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fineboynl:
I have this new fridge I used for only 5 months or so. It block and freeze pure waters within 2/3 hours during the time i was using it.so I abandoned the fridge for more than two years.

But using it once again and this time around. It cannot freeze water for 4 hours. But the water will be very cold chilling holding teeth. The Same thing with food. the few hours I run the fridge it was not what I was expecting of that very fridge. I have not really run it for more hours. But during the previous time it was use it freeze really fast.

Could it be because it was abandoned for This long? Or should I keep using it for it to normalize? Do refrigerator depreciate without it been used?

The fridge is still new and in mint condition.

Get a fridge repairer to check the control, gas and whatever need to be checked

kwaso2:
So, my wife and I share similar career path. Though am ahead of her. My office got some new openings which she is qualified. Interestingly, I may be playing a major role on who gets the offers.

So comes my worry:
Can I facilitate my wife who is keen on her career? Do I have to worry about any regrets in future?

2). My wife manages our family bizness(and is doing very well on it, bringing in all the back up money) and children, what will happen to our bizness?

3). This good offer will require her to relocate, by extension, my whole family relocating. DOES it worth it?

4). Will I be accused of nepotism by HR auditors of recommending my qualified wife for the role(though she will be bearing her maiden name, I worry that the secret may not be for long before rumors start flying)

The job is quite rewarding, pay is excellent and entails free foreign travels.

To be clearer, my biggest worry is her loyalty as a wife if she gets very powerful and no more 'fake' office flirting.

Married Career people, HR executives pls advice me

Mods, please push to the front for wider opinions

If she is qualified for the job, key her apply when she gets it you resign and face the one she was doing

As for loyalty, if she wants to be loyal to you she will remain
Then most important thing now is how yo increase the inflow of cash into the family

Francisanointed:
I arrived at a new house. Passage house(face me I face you house). I just wanted to spend sometime here pending when I have money to rent a self contain. On my arrival,I noticed a lot of people wanted to be my friend but I tread with caution. A lady who cohabits with a guy came to ask me for gas, I gave her. She continued asking for my gas for like a month. She would use my gas to cook fresh meals severally. I couldn't say no because I am Christian and I don't want people putting me in a bad light. She kept using my gas for almost six weeks. Till it finished. Before my gas finished,she will borrow the gas and not return it. After my gas finished, she went to fill 1kg. I was no longer having gas to cook. I used hers to cook about four times and I went to buy gas again. Hers finished,she started using mine again. My gas finished. Yesterday I filled my gas again,she came to borrow gas and this time I lied to her that I borrowed gas from our landlady. She was obviously angry that I didn't give her. This woman is a business person,she has money but she won't spend it. Our co neighbors complained to me that, she always do it when a new person enters the house. Even a young guys who lived in the same house said she did the same thing to him but he stopped her. Another woman too,she did that also . It has become a norms for her.
I don't know how to tell people NO. I can only frown my face to tell you NO but I will still give you that thing.

Continue, Mr Nice guy

When your mumu don do, you go get sense bye force

RichProminent:
I'm 39 years old and am yet to settle.I run a remote and online business in addition to my work.

I have a niece (daughter of my cousin brother) who lives with one of my relatives.Last two months I travelled home and that was the first time we met.

She's 16 years and in ss2 while am a graduate.We plan to settle together when she's done with school but my family members are pushing back.How do I do?

She's my only option and I can't break up with her.

There is one traditional thing to be done for you guys to carry on

Your family knows about it and if they claim they don't know

Then the elders will do the reaserch and come out with findings

UncleSuru:
Good day Nairalands. There's this feeling I've been having lately which has prompted me to seek clarifications.

I had a baby boy early this year which was my first. I was overjoyed as the boy is just a replica of me. Just lately, I've been having this strong feeling that this boy is the reincarnated form of my late father. I don't know why I feel this way or where all this is coming from.

I'm not the religious or superstitious type. I don't even believe in these things. I don't even believe in reincarnation so where could this be coming from?

My father was a military man who died about four years ago. I feel my father whenever I'm holding this boy. I'm not conversant with spiritual things so I just can't place it.

Please, why do I feel this way? It's been on for months. What could responsible for these feelings?

I believe is your dad that came back

Braze it and acknowledge it

More signs are going to manifest

fineboynl:
I filled gas cylinder with 10k something that can carry me at most 2 months. I was wondering if electric induction cooktop would be more economical.

If you are not using prepaid, reserve your gas and use electricity

Cutehector:
Prick will continue to put man inside trouble

The funny part is, after causing problems , he will stay quite and never raise head

Moonshine101:
Hello Everyone!

