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blackmamber:
Hello room
I Have a duplex here in lekki which also has a 1bedroom flat in the same block for Rents

There’s a bathtub in every toilet including the 1bedroom flat I rented out

I decided to rent the 1bed room flat to this man. He’s a lawyer and he is married ,what I noticed is that his wife is jobless and she waste too much water
They use the bathtub everyday and that consume about 400litters *(2) =800 litters of water and also uses the washing machine daily
This bothers me because we are using the same prepaid meters and I am the one who pays the basic amount
He pays just 6k every month which this last bills was 34,600 naira for electricity

Before I got the tenant ,I pay just 6k-8k per month for electricity

I use to pump the storex twice in a week but now sometimes 2 times in a day
She washes and use the bath tube everyday , the machine and use other appliances

Please how do I caution this people since they moved in I paid for another prepaid meter and nothing is delivered till now

Don't just confront them about it to avoid them thinking other wise

Just increase their rent and add the difference in recharge to their rent

The only place I have issues is getting the soakaway filled up with water

PhoebeLeigh95:
My parents are not so well to do to open a multimillion business for him. They discussed opening a business they could afford for him last year but he refused. He said they should give him the money to rent his own accommodation and he will get a job from there. He pressurised them until they agreed. He didn’t get a job, he isn’t even staying in the house they rented for him, he is back to our house and causing troubles everyday.

Does he have a girl friend if yes, you guys should use his girlfriend to stabilize his life

Fly2London3Baba:
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This is a good topic

Pls can you give us about Noilers, how to are for them and at what age can it be consumed

Can Noilers hatch their own eggs if yes how do one make the hen to hatch her egg

Nnamnugochi:
I am just thinking why some mothers are so bold and domineering in their daughters' marital homes. Their decisions tend to be stronger and more forceful as they are more influential than the mothers of their sons-in-law. What should be responsible for this? They can easily pack into their daughters' homes without prior information unlike the men's mothers.
Have you experienced such? Kindly share your thoughts and experiences

Every married home belongs to the wife but owned by the husband

So expect more of wife family dominance than husband families

You can't change it but you can manage it

DaBogu:
Over the weekend I happened to listen nto a radio program and this what was discussed

If one decide to donate semen (sperm) to a married woman who hasn't given birth for 5 years in her marriage instead of engaging in fornication with the married womam as she suggested, is it a sin?

What are your thoughts?

It depends if you want to do so for pleasure or for business

Most hospitals where such donations are made, are not allowed to identify the donor that's why they are paid off

The donor doesn't even know who is going to be the receiver, so that in the near future, no man will make claim to a child through DNA

LegitGirl:
A friend asked me this question, recently.

A guy, as a matter of fact. He said he doesn't mind his wife reraining her maiden name.

What do you guys think?

Whatever that rocks their boat

JONNYSPUTE:
...Will you be saying this same thing if the situation is reversed?

What's the business of a married woman with external affair

JONNYSPUTE:
.... So how will he pay back? You and I know that there won't be peace in that how if he is not able to pay back and his wife finds out.

So if he wants to use the money to flex with his side chick, she will give it to him, when his family needs it more

JONNYSPUTE:
.... So why going to borrow from another person? If actually there's peace in that family like you ladies here are claiming. Why can't he request for money from his peaceful wife?

Probably what he needs the money for was not to the benefit of the family
So she may refuse to give him

Lordmech:
One of my colleague at work came begging for cash and I ask him. What happen to your ATM or salary and he reviewed that the wife is the one who sees alert and holds the card.. I was shocked.
My pipo is this love or stupidity?

Nothing like love or stupidity

Noth him and his wife knows what they are doing

And if he agrees that such then he wants peace in his marriage

DarkCaesar:
How Do I React To My Friend And His Girlfriend?

