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beelon1020:
Call his family to put him in order...

Family knows him better that his wife understands him and will be too weak to handle him

It's best to report him to a family friend he respects

Fattya06:
My husband does not care if I prosper or not as long as he is prospering. He is not interested in anything that gives me comfort, he'd rather watch me suffer. And when I accuse him he calls me ungrateful. The only thing he does his feed me. He does not clothes me and would not even ask me for sex. I am the one that always initiate sex. And I am tired. I need counseling. How do I get out of this?

For the fact that you probably have nothing doing makes him stronger than you and makes you a little bit helpless

He doesn't want you to measure or flex muscles with him that's why he is not concerned about you working or not and does not even care to provide

You need to report him to that person he respects and make sure the person loves and respect his wife so that he will reason with you

Not phone call report, physical report that will make the person to ask him to visit him with his wife

After that, if he doesn't change then you have to start seeing yourself as a woman who must build herself to be stronger

Not strong to fight him
But strong enough to with stand his neglects

Help001:
Please friends I need your help.
I have anger issue and I can’t control it , and when I get so angry I destroy things , please help me , I’m scared if I don’t control this it would cost me a lot in the future . My dad had the same issues of anger and I think inherited it from him. Two day ago I spoilt my Samsung phone completely beyond repair and that was out of anger… friends I really need help on how to go about this , I’m 24 years , please friends help me so I can overcome this ! I need help and assistance please .

You already know that you have a problem with anger

Why not start seeing things and taking things calmly and with ease

The last option you have is to wait till you get married and have kids

Your wife and children will make you to calm down with anger issues else, you throw your toddler away from the widow because of anger

Then you will go to jail and the anger will finally go away from you but you have lost your freedom

Googledman:
A friend of mine confided in me after enquiring from him why him and his wife is yet to have children seeing that their marriage is almost 2years. He then told me that, almost immediately after ejaculating in his wife, the sperms pours out almost immediately he stands up. That he as visited the doctor and they told him its no problem. But, i doubt it. I want to believe that's the major issue and told him to seek traditional help or counsel.


Please, has anyone here experienced this cos I used condoms all the time i have sex and can't relate whether it's Normal for the sperm to comes out.

Any input would be more appreciated. Thanks

Even if he has the shortest dick, sperm moves faster than you can

Maybe he will learn to stay few moments in there till he feels it's really deposited

The ife too will learn to lye down with her back and not be in a hurry to get up

dboY1123:
Thanks l.. I really appreciate you

You have to be very strong if you realy want her to get to her final destination

And if you realy want to move on with life

Once she is buried, you will start getting back yourself

Don't be surprise, she will visit you and talk to you to move on that she has gone to prepare a place for you

God is your strength

funkmrflexx:
As a married couples or people in a very serious relationship, what are your phone rules?

Because my partner has total access to every part of my phone and it's bringing issues

I don't have any phone rule, once I lock the phone, then no need for rules

dosage150:
Brother, accomodation and feeding isn't my problem a bit, I feed well, but am lossing my mind , am saddened everyday of my life, my happiness doesn't last

I don't want to start living a promiscuous life to feel happy

You better live any life that will bring you outs of this nonsense

You should be responsible for your won happiness and stop thinking your partner is making things difficult for you

You have options to make use of start doing whatever that will make you feel happy and loved

I don't care if you become promiscuous

pointblank247:
my first wife is aware of this and is in full support. The reason is medical

Tell her to search for it since she is aware and have given a consent

Lucyomolola:
Dont mind the new monika,

Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost a year now. but after he came to my house and saw my parents he has been acting somehow. Like he is avoiding me.he said sth like i am not good enough for you.

He is a student in 400l, i can say his background is average(not poor not rich). He But we love each other so much,we both in our mid 20s.

When he came i left him with my parents to go get somethings upstairs. I dunno what they told him. I really love him.

Please what do i do

Why not find out from him why he is drawing back

If he has a accessed your parents and find out that your class is bigger than his own, then he can't fix in

But at you guys age, you are just having fun not that there is anything serious about the relationship

Olonitola:
Dear Nairalanders, what do you think of this?
I got a new job 7th of February and the pay although not a normalised pay is very okay. The least I have received every month since I joined has been #126,000. There were months I was paid #170K ( happened twice) because it's commission based.

So far, I have been able to save #315,000 but I have a little problem.