I have a family issue but I don't have someone to speak to about it, so I'm very grateful for your inputs on this matter.

SOME BACKSTORY (You can skip this if you want):
I'm the youngest of my two siblings (26M). I have a sister and a brother. My sister's kinda okay. My brother (35) is a selfish, toxic and entitled person. He dropped out from the university, doesn't have a job and he steals from my parents like my dad's watches or property or my mum's jewellery and then sells them to buy weed or something.

One time he sold my mum's car and after some police and legal issue that basically went nowhere, she basically had to steal it back (The guy who bought it, passed away a little while after, so I guess that case is closed..), he once took my phone while I was sleeping because I refused to give him a different phone I had, that belongs to me after selling his own phone or something. It's like he acts solely on impulse. My dad (who's in his 70s now) is almost always on security alert when my brother is around. As for my mom, she just straight up enables him and bails him out of trouble every time, saying things like "He's your brother" or "God will change him" when I talk to her about it. My brother and I got into a fight, like a year before I left for university, because he wanted to look around my room to see if I had his usb cable despite me telling him I don't have it nor have I seen it. That was the last time I willingly spoke to him.

My family moved into a new house and I finally left for school (my brother stayed in the old house and my sister moved in with her husband after marriage, so it was just him over there). During my 3rd year, I called my dad, asking him for some money because I was broke, and during the phone call, my dad tells me that he's at the hospital cuz my brother and some girl just had a kid. okay.. I came back for holidays and found out that his baby mama (who's also toxic and insults people alot) and kid, my nephew, are staying with us, with my parents providing for them while my brother stays in the older house, renting it out to people (who messed up the house and compound to the point it just became a disgusting place to live in) obviously without permission from my parents (who don't even own that house, it belongs to my uncle). By the time I graduated and came back home, he was now living with us in the new house because free food and no bills, I guess.

I haven't gotten a job yet so I'm stuck here.

Recently, he's been staying away from me because I don't talk to him or even look at him.

BACK TO THE TOPIC:
Around a year ago, I had a serious wakeup call and decided that, if I was going to go forward in life I would have to better myself so I began a journey of meditation and self-improvement, and I think I've made some good progress. Now the issue is my brother---earlier today, I saw him scouting our house (after my parents went out) and I could instantly tell he was up to no good. I was cooking when I began to hear some noise from upstairs like he was hacking at something. He came downstairs and readied his car while my cousin who stays with us (19) carried the AC unit my brother was planning to sell.
Usually I'll just mind my business and avoid him because he's an adult-child (narcissist) and I think he'll just put his vindictive sights on me if I interfere, but this time I don't know what came over me..

I called my cousin and demanded where he was taking that AC to. I then asked my brother (first time in years I've spoken to him) why he was taking it, he just gave one nonsense flimsy excuse then I told my cousin to return it. When he tried to explain whatever, I didn't acknowledge his presence, I just ignored him and ate my food. He just stood there staring at me for like 3 minutes before he left while murmuring something.

The main reason I've been avoiding him for long is because he's toxic and I decided that family or not, toxicity is still toxicity. He's very exploitative and once he familiarises with someone it's like an opening to trample the person's boundaries. I think I confronted him today because the more you ignore bad/evil the stronger it becomes and eventually it will come for you except now it'll be stronger from all the experience.

The issue is, I don't want to relapse into my old life of toxicity by further engaging him if he decides to steal from me qon get physical because he's the kind of person that only listens to actions, not words.
Please, what do you think I do?

You see, you are no longer going to play that gentle man behavior again, you ha e to learn to be rugged like him but in a very smart and sensible Manner

Make sure you safe guide what you have become when he is done with the rest members of the family, you will be the next target, so be hardet him know that you can stand his madness

I don't want to talk about uoir dad because he is already disappointed and his behavior may trigger him to have BP including your mum

Lastly if you guys have landed property's pls tell your dad to remove the documents to a safer place be it family members or a trusted person

He may sell them without notification or permission

I hope he gets arrested from a crime he will commit then he will serve his turn

Forget about him and his crazy baby mama they are bed of the same feathers

Just be focused in life so that you will be successful

Marriage is not bye force people should understand that and have peace

Ammishaddai:
Nice one. Shebi all these worthless hungry girls like rolling with the rich bad guys because they thought the good guys were broke , boring and quiet . Now see where it has led to. All the suya ,recharge cards, 150k allowance ,and Brazilian hair all led to this painful exit. Anyway, RIP to dead

You need to grow up and start reasoning like an adult

Why are you talking like devils advocate

iwaeda:
https://dailypost.ng/2022/06/11/two-lawma-workers-arrested-for-faking-kidnap

Imagine, loosing his entire work and salaries for a careless act that will lead them to jail

No be mumu be that

robinso01:
Modified: missed the part where she said he must pay back the 20 million within 1 year.