I don’t feel convenient and comfortable hearing my friend and his gf pray, she kinda hold prayer sessions like she’s in Shiloh or something and I sometimes have this feelings that she thinks I’m behind her boyfriend financial crises even though we all greet and talk like there is nothing but deep down we all feel this kind of tension between us and I’m not happy with this to the point I had to start playing gospel songs whenever she starts her prayers with him and my friend has refused to let her stop coming, she stayed as though they married in the flat…….

I honestly don’t know to go about this anymore and I don’t want my friend to think I’m being wicked if I should leave the flat and go get mine because he’s not financially capable of securing one now and the rent is about to due.

So far you are not responsible for his problems, you don't need to boarder

But since the rent will expire soon, start telling him that you want to look for a smaller apartment that you can pay

Francis609:
My mum have never liked my wife to the extend of wishing her death when she lost our first baby and I had disowned her for saying that. So far we haven't had any contact since the incident and we are finally proud parents of twins boy and girl born in February. My stepmother have been here for us since day 1 she is in my house taking care of my wife and babies , my mum called saying that she want to come over and take care of my wife and kids and will be spending a month . I lied to her that my wife is with her sister and will let her know when she is back to the house so she can come over. To be Frank I don't want her near my wife because she doesn't likes her and I don't think she have any good plan for us. Did I do the right thing for lying to her my wife is not around or should I give her the chance to come over and see if she have truly change?

Please If you want to understand the full story go through my old threads

This is a very tactical issue

You have to cover up your step mum visit to your house if she gets to know about that then she will have war with your step mom

Well for you mum just make sure she doesn't know your address because of she knows she can come over with out invitation

I think you need to go for a cover up prayer before inviting her

Then wait till the children grow up, before you can decide whether to invite her or not

You can even tell her that your wife job have taken her out of the house so she is else where and it's not conducive for her to visit her there for the meantime

2braithe:
Thanks for your input.

Thanks too

2braithe:
So I'm currently in 300 level with a plan to leave the country immediately after my NYSC.
Since I'm studying a 4 year course in a private uni,I have about 3 years more in this country.

I wish to get a car with a budget of 3.5 to 3.8 million naira.
Due to the 3 years duration coupled with police harassing young car owners.

Is a car really worth buying now or I should jejely wait till I move??

I need inputs please.

As a student that will soon graduate and leave the country, what do you need the car for

Why not invest in land that will appreciate over time

Open a business they will bring in more money

Lastly, keep the money and plan your relocation with it

Ginomel:
And if you find out that he cheats, will you do same to pay him back? Just curious.

Wetin concern me, me that will focus on my children and Win their heart that they will be so loyal to me

I can't loose at both ends

AdedoyinO:
Hoping that he has not infected the woman with one deadly STD by the time he is done and tired with his cheating.

That's if the man have that sense to use protective measures

Mom007:
Good luck to you ma. I'm 9yrs and counting and I'm glad that I and my husband have not gotten to this stage yet and by Gods grace, we never will. Both our phones are unpassworded and open for anyone to use, even our kids. I'm not saying you didn't raise genuine concerns but I am saying not everyone can take what you have accepted as your fate.

Thanks dear, I accepted my faith because there are much things to chase with my strength than chasing to know who my spouse sleeps with

The children always look up to mum because they know that mum understands more than dad

And they expect the mum to keep a smiling face at all time

So I have to brace up

DEMZEE:
YOU ARE A SMART WOMAN WHO FULLY UNDERSTANDS AND ACCEPTS THE MALE NATURE WHEN IT COMES TO SEX

MEN CAN LOVE THEIR WIVES THE SAME AND STILL FVCK HOES

Yes thats why the matured ones do over look that side of them

When he is tired he will come back home but by then the love is gone to the kids

And he will remain lonely and probably irrelevant to the woman

Mom007:
Seen and duely noted. This simply means you have accepted deep in your heart that your husband is cheating and as long as he doesn't rub it in your face, you are OK with it. Not everyone is as strong as you madam. Anyways, good luck!

