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Moz22:
Actually typing this with a heavy heart and so much disgust for what I've done.. wish I had handled the situation better.

My father is the best man I could ever wish for and if I had another chance to pick a dad again in my next life, I'll pick a richer version of him but my mom?? Sigh!
However growing up with them was so stressful in every way u can think of.. my dad was the meek type, soft spoken and slow to react but my mom would always complain about everything, she fights everything and everyone.. never afraid of any form of confrontation, she would complain about my hairstyle, she would check if I sagged my trousers.. she monitored me extremely and always nagged about it.. I'm this typa guy who is well cultured, I wouldn't say I got that from home training tho cos I do not drink, smoke nor womanize... And I think it's d joy of every parent to have child like me, I basically had no friends visiting me then and even up till now. I've got trust issues that's why I don't keep friends.. my mom made my youthful days hell for me, I didn't really enjoy it.. times I spent with her were miserable as she would shout everyday, quarrel even over phone conversations that you would think the person she's fighting with was right in front of her.. and some times I even pity my dad whenever she starts with him. I developed some sorta hatred for her

Lately I've been spending more time with them cos of our last born just so I could keep an eye on him and we stayed close too.. and the way she treats him makes me wonder if she was the one gave birth to him, if I was away when she was pregnant for him and delivered.. I would have argued that she was his mother. There were times that I had to pass the night there and her voice or rants would be what will wake me up very early in the morning just as it used to be when I used to be there...

I used to think that as people grow old, they become calmer but that isn't the case with my mom, she's more violent... She lost her twin sis last year March and I sincerely hoped that would change atleast but iro nio... Her other sisters aren't even speaking to her at the moment. My dad was a musician.. old age won't allow him continue doing music, coincidentally I picked up that barton.. been doing the same music(live musician) all my life but my mom has always been against it.. she was never happy whenever I carry my dad's guitar to rehearse or whenever I bring a piano home.. it was always war...

Been there since last weekend cos of the poor electricity in my area.. we have had power for about 7 days now.. Had gone for a studio session, only to return in d evening and I was greeted with shouting over a very trivial issue, I was so angry that I responded to every of her verbal insults.. and then she hit me and I reciprocated which I felt so bad about almost immediately.. she dragged me by my clothes shouting that I must kill her again, by that time.. my anger had subdued and all I had on my mind was to leave the house immediately. She threatened to arrest me.. She tore my shirt and I managed to pull away from her.. and left without picking my stuffs. All my life, I have never raised up my hands to hit a woman talkless of my mom.. I don't even beat kids when they do wrong, I hate to see tears.. I know it's a disgraceful thing to do. I've got no excuse for what I've done whatsoever. I even avoid confrontations with my own gender sef cos I know what I'm capable of. I'm always quick to say the word sorry just to avoid prolonged issues. I had been offline since it happened, just came here to drop this and I know how much insults I'm gonna get here anyway but we learn everyday and will surely pick the ones that will make me a better person.. no one's perfect

Pls ignore my typo errors abeg

What you did was out of anger and you already feel bad for doing so

I don't want to blame you because your mum pushed you to the wall

She is a character and now you know what your dad passed through from her

You have to let your dad know what happened and apologies to your mum in the presence of your dad

After that, stay few days, smile with her and leave that house if you can get accommodation else where, now is the right time

By the time she has no one to confront, she will start fighting herself

As for your dad he is already used to her naughtiness

At old age your mum will likely stay alone, because no daughter in law will want to stay with a crazy mother in law

Deadmeat:
don't get me wrong, I didn't only bought her an Android phone, I also showered her with so much love and care and she fell completely, I like her but my other issues apart from the promise is that I enticed her with material things just to get her cos my initial plan was to just fvck, her mom and sisters already think I will marry her they're even happy thoughts she's will be getting married to a gentle, rich guy. I just felt is not right getting along with someone you enticed with material things because they will be expecting too much from me? And if I am a poor guy would they have allowed me even get close to her because I've seen many guys lurking around my girl and her sisters but her mom is very strict about them coming close maybe because they're poor and don't have a ride or would she have loved me? This is what been going on my head.
I know the huge mistake I made is promising her