I am a 29-year old guy who presently stays with my elder sister who also works in this company. She's a single mother of two. The apartment is a one bedroom-parlor apartment. She stays in the room while I occupy the parlor with my few properties (Mattress, Wardrobe, Plasma TV and home theatre) none of which she has because she had to abandon her husband late last year as she was being frustrated by him. She didn't pick anything while leaving, so she literally has just started buying a few things in the house. Apart from the parlor, 70% of the things in the kitchen and bathroom belong to me.

What actually happened about this was that; when she newly got this job (August, last year), she desperately needed a space as her ex husband was seriously frustrating her. She just left the husband's house with absolutely nothing like I already stated. Then as an unemployed graduate, I couldn't renew my rent which expired (November, last year). Because of this I decided to move them to her place and also shelter with her. Now my question is that, I am 29 years old, should I get a personal space with my current savings as my monthly pay seems enough or should I keep staying with her while I keep saving?
Mind you, I contribute to everything in this house, from food to water to NEPA bills and everything. Times we share the bills, other times I pay alone or she pays alone but it's all seem balanced in a way. No complaints so far.

Mind you I do not care what neighbors think as well even as they seem utterly unpleased with a man this grown staying with his sister. I do not care and also, I do not have a girlfriend so it's not about privacy or whatever.
But you know as a grown man with a lot yet to be achieved, I just seem confused.

What would you advise a brother?

If you are still with her, is like you are still with your parents as her presence protects you to an extent and you too protects her as a man

It will be nice you discuss this with her that by the time you will be 30yrs, you will like to get your own apartment

Now, if you can save upto 500k while staying with her, that will be fine so that you can get a self contained apartment and start your new life there

But be ready and willing to be ready to receive the opposite sex as once you say hi to any one they will want to know your house and do the ladies stuff there and that's how you will start living a single and married life

So are you ready for that now

Then secondly, will your sister be able to run the home alone both rent, feeding and utility bills in your absence and without help from you

I am still wondering what properties you will leave for her while you take the important ones

Ferrytech:
every one will soon be wanted

Funny you

2saviourfriday9:
Some facts about my girlfriend:

I love her so much that if she is angry I also got angry,
if she cry i also cry, if she eat i also eat,
if she die I miss her.

No wonder you are not serious with yourself

Stay there they play Ludo with your self

Na your time dey go

You just dey practice love

siofra:
God created dark tall men specially. I mean...

Especially dark men that are over 6ft tall with beard

God safe your daughter from these sons of Adam.

He's active on nairaland but a guest, very mature, not a redpiller, got his shit together. For a while we weren't talking but recently we started talking and I think I'm falling in love.

Please I don't want to fall in love with this guy because when I write my final exams after the strike, I want to join an international order and become a Reverend sister then get sent abroad. When I go abroad I will join a more strict convent and become a nun and shut out the world and its material pleasures. Amen!!!!


So, what do I do? Block him? Marry him?

Ask God

ebijimi7:
Good day guys, I've been on this forum for a while now and I've learnt a lot from you guys via threads here on nairaland.
To cut the story short and not bore you, I'm a 28 year old guy and will be 29 by October knowing that I've finally grown to be an adult is really getting me frustrated and depressed because of a lot of responsibilities that comes with it,
Although I've been a hustler from a very tender age (16) I had an irresponsible father who doesn't care about me and my sibling instead of him to take care of us with the money he made he would rather spend that money on woman. Leaving my sibling and mum to starve.
My dad had only one chance to turn my life around when I needed him most, he refuse to help me, because I went for a scholarship exam when I was in school and I was among the lucky 10 that was picked and I was offered to come and learn networking for a token fee of #50,000 naira then instead of the normal 450k but my dad refuse to pay telling me he doesn't have money, I cried and begged him to please help me my dad kept saying he doesn't have money and this happened immediately after I finished my ssce exam then, now my dad said he doesn't have money but that year he abandoned me and my mum and sibling at my grand mother's house because my grandma built her own house, for years we didn't hear from him or get to see him.
My mum would call and beg him for money for food he would curse her , later we found out he was living with another woman and he got another apartment for 300k and this same man said ge doesn't have money to sponsor me for a tech skill I wanted to acquire. So when my dad was not ready to help I had to seek for a job to take care of my mum and sibling because my mum business went down and we were not having anything to eat, so I got a factory job I would work from 7am to 7pm even with that machine almost chopped off my index finger I still had to go to work just for my family to eat my mum kept crying and calling my dad, he ignored us and for God so good he opened a way for me and got a better job offer, I gain admission in yabatech I wanted to pay 75k for school fee I had 50k my mum begged my dad to borrow me 25k that I would refund it, my dad shouted at my mum that he doesn't have anything to give to me if he doesn't pay his rent first[b](omo I regretted coming to earth through that man)[/b].
To cut the long story short, I am getting depressed because I'm still staying in my granny's house and I want to leave but I'm currently building for my mum and I want to build mine too and get married but the pressure is much because I feel I'm running out of time and my girlfriend is on my neck that we should get married (although she has been very supportive) but I felt I don't have time on my side again because now I need to rent an apartment and also finish the house I'm building for my mum but I'm not earning much and all these on a mere salary of 60k I'm really frustrated and if I should get an apartment while building its going to slow down the progress of the building and I really want to gift this to my mum for her 60th birthday which is in 3 years time (that woman deserve to be happy I love her so much) and I also needed to get married and start having my children adult hood is not easy
Please I need you guys advice as I'm getting really frustrated.