My dear, men will cheat because of their Africa mentality that I am a man

Women too do cheat but in a coded way

I use to leave my phone unlock until I saw my husband going through my phone, I actually kept the phone in a funny position, by the time I was back my phone position changed, meaning he was going through my phone

When I came back I didn't ask him anything

I just password my phone till today and he didn't ask me why

I decided not to touch his phone because I want to be happy with myself

Every one has a cross to carry

At a stage in your marriage, you will develop thick skin and concentrate on your children as a mother

Mom007:
Just what do you mean stop reading his chats? Are you even married? If yes, you will know that as long as you are a normal married couple, living in the same house, sleeping on the same bed every night, there is no way one way or another, that you will not handle your spouses phone! You may want to transfer something, or put on his hotspot, or check time, or whatever reason and BOOM! you begin to see rubbish! Its too bad that in a case as serious as a man cheating on his wife and turning to community penis, you people still try to blame the woman in one way or the other instead of addressing the issue on ground. Will her not 'checking' the phone and seeing the messages solve anything? Or she should wait till she starts treating STDs or he gives her HIV before she pays attention?
Madam sorry o, but such a serial womanizer is already cheating on you. You just havnt caught him in the act yet. Adultery is actually one of the biblical reasons for divorce so if you can't deal, count your losses now and bounce. But beware! Don't now leave your husband and start hopping from one man to another in the name of I'm lonely. Pray for wisdom to handle the situation sha.

I am a married woman for over 20yrs

Uptill today I don't open my husband phone for just one reason

I don't want to see anything that will make life miserable for me

A man's phone is like Onion, the more you pill it the more your eyes will be teary

MYDEBBY:
Dear Nairalanders,

I have done all I could do to please my wife and make her happy in this life but she seems not to have feelings and love for me anymore. Her parents have made it clear to her to stay put in the marriage, the priest in the church has also advised her but she seems to be influenced by friend and maybe other factors unknown to me.

She separated from me sometimes but later came back on her own with our kids. I thought she has had a change of heart to make the marriage work but all I am seeing is attitude tof hers that tries to frustrate my efforts towards making the marriage work and make me unhappy.

Know I have decided to let her go back to her parents at least for some time to help me have my sanity, although before now I have told her parents we will be visiting for easter so I will use the opportunity to let her spend some time in her parents house, but am surprised her mother called recently to inform me she (mother) will be visiting.

At this juncture, what do I do? Do I still send or take her to her parents at least for my sanity to be restored because she seems to be doing anything that will displeased me ( no communication, no intimacy for months, not keeping the house tidy no moral support to and from my work place, disrespectful, insults and pompousity).

Or do I wait for her mother to visit first because these issues mentioned have been recurring and i dont know what her mother can do at this time.

Already when i entered my wifes room, she had already packed her belongings and our daughters belonging in readiness to leave because I had already told her she will need to go home for some time.

Please what best advise can I get here so I wont make a mistake I will regret,thanks.

You don't need to wait till her mother comes

Once the child is on Easter vacation, take her to her parents and tell her parents that will appreciate her to remain with them that all the characters she has been exhibitimg shows that she is feed up with the marriage

Just make sure that you leave her there and go your way

Then tell her never to come back home with out your consent and approval

That alone will reset things for everyone

Moz22:
Okay... I felt the need to update y'all on what followed that ugly incident.

I really did understood that I went overboard with how I reacted as I should never have hit my who woman you birthed me as it has caused me so much emotional trauma and I really wanna move on.. my life literally stalled ever since.

The incident happened last Monday and she traveled the following day, so whatever plan I had to apologize had to wait till she was back.. learnt she came back on Saturday. Definitely couldn't see her until atleast Tuesday which was yesterday. So I had called an elderly man who happens to be our family friend, explained everything to him and told him I was sorry. We both went to her to apologize but she insisted on not forgiving me and there's was no one I could ever think of that can make her do otherwise.. meaning no one can beg her on my behalf. I just weak like this oloun.

