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Father4all:
If the accountant is earning that much. Then how much is the MD earning. People are deceiving themselves. That's why the country is like this

Just because you work in a N50K per month company, does not mean other companies don't pay much.

Instead of you to use their stories as a point of contact to divine elevation, and work towards achieving such feat, you're there stagnating yourself with your backward thoughts.

Ask people working in the Oil & Gas, Multinational Corporations, the United Nations, Bankers, etc how much they earn in a month, you're there encouraging yourself that your present level is the height every other career person must not exceed.

I strongly dislike crossing paths with pessimists. All they usually see is the o in zero, they never trained their minds to see the O in Opportunity.

Awon 'it is never going to be possible'!

Please, don't quote me again. Your mindset dey make me yarn, abeg.

Father4all:
I don't know why people are lying in this formum. Some will come saying they earn 500k a month, some will say 700k. Is it not the same Nigeria that there is no work no money, no food that we all are living? Where are you guys seeing the jobs and big big monthly pay? Nigerians are indeed hypocrite and liars

What are you talking about?
Na wa for you o!

I have a friend working in Apapa whose monthly net pay is slightly above N1.2m. A chartered accountant, have a master's degree and other certifications.

So why are doubting that someone is earning N700,000? Just keep on upgrading yourself and praying for God's divine favour and breakthrough? With God, nothing is impossible, ok?

Acidosis:
Workload is the amount of work you'd prefer your wife to do to the point of exhaustion, rather than spending 2% of your income on a cleaner.

Y'all wicked men will buy expensive phones for your girlfriends that contribute absolutely nothing to your lives, but watch your wife at home work herself to a state of exhaustion and unconsciousness.

Can I give you E-hug, please?
You're making lots of sense.

MikeofKd:
I had this girl visit me some weeks back, we are long time friends. She came and we gisted and vibed but at some point she started giving me massive and heavy sexual green lights.

I did like I didn’t understand any of those her sexual tactics until she grew tired and left lol. I realized after dat day she ignored my messages and calls. Not surprised.

In As much as I love sex ,I’m also very cautious of who I sleep with , some women would destroy your whole life through sex , dis one isn’t Nigerian movie it’s ducking real . If you share your body with just any woman as a man then your seriously doomed.

Cause normally why would a woman be pissed dat I refused to sleep with her , if she didn’t have diabolic motives ? It’s crushed her ego and she felt bad. Her seduction couldn’t work on me lol cause I sensed her evil intentions.

So ladies why do y’all get mad when a man refuses to sleep with you ?? I mean u should be happy u meet such kinda men cause they are usually very rare, but y’all get mad instead why

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First and foremost you're a good writer. I like your writing style.

Secondly, I am happy you didn't succumb to her satanic plan.

I usually give maximum respect to men with self control, unfortunately they're very few that exist now, like you rightly said.

Finally, the sin of fornication and adultery have led many (great) people to some incurable diseases, unfulfilled destiny, and even untimely death.

Many are out there to destroy lives through sex. Let's be very conscious of that. When you live a life in Christ Jesus, you'll found out that there's a way that seems right unto a man, but the end therefore is the way of destruction/ death. And number one on that list, I tell you is the sin of sexual immorality.

ecolime:
A friend just got an international remote job but he is worried about communication with Native English speakers.

He aced the 4 stage interviews and has been given an offer. The pay is good considering the current exchange rate. He was offered $42,000 per annum.

Presently, he works with an audit firm and makes N1.9M NET monthly plus other side businesses.

The role was strictly for Inbound Pre-Qualification and Sales when he applied but at the final stage of the interview, adjustment was made in the JD which includes outbound sales.

Please note he understands and speaks English fluently but he has issues with thick American accents. The position is a Business Development role and it involves conversing extensively with Americans.

Any advise for him?

Let him form the habit of watching lots of American movies and documentaries. It'll help him a lot. Not only that, he should pay special attention on how they pronounce certain words. If I were him, I will go as far as recording their voices whenever they are acting.