He would rather serve two years in jail and come out

[quote author=NaijaCoverBlog post=113657081]A Father-Of-Three, Who Celebrated his wife on Facebook less than a week ago, has been accused of biting off her nose in her father's house.

King Felix Nero and wife Queen Nero have been married for 5 years and have 3 kids together but it is alleged that Felix Nero has been abusive and also unfaithful.

Last Year, it was alleged that he had an affair with his wife's cousin, Ejiro Praise. At the time, the news went viral on many Warri blogs.

Due to the alleged domestic violence and infidelity, Queen moved with her kids back to her parent's house in Asaba, Delta State.

Nero reportedly pleaded with many people, including social media influencers, to beg her to return to their home.

He also posted her on her birthday on June 3 and lavished her with sweet words.

She reportedly promised friends who pleaded with her that she will return to her matrimonial home on Saturday, June 4, but her husband Felix Nero visited her on the same day, allegedly caused trouble in her father's house and bit off her nose.

A Graphic Video shows Queen Nero crying after the attack, Reports.

"See wetin Felix do me o," she said in the video while showing her disfigured nose.

Her kids can also be heard crying in the background and calling for their "mummy".

The Video caused outrage and led people to call Felix out.

Felix has now taken to Facebook to write a suicide note.

He asked the public to forgive him for everything and told his 3 kids that "even in death" he will still love them.

He told the public not to judge him as he alone knows the pain and depression he's been suffering for years.

Social media followers are now calling on his wife to put their differences aside and seek out her husband to prevent him from commiting suicide.

See The Graphic Photos And Video As Obtained By Below:

Husband King Felix Nero bites off wife Queen Nero's nose after she moved to her father's house to avoid domestic violence. pic.twitter.com/JDJdqQ9Pbl

— Story Lover (@SMStalker) June 9, 2022

he us tired of life, let him just go instead of creating a problem he can't solve, yet wants to die

HonNL:
https://www.nairaland.com/5778024/sars-arrest-killers-funke-olakunrin#88166215



SOURCE

The suspects are:
i. Lawal Mazaje ‘m’ 40yrs from Felele area of Kogi State
ii. Adamu Adamu ‘m’ 50yrs from Jada area of Adamawa State.
iii. Mohammed Shehu Usman ‘m’ 26 years from Illela area of Sokoto State
iv. Auwal Abubakar ‘m’ 25yrs from Shinkafi area of Zamfara State

They should die quickly

Demigod22:
LoL, this guy no get conscience. At least, feed person daughter for that day na, even some girls self no the try when it comes to spending guy's money. But this guy own too funny abeg.

By the power vested in me, I declared this Comrade as the brand ambassador of stingy men association.

He is doing himself not me

spiritualmubi:
Thanks, I appreciate

Thanks dear, you will be fine one day

Cheasystickylov:
I have been waiting fir that wisdom. I feel so spent. I sincerely do not know the next thing to do. She has not got any family or anyone I can talk to. She has unresolved issues with every one of them, so they are not in talking terms. I don't know where to look to.

Now you understand that she has personality problems

She is complacent with her unfriendly attitude
The best thing for you to do is ignore those her attitude and focus on ways to get her to do thing's especially when she is in a good mood

Over time, she will change, if she has kids, they will make her change

One situation or the other will make her adjust and change for good

Believe God for that

Don't let her push you to the wall, do what you can and leave the rest

RichProminent:
I know that beautiful girl like Frozen must LOVE me

Wetin concern me

Naofumi:
What age do you think ls Ok for a Guy to get into Relationship?
And how about a Girl?

I think 20yrs is OK so that the person will have matured a bit

Friendship is no one's mates because it has be there from Adam

Love is stronger than we think that's why it has many faces

RichProminent:
I know most of the ladies on nairaland will crush on me

Imagine your thoughts

Ginaz:
Good evening house.
My phone got stolen last year November. The thief cut my window net and stole my phone along with the charger through the window. I woke up around 4.a.m searching for my phone with no success till I looked at the window and saw the big hole staring at me. I was so shocked is an understatement.

I have replaced my phone but right now I wake up in the night and start looking for my phone even if I must have safely keep it.

I wake up and first thing I search for, is my phone.
I open eyes, first thing I want to see, is my phone.


How do I stop this biko? Who have experienced this? Is it panic attack or what?