Honestly speaking, I wasn't disappointed with her response as I expected it.. i won't lie. She's that difficult to deal with, really difficult! Sigh. Tin ba sope ko sumi, iró ni mo pa

You have done well to apologize to her

Be careful not to trigger her in any way till she finds it in her heart to forgive you and also say it out that she has forgiven you

Cheerycherry:
Good evening family landers, I created this account because of this and I need advice from people that have been married for a while. I've been married for almost 3 years now and we were in a relationship for more than 6 years before then. Since I married my husband, I've noticed that he's an emotional cheat so to speak. One time I stumbled upon a chat with a girl saying things like if I catch you I will wound you with d ick. When I bring it up he will tell me he was joking and even swear with his life that he will never cheat on me he's just joking. Earlier this year I stumbled upon his chat with a girl who I happened to know as well, a very young girl sending his shirtless pics and asking her if she knows how to ride d ick well if she can kiss and suck his whatever well. Asides this he sent her money up to 13,000 in the space of a week while he kept telling me he had no money and I was managing my personal money to run stuff. He apologised and said its because I don't kiss him when we have s ex and he didn't even intend meeting the girl that it was him catching cruise. This week again I stumbled upon his chat with another girl, he has known this girl for a while tho and I've met her too. He sent her a message saying Je ki n do e kara e bale in yoruba which means let me f uck you let your body calm down. I've been mad since I saw this one cos he apologised and afterwards said he was just joking. I'm tired of the disrespect the whole nonsense brings to me and I'm considering leaving. I have a well paying job, I take care of my personal expenses and send money to my parents and siblings myself and we have a child together.
It's not s ex cos we have sex not less than 2-3 times a week; very satisfying s ex. I need inputs from married people please.
We have an ongoing building project together which we are both sponsoring 50:50. I'm not an uptight person at all, I talk, I make jokes, I'm not boring!

The only problem here us you searching his phone, you will definitely see one bad thing that will provoke you, stop going through his phone chats, so that you will have peace

As for your husband, he is a womaniser and nothing you can do to stop him until he have gotten enough of it

You don't need to divorce him

Spend the money you have with you wisely so that you don't run out of cash

Make sure you pass the bills to him so that he won't have excess to be spending outside

Try and follow up the building project so that you guys can pack to that place and he will be far from those chicks

Once you stop reading his chats, you will be alright

lefemmechoclat:
Wht is everyone mentioning him remarrying?do you think am really bothered by that? Ok it's not up to me for him to be there for his kids...if he chooses to not so be it. I can't concern myself with his future. I do know my debts will be cleared and my kids set for atleast the next 21 years though.

We will both move on. The h9use isnt for me. I amcnot a Nigerian but i do know that even though that hime was built on my sweat it isnt in my name and ultimately his family will be inheriting it. I cant sell it. How many igbo women even inherit from their husbands? Lets stop that right now. If i was a woman that did this you all would be saying I should divorce as I am a disrespectful wife. I am not enduring betrayal anymore. The paperwork ks already done.

Congratulations

funkmrflexx:
I ended the relationship with My ex due to her bad characters. And then I later got married.
While we were dating I wanted to get my ex a place for her to stay due to d fact Dat she doesn't have anywhere to go when she graduates.
Both of her parents are divorced and remarried with kids. She can't go back to her father's house because he harrases her sexually and his wife his not welcoming. She can't go to her mother's house cus her stepfather won't agree. During d time we were dating she was staying with me for this reason but as soon as she got into school her character changed so I ended it all.
Now think of her predicament I'm thinking of getting her d house I promised so as for her not to go back to her dad's house. I have the money to do it that's not a problem.