Am glad that you are the one advising yourself

Deadmeat:
The girl I met last month, I just disvirgined her 3 days ago.
It all started when me and my guy went to her mom's shop to chill on some drinks.
She was the one that attended to us, omo this girl be my spec, beautiful, chocolate skin, love shaped ass.
After attending to us I asked for her number, her mom was sitting there and I wasn't ashamed. She replied "I don't have a phone", how can a fine girl like you don't a have a phone I asked. Then she smiled, I assured her I was going to get her a phone. 2 days later, I got her an Android phone omo she was very happy and her mom too. Her mom already liking me because I appeared a quiet gentle guy for my mind I just want to hit and run.
After I got her the phone, we've been chatting, calling then I asked her out omo she no wan gree at first I Sha pressured her she later accepted but say no sex I Sha agreed me wey be say I be sharp guy. Right from the onset I knew she was a virgin, I could see it in her eyes so innocent.

I sha been giving her loving you and all that, her mom and her sisters already know we are dating all of them don liked me based on the fact that I am a G.
She couldn't go out alone some times she Will tell me to take permission from her mom.
I took her out 3 times, first time I took her to eatery, I bought food for her. Second time I took her to lodge scoped her I don't feel like going home that very day we smooch and kissed.

Third time I took her out omo she no wan gree for me I come scoped her, gave her some sweet words omo she come later gree but said I should promise her I am going to marry her and I won't Bleep up omo na so I agreed o.
I made a promise then I forced my way in, it wasn't easy I had to forced my d*ck to break the hymen.

After the do she no dey allow me rest again, calling, texting me upandan.
My issues is, how do I let her know I just wanted to chop and clean mouth? After all, if I am poor her mom and sisters wouldn't allow me near her.
And I already made a promise will that promise hunt me in future?

You have already achieved your aim

Tell her that you are no longer interested in the relationship

I don't blame her I blame the parents that made her sold he virginity for an android phone

Though you try gifting her a phone

Stop promising women, you may end up shooting yourself in the leg

Gaggii:
Please house,

What can I do, if I no cum sleep no dey come

Have cum to the extent of having short of blood.

Please what are the things I can do to make fall asleep at nights

I think you have formed a bad habit of releasing every night to the extent that you can't sleep

Why not get married and start having children with those things you are wasting

By the time you buy baba Food and drugs and have school fees to pay

Your dick will adjust itself

POSmecrhant:
I have this new neighbor that packed in last three months, that talk to people anyhow. But he feels it's a normal conversation.

Over the weekend I was cleaning my house and my car, only for him to tell me I clean my car too much. And was saying other nasty things and was laughing thinking is a normal thing.

There's no single day that i will wash my car that this guy will not say this to me, how I valued my car more than my life.

Normally, this guy can not look me with straight face and be telling me this kind of nonsense if I didn't create this kind of familiarity with him in the first place.

How can i avoid this guy in a matured manner so that he won't even decode I'm avoiding him?

If you can't tell him that you are sensitive to his words
Then ignore any silly jokes form him especially those careless talks

lefemmechoclat:
So background. I am American. Haitian background. I am a nurse practitioner. My husband works in engineering. We have 4 kids. One with special needs. Married 10 years. He comes from a very poor background. I do not. We are in debt in due student loans,mortgage and our kid has medical needs and will probably need care for life. We both work and built life together.
He always said he was going to wait several years before building a home back home..he always said this. While sometimes I worked 2 jobs to make sure we stayed afloat. He got multiple job and first thing he did,instead of helping to pay debts to relieve me or save for our kids especially the one with medical needs etc was behind my back build a 60,000usd home for his parents.
Everyone knew except me. I found out cos u wen to his phone to get some pictures and found it. It breaks my heart cos we have built life together and I have struggled with this man and instead of relieving my stress so I don't have to work so hard he takes 60k and builds a mansion for parents. We have literally no savings ofr ourselves or our kids. That to me is irresponsible. His parents already had a home and we send nearly 400 a month for upkeep. Meanwhile all the money my special needs kid has is from my own pocket. We have 3 other kids without savings at all
.how could he do this? I seem to can't get over this.

