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Realteeyee123:
Hi everyone, so I would be relocating soon Abroad .

I just need a little advise, a little confused

I currently use an Infinix Note 7 and I've been told the phone won't do me good when I travel I'm looking at buying either an;

Iphone 11
Iphone Xsmax or a
Samsung Galaxy S20

Would appreciate your humble and honest feedback.

Country is Canada.

What phone should I get please, I'm looking at buying it Soon

Add Nokia touch light phone to that, when you get there you get a phone that is region to that country

Or you ask those people you are visiting there, what type of phone you need

Mix snipper with kerosene and get some one to flit the kitchen for you at night after meal then close both doors and windows

Do so every weekend for one month the see if it will reduce them

If they are reduced continuously do so for another month and it will vanish

Showmetheway222:
Hello nairalanders,

First of all, am sorry admins for posting this here just I needed it to get attention as I seriously crave for ur advice

Am the first son in my family with a sick father who has stroke, my mum, 2 younger brothers and my kid sis.
My father had stroke late 2019 and since then, I started running his business. My immediate younger brother once went to cape verde to husstle but came back last year wen nothing was coming out. Currently, he is in Anambra doing Yahoo Yahoo but never pick. The other one finished from uni but is yet to get something doing, while my kid sis is at home cos of ASUU strike.

The issue at hand now is business is no longer the way it used to be before cos of the relocation to a new place. (The government demolished our old shop). Income is no longer coming and the little that is coming is no longer sufficient and since it is the only channel of income, its taking its toll on us coupled with our dads illness.
Our dad has an ongoing building project which is at the decking level which I continued until the shops were demolished and two plots of land that is in the innermost rural area and is value will take up to 10-15 years to appreciate.
The conditions around us is really giving me sleepless nights and is starting to show on me. Had it been my younger ones are doing something, I wouldn't be worried cos money will be flowing from different sources but they gat nothing and the only source is drying up.

I got an inspiration which is to convince my peeps to sell that ongoing building project and distribute the money accordingly so that everybody can have something doing but wen I presented it to them, my mum became very adamant because she is so obsessed with being a landlady and said that the day it will be sold is the day she will die for us. This was sometime early this year. Now things are so hard for us that as am even typing this, I haven't sold a damn thing today.

So pls matured fellows, is something wrong with that idea or should I force them to it because there is no time. .

PS: my brothers and I are in our early 30s

You can't kill yourself to make them reason with you

Hence Fort if they ask for money tell them sales have been poor

Keep saying it to the whole family as a ringing tone that you are tired because sales are poor

Continue that way until they decide to sell the property

So stop suggesting that property sales to them again

When they realise that you are no longer bringing money

Every one will get sense

They are relaxing because you carry the burden
. Drop the cross let them start carrying it and see how heavy it is

Even when they finally agreed to sell it, just supervise how they are selling it to avoid stories

Cooolme:
Greetings everyone.
Since the strike began I joined my parents at their base and I've been at home since then. The thing is I don't lack cash, I make at least 300k a month but I need something to be leaving the house cos my sis used it to insult me recently, she doesn't even know I paid for the last rent since my father is mentally and physically down. My last thread was about a vehicle of which I'm already finishing up the deal, I thought of using it to start up Uber since I love driving but I'm not up to the age requirement yet and I don't want to work for anybody at the moment.
I need your inputs, thanks.

You have to seat the whole family down to talk to your sister as you guys are not mate

Let her know that you are staying at home doesn't mean that you are idle

That you have been paying for the rent of this house with out asking her for a penny since she knows thst dad ant help himself

Then make it clear to the family that if she continues to be insulting you, you will leave the house for her and the way and manner they will survive will never be your concern

After that statement wait for your parents reply especially your mum who is stabe to be compared with your dad

RaymondHarmony:
What are the red flags � you can’t overlook regardless of how you like someone . ?

Lies, it can be deceptive

jospepper:
Who says father's are not excellent in babysitting?

Culled from Facebook.

Very funny pictures

olaitonto:
I feel insecure in my mind!