I'm still having second thoughts though. Abi Make I just use my money package myself

You still have sympathy for her nut be careful so that you don't go back to your vomit

Get a room self contain for her so that at the expiration she can pay

Don't feel bad when you come around their and see a guy on that house

Alternatively ask her to look for a room apartment that you will pay and she takes it up from there

If you want to make uoir matter worst, don't furnish it and don't sleep with her

Just do that and cut the connection if you can

Lastpharoah33:
Good day landers, I would like to hear your opinion on this matter bothering me for days now.

I am faced with choosing between working in one of the breweries here in onitsha as a casual for 35k monthly and traveling to abuja be with an uncle who is into metal fabrication ( welding, painting and general sales of his product).

Thing is, if I am to stay here in onitsha...I have planned to save up 100-150k before next year to start a business my mom is currently into and she's doing pretty well in it .

While if I am to stay with this uncle in abuja, he agreed on teaching me basics of his profession like paint spraying with machine, and he also promised to set me up with trade in the welding industry as time goes on, but I will be placed on monthly salary after I must have learnt the painting process and stuff, ( mind you, his proposed salary is between 20-30k monthly).

My brothers and sisters, is welding something that can guarantee a good future in this present state of the country? Does it worth my time as a guy in his late 20's? Should I just continue with my 7-5 job ?

I have until 5th of april to decide. Thanks for your time.

Forget about your uncle offer, it doesn't always end well as family matters

Save and join your mum business and be your own boss

TheOldGods:
We have been dating for a while now. Been coming to my house and my parents knows her. Normally she visits and sleeps over and ofcourse because she is my guest ,I'll have to give her food etc.


So today I decided to be different. I told her I was hungry and if she was, ofcourse she hurried and said yes, dresses up and jumped in my lexus. I just smiled, and started the car and we drove to a restaurant.

Before we got down from the car, I told her that I don't want to spend more than 3k on the meal between the both of us, and I told her to handle it, which she said fine, and split the fees to 1500 each. She got her food and a huge chicken which everything was 1500 naira on her end, and I got swallow which was about 1050 naira on my end. And the total money was 2550 naira. Then suddenly my girlfriend told me she also wants plantain, that the money is not yet upto 3k. That it must reach 3k. I was shocked because, if we were married then she can't help me save money when I tell her let's cut down cost. I thought she would even be happy that she saved me money and now we didn't send upto that 3k. But wow.

The waiter wanted to take the food and add the plantation of 450, but I refused and told her to collect her payment as we were done ordering.

My so called girlfriend then got angry and decided to seat somewhere far away from me, and we didn't see each other till I was done eating, although she waited for me. To my surprise she didn't eat that food, she packaged it back in a takeaway bag, and kept it for me. I asked her why she didn't eat the food she ordered by herself which was already 1500, as we agreed, and she said she won't eat it, and I took the food back. I ate the food myself with the chicken.

Right now, I don't want to take this relationship serious. Did I do the wrong thing by not allowing her spend the remaining money and making it 3k? Which ofcourse was the remaining money from my own food.?

I was happy when I read that you are the food she rejected

That was a good one from a man that knows the value of money

You see that your girl be careful, she has no economic plans for your

Most times it's women that tells their boyfriend that they should cook in the house instead of spending more outside

They are the ones that wants spending out to be economical while the guys just wants to impress her

But in your own case, the reserve is the case, what she did their was an act of stubbornness and as such

She needs a break from you, by the time you give her distance she will decide whether to continue or to look for that guy that have no financial plans

Alternatively, use this opportunity to compel her to shop and cook meals at home with any amount you gives her to cook with

By the way, she was even supposed to pay both meals as a support for you since you already made it clear that you have a limited budget

yinkaOdutuyo:
So the main issue that led to me denying her food this night.

I asked her for the two of us to go and get ingredients for food, she said she's having serious headache so I went alone.

When I came back I washed the rice and put it on fire and I also start grinding the pepper and tomatoes with manual grinder.

After few minutes when the rice was done I asked my wife to go and put down the rice from fire, and fried the stew afterwards.