Hope this helps.

Emaprince:
I understand you better now.

I wish you well and peace in your union.

Amen. I'm not the Op anyway and I'm not experiencing any such thing in my relationship. Just being empathetic, you know. Like putting myself in her shoes.

I can't just imagine how I'll feel if I found myself in such a situation. I'll be completely torn and highly disappointed I must tell you!

UnfairLife7:
Majority of those Men supporting infidelity in marriage are from dysfunctional home. Don't blame them. It's their shallow background. You don't expect them to behave or reason like you or other guys castigating OP hubby

You are absolutely right.

Emaprince:
You will eventually walk into the arms of the wolves waiting to devour and pass around.

No one really cares anyway.

Hey there! Not every woman is promiscuous, ok? For those of us one-man-woman, the hurt usually cuts soooo deep when the one we loved betrays us.

Why would you date a neighbour's daughter, for crying out loud? Just tell me why? So you'll reduce me to nothing in the neighborhood?

Common man, that's absolutely wrong, you know. Not right at all, I tell you!

Iamzik:
Pele o Johnny walker 🏃🏃

Nope. Make it Jonnie Runner, cos Usian Bolt will be learning from me. Compare my run to the speed of light.

Marriage/ relationship these days nawa.

When you're cheating, please don't ever open your mouth to tell me "babe, you know I love you" because even before you finish uttering such gibberish, that thunder that has been doing press up for sometime now will manifest from no where! Nonsense!
I don't need your love, just give me my respect as your wife, ok?

A neighbour's daughter of all people! Disgusting and highly disrespectful.

Sis, l don't know how you're going to cope with this findings. If I were in your shoes (I forbid it anyway), I'll take a trip to think things over, then when I come back I'll confront him with all the evidence I have and execute whichever decisions I made during that trip.

The day I stopped looking into my husband's eyes, is the day I begin to shed every feeling I ever had for him, and I pray "may that day never come". Because I will take a walk right after that and I'll never look back.

SammyJac:
He was humane and kind-hearted. May his soul continue to rest in the Lord.

Where is EXPLORER? It's been long I read his thrilling and enthralling discoveries here on NAIRALAND.

Yes, Explorer! Where's Autojosh too, who gives us insight on auto related topics.

Collinsemegreat:
Thank you so much... I actually don't want to stay long there... Hoping 2-3years or lesser max just to get my postgraduate as it affords me time.

That's ok then.

I wish you the very best.

butterflyy:
Please I need help on this, the boy that is helping my mother wrote Waec with his name, Orji Chinonso Samuel. The result came out with Orji Chinonso Victor. He is been freaking out since. Pls is there anything that can be done about it. Can he use it so.

Please try all that is within your power to help him resolve it, otherwise it would haunt him in the future. I have witnessed a similar case, and till today the guy couldn't finish anything he started because they always believe he falsified his result using someone else's name.

Oyindamolah:
FACT my neigor was retrenched and realise he waisted 8yrs of his life, his starting a business before the year ends, his advise to young graduate never work in a bank as a contract staff

That's just it! I know of someone who spent 12 years of his life as a contract staff. Stagnated at a spot for that 12 years, without any promotion! Do you know what happened at last? After milking out his youthful years of working with highly wicked bank, they sacked him.

Reason you ask? The bank claimed he's above 40 and ought to have gotten to a certain level at that age. And whose fault when they heartlessly refused to promote him, and every year, they will employ youths his children's age to boss him around.

He naturally went into deep depression, and it took the Grace of God and the counsel of loved ones to pull him through.

Why did he spend so much years stagnated at a spot? He got carried away with false hope and unending-never-fulfilled-promises of the bank! Wearing suits, deceiving himself and everyone around him that he was a banker!

As at the last time I heard of him, he was an Uber driver, and I was so happy for him and his family.

So, let Op have a rethink before he goes to bury his destiny and future on the altar of one yeye lie-lie bank, as a contract staff!

UcheKingsley1:
She is too hideous, maybe she is scared of appearing old and ugly.