I will make it simple and short! Currently, my wife claims she is playing a game with a married man who needs a child! Somehow they met but I'm not aware of how, overtime I noticed the frequent call from the man with my wife, she even saved the number as sweetness, I challenged it but she said its just the game, and short often they both go out for the weekend to a place she told me the man got her a catering job, still I let her go cos she said she needed the gains to meet her financial needs which I could not provide at that time, also often the man is a regular caller, they talk at length and at midnight, so I challenged the height of disrespect then I checked her whatsapp conversation, there she and the man made promises to help each other, she will always call him sweet names on the chat, but whenever I question the act she feels very confident and comfortable that I am pissed at it but no changes and no remorse, the fact that she and the man has been going out for the weekend on 3x, I feel something is going wrong behind me and I am not comfortable with the game idea anymore, upon many other reasons and reaction to feel insecure that I can't mention here! I really need your opinion and advice to heal my insecurities. We are married with two kids and being together for 9 years, this feeling is still fresh cos its just happening this year!

Only her knows the reason she is playing the game and she doesn't want to tell you the reason

How are we even sure those tow kids are yours

What kind of money does she need thst will make her play game to get the connection

You actually gave her freedom so early and am not sure how far she has gone with this man

Just get her pregnant if you can let's see how she will be free to match her game

You guys are not poor but if she needs money, both of you can plan on how to source for the money

Some women matter tire me

julie90:
I have been working for this company for two years. In December 2021, there was a change in management, a new manager was assigned to my Department. Before the change in management, I applied for some jobs in November 2021 but I didn't get any response.

Things between my new manager and I developed really quickly (he is not married and he is 10 years older than me). Although we have been working together, when he became the new manager we started dating. it was mutual, it wasn't like he forced me. We liked each other and we started dating in March 2022. We kept things professional in the office. Nobody in the office knows about this even till now.

Those companies I applied to in November 2021 reached out to me for an interview. I got two offers at the same time. Both offers come with great pay (similar to what my boyfriend currently earns) and a significant boost to my career. I spoke to my boyfriend about it and being my boss he told me to reject both offers, he told me he would be able to cater for my needs that the only commitment he has now is paying for his house and once he is done paying for it, he would have more money to take care of me and I didn't need a job where they would pay me what he's currently earning and be in a role similar to his.

I told him it's not the money but it would be about moving up the ladder in my career. These are offers people do not have, now I have two, he is asking me to reject them. He told me even if I have to move the only offer I should take is the one close to the company where we work which has a lower pay compared to the second offer. I told him I would go with the second offer which has more opportunities for me. Both offers are in the same state although my preferred offer is a bit far from where I live but it is still a reasonable location to commute everyday. At one point he told me, I was too ambitious and I took it as a compliment.

I noticed he changed since then, he informed the company management that I was leaving and we began the handover process, I noticed he changed after we had the discussion about me accepting the second offer but I thought it was about him missing me. May 31 was my last day and I noticed few days to my last day he was acting strange so I asked him what the matter was. He said he doesn't feel anything for me and we should stop seeing each other.

This is a man that was really excited when we were dating, all of a sudden doesn't feel anything for me because I got a high paying job? Is it wrong for a woman to be ambitious? When has it become a crime for a woman to aim high in her career? My role will still be to support him. I have never been rude to him and I am not going to be rude to him because we now earn the same salary. I really like him and I feel disappointed that he could act this way.

Is it now a crime for a woman to be ambitious?

Give him time to come to terms that you are moving higher

He is just having Inferiority complex and feeling Insecured about a job that you are yet to start

If he doesn't come back just move on

Some low life men are like that

Beautygoddesss:
oga r u mad??

Him drug done finish but I have adviced him to go to Yaba left

Beautygoddesss:
oga mind wat u say o
rubbish

The guy na idiot

Shedrill:
Well said

Na so

RichProminent:
Just like Beautygoddesss separate from me after having affair with Frozen70 Dorwadora and Jennyclay?