You don't need to divorce him pls, that house is for you and the children

He built it for you guys nit his parents

If you divorce him, he will come home and marry from his native land and he knows that even if you take the children, they will look for him one day

You guys can travel home so that you have a good look at the house and pick your preferred room

While you work hard for you special nerd child, seat him down and let him know that since he has completed the building project at home

That you guys needs to plan for the family to stay away from debt because the children are growing and needs attention and money

If he refuses, then he has another plan

Lyydia:
Hi Nairalanders,
What is the best way to invest funds without actually being engaged in doing anything? I have what I do that brings in money, I just feel like some funds are idle in my account and Naira - dollar fluctuations isn't helping matter.

For example fixed deposit accounts, which Nigerian bank has the best interest rate?

No cryptocurrency
No forex
No betting
No scam investment
No PM

Thank you.

You can buy a land in your name, whether you are single or married

Develop part of the land for rental and keep the rest for your family

Money just want to be somewhere growing but not kept idle

Ajakaiye83:
Pls I need your advice. I am loosing it and I need your advice.

I have 7m cash at hand .should I relocate or build a house with it?
I have a land in ikorodu and ijoko axis with foundation done .

As per relocating,I dont want to go through study route.i dont think I can couple with work and schooling.

Pls advice me

You have to decide on which country to go to and if you will have some one there to accommodate you

If yes you have some one to accommodate you, then half of the money will be used for your trip, whole you can use the remaining half of Carty your building up

xukwaa:
I am a Chartered Accountant currently working in Audit and Assurance unit of a medium sized firm that is next to the big 4. I have been married for 7 years now and currently have three children. My wife has been violent to me whenever we have issues at home and she reports me to her dad who is a Warrant Officer in the Military and will retire this year. I recently had issues with my wife and her dad has been threatening me ever since. I have not been in good terms with her dad since when we got married. My wife has always made it known to me that I will never have rest of mind when we have issues. She challenges me violently.
In times like this, I always feel worried and lose appetite. PLEASE HELP ME OUT FELLOW NAIRALANDERS!

This is nonsense
Who does that,
Just be the dad and husband you have always been

Let her and her father do their worst

If they try anything funny, leave the marriage for her dad to marry her

By the time they don't see you the whole family will look for you

tollyboy5:
mr governor said pmb will commission imota rice mill this month, but we neva see rice mill.
As hungry dey catch me, na that one dey my mind

Until they fix that gberigbe road it will be an eye saw to come that area

Thrycimacus:
Hello guys I'm in need of a solution. I started dating my babe since last year, and we plan on getting married this year.

Believe me, I'm completely in love with her. Since I met this girl, it's as though every other girl isn't worth my time. I would say that we love ourselves to the best of my knowledge.

I didn't ever believe that my babe was a cheat, so I don't suspect her, neither do I read her text messages , nor even ask who called her and all that.

Something stupid happened today though. I checked my babes whatsapp chat out of curiosity without her permission (please guys forgive me for that). She was working on a project beside me while I was reading her chat.

I noticed she wasnt comfortable as I told her I only wanted to preview her whatsapp stickers. As I spent more time with her phone, she became so worried that she had to get her phone, asking what I was doing with her phone.

I told her I was reading her chat, then she got real angry, that I shouldn't have read her messages. There are contents there she doesnt want me to see.

Pretending as though I havent seen anything yet, I asked her , which content? Then she was already angry and collected her phone.

I tried getting g her phone but to no avail. Then I sat her down. Babe tell me, are you a lesbian ? She vehemently denied, asking why I will even ask her such question. Then I told her about her chat with one girl. She was trying to defend her self that the chat doesnt mean anything. The said chat was actually lesbian related.

I asked my babe, is the girl you were chatting with a lesbian, she said yes. I said fine, give me your phone let me continue reading then if you have nothing to hide from me. She refused.

I told her that her refusal only means 1 thing, and that can threaten our very relationship...

To cut the low g story short, at some point, she began to cry. I told her I knew she was a lesbian from that chat, I only wanted her to tell me with her mouth. She didnt directly admit it though, but she said that she was working on fixing her problem.

Admit it baby, so I know if its something I can fix with you, babe said she will tell me everything tomorrow, that she can't get herself to discuss anything with me today. With this, I had to understand and let her go. Hopefully tomorrow she can confide in me finally about her (I suppose) lesbian affairs.

