FERNANDEZISBACK: You better file a divorce for your sanity..if he's hell bent then dish him in the waste bin before he ruin your life completely.. Do that asap and stop managing yourself cos of some nonsense love you have for him..that guy is gonna wreck you and your future with his addiction..
You are better off single than being with a futureles boozer..
This advice is not really the best not even when the guy has never abused her
twinning200: Justa quick one guys, am I suppose overthink being judged or being stereotyped because of my height? Was having an argument with my wife over disagreement on doing what she wasnt suppose to do. After going back and forth, I said she should stop going to this particular place, because once she sets out, whatever she is suppose to do at home becomes less of a priority. Next thing I heard was, people of your height have issues as such as this, which is controlling people, at 5 feet 6, i dont consider myself too short, though I know its not like the aevrage height for a Nigerian male. I felt a bit bad because i thinks its petty to use my height as something to prove her point, infact she had called her younger brother who is just like 23 years to ask her a question regarding what we were arguing about , I told her it wasnt necessary, next thing I heard, you dont want him involved because you feel intimated...lol probably because the boy is 5 feet 9, omo height don make man see plenty see finish oo.
Just ignore that part of her statement if you can When next she uses it in you, pick something from her and use on her let her feel the hurt too
I feel like seeking your advise about how I can accelerate the process of returning the money that I guess was wrongly transferred to my personal bank account.
About two months ago, I received credit alert of about ₦200k in one of my savings accounts. Based on the narration of the credit alert, it shows that It was done through ATM and I did not do any transaction to have been expecting such money. I have been expecting to get alert for reversal of the transaction but the money is still sitting in my bank account.
I have also been expecting my banker to have contacted me for approval to reverse the transaction but I have not been contacted by my banker.
I was considering the option of complaining to my banker to trace the owner from their ends but some people discouraged me from doing so; stating that those bankers may conspire with someone and falsely claim the money.
I have been thinking of possibilities of tracing the owner by myself but credit alert did not state the details of the account from which the money was transferred to my bank account.
I am feeling concerned for the person who did the transfer because his fund has been tied down.
A banker told me that the owner must have complained to his/her bank but banks ways of attending to the customers complain is slow but definitely they will contact me for reversal.
Do I keep my fingers crossed and be expecting my banker to contact me for reversal approval? or Complain to my banker to help me locate the owner of the transaction?
Or any other suggestions will be welcome from you but my objective is to hasten process of returning the money to the true owner.
Thank you.
Why not use the name of the sender and search on face book
Meanwhile keep the money if you can, you will be called to reverse it
Supreme145: It's not in my nature to bother about people's relationships but this is happening to someone that's like a brother to me. He has been dating a girl for a year now and it's obvious this girl doesn't love him but he won't just give up. He keeps throwing money at her in a bid to win her love.
Things got messier when this girl met a particular guy some months back... This guy happens to live in the compound of my club mate so I know him well. The girl has begged my guy to free her that she's in love with someone else but this guy no gree instead he's planning to attack the innocent guy.
He confided in me that the girl has not let him touch her since she met this other guy, that's over five months now. I once overhead the guy boasting to his friends that he's a redpiller because someone else is taking care of his girlfriend while he does the knacking free of charge. He's even flexing everything that my guy buys for the girl. All pleas to my guy to free this girl has fallen on deaf ears.
My club mate told me that the girl has been with the guy for over one month now, my guy comes to town once a week to see the girl, gets her stuffs and this girl will just go back to the other boy that is even jobless.
My guy is finer and far richer than this new guy, he's planning to start a business for this girl and I've been trying to change his mind to no avail. It's no longer normal, I would've said he's charmed but the girl has begged him to free her but he refused. The guy is even the one flexing the sample of the products he sent her. Everything she has done to drive him has failed so she just relaxed and enjoying the money.
This simping is on another level, it hurts me to see my guy in this kinda situation. I've gotten him picture proofs that the girl is cheating but he won't change his mind. The girl even admitted that she's been having sex with the guy buy he's claiming its a lie and the girl is trying to drive away.
Chosen44: Yes i thought so too about the money issue,that's y i back off a little on it she just wants everything 4 herself and will ruin them and make me feel remorse...as for d boarding issue i don't like it,she needs attention cos when i hear and watch her behaviours when she goes outside 2 play...she might be reformed to something else entirely.
