Olulinks: Best submission on how she should go about it! But I think her worry is, should she do it at all?
Yes, she should. Honestly there's no harm in trial. It's even easier to say to an old time friend than to someone you just started a relationship with.
Go about it in a playful manner. In the middle of a conversation when he says something that thrills you, just chip in a sentence like, O!Jay I love you more each passing day. You make me happy always by your perception about life. If you were around now I would have said, what have you given me to eat? I am just loving you too much these days. Then you quickly change the topic.
You will see that after some time he will call to confirm if what you said about loving him is true? That's when you will tell him Yes in a bold letter.
topher052: The next morning i was so lazy to leave the bed. I stayed in until about 11.45am before i sluggishly staggered off the bed with pains allover. I went to the bathroom to brush my teeth when a felt hot pains on every cut. At first i didn't recognize it, i thought it was normal but when it stung me allover i then remembered it was a sign. Fear gripped me and i quickly jumped into a trouser and a t shirt, forgot all about brushing my teeth, took some change left in the trouser i wore the previous days outfit and carefully stepped out of my house.
I was padlocking my protector when a neighbor came to me talking about light bill. I agreed to pay and was rushing off but she continued listing all the bills that i must contribute. I shook my head and was rushing off when i saw the young dark lad that has been terrorizing me walking towards my compound, chatting with two other guys. I immediately closed the gate and ran back in, i noticed the lady was looking at me as if i have gone crazy. I ran to the back yard and to make use of the back exit, but so unfortunate it was padlocked. And so i hid behind the house, peeping to see what was happening.
The lady i was chatting with was walking towards me looking suspicious and confused. I saw her coming while the gate opened, i almost threw up. She reached me and asked.
"what is problem? is everything okay?".
Meanwhile the guys where in and one spotted her and shouted.
"Mummy d!"
She turned towards them and replied.
"Mikko the badoo!"
Wow! they knew each other. While they were busy exchanging greetings, i took the backyard and towards the front exit. I could see she led them into her house, and i heard her boyfriend or husband i don't which, shouting his greetings followed with a loud laughter.
I quickly rushed out feeling my heart forcing it's way out of my chest. I managed to maintain composure as i was rushing off, but i bumped into Esther. She was looking the way she looked the day i first met her in same gown, coming from god knows where with her feet dusty.
She saw me and gave a wide grin.
"Mike my man! where are you going looking like....me!" she said stretching her grin.
God really gave her some good sets of teeth and attractive eyes. But aside that she looked less attractive without her showing off her slutty side endowments.
"can i hitch with you?" i said nervously.
She gave me an interrogative look and nodded, still suspicious of my look but she led me into her compound. We went upstairs in silence. As soon as we got to her sitting room, she said taking water from the water dispenser.
"what's going on Mike?".
I looked at her as she slowly drank from the plastic transparent cup with her eyes steady on me. I couldn't tell her the truth, so lied.
"i am going mad! i was thinking throughout the night. I need money desperately". i said.
She studied me holding her cup of water in her hand. And when she was done, she smiled and said sitting on her glass center table in front of me.
"Look, i was from a very poor family" she smiled sadly and continued. "my dad was a local goldsmith, he made hoes and cutlasses for a living, and take them to the market for sale. i and my mum would hawk oranges, mangoes, banana, just whatsoever was in season just to feed. Mike to feed". she said emphasizing it to me. "i wake up everyday in our one room apartment and curse my life. I knew i was meant to be rich, i knew i had to do something. I watched as my dad died from a mare sickness that money i spend in a club one night would solve, yet my uncles wouldn't help. I had no education, no skill, but i knew i got something special. I know how to make people do my bidding. So one day, i packed my rags i called clothes and said to my mum and two elder siblings, that i was going to the township. Of cause mum was worried and refused, yet i left all the same. i was only 17 at the time. I came to this town not knowing anyone, with just 2000 in my bag. I slept on the street for a week without taking my bath. Yes, men tried to take advantage of my innocence, yes they succeeded. I got pregnant, not knowing who the father was. I saw wickedness, no kindness, i was getting the opposite of what they said township was. It was difficult to get by. The village was even peaceful. And i had my baby in an uncompleted building alone, i didn't know what to do, yet i did it alone". she paused, wiped a tear smiling, then continued. 'How was i to care for this baby when in can barely get by. And so i abandoned her there and walked away. That was when i sold my heart to the devil, i did what i needed to do. i know what men want and i used it against them. I have no love for men. If i want sex, i get from whomsoever pleases me. If i made it using what i have, i wonder why you cant".