Your mind is still scared of what happened to your phone

Just make sure you keep your phone safe before sleeping and when you wake up at midnight your mind will be rest assure that it's safe

Then over time you will be calm then your mind will relax

Headbanger:
I am worried about the cost of living in this country, almost everything is double except salary. I found myself giving out 25k weekly as upkeep, we are just family of five, consisting my 3 kids, wify and I.

I can barely save after paying other bills, and the crazy thing is that my wife want me to improve on the weekly allowance, please what is the average allowance that is considered okay for a family like mine.
Any idea pls.

That 25k is even more than enough sibthtbyou guys can plan for other things

Why not just have a heart to heart talk with your wife and see how she can help you manage things

Doesn't she contribute anything, if yes then she can add whatever she needs to increase the allowance

Ogarexmas:
Please what's this growth on my mom's face, is there any face cream that can remove it...Your suggestions and inputs is highly welcomed and appreciated.

I think it's a stubborn pimples that refuse to go and refuses to grow

New222:
I won't try to sugarcoat it. I'm 25 years old, she's 19. Still in university because of the endless ASUU strike.

I've been having unprotected sex with this particular girl for a long while now. We've been dating for close to two years. I practise the "withdrawal" and "safe" days method. I met her a Virgin too.

Just realised she's pregnant. She started showing a lot of symptoms. Darkened areolas, nausea, breast heaviness, headache, back pain e.t.c.

I asked her to get do a pregnancy strip test and it came positive. Two red lines.

Though it's not what I ever planned for myself, I won't really mind having a child at my age. People will so much insult me, including my family but I'm sure my family will take care of the child.

The issue is the girl. Her family (Deeper Life) are wahala, big wahala. Educated people that behaves as if they never went to school. Now, we detected very early, her first period is supposed to start tomorrow (which I'm sure she'll miss). She's still very young and about to start schooling. I'm sure her dad will disown her (he once sent her away from his home over a slight misunderstanding, refused to let her back in until it was shown she was innocent).

I told her we have two choices, keep the baby or remove it. I am confused too, but I didn't show it. Pls what do you think?

We're really considering ending the pregnancy. Since it's very early, I'm considered getting m...p......r..l. I need medical advice pls. Above all, I don't want to endanger the girl's life.
I've read about abortion pills. I don't know how to get them or their price. Or should we keep the baby? Her dad will surely disown her, might later accept her, but it will definitely end her Education. What do you think? Should we get the drugs pls. Or consider another option? Should we keep the baby?

P.S: I know nairaland. I've been here for years, insult are welcomed. I never imaginned I'll ever open a thread like this.

P.S: If you're using withdrawal method and it works, it WILL STILL EVENTUALLY FAIL YOU. I used it for a really long time, now I'm here.

I think you should keep the pregnancy and inform your parents who will contact her family

If they disown her because of you, then be ready to carry whatever that is in her and move on

Bear in mind that you frustrated her education so don't come later to complain that she is not your class

When her parents calms down you guys can complete the remaining things by getting married to her

Your family will be mad at you but will be lfet with no option than to accept the pregnancy

If all thees takes place be prepared health and sound mind with good emotional stability to stand up like a man to carry your load

Am sure condom 500 would have solved this problem before it started but maybe you don't want to waste that money

Now you will spend it as it demands

Micromaker23:
after south Africa then go to Rwanda go to other African countries there girls are finer than Nigerian girls, Nigerian girls are ugly and ill mannered, I can day that anywhere , if you like naija girls just try and travel to any of this African countries you will throw away Nigerian girls.

The Nigeria girls you are talking about, did you include your sister's and future daughters

What makes you think that you are not the one giving Nigeria girls problems

spiritualmubi:
Hello, good day Nairalanders.
I'm presently in a critical situation in my life. I really need your advice on this situation of mine.
I just feel like a looser, I am an undergraduate studying botany. In 300 level due to me deferring a semester due to a Relapsing illness (schizophrenia). I suffered from brain fog when I resumed school after the relapse and lock down. I'm 26 and I don't have any skill and don't have a degree at hand.

The reason for this is not far fetched because till date I still harbour that anger for what my Dad has done to me. When I was in Jss1 in a very good school and also doing well, he removed me and my younger brother from school and took us to a Quran memorizing Islamic school following the advice of a hausa colleague of his in his place of work.