Chosen44: This have been going on 4 long but i am just tolerating it,my step daughter is a very ungrateful,i use my own money that isn't enough to get her things,this girl will useless these things and her entittlement mentality is something else...d one that makes me angry is that she would steal my diary book,and start 2 read it...i have caught her like 5 times,d last was when i caught her at night she thought i was sleeping she carried a torch and was reading it,she placed her school book under it so i wouldn't know...but i caught her,i don tire i swear! This girl is 9yrs,she has ruined almost all the things in the house that i am managing,making me to loose money anyhow and she can pretend...now! I have noticed that she would injure my baby and would be silent about it...my baby will just be crying and i won't what happened. My neighbour has warned me about her after she almost bathe my baby with hot water,and she injured her in her fingers it was so serious till her nails pulled out... Still updating....
At first whatever money you spend on her she assumes is her father's money
Whatever she does wrong, Inform her father
Try as muchtas possible to stay with her or around her when your child is with her
Always seat her down and talk to her, constantly
Prepared her for boarding house especially Catholic or MFM school outside her state of residence let her go to boarding school
She will be reformed there before she enters teenage age
Lastly suggests that your husband gives you the right to discipline her where necessary before it gets out of hand
Tkoy: Innoson Vehicle Manufacturing introduces IVM-branded tricycles ‘Keke Marwa’ into the Nigerian market, ANAMBRA PEOPLE reports.
Fondly known as Keke Marwa, the three-wheeler has being a source of livelihood for millions of low-earners in Nigerians.
The company is set to slash the price of Keke to ₦300,000 just like they did in motorcycle when they slashed it from ₦300,000 to ₦80,000. The 5-seater (4-passenger, a driver) joins Innoson lineup of vehicles, including Connect, Caris, G20 Smart, Ikenga, and SUVs like G40 and G80.
In addition to being a source of livelihood for millions of low-earners in Nigerians, the three-wheeler is also the cheapest means of transportation to the common man. Keke Marwa, seldomly used as Last Mile vehicle, continues to be a favorite for Nigerian users who ply unmotorable roads as well as those who cannot afford taxi or commercial motorcycle fares.
Actor Aremu Afolayan who is currently abroad has reined curses on Nigerian government officials who fail to work towards making life easy and comfortable for Nigerians.
In a video shared on his Instagram page, Aremu said any government official who fails to work towards the betterment of the country will perish.
So on Saturday, I went to mgbuka Obosi spare parts market to purchase some parts for my Toyota Yaris, something caught my attention, About 12 men pushing a fully loaded truck up a sloppy Road under the scorching sun.
I felt nothing but pity, This gave rise to several questions running through my mind, Why do most Nigerians like suffering? Don't they have any idea that all these have after effects toward old age? Was it lack of money or they didn't see a vehicle they can just ask for help? May God help us in this country.
They are pushing airplane and you are here talking about truck that moves on the road and can always be pushed
Agabaidu1234: My Experience With my boss at the office today.
Am a serving corps member with one company serving.
At first, I usually carry my boss bag from the office to his car whenever we close (in the evening) but in a recent time he promoted my kind gesture to always call me from the office to pick his bag in the morning not minding whether am busy or not which has being getting me infuriated before now, but I keeps being calm.
The last stroke that broke the camel's back happened today. He called me outside as usual, I picked up the bag from him and he equally went further to tell his friend to equally handed over his own to me, to bring them all to the office although the friend told me not to bother myself, which really got me really mad boldly written in my countenance � and he noticed it which he asked me at the office and I express my displeasure to him in that regard of carrying his friend bag together with his own and he attempted to defend himself by bringing in irrelevant ideas and admonishment, of which I took flimsy excuse that I was not feeling fine and left, but trust me it was still as a result of the anger.
Now, my concerns is that, am I being foolish trying to be nice and at the same time being humble to always doing that for him willingly because I started it which he took it to be daily routine,? And again I want to stop doing that to him from today's on even when am called upon, if he thinks I do them all for him as a result of ignorance or that am being naive( what do you think � that my plan may result to) . Am talking about a guy who should be in his early thirties( 30) here.
Please �, what's actually your advise to me in this circumstance.
Left for me, you should have carried on
He yd your Boss and even if he is 20yrs, he is your Boss
Probably he likes your humility and you can't say how good it will be for you in return
Kasaliola: Good evening house... please I need your help.. if there is any marriage counselor or therapist. This could be lengthy and lot of typo... Please forgive me.. I open a new account for this.