No Uncle Uche, she was busy building a mighty housing estate in Abuja. She is through now, that's why she's out to have some fun with her friends.

People are resigning daily from their banking jobs, and you're heading right in, and as a contract staff? Please pause and think, and read my lips very slowly - BANKING HAS NO JOB SECURITY and likely NO JOB SATISFACTION!

They'll use you, and use you, then discard you when they get tired of you.
And as a contract staff, you have no single career prospect there - all those English in your employment letter, na wash!
Marketing what? The target na die!

If I were you, I will embark on a fast and seek the face of the Lord for this matter. The days working in the bank was everyone's dream, are long gone. Now, na stress, suffer head, beating deadlines, meeting and surpassing targets, and being butted out unexpectedly be their trademark.

But if you plan to leave the country in the nearest future, you can accept the offer, use them to get reference for the embassy, turn around, and give them a heavy kick on the butt in return, then japa.

All in all, I wish you well.

AllBlack:
School na scam.

Olohun, that caught really caught my attention.

Serendipity2023:
Is there any scientific reason why I have diarrhoea ("purging" each time I eat Nkwobi, Isi ewu or Abacha?

Is it the potash or pepper?

Why you no go purge when you get heart eat am alone without inviting a sister? You get heart sha. That's on the lighter side anyway.

Now, the reason could be that they added too much potash and/or seasoning or even pepper to the Nkwobi. You know our body systems differ. Try patronizing a different person, if you still get same experience/result, then know that your body doesn't accept such delicacies. You can then officially move over to sipping garri and groundnut like someone has earlier suggested, inugo.

Where is AutoJosh?

YinkaOlusesi16:
Most men like to show they are financially stable all the time but Why do they find it difficult to ask their women for money when they are broke?💞😍💘💔💓❤️💋

Believe me, it's majorly Igbo guys that wouldn't ask their women for money when they're broke or financially unstable. Those guys have understandable pride, abeg, and I love them so.

In order to assist, I will stylishly collect his account details and do the needful, especially if he has always been kind in other areas. If he's kind and a womanizer, gbagbe, I won't give you shishi because I'll feel you'll spend my hard earned money on other women.

Tayorshd87:
From a friend though


Am the last born in my family and there are too many ups and downs and wahala in my family because it was a polygamous home and my father was one of the man I mistakenly ever met on earth and unlucky for me he is my father 😭😢
So how I wish I should start my life with my own fresh lineage from my wife and children. Like I don't want to be part of the father tree again.

I gave birth 3days ago and I don't want my son to bear my surname 🤔 I want my own name to be his surname so my father lineage will be cut off
☹️

Please is there any future implications in this decision?
Or rather something bad behind this decision??

Thanks 😌

My brother woke up one day with a question. He asked us who will bear his father's name if all of us including his future children keep bearing our family surname, which was the name of our paternal grandfather. He was also a polygamist
Here and there, the young man made up his mind and changed his surname to our father's direct native name. Some siblings joined him in changing theirs as well, but I maintained the family surname because I know that as soon as I get married, I will change all.
Unless by facial resemblance, otherwise if you visit us and we decide to introduce ourselves by our full names, you might begin to wonder why we all are bearing different surnames.

So do what makes you comfortable. And if it requires change of name in the dailies, you can go ahead with a classified advert. But try to be discrete about it for the time being.

I wish you luck.

I know of some contract staffs of Polaris Bank that have been stagnated to 12 years without promotion or salary increments.

Both their previous management and the present ones are terribly wicked from all I have heard.

Jewessgratitud3:
A Bottle of Coke is now 250 naira. I m not a fan of soft drinks but because sometimes I do suffer from low blood sugar, I was advised to be taking coca-cola anytime I notice the symptoms. So last week ( after a long time) I went to buy a bottle of drink and the malam told me it now 250. Something we used to buy for 200 and the bottle has reduced in size.

It is so in your area?

That's the new price now. But some still sell Pepsi N200 though.