Remember to take your drugs, if it has finish, go to Yaba left and get more

2mercy:
https://www.thecable.ng/police-to-discipline-officer-who-accused-army-of-conniving-with-kidnappers-in-abia

Previous thread https://www.nairaland.com/7156272/army-aiding-fulani-kidnapping-south-east

He actually said the truth but he will definitely be sacked from the police or if they want to be merciful they will reduce his rank to Inspector

Just to make some person's happy because of what he said

RichProminent:
Why so pained like jennyclay and Frozen70

Wetin concern me

Islie:
Nigerian Man Declared Wanted After Shooting Wife, Killing Her mother Before Fleeing With 3-month-old Son In U.S.



http://saharareporters.com/2022/06/02/nigerian-man-declared-wanted-after-shooting-wife-killing-her-mother-fleeing-3-month-old

He will be found I trust their security network

That's the end of his life because he will be charged for double murder

People should learn to walk away, its better than going to prison

Creamypie:
That wife and her mum don frustrate this man. If u are a man married, whether here or Abroad, the moment your wife mama come inside your home, u will become frustrated. Know this, u know peace

Your last statement is not true

You don't know what transpired between them

Why can't the man walk away, then come and visit his son anytime he wants

Mariangeles:
So, the girl will remain in her family "married" to her brother? Urgh!

He doesn't need to marry her to remain in the family.

Yes her brother that has no blood bond

Hybrid600:
Can an adopted son marry the biological daughter of the family he was adopted into?

Yes because they have no blood relationship

The main issue here is that
He will settle down in the girls family because that's where he belongs and that's his village

KiNg0G:
hand nor go meet me anywhere, girl when dey cry make i come see her people

Na you go tire, it will soon heat you up, very soon

Lazy youth

KiNg0G:
I lived with my father's brother for a long time. he didn't work one day, all he does in the morning was to wash his mouth, have his bath then have his meal, awaiting his wife to come back from her trade in the market..then off she went to prepare another meal..staying With them was hell for me because sometimes they was hardly food in the house. but my uncle hardly cares about that, is either he is in one joint with his friends on a sunny day or he is at home listening to radio stations. his wife was the provider and never for once did she insult him...This same character has gotten into me deeply, I can't help myself. I can't do thing's for myself.
my girlfriend cohabiting with me is the one providing almost everything we need all I do is to give her my G-15 in the evening. I'm always at home 24/7 . she's never complained, I love it, for me to get a job and be answering Sir sir to people, I can't.
stay fresh, bath, eat and sleep is the order of the day.
few women are like this,
just the other day she asked me to come pay her bride price before the year ends, I asked her where would I see the money... baby girl told me not worry that something huge is coming..

I love this freedom, but sometimes I get a mixed feelings of been a liability, ants feeding on sugars. anyway I'm enjoying myself quite well.
the real thing is my masculinity as the head of the house still intact.
Seun
lalasticlala

It runs in your family

But you will get your dose very soon

Irresponsibilities is in your family gene

Dreadlock69:
There is this girl/lady of mine , dark tall and good looking, how we started talking and dating was a coincidence ,she was speaking rudely or not fairly to my cousin and I interrupt and cautioned her never to try that or repeat it again cause me get “gbana" for head i know dey take disrespect/nonsense.
she later calm down and became gentle like pikin wey Dem shout for ,after advising her and her later gra gra like I do am bad thing but me know send , how we start dating is a history I don't know how it happened.

Now she got this problem she get very sharp mouth how do I go about it ?
It only when I'm around she tries not to do anything stupid and talk pass herself because I do give her this stare warning eyes and she go respect herself ,like the one wey “ my mama go give me if I wan collect sweet from stranger or person she no like when I dey small".
She always feels she can get away with anything cause I'm around and no one will/dare to touch her .“ she get this kind mindset like nah cultist she dey date nobody got touch am".

My cousin bro and sis sometimes are like I know blame you anytime your husband dey you dey get wings.

She sweet and all to me and everyone but her mouth to sharp and ee dey off me sometimes , how do I manage her behavior I'm a cool / mind my business kind of person.

Start teaching her how to behave like a lady, that her sharp mouth may likely make her loose so many things

Godoverevery:
Please speak only for yourself..

I only ask for married men opinion..so I don't no why you quoting me......look before you leap nice time...thanks

Is alright

Godoverevery:
I want married men to help me understand this.
I noticed most of my friends who got married from 2017 till date become shadows of there real self after marriage.