I Am a father of two.. have been dating my wife since 2009, before we got married in 2014. But before the we got married we have been a love birds whereby everybody loves the way we cuddled ourself..
Its started in 2011 before I rented my first apartment, my parents didn't want me to marry her and her parents too, especially her big brother and sisters.. though it caused a lot of commotion then. But thank God they allowed cuz we forcefully told them we are meant for each other, I even speak bad words to my mother then, saying If I don't marry her in ur present I will marry her in her absent, those words hurt so dearly so she has to leave me and go ahead with my plans. And same thing with my wife family.
In 2012 I rented my own apartment and started living me.. I can't forget the very first day I raise my hands on her, I felt ashame of my self.. I don't care what she does or say then.. but I regretted doing so, I cried at the middle of the road cuz I don't know what came over me.
The only problem I have with her is that she swings mood. Always moody everytime and my parents noticed this when they come around and when she went to thier place.. This made me beat her plus the ways she disrespected me.. after doing this shameful thing, I will now come back to my senses and started begging her. I even beat her this Sunday.. all I want is someone to talk to on how I can stop this beating.. how I can tolerate her lifestyle... Am so mad and ashamed of my self.. if help me...
Thank you
I think you should start with going back to your mother to apologise to her for being naughty and then explain to her what is happening
sanerugwei: Make we dey God naa .... 300k miles is over 450k kilometers... the engine and gear may be in bad shape if they have not been rebuilt before...
Shebi he is the one that is looking for cheap vehicles to send
Mechanics can adjust the speed kilometers to suit him then panel beater will nail the coffin
LINSAR: Been a guest for a while but decided to open an account to share my predicament.
I am a grower. Whenever I'm erect,I'm only average in size. But whenever I'm flaccid,it looks like that of a toddler. This isn't even a problem since the erect size is okay.
My problem: I wish to learn how to swim.But the water makes the D to shrink.Now,swimming trunks are usually tight.Even ordinary clothes,water will make it stick to your body. This will make my small water-shrunk D to be really visible.
Should I go swimming and ignore whatever shades,stares, embarrassment I may receive? or I should avoid all these and leave swimming?
If you really love swimming, go for it but pad yourself very well that they won't even know if you have a dick or not
Alaigbopress: Please Elders in the house I need a serious advice because I don't want to make mistake.
I met this girl about four months ago, I approached her and after some weeks we started dating. She told me that she broke up with ex boy friend last December because her parents were not in support of the marriage. She told me that she has nothing to do with the said boyfriend.
But recently I noticed that she still share the pictures of the ex boy friend on her Whatsapp status and even still use his pictures as her phone wall paper. I confronted her about that and she said it does not mean anything. Since we started dating she has not for one posted my pictures on her Whatsapp status but has posted that of her ex up to o three times.
The one that got me sad and made me threaten to dump her is that she posted a WhatsApp Status requesting that anyone who mention her Boy Friend's name will get a credit card rewards and most of her friends were mentioning her Ex's name and she was cool to post the screenshots of where they mentioned her ex's name. Know it that some of my friends are also her friend and they saw the status and they have been asking me if the girl is actually dating me or someone else.
Please Elders in the House what should I do. Should I quit this relationship or should I confront her and hear her out?. Please Mod move it to front page I beg You.
Since your are not sure of your position in her life
And she lied to you that she us done with her ex yet flaunt his pictures
Just leave her to date herself while you search else where
Before she will claim that she is pregnant for you, whereas is the ex pregnancy
seunsiju: Still battling with one unwanted pregnancy ,expected to be a father soon, Read https://www.nairaland.com/6980702/over-girlfriend-pregnant Another girl is pregnant for me and his parent insist on no abortion Why i'm so fertile like this, Wheras i already had a year old boy, second pregnancy is now like 4 months, new one is now a month pregnancy Three expected children in a space of three years is too much for me to handle, tho i'm financially bouyant, all thanks to crypto Advise on what to do, i don't want any more child !!i hate using condoms Pls no insult!!!
Channah1: With apologies to this fellow, I make this complaint.
Please, how can I handle this situation I found myself in this shared room.
I am someone who likes and respect peoples privacy and mine a lot and this was why it took me time to opt for a shared apartment until things got out of hand and I had to settle for it due to lack of sufficient funds.