Honestly I love this babe. Up until today, i have always believed that she loves me too. But this revelation is really threatening to destroy my future with her.

Before she left today , after I must have given her my word that telling me all her dark truth will not stop me from loving her, she said I was saying those just so she can open up. That if I leave her or change my behaviour towards her when she tell me what shes been hiding, it will not be good.

Please guys, how do I face this serious problem now in a mature way ?

Please I'm not here to play, I need mature contributions.

I created a new account for privacy sake

For the fact that it's not with a man, seat her down and she will tell you the whole truth

The best you can do is to help her to come out of it

NoToPile:
Wait so the sister is not supposed to assist at home with chores, she's not supposed to be humble to the brothers wife because she's a graduate?


Like I said earlier my concern is not even the training it is issues like the bolded that is my own concern oo.

Definitely the sister knows that she will assist in the house but not as a hose help

We should learn to respect people's status not withstanding the condition they may be as at the time they are staying with you

No one knows tomorrow

Fred166:
My younger sis just rounded up her NYSC, she told me she would like to learn how to bake cake and other small chops like chin chin, puff puff, donut, egg rolls, sausage rolls, e.t.c.. from my wife. Indeed my wife a pro in baking.

I told her that's not a problem, I will inform my wife about it. I even told my sister to come over to my house this weekend because definitely she would be staying with us.

When I discussed it with my wife she said my sister would have to pay, that she's not running a charity organization... I was really mad at her.

She said she would collect 100k (for 6 months learning) from my sister, and she is doing that because of in-law stuff... That I should go and ask her clients currently learning in her school how much she charges.

I offered my wife 50k. She rejected it, she said it won't be enough to buy baking utensils not to talk of baking ingredients. Mind you she sells baking utensils and ingredients.

She also said she issue her clients certificate when they're done learning, she refers customers to them as well...

Please note: I have invested heavily in her business, Infact it was my money she used in starting up her business. Yet she refused to help my sister even with the 50k I offered.

Please is this proper? Is she being greedy? It's really causing serious problem between us. I'm so angry. My younger sister is not even aware of what is happening right now.

Your sister shouldn't be aware pls before it becomes family problem that will last forever

If you have the 100k give her or tell her you will pay twice and be specific on exact date you will pay the remaining one

Some women are just hard for nothing but the good thing is that one day her family members will need help and if she brings it to your hearing, be deaf over it

She is supposed to train her for free but she loves money over your family interests

But bear in mind that for that six months your sister will be staying, if care is not taking, she will complain that your sister is not assisting her at home because she will expect her to be humble to her and do house chores for her like a maid, despite that she is already a graduate

That's women for you, always looking for one area to pick issues from

absingle:
Can she

A woman's make up by choice and its optional, but it brings out the beauty in a woman

Towma:
Unless I stop eating completely
I don't know how to economize again
I keep telling him that.
That's why I came to nairaland for possible tips and advice

At this point, there is nothing you can do
Anytime there is no food to serve at home, just look for something to feed your children that's all
By the time he comes back and meet no food he will understand your demands

Cooolme:
Thank you very much, I appreciate.

Thanks too

Towma:
I did exactly what you wrote above when he complained we are spending too much.
I suggested he should go to market once or twice and see prices of food items for himself and check for any other cheaper alternatives he wants us to start buying to save money. He didn't even respond. I think I will suggest it again.

In that case you have tried all means to let him know that, it's not working out

He knows that if he goes to market, he will be spending more

I think he wants you to be extremely economical in spending

Well you have to start with reducing his goat meat and yam, these two food items are extremely expensive in the market, for they are foods for the rich especially goat meat

ExAngel007:
A jilted man has taken to Facebook to call out his girlfriend
who dumped him to marry a soldier.

Uncle Bless in his Facebook post, claimed this occurred after
he rented an apartment and set up a business for her.
The heartbroken Ghanaian man also alleged that after he
questioned her on her relationship with the soldier, she
claimed "he's like a brother to her".

He wrote;

You are getting married today wow that’s beautiful
everyone will wish you congratulations and I will also wish
you some.

