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Ok. Back to the Apc convention

The only repeating name over and over again is Tinubu. For sure his the winner



I dedicate this front page to my mom who passes away on 2/06/2022 which happens to be her birthday
R.I.P MOM, I love you but God loves you more

Chai, may her soul rest peacefully

Johndagr8t:
check out my glowing skin now



wow till death!!!!

Look at what you are doing to yourself to impress women you noticed that women like faur skin men

That shows that you are a womanizer

Off all worries on eat pleasing women is your call

So what happens to your short nails, why not make it long to compliment your new look

nawa4naija:
Let me just believe that, cos I have witnessed a similar case scenario

Then he will go to jail if ought

nawa4naija:
And you don’t know that for the fact that he is still in the NPF, the frustration could make him start killing people recklessly especially in a time of insecurity like this

I don't think so, he has learnt his lesson

Lordofalmajiri:
If it were marriage I would simply walk away..
I got the phone already and handed it over yesterday, it's much but she's worth it at least for NOW. Thanks for your input

OK. Naw, keep a good girl

Lordofalmajiri:
Well I'll start by saying I had issues with my Ex of about 1year and broke up with her about a month ago. I got to know
about her promiscuous life style from her best friend.. I actually begged and psyched her before she opened up to me. I felt sad Sha , and I pretended everything was okay , so I could take my revenge . Well I got my revenge, and I broke up with her. Then I thought it wasn't enough. I asked her best friend out. I must say she was better than her friend (my Ex), she had a little issues with her boyfriend who was out of town and I took advantage of that .
Well we started dating and two weeks into the relationship she asked I get her a phone, which I agreed and I asked her to give me sometime.. I must say she's very honest and sincere plus respectful, it's hard to find her type these days...
The problem is she's still talking to her boyfriend even though she told him to move on, he was her first. Now I need to fulfill my promise by getting her a new phone which should cost about 60-70k.. The money isn't the problem for me . But We'll know that spending so much for a girl you're not married to might end in tears someday... I fit buy the phone self she go tell her Ex say na her uncle buy am . We all know the matter.. she'll be 19years next year, I'm in my early 20's
Sorry for the long epistle abeg OG's make una tell me the next step .
P.s. no insults please
Mods please you can help me move it to Fp. Cc mynd44 . Lalaticlala

Edited:
Well I reached an agreement with her , I told her if anything goes wrong I'm taking back the phone. We sealed the deal Sha.

I will appreciate you if you can drop the habit of revenge and taking back

If you continue such Practice with women, you may practice it in marriage

You can get a phone if you did enjoy your time with her but that amount is too big to gamble with

There are phones you can get for half of that amount

Meanwhile spend wisely

Colephbreed:
Hello guys good day hope y'all are doing great.

Am writing this with so much grief in my heart as I feel depressed, sometimes love can come with somuch pains and joy at same time.

So recently I agreed with my fiance to relocate to a different city since she got a job over there, we agreed a scheduled time we wil have to see each other within a specific period of time. This is someone we share everything in common the love was great, she's an awesome soul to be sincere.

I got so much attached to her, that it made me felt lonely and empty when she left, due to that reason I always want to call and check up frequently, This has been going on For about 4 weeks consistently, the first red flag I noticed was that she asked me not to be calling her frequently that sometimes it's not really cool with her, I respected that fact and reduced the way I call but I was beginning to loose the trust I had for her.

She goes out with her friend frequently and they love partying, even when I consistently warn her about the late nights they keep most times in clubs and partying she keeps telling me she's not a kid and she can handle things herself. Lately the relationship have been filled with lots of argument, misunderstanding, and the trust is beginning to reduce drastically.

Yesterday she uploaded a nasty picture as her display pics on WhatsApp, she was just putting on a top without bra, though she's busty and all that, I asked her take it down and upload something more appealing and decent that am not comfortable with such pics, she began to rant and start saying all manner of things like it's her privacy,her phone, her body,and she decides what to do with it, am an African man and I don't welcome this woke mentality of women nowadays, feeling they need to be half naked to feel sexy I can't cope with such indecent dressing, I told her am not trying to tell her what to do but atleast you should respect my opinion sometimes, I got angry and sent her a very long message about my displeasure. since then she has refused to pick my calls nor reply my messages.

She tried calling earlier today but I didn't pick, I couldn't sleep through out the night the whole drama was just playing in my Head.

Guys is this enough reason to call of a relationship or are my just being too self centered? have actually made up my mind just need to hear from different and more matured people in the house.
Thanks for reading and enjoy the rest of your day.