The issue is about this fellow. The first night I got there, after a few mins she just went completely unclad. In my mind, I thought it was because she wanted to bathe, that she'll probably get into a nighty once she's done but to my surprise, she didn't. And the way she goes about unclad, bending in front of me is so disturbing. I feel like telling her to cover up a bit but I know I can't. I know the weather is hot but hey... we need to show some decency here.
The first night I did that nonsense but that was after the light was turned off but yesterday, mehn... I couldn't continue so I wore my panties and later covered up a bit with wrapper but she'll just come and open everything waaaa... And its getting on my nerves.
This has got me wondering, so this is how this students leave their bodies anyhow?
I'm still trying to absorb everything about this new lifestyle because I've never seen such before. Though, when I was living alone, I used to go to sleep the way God created me. That is because I'm all alone. Not when someone is around. I can't
I asked the man in charge if I can put a partition, he said the fan would disturb it otherwise, I planned to call a capenter to come and partition my space. Its not too late. I might still get a mobile partition by weekend if I find something nice.
Peter532: This is a girl I signed for tailoring work, her attitude towards me this year changed drastically because of hard times am going through. I have seen her at the far end of my street standing with boys of same age with her holding her anyhow in the waist and every time I caution her that she's no longer a small girl but a woman.
I thought maybe she will grow up, but since on Sunday afternoon she left for her mother's place, she was supposed to come back in the evening, I waited till on Monday morning I couldn't call her because the last time I bought phone for her, she lied she lost it, I later found out that she gave it to one guy who is a Yahoo boy, it nearly caused a big issue that the community chairman had to be involved to settle the whole matter and the money of the phone was paid back to me.
I had to go to her mother place only to see my daughter there and she wasn't in sight. Though her mom was trying to hide it from me but I know what's going on, this isn't the first time she's done something like this
I Just left there this evening, all her mother was saying is I should take it easy.
I didn't beat her
We didn't quarrel, she just left on Sunday afternoon to drop my 3 year daughter at her mothers place.
I'm ashamed of the whole thing, everyone in my compound keeps asking me of her whereabouts, til it has gotten to the far end of our street.
I can't even come out in peace, if I do they must be one person to ask me what happened just to find my mouth, and the shame of explaining everything to them of her she dumped my daughter since on sunday is not easy.
Note: please those Ladies thinking I toke advantage of her, I didn't. I'm a very educated individual, I did introductions with her parents before she came to live with me. Then her dowry was paid. It was my choice, every man dreams to get married to a tear rubber. If I want to remake that choice I probably do it again, this was never to discourage those who wants a young wife.
What makes you think she was a tear rubber in the first place
*Food wey person never eat before no dey hungry the person*
She has gone for good, adjust yourself and look a tokunbo
Nikrose: At my work place, recently I noticed that one of my senior male colleague in his early thirties, not married is always defending, and protecting me even if I am wrong in many cases! I started noticing this for few weeks now and I don't understand his motive and reasons for doing it
I also noticed, He does this for only me and no other person! I just want you guys opinions for his reasons and motive for doing this!
Note: he is not displaying any romantic moves towards me, he keeps a straight face around me
Give him time he will come out fully
Meanwhile appreciate that someone is there for you to defend you
Pascopele: Good day everyone, I used to be an advocate of "don't check your partner's phone" but yesterday something struck me, a girl I've been asking to marry me was seriously asking me for 3k after my mom called in her presence that she needed money & my girl is aware I was under pressure that morning to raise extra 105k for materials after I invested six figures into my business, & she's aware I'm the father & husband in my family since my dad passed early 2019, she was begging for this cash like her life depends on it, now I decided to peep into her first bank account which is not the only bank account she has, I was shocked to discover.....
Your Acct 305XXXX356 Has Been Debited with NGN20,000.00 On 26-NOV-2019 18:56:35 By ATM WITHDRAWAL-1033101303221 UBA OKIT/OK. Bal: NGN1,519,624.81CR
Please is this fair? I'm scared if I proceed with this relationship to settle with her I might not get support even when I'm drowning and she's floating, I always give her before now but business is just picking up and I am not happy with the way she's going about the 3k issue
How can I fix this? I feel like walking away but my heart is so loving her..
What can I do?
Is it possible for you to put this relationship on hold, a sort of suspension
This will give you all the time you need to see the good and bad sides of this relationship
Don't be in a hurry, those that are already in wants to rush out, that shows that marriage is not an easy ride
Family › Re: Not The Marriage I Had In Mind by frozen70(f): 9:12pm On May 21, 2022*. Modified: 8:00pm On May 22, 2022