I mean they become boring,less friendly, not social and not fun to be with few month after marriage.
Is there something that change a man life after marriage or is just a normal thing.
Like is marriage meant to kill the fun part of a man??

Am asking this because a very close friend of mine who got married last year August is also becoming a shadow of himself......he always moody this days, social life zero and I think something his heating him up from inside.....this was a fun guy and he was very happy about getting married to is wife but the man I see this days is not making me happy.

He was once told me had he known earlier he won't have got married but I felt it was just words of the lip because we were just having guys talks that day.

So married guys please help me clarify if my observation is right or just a normal thing.

There is nothing we can say here that will make sense to your question

Just get married and get the experience that will answer your question

rzekman7:
I thought we’d turned the corner after a series of blazing rows. But it’s been more than a month …

I have been married to my husband for nearly four years. He is 34 and I am 33, with no children. We have had problems with our sex life in the past, as I’ve wanted it more than my husband. We have had blazing rows about this and though I felt we had turned a corner recently it’s now been more than a month since we were intimate. I am tired of the effect this has on my self-confidence. He regularly stays up late and I often go to bed on my own as he loses track of time. I am becoming despondent in our marriage overall, especially with the duties I used to take pride in. He makes a lot of effort to keep up with his hobbies and friends, so I feel as though our sex life isn’t important enough to him. I don’t want sex to be a chore but unless I said something he would never raise the subject. What do I do?

You guys are having unresolved issues and you have to humble yourself and be loyal by showing loyalty to him

Be submissive let's see if he has a reason for such attitude

Especially as you are yet to become pregnant

Who's knows maybe he doesn't want you to be pregnant

Because me I don't understand his motive

Kibbs:
I'm 22, currently in my 3rd year (first semester) of a 5year course - Elect Elect. The problem is it's a course I have no passion or likeness for.

A lot of days, since 20lvl to be exact, I'm in class and I'm like "What am I doing here?". I see how my coursemates faces light up when something new is being taught or when practicals are going on but it's the exact opposite for me. I'm unattentive in 80% of the classes and no matter how hard I try, I'm never as focused during practicals like the rest cus I just don't have any interest in going on.

The two solutions I'm considering :
The first is to change courses, although that will set me back a year which means I'll be 25 by the time I'm done, 26 if NYSC is calculated. I already lost 4yrs waiting for admission so the thought of being setback another year makes me cringe esp when I'll be just a few years from 30 when I'm eventually done. That is if the possibility of yet another ASUU strike isn't considered o. Time is precious.

The second is just dropping out and maybe going to one of the recognised IT institutions to study an industry course cus I still have interest in IT related stuff. Infact, it was once a discussion during the days I was still home struggling to get into school so I'm sure I'll be backed. If I were to change courses sef in school, it would've been computer science. Another advantage of this for me is I'll be in Lagos permanently where I'll have opportunities to do several other things I want to do by the side as opposed to being in Ogbomosho (which is dead) where my school is. I never wanted to leave lag in the first place bit unilag had other ideas.


Well that's it.

Inputs welcome.


Would appreciate if this was moved to fp.

I think I will advise you change course and still do another course after graduation

You can then do the IT course after your service

With all this you will still graduate before 30yr and go for youth service

Don't drop it will worsen the case because of the stigmaythat you dropped out of school

Not every one will know that you are not interested in the course

They will assume that you failed and was expelled from school

Get that BSc and then you come over to Lagos for the ITC

ReneJay:
Good day nairalanders. I want to seek your advice on behalf of my uncle.

Pardon me for any typographical errors. My uncle has been married to this lady for almost 16 years. They have two kids. According to his narration, the first five years of marriage was wonderful.

But things took a sudden twist later on. The wife has changed in both attitude and manners. The man is a civil servant and earns 70k monthly and his wife is a teacher. She earns 35k monthly.