In as much as I appreciate your efforts in your family after your dad bleeped up, you have to keep the light burning

The only thing putting you into frustration and depression is uoir babe and marriage wahala

Try and settle your mum and give her a roof

If your babe wants to be pregnant and start having children pls free her and get her pregnant once that is done, go ams see her parents and let them know that you are the one in her life

You must not allow anything to disturb your mother and your wife to be by giving your woman more care and attention and dropping your mum

It will remind her of what your dad did to her

Take your time and plan well, marriage comes with bigger responsibilities so clear the one you can clear

If your babe can't wait for you, she is free to move on

You are the Head of uoir father family, plan yourself before settling down

As for your dad, a time is coming when you will pay him back one Naira to one Kobo

If you don't do that nature will help you do that

But he must surely reap from unripe fruit

Because he spoilt so many chances for you and your sibblings

Ndibuna:
Lol, this is quite funny

I know

giddy10:
I have been married for about 2 month now. Yesterday my wife saw her second period after our wedding and even though marriage is chiefly about companionship frankly, we both felt bad. Do you think it is time to become worried about delay conception? For the married ones, pls was conception in your marriage immediate or delayed? Did you use any treatment (for both male and female) to finally get it?

I beg you in the name of God, don't be too fast so that you won't put yourself into a race

God programs every thing we do and his timing remains the best

It's too early for crying out loud

What if the fault is from you or do you think you are OK simply because you get erection

Don't put that woman into tension mode

Pickin go tire you soon

Maverick777:
I'd make this as brief as possible.. This is my debut post here on NL.
I'm in my early 30's, currently work in the oil and gas sector and I'd say I'm an 8.5/10 guy in all ramifications.
Now to the issue, I met this lady sometime last year(JUNE) at a popular fast food here in delta, she was (and still is) the manager of the place. One of the cashiers was being rude to me, she intervened and I must say, I was immediately lovestruck! She's really not the, sweep-you-off-your-feet kinda girl, but she seemed pretty smart (I'm extremely Sapiosexual).
Long story short, I gave her my card, she called, visited severally and after like 6months we got intimate and all.... Before all these, she already told me that she has a 4-year old daughter, which he had for a guy when she was still schooling, but later found out the guy had a family and she cut ties. She had the baby and he knows but she told him to stay away! And since then till now, there has been no communication whatsoever between them.
My dilemma is, I like her enough to wife her, taking in the kid is not an issue(I adore female kids) and they(MUM and DAUGHTER) both love me to bits, adore me and all. Overall I would say she's a 6.5/10 Lady.
Yesterday she suggested that why don't I adopt the kid legally, as I already changed her surname to mine, because I wanted to open accounts for her(THE KID), she said she had a dream that her baby daddy came to make amends, request for his daughter and serious issue broke out bla bla bla....
Now, I know ladies would always twist the narrative to suit themselves and all, and my gut feeling tells me there's more to that separation than she's telling!
I want to hear some expert advise concerning this before I take the next step, to be honest I'm a novice in this area(never had anything to do with a single mum before now).
Do I go ahead to adopt the kid legally??