Her story paralyzed me. But how could i bring myself to telling her it was my life at stake. I sagged on the chair and heaved a sigh. She stood up and took off her gown in front of me, though she wore a to match yellow thong and a push up bra. She completely left me breathless with her voluptuous body. The way her butt bounced as she walked inside kept my eyes glued to it until she disappeared.
My phone rang and i answered.
"hey Mike". A small voice said.
"hey, who is this?". I asked.
"This is John. Where are you?". John asked.
My heart skipped a beat when i placed the voice. What does this cop want from me? All my clothes had become too big for me cause of worries and problems.
"yes?". I asked.
"I am around. What is the problem sir?". I asked consciously.
''Report at the obanxi police station right away". He said.
"why?". I asked.
"Stop asking questions, report right away, Ruth is here". John said and hung up.
I stood up and called Easter. She joined me still putting on her under wear. Her boobs where enormously bulging from her bra. I was stucked to it when she snapped her fingers and said.
"hello! your eyes here". she said pointing at her face.
I immediately took my eyes off her boobs to meet her smiling face.
"i have to go. Got a call i need to respond asap". i said.
"okay, i was fixing us lunch. Cant you wait to eat before you leave at least?" she said.
I thought of it, it wont be a bad idea to have something in my tummy before leaving. I went back to the sitting room waiting for lunch while watching the news. The aroma pervaded the room, i couldn't wait to have a taste. Soon She came out with a vegetable yam with lots of fish and i smelt red oil.
She dropped it in front of and kept a jog of water beside it and a glass cup. The food looked enticing and smelt good but the red oil. I thought of a thousand way to decline this scrumptious looking meal, and so i said.
"am sorry, i don't eat red oil. It gives me rashes after awhile".
"seriously? haaaa. You should have told me". she said regretfully.
I thanked her and went to the police station.
on getting there, i met Ruth in detention. John asked me to his room. And when i joined him, i saw a silver pistol on the table, something was familiar about it. I looked at the gun and then to John before i sat down.
"i saw how you were looking at this gun, is it familiar?'. John asked in his small tone.
I said it that Ruth must have used Thomas's gun that was with Mike to kill Sandra. And I am right!
Are you MAD? What right has he to even send her on an errand in the first place? Is he her boss at work, husband, father or elder brother?
Are you FOOLISH? Why will he even visit and stay with her when the husband isn't around? I'm asking you!
Are you that DUMB? Don't you know what it means to set boundaries and mode in which you should relate to a married friend?
According to OP, she politely suggested another alternative but he turned it down, proving he had something in mind.
And here you are, typing about bitches!
Should I blame your father for this statement you made on someone's wife or should I blame your dusty brain?
It's so pitiful and shocking that after all the promises you made to your parents to be responsible, reasonable and sensible, you ended up as a shallow minded BOY who is ready to suck the scrotum balls of his friends than to protect his wife in cases like this.
C'mon! Will you take your pathetic self out of here!
Nonsense and turninoninown!
Too much wisdom dey worry you, bros.
Thumbs up for you, jare. You get sense no be small.
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Offpoint1: Food is the least thing I'll ever deny anyone. Like my grandfather always said to me "Offpoint no matter how full you are, you'll still be hungry in 5 hours time, so give that food to your brother"
I don't think there's any reasonable human being that will come to your house everyday just to eat, His conscience will not allow that.
My brother, this is a school setting and believe me some students no dey send. No shame, no conscience. It's left for the Op to be wise and ignore the parasitic guy.
greatnaija01: I do not care if this is about u or a friend but am here to help
THE PAST BITES AND HUNTS when its not totally cut off.
ONE MAJOR MISTAKE is BODY COUNT... It is totally WRONG to tell anyone your BODY COUNT or specifics of your DIRTY PAST... because the person who truly LOVES YOU won't care about it.... yes and let me shock you.... NO HUMAN MAN WILL WANT TO CONTINUE WITH YOU IF YOU GO THAT DEEP INTO CONFESSION.... Only GOD can handle such detail.