CalmTravels:
No they don't have that sort of travel scheme like Canada. The jobs i feel you can easily get outside Tech now have a tougher regulations, that is employers MUST advertise the job in EU/EEA for 10 days before employing a non EU/EEA resident.

Before it was not so...... So if say an employer advertise that job, someone in Romania can apply, and would be consider before you living in Africa. That is why African people resident in Italy, France are rushing down here. They just hop on a train, voila, they are in Sweden. But if nobody accept the job within 10 days, they start accepting CV from other parts...... We are working with some Swedish partners in the AGRICULTURE Sector to make harder, more power demanding jobs available for Africans, especially during winter season..... Winter is harsh, tough here, also the pay is good too. I trust Nigerians would like. Just keep following the thread. For now only those in the IT sector can

Ok then. Thank you.

I will sure follow this thread bumper to bumper.

Cheers.

Shapeaso:
That guy is big enough to defend himself. Why didn't he fight back? I can't allow anyone beat me and walk away. Never!

No, he did well not to retaliate otherwise the Yeye man would have accused him of "coming to his house uninvited to assasinate if not for the invention of his driver, guard, name it, who arrived just in time to rescue him". He'll also accuse him of theft, etc .

But now, the case is against the wicked soul and I pray he pays dearly for it. He should compensate the cleaner handsomely.

tyup:
The truth is, it'll get boring with time cuz there's no one to share how your day with or anyone to talk to just yourself. Sweds are nice people but not typa people that gives room for friendship. it'd be a long route to depression with time.

I now understand. Thank you.
Albeit that, I will still want to relocate to Sweden if it's possible. I was thinking Canada initially, but it seems I am having a change of mind. My partner will likely come and join me later (if he changes his mind sha). You know they're people that love Nigeria so much that no matter the situation of the country they'll rather stay put. E weak me.

tyup:
Marry before going. this is not a family advice tho

Why? Their system doesn't support single ladies?

What if I am not interested in marriage or relationships, just making money and acquiring wealth?

CalmTravels:
The most enjoyable way to explore Stockholm is on foot. The oldest part of the city, Gamla Stan, is extremely compact, and lots of Stockholm’s main sights are within a half-hour walk of that neighbour hood. To enjoy this walk around, just go to any Train Center, ask the booking officer to help you with a Map, off you go! Incredible sights awaits you!

Hi CalmTravels. I love your narration about Sweden and I am already ogling to move over there .

Please I will like to know if they have Permanent Residence scheme like Canada.
How easy is it to get their visa, and what's the relative Job opportunities they have? Like, I will like to know how easy to get a job when one arrives.
And lastly, how much altogether is required to relocate from Nigeria to Sweden as a single lady?

Thank you.

femijohn21:
Help me out with this house.

Is there any iota of true love when a couple is making love together and the wife places her two hands to cover her breasts so that the husband could not have access to them and also put her face away to avoid kissing her man?

This is about to cause separation in a marriage.
Opinion please.

Two things might be involved:

1. You're not romantic during pre-intimacy. That's, instead of massaging her breast, you'll be drawing and dragging it ànyhow. Kilode? Common, you can do better than that nah, cos at the end, you'll still be the one complaining that her breasts have sagged.

2. Are you sure you're not having mouth odour like this? You better try and find out why she's refusing you a kiss!

If you sort out the two points above, there will be no reason wifey will not be forthcoming during your ride to Jerusalem!

Shalom!

@Op. See what you're going to do. Pretend you've accepted her back. Plan to move out of that environment as soon as possible. When you finally find another accommodation far from where you're presently living, tell her the scholarship you applied for in the UK some time ago, and have totally forgotten about just arrived now. That they sent you a mail that you've been offered the scholarship.

Get an alternative phone number that only family and close friends can always reach you. Make an arrangement and pack out one of the days you know she won't be visiting you. And don't forget to block her line and on all social media, including that of her relatives too.

You need peace of mind, especially at a time like this. Don't allow her to keep messing with your emotions.

I hate infidelity and pretense.