Sensible inputs would be well appreciated.
I'd be glad if this hits Front Page

CC: SEUN
LALASTICLALA
MYND44

Let this child issues not be an obstacle on this relationship

Love the girl as you have said and don't adopt that child to bear your name

If it comes to the worst let the child bear her own maiden name
Yes that's very important so that when her father comes both of them will argue that

Adopt her in your heart to be a father to the child

Take care of her and she will rather see you as the dad while she grows

Whatever happens between she and her ex is not something to worry about so far her family will prove that he was never married to her no pay bride price was paid on her by the man

Ndibuna:
My yoruba wife first eats her meat before eating her food. That's totally unacceptable. This makes the rest of the food unattractive for her. Essence of eating meat last is as a reward for eating the food.
How do I convince my yoruba wife to do the right thing

Yoruba is the only tribe that loves meat more than anything

They will buy two or more cows just to cook one bag of rice for a party

They will give you more meat than food

They will eat meat before eating food
They will be eating meat in between foods

They will come to you when you are eating and take one meat from you plate and says its love

They understand parts on meat more that the fulani that rears cow

It's in their blood unless you serve them food without meat, they will even reject the food

They go to buka, get food to eat and assorted meat will be counted and served in a different plate and place in front of them

You will be serving them stew in a buka they will be busy pointing at specific meat they want

And you say them no take meat do them ??

IecheM:
Goodday nairalanders
I hope we're all having a wonderful day.
My narration is kinda long please bear with me.
Okay, so I studied mechanical engineering and I graduated last year, I'm currently working in a private school and the pay is not that good coupled with other side hustles that I do.
So I've been thinking about a business that I can venture into and I decided to go into transportation business. I told my mom about it and she was like I should pray about it and she also said all this engine stuff and ended there
I told my dad about it he said I should not be fast, I should slow down.
My mom is a civil servant, she's someone who doesn't like business at all she just wants us to get federal government job and all the people she has met only give her assurance and they don't do anything.
Now there's a land my mom purchased 15 years ago she hasn't done anything on that land, anytime we ask her when she plans to build she gets angry and be like nobody will force her to do what she doesn't want to do that she's waiting for buhari to come down so that price of things will fall down and that is never going to happen.
Now I'm 23 I'm still agile,if I don't hustle now please when will I hustle this is what I wants my parents to understand but they just won't understand.
We're 3 in our family and I'm the only son (second born). I really want to build my mom's land that is the main reason why I want to go into the transport business. Now the problem i have is how to convince my mom to get the car(golf 3)for me because I know she's capable. She's financially stable than my dad.
Please nairalanders what do you think I should do so as to convince my mom.
Thanks in anticipation for your positive replies.

Boss RoyalRoy please help push to fp.

Gather every one hit a family meeting and tell them that the teaching job is not fetching enough to sustain you that you will appreciate if mum can buy a Golf car for you to use as transportation after school hours

I think this is the trick you need to get the car first, then prepare to pull out from the teaching if you can't combine both

onthehill:
https://www.instagram.com/tv/CeIs7E_j2L3/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

Lalasticlala
Mynd44

Who knows if he was using her for money retual and it turned against the man

Only this woman can explain what happen between both of them

Deltablood11:
Please doctors in the house, my 5 months baby hair is pulling out. It pulled out when you touch it. People are saying it Nla I don't know what it means but we have been treating it with native medicine but no improvement. I need help please. Help us with the possible solutions. Thank you.

Stop paying draft with that child life take the child to a government hospital where you will be refered to a pediatrician before she grows up with it

Loveisnotenough:
As early as 16, I've left home to fend for myself, the other time I said it here, many people said I'm narrating Nollywood stories. I felt like God created me to be independent, I don't like depending on anyone, before I left home at 16, she sweared that I'd never be successful and that I should never refer to her as mum again and I risked it and fast forward to 2020, I became a CEO.....This business is still striving and developing healthily as the day goes by....

Now my mum wants me to stop business just to keep her company in a neighbouring city, she said the rent I pay in this city is too much (300k annually) and that in her city (Countryside) here in Nigeria that it's cheaper but because I told her that I have registered my business with CAC and that I cannot leave where my business is growing and start up a new place, here she is again telling me that I'd fail in life that if I cannot leave there, I'd not be able to pay the 300k rent in the next year.

Actually I don't know why my mum will try to manipulate me by force to stay with her even at 25 years old, like are we supposed to be together forever? What if I was married at 20-24? I don't know if I should start hating my mum, people can easily judge you while ignoring your parents flaws.

