women were seen as laid back, who have nothing to offer than child bearing and taking care of the home front. No one regarded them then as Olosho.

But as soon as they decide to take the bull by the horn and fight their way through success and prominence, they got a new unbefitting name.

And it's that never-relenting attitude that earned them the positions some of them occupy today.

At least you agree with me that they are women who should rather earn our accolades than insult.

Thank you.

ericsmith:
sex doll bawo ! ororo no be crude oil, we keep managing ourselves until God decides to cause man to sleep n creat another spec of woman

I am happy you know there are varieties of oil. No more spec of women for you ooo. So the earlier you begin to accept and treat us well, the better for you.

delishpot:
You can not. Their eleda doesn't like women

My sister, God pass them.

pryme:
Are you generalizing now? cos you wont want to go down that road.

I am not generalising, but it's the make-believe of most guys. And it wasn't this bad few years ago.

ericsmith:
Have you seen where ladies refer to women like genieve , linda ikeji as whores .. there lifestyles conmesurate with there income.
There are hardworking women n we know them, buh those one living a life beyond there income are d ones called olosho. same standard also apply to men .. he must be a fraudster or yahoo boy . no hard feelings

You just made sense, but other guys should quit generalising or giving us unimaginable percentage.

ericsmith:
present ur facts n i will proof mine pele dear

Facts or no facts, please quit referring to those hardworking women as Oloshos. If you have ever worked in a standard organisation where women hold strategic positions with mouth-watering take home, you will understand they are really hardworking women out there. Not to mention other successful women in other areas or sectors of the economy.

They are women that work so hard that even their male counterparts cannot compete with them. So when you see such women driving latest model cars and building houses you refer to them as Olosho?

Heroclitus:
See hate speeches above me...or do I call them hate texts

There are not hate speech. Just stating the fact, by outlining some misconceptions you guys have about our success.

ericsmith:
But majority of the successful women are olosho, 70% 80% is enough to generalize.

That's fallacy.

AwkaetitiBabe:
Our society believe no young lady can make it on her own without a man pulling some strings for her...

Don't mind them, jare. What about the bankers, doctors, entrepreneurs, to mention but a few.

E dey pepper some of them to see women succeed or excel in her chosen career. If she is promoted, she must have slept with her superior. And if her business strives because of her handwork, there must be one Politician or Alhaji behind her success.

They should take it easy with how they accuse women unnecessarily, abeg.

Fountainofyouth:
Guys that whine and call these women olowhatever are bunch of envious, jealous, covetuous, minus zero self esteem, scared and intimidated low grade males cos they can't woo these ladies seeing that they are wayyyyyyyyy higher in everything than them, and rightly so, watch them crawl to this thread and wail.

You just hit the nail on the head.
By their comments, we shall know them

Jennifer129:
Few days ago I never would have thought there was so much love out there for me. To have all this love come from strangers who barely know me gives me faith in humanity. I'm not always suicidal or depressed. During the day I'm actually quite okay but as the sun goes down I gradually loose my emotions.... nocturnal depression I guess.
Ever since I came out on nairaland about my problems I've been getting messages and emails from people I do not know, offering me help and support and ever since then I've gone to bed as happy as I can be.
I read through all the replies and I would like to thank desoul 2004, kehinde41, ziel20, akwaetitibabe, olagift, temitope, Calgary friend, tosinex, 4tunebest, work harder, diligent1, cashmanbreeze, nnamdiosu, seyenko and all those who reached out to me by email.
In a special way I would like to thank extremelygolden, 24kmagic, wanderrerr, ladysarah, missjo, jessysparkles, loveyoulord, ottiz, mursz and ahnie. Your kind words really made me quite emotional and filled me with hope and love.

Some amazing people have gone out of their way to help me and have insipred me with wonderful advice. Knowing that people like them exist has given me assurance that life is not as ugly as I thought. Life is actually quite beautiful. Thank you for all your love and support my dear friends, Boyo, Abiola, Sunday and Jamila. You are all wonderful people.

I wish I could open up my heart so you guys can look inside because as much as I have tried, words cannot fully express my gratitude towards all of you guys on nairaland.

I love you fam.

Sweetheart, how are you feeling today? Hope much better?

The extremelygolden email address has been inaccessible since last year and I don't know why. That's why I opted to giving you an alternative email address.

Kindly keep in touch, ok?

Sorry Workharder. The mention was meant for my darling sister, Jennifer.

pryme:
Why are you bothered about what they say about you if you are not one?

A Lion does not concern himself with the opinions of the Sheep.

Just to get the record straight, cos you guys have entrenched yourselves deep into that ugly word.

SIR0:
Chai!
Ladies don dey suffer from the time immemorial

God will help us.

LesaSid:
what are you trying to say

That the men should try and respect hardworking women.

Not every successful woman is an Olosho, as majority believe now.

delishpot:
Chewing gum Boys hate to see women who can stand on their 2 feet. They will ask her to stop working and if she says No they will say she is too stubborn. They don't want a woman that can buy anything for herself without their express permission or contribution. 80% of men in naija are chewing gum Boys.

Same chewing gum guys will still call women lazy if for any reason she loses her job, especially after marriage.

How can we please them for crying out loud?

Jennifer129:
I'm lost of words. I'm almost never speechless but right now my heart is too full to let my mouth speak. I've received so much love from random strangers. I never would have thought that there was so much love in the world.
Thank you everyone who has shown me love and has been so supportive.
When I am able to cordinate my thoughts and feelings, I would post a proper appreciation on nairaland to all those who care about me. Until then.....thank you.