Is it not the same boy I ask you about when we were
dating you said he is nothing to you, you quoted he is like
a brother? ( brother) everyone won’t know we were dating
because you hide the relationship from everyone and let
everyone knows am nothing and can’t date you right
before you accept my proposal we’re you there alone, your
friend Roberta was aware or not aware, you let everyone
know her as a bad girl so we all can hate her right.

you bill me of sorts of things from Rent, money for
business, everything when you attack spiritually who did
you bill, any little money I get you to have it in your
account, you told me you got a job at Aflao so we need to
rent. you got that money within few days, you later said
your previous place at sogakofe your bill needed to be
renewed I did that with my poverty money.

You let everyone knows we are not dating, after draining
me down you just came to ask me who knows I rented for
you and why should someone knows I rent for you. You
block me wow because you finished ur mission of
draining the poor guy down, I don’t wear uniform right so
you need someone who wears some, and those who will
attack me am waiting for you.

An ungrateful human being, today is your wedding day,
wow all the guys you dupe are aware right. If I talk much I
will offend God but keep in mind the guy you duped and
feels he is born n stupid guy is alive and make sure you
live a life well because the curse all the guys are preparing
won’t stop hunting you. it’s funny everyone seeing you
wearing an immigration uniform. I don’t want to talk
about that because it’s part of you, you can lie lie lie more
than everyone on this earth:: you Rubby today is your
wedding day right May God bless the union okay I will
come back and post all our chat here for updates.

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He should thank God that she has carried her wahala and liability away from him to another man

Towma:
Hubby doesn't want to deprive himself, I am the one bearing burden of the management. I didn't even want to mention that part, for example he must always eat goat meat and Plantain when eating rice, he does not like garri swallow. Only Semo and pounded yam. Infact let me not go there.

OK good, he likes good things

If you can't manage the 60k, let him start running home with the 60k at least for 3 months so that he will have direct and first hand experience of what you have been cracking yourself with

May be he will increase the allowance

Ephetar:
Hello wonderful Nairalanders... Please I'll need advise from experienced parents. God blessed my family two weeks ago with a wonderful baby. But here's my little challenge, the baby prefers sleeping all through the day and doesn't sleep for long at night waking us up every 2 hours or thereabout. My MIL said it's normal but this lack of sleep is affecting my work and my sharpness during the day... Please is there anyway we can change his sleep cycle and make him sleep more at night instead of during the day...We are new parents please...

Don't worry at three months, his sleeping pattern will change to night its a normal thing and you have to exercise patience till then

Towma:
Hello everyone
Please I need help of married people with children or any knowledgeable individual to help me manage the money me and my husband make so we can spend less.

We have a family of two kids, the first one is 6 and the second one is four.

We usually spend a total of 60,000 Naira monthly on feeding every month.

We live in Abuja and I need help on how to reduce our total feeding money from 60k to 40k or less. Are there any cheaper alternatives to staple foods like rice, yam, meat, fish etc?

The kids need to eat well to grow healthy so I can't compromise on their feeding. I buy food from outskirts of Abuja because things in the main Abuja markets are more costly.

I need helpful suggestions to help us spend less on feeding thank you.

I think you should give the children all the need to eat and grow healthy

Then you and your husband can manage yourself like skipping lunch and whatever you can do to manage yourself

But if the economy on your side is nit yet stable and you birth another child, that 60k will be bearly enough to carry you guys

Chosen44:
A wealthy lady fell in love and got married to a man that wasn't rich,after marriage they both had joint accounts and managed her assets together...after 8 years without a child in marriage they both decided to adopt a child...they adopted a baby girl of 3 months,7 years later the woman got sick and died.
The family of the lady later came after the burial and demanded that the husband vacate the house and hand down the properties and all assets to them cos they weren't his at first...and besides that the child isn't her blood because she was adopted...please who owns the properties based on your view?the husband and adopted daughter or her family members....

No one knew the percentage of money each contributed

They can share the money into four places if they sell the property

The late wife will take half, the husband and adopted child will share the remaining half

Then the wife family will take their daughter share and the adopted daughter share while the man takes the remaining quarter share

The wife family should accept that girl child as their daughter's child because they were aware of her adoption

But if the property was on the woman's name

And the man has never beaten his wife, they can sell it and give him a percentage

If the man has been wicked to their daughter and her name is in the land documents

They man has nothing to get

ChybuzzDD:
We maybe encouraging a Yahoo boy here unwittingly.