Don't hate her yet because it will cause more harm

Involve her family that's her siblings and you guys will have a family meeting and after that meeting, let her denounce what she said and pray for you

You have to take it easy with uoir mother, their tongue can be dangerous

chigoizie7:
It is enough my dear.

Loneliness can mess one up. In as much as I have families and friends that I still talk to on daily, sometimes I just want to run back to naija, because this place is damn lonely. You can say hello and hi to people but deep down, you know that’s not it.

That's true, but she could have adopted a child

Islie:
https://www.vanguardngr.com/2022/05/just-in-47-year-old-accountant-commits-suicide-in-lekki/

No husband, no child.
Is that enough for suicide

Why not adopt and live happily

omowolewa:
all these fine looking guys in Abuja.

Imagin what they do for a leaving

AprokoGirl:
The reckless act of a truck loaded with 2 containers;

1. the base of the 2 pillars supporting the BRT bridge inwards Ikorodu, immediately after Agric were badly destroyed, causing the bridge joint to shift.

2. The perimeter fence of the BRT Bus stand was knocked down & the 2 containers fell closing the service lane inward Ikorodu completely blocked while the 2nd container extends to the BRT lane such that only part of the BRT lane & the lane outward Ikorodu are accessible.

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Tomorrow traffic will be like riots

riversproperty:
Happy Sunday guys!
Please i found this small bottle containing some quantity of oil in it hidden somewhere inside my car this morning.
I have poured out the content but then, I’m curious to know what it’s meant or used for..

Thanks.

It could have rolled out from a woman hand bag while in your car

Find out from the female ones that have been in your car or your wife if you are married

Barrister026:
It's so annoying children of nowadays think because they got baby mamas up and down they got no respect for their elders, infact once they notice you haven't had a child yet no matter how old you are, they start looking at you like their age mates or even older than.

My kid bro who I single handedly passed down wears to back then has the audacity to talk to me anyhow just because he is a father of a 5 year old boy and another one is on the way. Well that's how he's been reason he toke a lot of beatings from me back in the days...

The recent happenings happened this morning after so many years, I came home for a very close relative's burial same with our eldest bro whose in his mid 30s. Discussion we were having, one thing led to another... this kid bro of mine flared up shouting at the top of his voice to my elder bro...mom telling him to shut up he's still talking...I immediately pounce on him in the presence of his wife and kid, I gave him the beating of his life, squeezed that his lip he was using to insult our eldest bro, not minding his wife watching.

Yes I'm angry with him, the day his wife gave birth out of wedlock, he was jubilating that he the last born first us to give our parent's a grand child. I say see this one, if I wanted to have kids I would have, how many ladies has tried to trap pregnancy on me all through this years. it's just man not yet ready yet, and been married don't Just freak me yet.

Mom been gingering me to apologise to him, but I refused? Why would I?

Yes I was wrong for beating him in the presence of his pregnant wife and kid, I didn't mean to embarrass him...I felt bad myself after the whole thing.. but before he was a husband he was first my kid bro.

Having done that, he will apologize to the most senior that he insulted after the apology you hug him and every one will take caution

Wizzyonyxphoenix:
but how can it be diabetes?I'm still young na

We have children diabetes too

Just go and check yourself

It has nothing to do with age

SeaTrade:
Not with HIV ma'am,
If you like be transgender,it'll still manifest in the usual three weeks of infection for both sexes.
Please read on it more to get enlightened so you don't argue blindly.
Regards.

I wasn't arguing blindly, you came into my mention blindly and brought about HIV which was not mentioned by the initial post

SeaTrade:
Not with HIV ma'am,
If you like be transgender,it'll still manifest in the usual three weeks of infection for both sexes.
Please read on it more to get enlightened so you don't argue blindly.
Regards.

There have been sexual infection before the coming of HIV

My point wasn't about HIV and the topic of the Op wasn't specifically about HIV

I am talking about common infection like syphilis and co

SeaTrade:
Anybody can get HIV easily and will manifest almost same time for both sexes,STDs isn't limited to gonorrhoea madam,enlighten yourself and folks close to you.
Cheers.

You are a man and you don't understand woman anatomy

Go and search more about man and woman anatomy

Then find out why men who get infected gets manifested within three days and the woman is not even aware she is infected