Having loved her and showed her what love is, she has her own way of life and you may not be strong enough to stop her

Relationship has never been easy in all areas

I think she wants to be as free as a bird and explore then come back to you when she realizes that there is no one like you

I will suggest you stop getting worried about someone who is on a fast lane

She has friends who will either deceive her or make her

Just relax yourself and mind

Stop playing cheap because she does not need that for now

I am not saying you should ignore her but start responding the way she is treating you

Reduce your frequency of calling her let her live the life she has designed to live

Focus on yourself on how to build up your self to be strong to withstand the heart break that may come up or not

Be a man, take a break and watch the masquerade with its dancing steps

A time is coming when she will search for you then you can decide whether to continue or not

Just leave her until she gives you a call and when she does don't be desperate

Women like when men are all around them

Just be yourself that's why you are a man

Tomorrow will tell

Someone who can't be loyal to you can not be committed to a relationship

Who knows probably you are blocking others

kartelkid:
Please I would like someone with knowledge of this; to advice me.

Someone suggested it to me, and it seems a good idea, as I want to marry without my family's support. I'm based in lagos. I have family issues; which basically will delay me further.

Please I'm not here for judgement, I just need to know how I can do it.

Which people will you now present as families

Why not find a way to sort out the family issues and still marry from the orphanage

Ximenez:
You sound like a good person
Why not send him a pm, so you two can exchange contacts. Something wonderful may later blossom from it.

Thanks for the compliment

Maxxim:
I think you'll need to read the op's write up again

Is alright

Maxxim:
I think you're mistaken, He bought the land for her, and what sort of proposal is that?
I won't be surprised of your support since you're of same gender.

Did you see the land document

UyaiIncomparabl:
This post is for mature, married folks.

Married folks, you have all had experiences in your various marriages for however long you have stayed married. Most importantly, you have gained knowledge from them. That being said, wisdom is what you can do today but couldn't do before. It's what you would do before but never would now.

So, the question is, If you could travel back through time to advise your younger self about marriage, what advice would you give?

Marry your best friend

Never hide anything from each other

Always make sure you settle your difference immediately


Lastly

Be truthful never tell lies to your partner you will loose the trust they built for you

Psalmspsalms:
Love that's suppose to last for ever, that's why it was thrown into the river. The pineapple indicates that it should be a sweet kind of marriage or relationship, not the kind that the woman locks the man's pic in a bottle to gain total control. I feel she actually loves the guy sha.
Just my thoughts though.

You nailed it

Maxxim:
In Burna's voice, las las you go chop break fast.
Why not wait till she becomes your wife

It could be part of the marriage proposal stuff
What makes you think she bought the land on her name ?

KoshCAD:
An Nsukka Lady, Stephanie Ajibo Olitex who survived the Owo attack celebrates her birthday today.

Her testimony
We were inside the church when they started shooting from the outside. People at the back started running towards the altar. Some jumped fence, our priest escaped through the sacristy with the help of our catechist.

By the time I ran towards the Sacristy door, it was already locked by members who were able to reach there before me. I had to hide myself under the cupboard inside the choir room with the baby in my hand. He shot somebody right in front of me near the Sacristy door. He looked around, when he didn't see anybody or sound, he went away. He was on mask, loaded with Ak 47.

Note that the distance between the heavily loaded gunman and me was like kitchen to dinning. Our choir master who was hiding with us was shot on his chest before he ran into the room with us. I pray he survives the bullet.

They killed children, youths and elderly. We've recorded almost 100 death and still counting..I came out alive and escaped through the fence that demarcated our church from the Palace of Olowo of Owo Kingdom and ran to the palace for the fear of the unknown. The baby with me is safe, I'm also safe.

Happy birthday to me.

God Is Good
Happy Birthday

You have amazing God
Congratulations on your survival and birth day celebration

fecoleef123:
Frozen70 i like u.dis my number wanna talk to u 08033833384

Lol, funny you, am married with kids

Maddict1:
I wanted to say thanks and move on before but nah, what's all this meeting here and there? for what?

Wait o! is this because it's a woman's name I'm changing to?

Maybe

Maddict1:
Sir, one can.
One can actually wake up and decide to change their surname after considerate thinking. One does not need a family meeting, a written letter or any acceptance. Not everyone is the related-by-blood advocate, nor be everybody dey fight for inheritance, I am definitely not interested in their properties or their acceptance, what's my business with the family at large? na my mama name I wan bear, she accepts me even without a question, I be her own, her family also know say I be my mama pikin so what are you actually saying? Even if I'm interested in inheriting anything sef, my mama property no be my own? besides I'm from Urhobo and our culture doesn't discriminate, dia pikin na dia pikin whether na dia son or dia daughter born am, na dia own. So respectully stop die that family meeting and family affidavit matter. I want to say a lot but I can't type anymore

Thank you.

Thanks dear, I wish you success

peepydelano:
How do people keep relationship this long and not get tired and bored?

That's when you find true love, you don't bored

Goodlyhrt:


I need a female friend to take care of my emotional, sensual needs.