We memorized the holy book but for me it came with it's price, I didn't even have solid memorization of the Quran self to speak. I went through hell in those two years memorizing the holy book, ranging from mental, physical and spiritual challenges, which I believe triggered the schizophrenia am suffering from today. After the graduation ceremony from the Islamic school he enrolled me in conventional secondary school into Ss1 which means I never attended Jss2 and Jss3. Had episodes of relapse of the ailment am suffering from after then twice apart from the first occurrence after my memorization of the holy book. I believe that if I was allowed to continue my education back then I would have been a graduate by now and even working and must have gained financial independence
Presently my mum brought the idea that we should meet a Sheikh who is a saint of God, regarding my issue of not being able to read, assimilate let alone retain, the Saint said that I should defer a session, that is a year so that he will pray for me that there is a good spirit standing beside me that needs to be dissolved into my system, which (the spirit) is as a result of a spiritual book, litanies I read that my father gave me.

So now I don't have any skill, my Father has no source of income whatsoever, he doesn't earn any salary, he only has ND, the money we are even feeding on presently is a contribution by BOT of a foundation he founded to buy a house for its Islamic school.

I started learning photography during the lock down but left it for no tangible reason. My Dad insisted that I should learn shoe mending, that it is easy to learn and get small small change, I started it but had to leave it when I faced the challenge of sowing and polishing shoes, I don't just like the work.

Presently am been pressured by my parents to get something doing to be getting money because even to eat once in a day is a problem for us now, and to buy the drug am living on which enables me to sleep but believe me I'm at loss of what to do, should I go back and learn photography as a skill or should I find a job, like a company that can employ an Ssce holder. Cos the former needs start up fee and also need time for me to master it before talking of getting money from it.

Secondly, regarding my academics, I am thinking of using this one year or two years which I would defer to gain financial independence and mental well being, then rewrite jamb and apply for my original passion which is medicine and surgery but hmm, am already in my late twenties, so please Nairalanders help a confused soul.

Sorry for the long write up, just had to say everything.
Thanks, any contribution is welcomed I am really in a critical situation.

Sorry about the mess uour father caused for you that made you to start having issues upon issues

What was in his mind or what was his gain when he was moving you around like a piece of furniture

Now it's affecting both you and him

Pls try and finish school and have that certificate then you can continue with medical course in another school or same school
If care is not, if you take a year or two recess, you may not have any certificate of your own to show that you ever went to school

As for what the Alfa said, how are we sure that you won't get another mad one to the existing one

I think you should talk to God about your health challenges because you were not born with it

Forget about your age counting, it's not how far but how well

Think straight and fix yourself to be stable

OvertheTop:
You Prefer they Do Yahoo Yahoo.
I Fear for your Kids!

You may not understand

I still prefer it to arm Robbery

All these starts from little bad life styles

LogicBomb8:
The son may suffer from ptsd

He is an infant tmay not remember what happened so far he is in a good parent hand

But why making the child am orphan yet you called him your child

Anobody:
I'm a single mother of two teenage sons, lost my husband 10 years ago and have been struggling to cater for them singlehandedly. My first son is 19 and the last 17 years but I'm getting fed up with the disrespect and regret not taking them to the village so I could remarry.

They both left secondary school and working to save up for school and I don't ask them for a dime. My last son suddenly started behaving like a tout, pierced both ears and turning his hair to dread, takes my stuff without my permission and even to extent of holding my hands when I get furious to beat him.

My first son is dating a girl and spends all his money on her to the extend of asking me for transport fare sometimes. Sometimes they come home by 10 or 11pm and are ready to fight me if I get furious to discipline them.

What broke the camel's back was that my last son went to a friend's bday party overnight without telling me, my first son said he called to tell him he won't return and NONE OF THEM TOLD ME under my roof.

I've tried talking calmly, denying certain privilege and discipline but it keeps getting worse, my last option is to take them back to their father's village before I die of hbp.

I'm depressed nairalanders�, please I seek matured advice, thanks.

Please help me push to front page

I feel sorry for the heartache they are giving you

Taking them to their fathers village may worsen their situation because they will contact their friends to send transport money to them and once they get that, you will never know their movements again till you see them on screen, either for good news or bad news

Have you tried involving uoir husband families or you families to talk sense to them

Have you tried seating them down have heart to heart discussion with them on how to move the family forward

If they made their papers in WAEC, they should be seating for Jamb to get admission then if they get there, they will be busy, though we have the good and bad in the school but they will be in the school environment that will remind them to be reading

At this stage inform and invite both families so that they will say their mind

Boys of these days are more problematic than even the girls

Very soon they will go into other bad vices, they are being naughty and giving you aches

Then put them into prayers because am very sure their peer group is giving them the pressure that comes with peer pressure

The one that already have a girl friend

Try and invite his girlfriend and have a heart to heart talk with her and she could be of help to reorganize the senior one

DorianD:
Unbelievable wisdom coming from a woman

Hahaha thanks dear

Zane2point4:
The best reply and advice,you’re wise, thanks!

Thanks for the compliment dear