EVEN if he marries you... YOU WILL BE A SUSPECT FOR LIFE and your children will suffer the same suspicion from him ONCE they start having friends.
SO here is the solution.... TELL THE REVEREND SISTER... but listen DO NOT GO INTO BODY COUNT and RAW DETAILS. Just tell her you were addicted to sex and you want God to help you and restore you. tell her you have suffered silently for so long because you didn't want people to see you the wrong way... LET HER KNOW YOU ARE READY TO FOLLOW GOD'S PATH.
If she is real, she will keep it confidential and help you through it.... ELSE if she tells your family then THE STIGMA will be for life.
THE FORGIVENESS AND NEW LIFE THAT JESUS CHRIST OFFERS is actually without the details of your PAST.
All these people on your thread who are mocking u or expecting you to be shamed and loose your relationship with that guy ARE simply like the accuser of the woman caught in adultery in the BIBLE.... Jesus says... LET HE WHO IS WITHOUT SIN CAST THE FIRST STONE...
I salute you (or your friend) for being able to talk out... but UNDERSTAND HUMANS O.... Human being hardly forgives or forgets what GOD has forgiven and cleansed. So if you must deal then thread carefully.
In marriage I believe in transparency... BUT to know details of the past is what I KNOW IS VERY VERY WRONG... because it can ruin the relationship before it starts. I counsel couples to be plain as possible by saying.... I LIVED A VERY ROUGH LIFE OF SIN IN THE PAST BUT WHEN I GOT BORN AGAIN... I began to change slowly. Anyone asking for details is asking for BOMB that may kill them too... so save them the trouble.
ALSO.... I SUSPECT THAT, IF THIS GUY LEAVES YOU..... you will go back to SIN as a last resort or revenge and become more hardened.... SO it may not be worth it. IF YOUR CHANGE DOES NOT COME FROM GOD or PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT.... Then it won't last.
You need something deeper or stronger than just the guy to totally claim you have changed.
You are simply intelligent, and of a good heart.
Op, this is the advise your friend needs. I pray she remains steadfast in her change.
Kill your self ke? You better relocate from the state where you're currently staying with your parents. As long as your father sees you around, he will keep making your life miserable.
Pack out and visit them once in a while, sometimes invite your mother to come spend time with you since she's the only one who has been helpful.
Don't mind your father. When next he calls you useless and good for nothing, remind him politely that the Dangotes, Adenugas, Adelekes, etc are men and fathers like himself and that it wouldn't be a bad idea if he turns out like one of them too.
You better start planning on how to raise your own family and stop being sentimental to an ungrateful father.
Op, I never knew your type still exists. I used to think all men have gone the wayward way. Kudos!
Well, I will advise you make yourself as unavailable as possible. That is, since they have a time frame for such visits, whenever they knock, switch off the light in your room, open the door slightly and tell them you have a visitor. Just make them believe another girl is in the room with you.
When you see them the next day apologize for your inability to welcome them properly the previous night.
Other times, if they knock, pick up your books immediately and tell them you were on your way out already to read with your guys. That you're running late already and will give them a call as soon as you come back. Which call?
But discuss all of these strategies with your girlfriend so she will be in the know.
raphretle: Am a kind of confused right now, I love this lady so much and am planning to settle down with her... Recently I heard her telling a friend on phone that she hates my church denomination and she's being hiding it from me.. I confronted her about it and she did not deny the fact that she hates my denomination ( mentioning stuffs like earrings, dressing n she even mentioned the doctrines to be obsolete and said their wedding is too boring ). She is a social type and to her the doctrines of the church are not for her kind-of person.. calling it a boring life.. I attend D. L, I was born and brought up as a D. L member. My People, your advice will be highly appreciated... Thanks..
Then marry from Deeper Life and leave her alone. Or you two should decide on the church to attend after marriage.
My dear, you better go ahead and marry. Hence you have God, your father and other members of the family in support, kindly start preparation for your wedding.
Your mother wants to ruin your life. Don't allow her make you end up an old maid in her house.
Romance › Re: Should I Make A Move On My Best Friend ? by extremelygolden: 12:27pm On Apr 06, 2019