My dear, let's do therefinerofsilver@gmail.com
Hope you understand?

She drives a car; Ashawo
She rents a flat; Ashawo
She buys her own land; Ashawo
Ignore chats/calls; Ashawo
She Choose to be single; Ashawo
She buys a house; Ashawo
She Goes to a bar/club alone; Ashawo
She takes her friends out and picks up the bill; Ashawo
She goes to the market; Ashawo
Gets a degree; Ashawo
Does charity; Ashawo
Dresses comfortably; Ashawo
Makes up; Ashawo
Laughs; Ashawo
Breathes; Ashawo
Exists; Ashawo
Becomes a celebrity; Ashawo
She pays for her own trips abroad; Ashawo
She sets up her own Business; Ashawo
She expresses her opinions; Ashawo... HABA..KILODE??
Please why is it so difficult and hard to respect women for their hard work?
Why must you look down on successful,hardworking and struggling women as "Ashawo"?
Must you term every achievement a woman has, as Ashawo? If the name Ashawo can achieve all of the list above its better to be called Ashawo and be successful than being a saint and depending on a man for every damn thing.
Who says a woman cannot build a house, own a company?
We should learn to appreciate our hardworking women and stop tagging everything they achieve as Ashawo.

God bless every hardworking woman out there.

Richy4:
Let me guess

The father = Pete Edochie
Mother= Liz Benson
Son = Bob Manuel
Yankee Wife = Ini Edo
Step Mother = Chinyere Wilfred

Half Brothers
Nonso Diobi
Jim iyke
Mike Ezuronye

Village Extras / Waka pass
Chinwetalu Agu
Chinwe owo

It's been ages since I have watched Nigerian movies.. U can supply those that you want to feature in this nice scripted movie

Well, Patience Ozokwor will perform a better step mother than Winifred. Let Winifred be his biological mother.

Jennifer129:
I'm lost of words. I'm almost never speechless but right now my heart is too full to let my mouth speak. I've received so much love from random strangers. I never would have thought that there was so much love in the world.
Thank you everyone who has shown me love and has been so supportive.
When I am able to cordinate my thoughts and feelings, I would post a proper appreciation on nairaland to all those who care about me. Until then.....thank you.

Yes darling, we love you and if you will permit, most of us will still like to extend our hands of friendship to you through phone calls.

How can our online younger sister wants to leave us? Not good nah.

Just know we're here for you, ok? And if you drop your phone number, it will enable us check on you at intervals.

Be good, ok? And don't you ever think of breaking our hearts.

Hugs, my dear.

Jennifer129:
No one would miss me. I planned it out very well. I stopped talking to my friends for months now so they don't even remember me, my parents have three children that they actually love, two girls and a boy, it's a perfect family without me.
I've given my journal to a trusted friend and I'm sure she'll keep it well and I've passed my WAEC, neco and post UTME exams so I've repaid my parents for all the money they used to educate me.
Also I'm introverted so I don't have much people who would miss my presence. Now is the perfect time to leave but my aspirins didn't work and I'm just really tired even too tired to die.

Please I need your phone number. Can you give it to me, please?

In fact, just take her shopping abroad.

OBUKOMENA:
Do u know what? I sought help from one of the female doctors at my workplace; I gave her number to the doctor so she could call my wife and advise her on what to do. She got enraged saying I was telling people about her. I had to tell the doctor not to call again. My sister, in my next life, I am going to marry a prostitute I swear!

Sorry for your predicament, Op. Are you in Lagos? Like some people had earlier advised, sit your wife down, have a deep heart to heart discussion with her. Let her tell you everything you need to know about her past sexual relationships. If possible, note down everything on a piece of paper so you won't forget.

If you're in Lagos State, take the paper to Federal Medical Centre, Ebute Metta. It's just around Oyinbo Market by Railway Quarters. When you enter the hospital gate, you will see a building by your right, immediately after the Emergency Ward, named GOPC. Don't worry, just enter, pay for hospital card and wait to see the doctor. Please don't tell your wife anything about it at this point.

Explain to the doctor (thank God they're mostly female doctors in the GOPC) so you can actually feel free to narrate everything to them. Tell them that you want to see the Gynaecologists to book an appointment on behalf of your wife. The doctor here will then write a referral letter for you to see the Gynaecologists.

In FMC, Ebute Metta, you can't see the Gynaecologists without referral, otherwise I would have directed you straight to them. And their appointment day is always and only on Wednesdays, as from 11am. They attend to pregnant women in the morning, then other cases in the afternoon.

Please when you get there, try pick up a YELLOW NUMBER TAG at the reception and drop your small hospital card with them at RECORDS. It's directly opposite the reception, or you ask for direction. They have Ushers standing all over the hospital with tags "Ask Me, or Any Complaint?" pinned on their uniform.

Don't be scared if you see crowd, because they don't always last. When you see the gynaecologist, explain everything to him/her, then book an appointment to see them next Wednesday.

Go home, tell your wife to take you to the hospital, that you don't know how you have been feeling lately. Just feign illness. When she gets to the hospital, just hand her over to the gynaecologists and let's see if she will go there and disgrace herself.

Just leave her alone with them so she can be free to tell him/her everything, since she's not free to open up to her own husband.

She might need to run some tests. The hospital bill there is highly subsidised and the cost of their drugs too.

I hope this helps.