It's proving too hard for me to get any lady right now, I don't know why. Maybe 'cause I am broke but I want to believe that there is still a lady out there who can take this broke, disabled man and let him fill this emptiness, this void that is swallowing my confidence.

What you need is a companion not even a girl friend

Before you got to this stage, you should ha e had friends around you that you do keep in touch with

Now that you are extremely broke, where do you think you will get a lady that will be there for you then when you make it, you start to upgrade by looking for uoir match

Well you can reunite with any of uoir ex and share your worries that's if you guys didn't quarrel

Secondly dust that loneliness from your life and get something doing to keep you busy

Thirdly believe in yourself and stop being worried about all that you are loading on your head

Shot it down and get up to search for what to do

Once you are busy those lonely life will leave you and look elsewhere

Albertone:
Cos you have nothing else to offer a man asides your rotten maggot infested pussyy doesn't mean other girls don't.

You still have along way to go if you don't refrain from stupidity

Look at the way you are displaying how uncultured you are

Yet when men are being counted you will come out like lizard

Prettygirl200:
Oga calm down, that's too harsh, is that how u talk to your mother at home U don't talk to a lady like that. What's wrong with some of u sef

Thanks for this on him
He is not even a man yet he sees himself as a lion king

Men like him are used as handkerchief by ladies because he lacks decorum

ChizzyBuna:
I have tried my best as a senior bro to talk to this boy and try and bond well with him.

As per man to man. He just turned 24
I try to orient him on street levels and how to be a real G.

But he will go behind my back and start sharing our personal talk with his friends, our neighbours, and the worst part is he shares everything i say to our mother.
That i purse women
That i gamble
That i go to joints
This boy cannot keep secret at all

This is someone i expect to be my Guy
someone that should cover my back
Any little gist i have with him
he will go behind my back to tell momsi
Like WTF

I have decided that i will NEVER talk to him again.

Now, what should i do
Should i cut him off and avoid him completely and never speak anything with him again??
Or
confront him and deal with him for talking too much

My sis say i should forgive him but omo i no send that boy again

That guy is not yet matured enough to be confided on or to discuss secretive things he lacks the experience to know about all you are grooming him up for

He has not gotten enough experience to understand that you want him to growth to full maturity

I will advise you forghivetth ones he has done and stop telling him things before he sells you out

A day is coming he will come to you then he must have learnt his lessons then you will tell him why you stopped guiding him because he was so loose with his mouth

When people are not matured enough, no matter what you try to teach them, they will keep falling your hand

Cleo18:
Hello, a fresh graduate just relocated to Lagos in search for job and doesn't have a place of his own for now but squatting with some friends. It seems he's not that comfortable.

He saved some money from his previous job in Enugu before relocating to Lagos in search of a better job.

Presently, he's thinking of enrolling in a cyber security training and ethical hacking tracking with his savings.

Should he get an apartment first before he gets a job or he waits until he gets a job before he rents an apartment? For now, he's squatting with some people and not really comfortable.

What do you suggest please?

It depends, if he can manage his present accommodation till he is done with his expected training, let him endure

But if his presence are not really welcomed by those hosting him, then he should get accommodation and be discipline with himself by managing the little left and not going about chasing

He needs to be in his right frame of mind to under go any course

Runsboi:
What in the garbage is this reply? I'm still looking for where the OP asked for your opinion on whether to change or not. Someone is asking for steps to take, you are there talking gibberish. What does mother family accepting you,swearing affidavit father family, holding meeting, inheritance have to do with what he's saying? He been tell you say dem reject am before? The only thing you said here that made small sense is your last paragraph, every other thing na ashiashi

What do you know about change of surname

What do you that are the documents you will tender to that effect

Or you think you can wake up and change your surname name in your documents

You are expected to give your own idea and not to counter mine

If e pain you, read and move forward

Maddict1:
these are a lot of questions sha but since you can help me, here are the answers

I do not really understand this question sha, do you mean if they are in good terms abi wetin?

I'm still in touch with some but I'm so done with most

I do not understand what you mean by forgetting my late dad's family. Does including my mother's name to my surname suggest that? all the same, most of them were nasty and aren't relevant to this decision


He has other kids, my mom has remarried now and kids too hut I'm the only one he shares with my mom hence the decision is mine and mine alone.

OK I have read your response

You have the right to bear your father's name or your mother's name as the case may be

Now if you want to bear both parents surname, you have to identify exactly which family you want to belong for life

If you want to be identified with your mums family, good and fine, his sibblings will have to be informed officially and they will embrace and welcome you by adopting you into the family

By doing so, you bear their names, have inheritance with them and have a share or assets and liabilities of the family

And you will settle down in their family as your original root

When you marry you bring her their she settles their have her kids their and they are part of the kindred of that family and that's how uoir own generations will go along and follow suit, whether you are still alive or not a

They will have to swore and affidavit and newspaper publication to that and you are now identified with them ab their son and brother

But if you know that you will return to your father's family at the end of the day, keep the name and don't change it.