The twist is, the wife has stopped supporting the man financially. In fact, anything she buys for the family or for the children, she asks for the money, even as little as spice cubes. My uncle had to report the matter to my father, his brother, after several years of enduring her strange attitude. My father called her to table the matter. She admitted the accusations. In her defence, she said it is the responsibility of the man (husband) to provide for the family. what broke my uncle's heart was the day the rent of their house was due, he hadnt pieced together the rent and was going about to seek loans from friends and family. He asked her if she knew who to loan from and she said she didn't know who to loan from. To his dismay, he got wind from a friend that his wife was looking for a piece of land to buy with God knows how and where she got the money from. She even told him she doesn't have a dime to add to whatever he's able to raise. He does everything in the house from A to Z.

He needs advice on what to do. Should he file for divorce and hope things would get Rosy enough to start afresh with someone else? Or should he call for a meeting with her family and our family to try to mediate and make her see reasons why she should be supportive?

Matured advice please.

What's the essence of the meeting he will be calling for

She has said that it's a man's duty to provide for the family, what else do you want her to say

Am glad the first five years was fantastic

So now the wickedness in her has started manifesting

Some thing brewing between both of them and both of them knows exactly where and when that water turned brown


Until that is sorted out, she will keep giving valid excuses that will make others to keep quiet and not ask her the next question

In summary you uncle provoked her and that particular issue have never been resolved

Then I think your uncle should look for a mini falt

phemmyfour:
As Jesus or what? Must we make things up unnecessarily

He needs that word to calm him down

TechBIogger:
haba madam.
This is funny and weird tho

That's what he needs to hear to call him down of his depression

otipoju:
Na wa. The east now has its version of Boko Haram.

Honestly ❗

MaskSubzero:
this is the kind of comment I was looking out for.
OP kindly ignore those two jobless attention seeking idiots by moniker acidbath and jovialjune.
it's obvious they both have a failed marriage.
they won't address nor bring solutions or advices, rather they'll heap blame on you.
cursed lots

Funny you

DamnnNiggarr:
My entire family which includes my brothers' wives and their kids and my sisters' families was once a peaceful and an enviable large family but right now, the devil wants to destroy the family through our wives.

My wife and my younger brother's wife who were once greatest friends are now mortal enemies, they don't talk nor regard themselves as humans, this enmity has lingered for long despite me and my brother's efforts and that of my entire family, both extended, to resolve the issues between them, over the years but all to no avail.

It becomes worse by the day as we have tried everything humanly possible that is within our reach to quell the situation, but no success.
It is that bad that as I'm typing this, their enmity is starting to effect me and my brother's relationship, as my younger brother no longer calls nor chats me as he normally does. Even if I called nor chatted him, he won't pick up and neither the missed calls nor the chats would be returned.

I want to try something different, a totally different approach in tackling the situation, that's why I brought it here. I don't want anything to come in between me and my brother nor my family. I don't want anything to happen to neither my brother's wife nor my wife because the heart of man is evil, that's why I'm seeking for a resolution to the ugly situation.

please all your opinions will help a great deal in approaching it from a different perspective.
please save my family.

*Modified*
Obim, My wife is actually the cause of the whole drama,
She accused my brother's wife of having extramarital affair with me due to how close I was with her as a result of the love they(my wife and her) had for each other. It lead to a very heated quarrelling and the lady vowed never to forgive my wife in her life time and my wife whole heartedly accepted the conquest. Obim said if that will keep her away from me that it's a welcome development.

Now, how it's affecting my family is that my kids no longer go on vacation to their place likewise their kids no longer come over to my house during vacation and many more troubles it has caused my entire family.
Initially, My brother understood that it was one of the wahalas associated with women but I'm surprised and confused about his recent change in attitude.

lalasticlala
Seun
Mynd44
RoyalRoy

Get someone that respects your family to reconcile you and your brother, just the two of you

Then involve your inlaws to reconcile both women

Very soon if you guys don't take measures, you children will grow with enmity with each other family and you know how dangerous such is

Threesha:
From DM

Her case have gone beyond counseling

Leave her let her live the kind of life she wants

It's either she makes it or she looses out

I don't want to blame your dad for his actions, he us already ashamed of her

As for your mum, she is bittered about her wayward life, that's the life she wants

I pray she will not be used for rituals