She just started shouting she's so tired, her head is hot and making hefty sounds inside that she can't stand up from this bed.

I insisted and she went to put the rice down and off the gas, instead of her to start frying the stew. She just came and meet me on the bed.

And she started shouting I didn't tell you am hungry, am not even eating this night at all. Do whatever you want to do, I'll never stand up to make any stew in this house. If you want to eat go and make the stew yourself.

I just stood up and enter the kitchen to make the stew. As I was making the stew, my wife that said she's not feeling fine was busy watching film om her phone. She complained earlier that her head is hefty and aching her that she can't stand up from the bed, but she stood up and start looking for the BT Audio to connect to her phone so that she'll be able to hear the film audio very well.

Immediately I finished making thr stew, I served the food on the table and the next my wife wanted to stood up from the bed to join on the table so that we can eat.

I just told her that You can never eat from this food this night and tomorrow morning, because you were the one that said you were not hungry that I was troubling you to make food.

I also told her that the headache allow you br watching films and also allow you to be looking for BT Audio. But denied you to cook for me.

So house I want to know if this is right or wrong pls or what can I do.

To all moniker saying have I ever helped her before this is for you below:

BTW I have cooked many times in the house, there are times she'll go to work before she comes back I'll have prepare good foods, that will atimes takes me 2 or more hours to prepare and she'll come back and eat and smile and say thank you. I use to get home between 5pm and 6pm latest, while she'll be coming home by 7pm, 8pm or latter.

At times the two of us may be at home and I'll be the only one cooking, while she'll just lie down watching films or doing another thing while I do the while cooking.

I think I have being helpful to her in cooking and other chores in the house. There are many times I'll be the one washing all the clothes in the house, while she's sleeping or doing something else.

I literally do almost 80% of everything in the house if not more than.

But me doing all those doesn't mean am a fool or I don't know what am doing.

Bit I think as a man you have to man up.

You have tried

You spoilt her from day one and now you want to put things right

She will resist all attempts from you at the initial time and over time she will accept her role as a wife

By the time you guys start having children, make sure she nurses the baby herself with just little help from you if not you will become a baby sitter

Some women don't know how to preserve good men like you who are handy men

ChimasGirl:
If your partner is the love of your life but cannot have children, would you break things off?

You adopt children and both of you will live happily

Forget about what families will say, what matters to you is you guys happiness

Oluomofx:
Dear nairalanders, I lost my mum recently due to illness, will you advise your 83years old father to remarry a 60yrs old woman to keep body and soul due to loneliness.

Yes he should go ahead

Men hardly survive alone, unlike women that can survive alone

RIP, to your mum

Didijiji:
Hello all,

A relationship was started in November last year with the guy planning to marry the lady Easter this year. Suddenly the lady said the age difference is much and she won’t be continuing.

Please is the age difference for a man, 41 and woman 28 much?

She should be looking at the man's behavior if he will be a loving husband and responsible father

Anyway its her choice to decide

PhoebeLeigh95:
I have a 29 year old brother who is the only son of my parents. He graduated years ago but he has refused to do any job to support himself. My father has washed his hands off him but my mother still carries all his responsibilities on her head. He goes to her for every naira he needs and if she refuses, he will insult and call her all sorts of names. My sister and I have advised her to stop bankrolling him because he never appreciates anything she does for him but she won’t listen.
My worries now is that he has threatened to kill her because she could not give him money when he requested for it.
My family dynamics is just stressing me out.

It's your father's duty to report him to the nearest police station that he is threatening his wife

Police will arrest him, charge him to court for threat to life

By the time he feeds mosquitoes with the blood in him, he will never have enough to pull trigger on the family

That report alone is enough to humble him

If they don't charge him to court, police will compel him to write a peace aggressive letter which will be documented at the police station

After this, he will leave the house, yes let him leave, at that age he is supposed to be on his own and not causing depression to the family