Left for me, having understood your mind, I think you should go along yuoir mum family, if they will accept you as their son and brother

After all these are done, then you will use those documents to have a change of surname in national ID and international passport

As for uoir school, wait until you graduate before effecting any change
. The reason being that uoir mother families will seat and have several meetings before they will come to conclusion

I wish you good luck

Maddict1:
Good Evening my Ogas and Madams in the house.

I'm looking towards changing my surname to both my mother's maiden name and my father's combined together since they are no longer together. I am currently bearing that of my dad who was apparently a deadbeat till his death and I don't see why I or my unborn children should solely take his name and write off the woman who toiled hard to bring us up, it's unfair to her in my opinion. I already know the steps to take. Court Affidavit - Newspaper publication - Nin/Bvn. I'm sha confused on the Nin/Bvn part cos I read somewhere that NIMC usually asks you to change it on your BVN first before coming to them and Banks on the other hand will ask you to go change it on your NIN first before they'll effect the change on your BVN, pls is this still a thing? How do I resolve it?
Also, I'm currently in my 3rd year in the University, will this affect me in any way? Do I have to go to NECO office to effect the change too?

I'm grateful for your inputs in advance

I will like to ask you some questions before giving you my advice because I have some experience base on your request and my job too

Is your mum still with your late dad family or she has returned to her father's family

Do you still relate with your late dad's family or you are done with them and now identified with your mum family

Have you made up your mind to forger about your late dad's family because of his attitude or you are still relevant with them

Are you the only child of your parents or you have other siblings

This your decision, is it binding on just you alone or your entire sibblings

Pls I need your responses

nawa4naija:
He should be sent out of the NPF completely

What for and why ?

That reduction in rank is the punishment that will reset him

You want him sacked, so that he will start robbing people with that gun experience

politicoNG:
https://www.nairaland.com/7115115/corporal-matthew-isaac-arrested-dancing#112608522

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ghg6i7v1YH4



https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=pfbid0BTWahjM6BCFUx2LMgebQFfb6WkBkaCkeco2HjNBjQYnAUZqHSQUpfCXpdWKDD7ZMl&id=100064453009372

Should I say he was being childish of being stupid

What will a police officer forget himself and video nonsense and send on social media

Well reduction in rank s still better than sacking him

Malory:
Tinubu's greed should be a case study in our higher institutions on how not to play God. It is obvious that Tinubu is suffering from diarrhea of the mouth

He is so desperate to be the president and may just kpai if he doesn't get it

Cogs:
Hi NL Family,

There is a little issue that is about to befall me.
And I need help. Kindly advise me.

There is this girl I met in School in 2017. She is beautiful as crazy, that kinda girl whose body sharp could make you sing hallelujah if you are an adonitologist.

In school then, she wanted us to date but I had a girlfriend, so it didn't work. We just remained friends.

After school, I was single, but not ready to mingle. We got talking again and she asked me out. Since I wanted to focus, I declined, and then, there was another time and I declined.

She called me one day and was offended by how I have rejected her love for the years and made her feel like shit. Every opportunity she created for us to meet, I happen to be busy. She was sad and started to ignore me.

She is a very smart lady, enterprising and creative. She is doing well for herself and so am I, and to crown it all she is crazily beautiful and from her words, she said she's a virgin.

Omo, I have imagined moments with her in bed, but, I decided to keep the devil away from my mind.

I visited her at her house late last year (she stay alone in a self-sponsored 2 bedroom apartment) somewhere outside Lagos. I was impressed.

I spent 3 days with her, I timed my visit carefully to when she was on her period so there will not be any errors. We just vibe, chilled, hanged out and I came back to my house.

We stopped talking for a while as she started to act funny. I moved on and she also moved on.

A few days ago, I saw her missed calls, but I didn't call back. Today I saw her text, she is coming to Lagos and she wanted to ask if she could stay over at my place.

She is a friend, we have had situation-ships, we admire ourselves, things just kept us apart.

Now, I don't know what to answer her.

PS: I am an adonitologist: I have madd cravings for ladies with big stuffs, you get. And this lady is a goddess.

Guys, please advise.

You can decline, you have been doing so to avoid stories

emmanuel07061:
Good morning
Hope you are all having a good day
I don't find myself sexually attracted to young girls below my age , I'm 27 years old , I only find women who are 8- 15 years older than me attractive, I don't have a girlfriend , if I try to have one we won't last more than a month because , she will never be attracted to me, please house what can I do to stop this feeling

You have taste for more matured ladies

There is nothing bad about it, so far you will have a firm grip of the relationship