Chai, at least he was able to pay for his parents accommodation

KINGJAJA888:
Nairalanders How Una dey. Abeg I need y'all advice. My Pops is a Staunch Christian and has devoted his life to Church. The Man dey Carry church for head like gala.
Always forcing me to go to church activities with him and this is Causing serious issues between Us. I'm Atheist and don't believe in the God and the bible bla bla bla stories. Today was just the height of it. He insists I follow him to every crappy religious function when he knows I don't enjoy such. Pls what do I do? I'm Still staying with him. He pays my fees and Everything but won't give me religious freedom and it's disturbing me. Abeg make Una advice.

Moderators @RoyalRoy @Dominique Abeg move to front page biko before I do something Stupid at home.

If you want peace at home or around your family

Keep your atheists life away till you are capable of feeding, clothing and housing yourself

Cooolme:
Greetings everyone.
I started living with my uncle who's married after my secondary School and he's also been assisting me in the University. He's been acting very harsh towards me since late 2020 and this is affecting my relationship with him to the point I hardly go to his place even during breaks from school.
I'm 19 currently in my final year and since quarter of last year I've been making huge incomes, my financial turn around started before my industrial training and I didn't stay in his house throughout that period even tho we were in the same town. When the family heard this, they started to query me on why I left his place and truth was that I informed him about my IT and if he has anywhere I could do it and he didn't even respond positively. So I left his place and even at that he didn't want to know where I was at that time, I got an apartment and was hustling while doing my IT.
At the end of the program, I came back to his house but he didn't even change rather he behaves as if I don't exist. I behave like I have nothing when with him and make sure to wash his car every morning before he goes out, even if he treats me like a rag I'm very humble to him. He told me last year not to demand any form of financial assistance from him even when he knows my father is ill and can't provide, so I've been self dependent with little assistance from my aunties and despite that I also ask him for cash too.
I just renewed my parents rent of over 700k at their base and I'm thinking of actually renting my own place in this town and also getting a small car I'll be using to move around after fully setting up my business, should I wait till after graduation or go ahead?
Cos staying at his place is robbing me off my peace of mind.
Modified;
Pls I'm only asking for advice based on my next move and almost everyone's laying emphasis on my income.
I have friends abroad younger than me, more skilled than I am currently making more money than what I make here. Everyone have their purpose in life, all these things don't mean anything to me honestly cos I'm not where I want to be yet.
You shouldn't be surprised pls

Weldone for the efforts you have made so far to run away from poverty

I think you should wait and graduate then serve, after serving you will now decide which area to get an appointment from

Meanwhile, keep your loyalty to him he has tried and you too have tried

MossLuv:
I met this girl through a relation 4years ago. She was under graduate then, l always visited her in school and chatted mostly on Sundays after church due to my work. To cut the long story short. She started showing attitude when she was about to graduate and eventually we break up... according to her, her people are not in support. She graduated, served (NYSC) and came back, no calls no chat for over two years then one faithful day around may last year she chatted me up. We became serious again... Honestly I love the girl so much and I want marry her. I wanted to do it traditional this Easter but she insisted on church wedding and I have only budget 500k for my marriage. Ok. She always come visiting, kiss and do the fowl play but no sex; she insisted on no sex before marriage. But on 15 February we did it and unfortunately she miss her period, both of us became worried... I bought test tube for her she did the test and told me it's negative meanwhile it was positive. I was very happy to hear that it was negative. On Thursday she promised to come house so that we can discuss about the marriage but she suddenly change her mind and told me something came up... To my greatest surprise, she told me yesterday that she was actually pregnant and she took drug and blood came out just once. Please my fellow nairaland family, can I still go ahead and marry her? She has been begging since yesterday but am confused I don't know what to do. She's a good girl but this singular act is scaring!! Please pardon my English.

What makes you think that girl is sincere to you in every thing you have been doing with her

Anyway since you like tolerating nonsense go ahead

But I think she will keep using your head until nothing is left

daifeanyi68844:
I'm an only son and in relationship with a lady I love so much.

We started dating while we were students. Our relationship is 4 years and 8 months. Everything was going fine until she moved into Lagos and I introduced her to my mom.

Now, any issue I have with my mom, she calls the innocent girl and says it's because of her this thing happened.

My mom and I live in a three bedroom apartment. She and my father are separated.

One minute she's nice to the girl, the next she isn't. We broke up today because of this. I'm really hurt. This girl loves me unconditionally, she supports me, treats me so well. When I started my business she gave me her 200k savings to invest in it. I can't even believe my mom is doing all this. I don't know what to do. I'm really hurt. We planned on getting married this year. I don't know if I would ever find a good person like her.

On the other hand, my mom doesn't even care. I want to cut every ties I have with her.

Sorry about that nonsense situation

For now, just be calm, don't exchange any careless words with her, just keep your girl in the relationship and keep watching your mum to know what her reaction is for

You can seat your mum down and ask her what she doesn't like about your girl

Listen to her, let her know that dating her gives you peace of mind and you want her to appreciate her

With time, things will turn out good for both of you but follow mum with caution

At least your mum never said don't marry her

Then you just have to remind your mum that, she is the one to look after her at old age

SultanOfPuna:
I have a cousin in ukraine who was due to graduate medical university on may this year

He ran away due to the war without anything.
He came back to Nigeria recently

All his original documents are with his university in ukraine
But his university has been bombed by russian shelling. The building burnt to ashes

What do u suggest for him to do
To take jamb and start allover again?

So far he is saying the truth, when the war is over he will write to the university for reinstatement, then the university will write to the embassy in Nigeria

That's the only way to go about him returning back

phidipe:
Please Fellow Nairalnder
Greetings to the elders in the house please I need your advice. How do I treat a wife that opens up everything that goes on in her family to her mum and siblings
She holds their advice higher than her husband .please advice

Once their is love in a relationship, your wife will obey you and protect the secrets of your marriage

But if it's just a relationship that doesn't have that pure love
Every thing will just be any how

I think you have to change hand on her, let her report you to her parents and when her parents talks with you

Tell them to stop giving her advice that is not helpful to her marriage

Let them know that they are manipulating your marriage through her and say it to her presence then drop the call at that point if they want their daughter to remain with you they will take caution

Just let them know that you no send and if they want their daughter back, they are free to ask her to return

But you too bear in mind that you don't tell your family what goes on too, so that she won't say she learnt it from you

Faithqueen:
I just found out that my husband has two children. The mummy of his kids is his spiritual mother's daughter. They call each other sister and brother.

My husband has been using social media to do other things as well. He had an affair six months after our marriage. He recently had a baby with her six months ago. She is living with a guy and calling him husband. All of my husband's outside brothers and sisters know; except for history sisters that share the same mummy and daddy. I don't know if the spiritual mummy knows about it.

My husband has been riding her around in our car calling her his wife and introducing her to Apostles, pastors, etc. When we married we were told that committing a duty is punished up to seven years.

The gentleman does not even know. I need advice on what to do. He has been telling other women to come to Nigeria and marry him.

Apparently he is scamming people. It will be frown upon if the mummy amd daddy of the woman finds out that he married me traditionally and we had a white wedding. I remember now two months before we got married hearing a lady making noises on the phone. I should have known better.

Advice please.

My dear sister, pls accept what has happened as his stupidity has messed up his life

For the fact that it involves spiritual mother or whatever, it may have been planned by both women

Just watch him on how he is going to place each of you

Meanwhile, start saving if you have not been saving and start planning your children if you have any from for him

Worst case he will marry her and you guys will live differently

But start making plan B incase he ask you to pavk out of his life, you must have something to fall on

I don't want you to drag him with any one, they may use spiritual power to eliminate you

You can confront him in a polite manner and after his response keep silent and watch his next move

As for me, start seeing him. As a suspect from now

heniford2:
Congrats oh! Even with PHD no job 4 naija i hope ur aware

Why this comment, it was not necessary
Just congratulate him, simply

LIGHTHEARTED0:
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Someone's else husband, father don lose high-paying job just like that because of a peanut

He did not loose his job but was transferred out of the Airport